I spent much of last year in a reading rut, and I couldn’t understand why. It seems like book recommendations are everywhere; podcasts, Facebook posts, and the viral ‘bookstgrammers’ I like to follow have no shortage of suggestions for me. 

At first I thought it was a matter of ‘getting organized’. I started a Google sheet to add titles every time something that looked interesting crossed my path. But later, I could not remember anything about the books on the list or why I added them. Choosing my next book started feeling like a job, not a hobby. 

Looking in the Library and Book Stores

Before the internet, I found books by browsing at the library, but often I was picking up books by a handful of authors I knew I liked, rarely venturing outside that comfort zone. While the library is still my first stop to pick up a book I want to read, returning to aimlessly browsing the shelves seemed like an inefficient way to find something fresh. 

While I love the convenience of putting a book on hold through my library’s website or app, reading the descriptions there is not always helpful. 

I turn to a third-party site, like Amazon, Goodreads, or Bookshop.org to dig deeper and vet the books that pique my interest. But then I must take another step to see if my local library has it available. Often it was easier to click that book into my cart and purchase it. But then it’s even harder to abandon a book you’ve paid for if it doesn’t fit. I needed one place to discover books AND borrow them easily.

The Library Extension

Then I found a Chrome browser extension called “Library” that changed everything. The Library extension works seamlessly with Amazon, Goodreads, and Bookshop.org to show me if a book I’m looking at is available at the library, without switching tabs. This not only saves me from impulse purchasing books I might not enjoy, but also saves a ton of time. It has become my favorite way to manage my reading list. 

When I click on a specific book on a third-party site, the library extension loads on the far right side of the screen and shows if my library has a copy of the book, what format the book is in, and whether or not the book is available to check out. If I want to place a hold, one click takes me right to my library page where I can do that. 

My Current Go-To Place

Lately my favorite place to browse is Bookshop.org. This site is an online bookstore created specifically to support independent bookstores.

Instead of all your purchases feeding a massive corporation, Bookshop shares profits with local bookshops across the country, helping keep small community stores alive. You still get detailed book descriptions, reviews, curated lists, and easy online ordering – but with the added benefit of knowing your money is supporting real bookstores and real readers.

It’s a great alternative to Amazon if you enjoy discovering books thoughtfully and want your reading habit to have a positive impact.

Choosing Books for My Specific Needs and Likes

Once borrowing books became easier, I realized I still had a reading problem I needed to solve. The library extension fixed my access problem. But making a good book choice still felt heavy. I sometimes struggled to choose books that matched what I felt like reading at that moment.

I need more than ‘a good book recommendation’. Mood matters to me; sometimes I want to read something comforting and escaping, other times I’m up for more of a challenge. A book can be great, but not right for every moment. Discerning this takes some thoughtful energy, and it can be a bit much when all I want to do is dive into a good read. 

This led me to build a simple tool that helps me describe what kind of book I’m in the mood for and then suggests titles that fit. It works alongside the library extension, giving me solid recommendations to explore online. If you’re a reader like me who wants the entire process of choosing books to feel easier again, I made this for you. It helps narrow your choices and reduces overwhelm so you can focus on reading, not finding something to read. 

If you’d like to try it, I’ve made the tool available free here: https://friendsover50.com/tools/find-your-next-great-read/.

It also includes access to a free reading tracker and a quick video showing how to install the Library Chrome extension.

In Conclusion

When reading started to feel like too much ‘work’ was involved, I knew something needed to change. A few tools helped make it much lighter. As my reading tastes continue to evolve, I’m confident I’ll be able to easily choose and find the right books quickly and get back to a hobby I’ve enjoyed since childhood. At this stage of life, I want reading to feel less like another thing to manage and more like the simple pleasure it used to be.

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Where do you get book recommendations from? Have your reading tastes evolved? Do you find it more difficult to look up and choose books?

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Most women don’t wake up one morning in midlife and think, “I don’t love my husband anymore.” What they notice instead is quieter and much more unsettling.

The conversations are shorter. The silence is longer. You still function well as a team – bills get paid, holidays happen, routines keep moving along – but something essential is missing, and the relationship feels… thinner.

You’re not fighting, so that’s not it, but you’re not dreaming together either. You’re just living parallel lives under the same roof.

