The Bachelor Fashion: Season 25 Episode 4

On this week’s dramatic new episode of The Bachelor five more women apparently enter the scene to vie for Matt James’ heart and you know what that means — not only five new names for us to learn assuming that they stick around (fml), but five new closets for us to cover. So brb while we go mentally prepare for this potential fashion overload and contemplate “entertaining men for money” .

*Additional looks will be added after the show airs*

Fashionably,

Faryn

Rachael Kirkconnell’s Pink One Shoulder Sequin Dress

Click Here to Shop Her Retrofete Dress in 3 Colours

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Kit Keenan’s Black Fruit Print Dress

Click Here to Shop Her Cynthia Rowley Dress on Sale

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Bri Springs’ Purple Printed Gown

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Anna Redman’s Red Asymmetrical Dress

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The Bachelor Airs MONDAY, JAN. 25 (8:00-10:00 p.m. EST), on ABC. (ABC/Craig Sjodin)

Originally posted at: The Bachelor Fashion: Season 25 Episode 4

One of my professors in graduate school once told me that he’d learned more from his doctoral students across his 30-odd years in the business than he had from anyone else. I left my career in academia too quickly to ever find out if the same would hold true for me.

But now that one part of my career is devoted to writing coaching, I see the wisdom of his words. Through my clients, I am privileged to learn about a range of topics that are entirely new to me: educational reform in Africa… emerging social class systems in China… the history of architecture in London, to name but a few.

The process of coaching has also taught me a great deal about myself.

Learning to Listen

According to the International Coach Federation, coaching is about “partnering with (people) in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.” Simply put, coaching isn’t about fixing people; it’s about helping them to fix themselves.

To facilitate this resourcefulness requires, among other things, being a good listener. This skill didn’t come naturally to me. We all bring listening filters to the table that influence what we hear. Some of us listen to judge. Others listen to win.

Me? I listen to fix. When someone presents me with a problem, I tend to want to go in and figure out how to solve it. That’s a useful skill, and it has served me well in a number of different parts of my life, both personal and professional.

But as organizational psychologist Adam Grant reminds us, while excellence comes from doing what you do best, you need to make sure you’re doing it at the right times. Grant calls this a “super strength,” and his point is that it cuts both ways.

Overcoming Your Listening Filters

I was reminded of my fix-it bias during a recent session with one of my clients. Towards the end of a session, she said something along the lines of “I’m afraid I won’t be able to write this chapter when you’re not with me. It’s like we’re in a three-legged race, but my ‘free’ leg hasn’t caught up.”

It was a terrific metaphor, one that made me sit up in my seat and, well, listen. What she was trying to say – in the nicest way possible – was that somewhere along the way, I’d moved from being a writing coach to being an editor. I’d been showing her what to do, but not empowering her to do it herself.

Cultivating Self-Awareness

The trick with listening filters is to become self-aware enough to identify them. And once you’ve done that, you must – as a coaching colleague once put it to me – ask yourself: Because of my filter, what did I miss?

With this particular client, I’m pleased to say that after her “three-legged race” comment, I was able to step back and turn the reins back over to her. A couple of sessions later, she began to show a lot of progress in her writing on her own. I’d succeeded in getting out of the way of her learning process.

Equally important, I’d learned something about myself.  

Do you think you know yourself through and through? Or, do you often learn new things about yourself? In what ways have your relationships with others contributed to your overall development – both personally and professionally? Please share a related story!

Porsha Williams’ Orange Bandage Dress

Real Housewives of Atlanta Season 13 Episode Episode 7 Fashion

While Porsha Williams looks good in any color, her orange bandage dress at Drew Sidora’s house really popped on her. And it would have been the most looked at thing in the scene, if Drew’s husband hadn’t paid a visit. And another visit. And another.

The Realest Housewife,

Big Blonde Hair

Click Here to Shop her House of CB Martinique Dress on eBay

Originally posted at: Porsha Williams’ Orange Bandage Dress

Kenya Moore’s Turquoise Tulle Sleeve Top

Real Housewives of Atlanta Season 13 Episode Episode 7 Fashion

While Kenya Moore thinks she needs to lose 5 more pounds before the girls’ trip to South Carolina, I totally beg to differ. Because while, as I’ve mentioned, I’ve loved that her and Cynthia Bailey have talked about COVID weight gain because I found it so #relatable, I think she looks amazing. So amazing that I think I need to scoop up her turquoise tulle sleeve top in lieu of even working on losing 5 for the time being. And I’ll take it with a side of fried green tomatoes too.

The Realest Housewife,

Big Blonde Hair

Tulle Top Sold Out by Zara

Click Here to Shop Her Stella McCartney Falabella Bag

Originally posted at: Kenya Moore’s Turquoise Tulle Sleeve Top

Kristin Cavallari’s White Thumbhole Henley Top on Instastories

Kristin Cavallari Instagram Fashion 2021

Kristin Cavallari’s super cute (and still in stock!) white thumbhole henley on Instastories the other day was the perfect blank canvas for showing off the new Uncommon James Spring/Summer 2021 “Daydream” collection. Which just like the top, of course totally gets a big thumbholes up from us. 

Fashionably, 

Faryn

Click Here to Shop Her Enza Costa Top

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Click Here to Shop the Uncommon James Spring/Summer 2021 “Daydream” Collection

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Originally posted at: Kristin Cavallari’s White Thumbhole Henley Top