This is midlife drift. And it catches far more couples off guard than outright conflict ever does.

For many women in midlife and beyond, the biggest surprise isn’t that something feels off – it’s how quietly it happened.

There was no betrayal, no explosion of problems, not even a midlife crisis to blame. Just a slow widening of space that no one noticed until it feels too big to ignore.

How Couples Drift Apart Without Realizing It

Drift in a relationship doesn’t announce itself. It sneaks in while you’re busy building your lives and doing what you normally do.

Why?

Because many marriages run on autopilot, partly out of necessity, for decades. You’ve been busy raising children, managing jobs and keeping your household afloat. You divide labor, share the responsibilities, and the exhaustion.

You may even have regular (often formulaic and boring) sex, although physical intimacy in these years often takes a back seat.

But then midlife hits, and the scaffolding that supported your relationship starts to come down.

• Children leave or become less dependent
• Careers stabilize or wind down
• Aging parents may demand attention
• Health changes appear

The roles that previously defined daily life begin to loosen, and suddenly, there’s space where structure used to be.

That space can feel liberating and like a new start, but it can also be incredibly disorienting for your relationship.

Many women discover that the marriage they relied on was built more around logistics than emotional connection. It worked well for that season. But now, without the constant distractions, what’s left is unfamiliar.

What makes this especially jarring is that nothing is technically wrong.

Your husband may be kind, dependable, and loyal. You may still care deeply for him. And yet, you feel lonely in ways you can’t quite explain.

That disconnect – feeling lonely despite being married and having a partner – is often the key early warning sign of midlife drift.

Why Midlife Drift Is Different Than Early Relationship Problems

Drifting apart in midlife isn’t the same as the distance that can grow in younger relationships and treating it that way often makes things worse.

When you’re younger, relationship problems usually revolve around building careers, families, finances, and identities. There’s a clear trajectory, and even the conflict feels like it has forward momentum.

Midlife isn’t like that. It’s reckoning, not building.

At this stage of life, many women start asking themselves questions like:

• Who am I now that I don’t HAVE to be something specific to someone?
• What do I want the rest of my life to feel like?
• What’s next for me?

These questions aren’t about dissatisfaction as much as awareness, and the answers can feel big, daunting, and elusive all at the same time.

Meanwhile, men go through their own internal shifts around retirement anxiety, health concerns, loss of purpose and desire for predictability.

Both people are changing, but often in different directions and at different speeds.

That mismatch can create confusion and distance.

What makes midlife drift particularly painful is the depth of your mutual history. This isn’t a relationship you can casually walk away from or reinvent overnight. And for most women (and men), that’s not what they want to do anyway. They just want things to feel right, even if they can’t explain what “right” feels like.

The Emotional Impact of Inaction

Many women just accept this phase. Since there’s no handbook, they just assume that this is what things are supposed to feel like now. Why rock what’s been a stable and reliable boat at this stage of life?

To do so feels selfish. After all, he didn’t do anything wrong and other women have it worse. We’ve made it this far – why stir things up now?

So, many women stay silent, minimize, explain, and adapt.

But this approach comes with a cost.

Over time, this can lead to women feeling increasingly invisible. They stop seeking happiness, fulfillment, emotional intimacy, and connection. While this quiet resignation may keep the peace, it often comes at the expense of vitality, excitement, enjoyment, and a sense of being alive.

They just kind of disappear into a life that looks fine from the outside, while they know, on the inside, they wish there was more.

Midlife drift doesn’t usually resolve itself on its own. Without attention, it tends to deepen, not often dramatically, but steadily. And the longer it goes unaddressed, the harder it becomes to fix.

What Can Be Done When You’ve Drifted Apart

Addressing midlife drift doesn’t require blowing up your marriage. But it does require honesty, especially with yourself.

The first step is realizing that wanting more isn’t selfish or betrayal. Seeking more connection, depth, or intimacy doesn’t mean you’re ungrateful or disloyal, or that you want someone else. It means you’re being attentive to your inner self and life.

From there, gentle but real conversations need to happen.

Not accusations or ultimatums, but truths.

Conversations that sound like,

• “I miss feeling close to you.”
• “I feel lonely sometimes, even though we’re together.”
• “I think we’ve both changed, and I don’t want to ignore that.”

These are vulnerable statements, and they can be frightening to say, especially if you’re not sure how your husband will respond.

Some men feel confused or defensive. Others feel relieved that the silence has been broken. These reactions are normal and can be the beginning of learning how differently you each feel things and the start toward bridging the gap.

In many cases, outside support helps. A marriage counselor familiar with midlife relationships and transitions can provide language, perspective, and safety when conversations feel too heavy to hold alone.

The important thing is to resist complacency and reinitiate momentum.

Midlife drift often coincides with women realizing they’ve postponed parts of their identity for years.

Reconnecting with friends, your creativity, or purpose outside your marriage can actually bring more life into the relationship and inspire your husband to do the same.

When women feel more alive, they show up differently and are less resentful, more grounded, and clearer about what they want. Those are attractive, inspirational, and life-affirming qualities.

A Final Word

Midlife drift isn’t falling out of love or a failure. It’s a sign of transition.

This stage of life requires you to ask different questions than earlier chapters did and necessitates honesty over habit.

For women who’ve spent years holding things together, midlife can be the first time they check in on themselves and ask if everything they thought they felt still feels true and what they want the next chapter to hold.

The answers to those questions don’t have to be set in stone and can (and should) evolve as needed. Husbands can be involved and solutions will likely include compromises, as so much of marriage does. But they do deserve to be asked.

Let’s Start the Conversation:

Have you experienced midlife drift in your relationship? Have you and your husband successfully navigated the drift, or do you still have questions? Share your story and join the conversation.

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Do you go through cooking fatigue? Are there days when cooking dinner is the last thing you want to do? Did you know that you can plan a batch-cooking session and freeze meals that are ready to reheat and eat in minutes? If you prefer home-cooked meals to delivery, batch cooking is an excellent idea. Let’s take a look at some tips for easy meals when you don’t feel like cooking.

What Is Batch Cooking

Batch cooking means planning a cooking session in larger quantities and storing them for later. Instead of cooking meals every day, you prep and cook many at once, then freeze them. This saves time and reduces cleanup. 

Batch cooking is especially useful when you are expecting visitors, you will be returning from traveling, or you simply don’t feel like cooking every day. 

Which Foods Freeze Best

Not all foods freeze well. Foods with high water content, like lettuce, cucumbers, and raw potatoes, don’t freeze very well. 

Here are some meals that are great for batch cooking ideas:

• Soups
• Stews
• Chilis
• Pasta sauce
• Casseroles and baked dishes

Read more: It’s Winter Soup Time! 3 Hearty Recipes, You’ll Love!

How to Plan a Batch Cook Session

When you plan a batch-cooking session, try to include a few recipes that use several of the same ingredients. Reserve a few hours to prepare your batch-cooking from start to finish. Prep and cook all recipes back-to-back. Cool in portions, either for 1 or 2 meals. You can keep whatever you will eat over the next 2-3 days and freeze the rest.

Read more: Batch cooking recipes from Good Food.

How to Portion

If you live alone, freezing single-serve portions is the best option. Remember, smaller portions defrost faster. Label each portion with the meal name and the date that it was cooked and put in the freezer.

Best Containers for Batch Cooking

Containers are important for keeping your frozen meals fresh and preventing freezer burn. 

Here are good options:

• BPA-free freezer-safe plastic containers.
• Glass containers with tight lids.
• Silicone freezer trays.
• Heavy-duty freezer bags.

Rubbermaid Brilliance Glass Food Storage Containers

Amazon Basics Reclosable Freezer Quart Bags, BPA Free

How Long Can Batch Cooking Keep in the Freezer

Most meals are best eaten within 2-3 months of freezing. They can last longer, but will lose flavor and texture over time. 

Tip: Keep an inventory list of your batch-cooked meals to make sure you know what is in your freezer and when to eat them. 

Reheating Tips

Here are some tips when reheating your batch-cooked meals:

• Thaw overnight if possible.
• Reheat soups and sauces on the stovetop.
• Cover containers (not airtight) when microwaving to retain moisture.
• Add herbs or cheese to refresh the taste of the meals. 

Read more: Easy Dinner Recipes That Can Last a Second or Third Day.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you batch cook and freeze? What are your favorite meals to batch cook? Do you have any suggestions to share? Do you feel inspired to start batch cooking and freezing? Tell us about it in the comments below. 

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