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Not all that long ago, women over
60 were relegated to the hinterlands of style. Phrases like “dressing like your
grandma” or “dressing like an old lady” were the unkindest dig one could make
about someone’s attire.

But the times they are a-changin’
and all for the better. Today, fashionable women in their 60s, 70s, 80s, and
even 90s are showing the world a new face, our
face. Yes, it’s an aging one, but it’s also a fun-loving, fierce, visible, and
fearless one.

It’s the face of survivors and
thrivers who are actually enjoying the second half of their life and dressing
to show it. And we owe it to our grandchildren to teach them how it’s done.

So what age children are we
talking about where shopping education is concerned?  

Ideally, you can start when they
are as young as five or six. That way they will be used to making intelligent
decisions by the time they reach those teen years. They will have more knowledge
of their style, more sense of themselves, and more common sense about how to
present themselves well.

Now, of course, we all know that teenagers
are just going to wear exactly what they want to wear, including any number of
crazy combinations. But if we can take fashion inspiration from younger generations,
we can also provide gentle guidance to their children.

Here are some topics we know a
thing or two about.

Encouraging Their Unique Coloring and Style Choices

By the time kids are five or six,
you can already see some of the colors that work best for their coloring.

You can say things like, “That
color makes you look happy, and it makes me happy when I see you in it. That
was a good choice!” Or, “What a (pretty or nice) pattern you chose. It matches
your (sunny, playful, energetic, creative – pick your adjective) personality.”

Then you can ask them what they
like about it. You want to support their good choices. If they say, “Mom picked
it out” then you can simply ask what they
think of it.

Some kids couldn’t care less what
they wear or will just wear the same thing over and over again. Even then,
there might be some way to ask them what they like about it. And then listen.
That gives them room to be honest.

Teaching Them How to Shop Economically

Yes, I know you want to spoil your
grandkids, and it’s a grandparents’ privilege. But think about this: Do you
want to establish a relationship based on what they can expect from you (and
what they can expect from your will!), or do you want to be a source of wisdom
that they want to keep around for a long time?

Before embarking on a shopping
trip with your grandkids, sit with them and make a list of what they might need
or want. Regardless of who is paying – you or their parents – set a budget. And then, consider where
they will likely find what they need within that budget.

Talk with them ahead of time about
which shops they like and why. And then see if those are within the budget
you’ve set. You’re not only teaching them about style, you’re setting them up
for responsible shopping into their adulthood.

Valuing Quality Rather Than Quantity

For all of us, shopping for
clothing with lasting quality is always better than going for quantity. Yes,
kids are going to grow out of what they wear quickly.

Still, most of them like repeating
outfits (unless you have one of those that loves to experiment) so there’s no
harm in buying just a few things that are well made and will look for repeated
wear. And be sure to point out that they do look good in those items and explain
why.

When they see themselves looking
sharp and being complimented on it, but especially why they do, that sets a great habit for future shopping choices.

Using Color Effectively

Although children, like adults,
have unique coloring, there are some colors that you may want to discourage
them from wearing.

Mom may appreciate the darker ones
because they hide stains better. But very dark colors make kids less visible,
particularly at dusk or nighttime. It’s just safer to have them wear a lighter
color when they cross the street or ride a bike.

Although red is certainly a
stand-out color, it can be tricky, especially for very young and pre-teen
girls. Red is simply a color of passion and high vibration. You might want to
steer them to lighter versions, maybe in paler corals or pinks.

Just as with adults, the entire
range of blues and greens in what we wear projects a sense of confidence, and
that’s a great thing for a child. But generally, let them experiment in the
area of color. It will give them a chance to express their individuality.

Taste

Without coming off like a nun with
a ruler or a prissy school marm, you can still share the importance of wearing
clean, pressed, and modest clothing that doesn’t expose them in unflattering
ways or that looks sloppy.

Even more importantly, you can help
them learn about what is good taste. And, you can do this subtly. Study artbooks
with them and talk about why a particular photo or painting is beautiful. Take
them to a museum or gallery.

Study nature and ask them how it
expresses harmony, symmetry, and beauty; or why, when it is asymmetrical, it
can still be beautiful, artistically.

This is the way you open the door
for your grandkids to appreciate the natural world around them. That can
greatly influence how they put themselves together in the future and is a great
way to introduce them to the world of art.

Taking Care of and Appreciating What You Own

Finally, Marie Kondo has reminded
all of us to thank our clothes for the joy they create. Many children in the
world have so many fewer things and fewer choices. Remind your grandkids how
fortunate they are. And you can teach children to show respect for the value of
their things by taking good care of them.

That means, folding or putting
them back on the hanger at the end of the day, or putting them in the hamper
for washing when they are soiled, rather than throwing them around the room or in
a pile.

When kids are thoughtfully
invested in making decisions about what they wear, they will likely be more
careful with their clothes.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

When
was the last time you had a shopping afternoon with children? How did it go?
What did you teach them? What did you learn from them? Would you repeat the
experience? Please share in the comments below!

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We all have one friend like Patrice who is prone to accidents. A misstep causes a fractured hip and a torn shoulder. Weeks of pain-filled rehabilitation follow then her husband dies of sudden cardiac arrest. She discovers, through his private letters, he has carried on with another man for decades. As layers of complex feelings rise, grief plus physical pain threaten to bury her, and Patrice withdraws.

She finishes her rehab and spends hours with a therapist. One day, she dives into life again, hiking in the woods, taking an astronomy class, and dating with a smile across her face. Her friends remark, “How does she do it?” Her recovery likely depends on her ability to acknowledge her vulnerability and rebuild her resilience.

It’s Based in Neuroscience

The science behind resilience is well-studied. In short, for those who have an adaptible mind and positive attitude, resilience follows a stress response. It is a complicated process that occurs in the brain, dependent on certain structures, and involving particular chemicals, environmental experiences, and more.

For example, even if Patrice is grieving and suffering betrayal, she may find herself open to love again. And though one may not be a champion pickle-baller after breaking a shoulder, it’s possible to step into well-being with a different focus.

People who thrive after tragedies and physical injuries share commonalities which prove achievable for many. They accept vulnerability and they are resilient. The attitudes and behaviors that accompany both are valuable tools for all of us to develop, especially as we age.

Self-Reflection

In Joy Stephenson-Laws’ article on resilience, she points out that one needs to evaluate where they are in life to establish their next goals and live fully again. It takes more than a simple rebound to regain self-worth after a betrayal or build emotional security after a tragic loss. A broken body needs rebuilding. Our brains are programmed to protect but we are ultimately vulnerable.

Accidents happen, people can hurt our feelings or disappoint us, and we are not unaffected or unchanged by major disruptions in our lives. All are inevitable but we can give our brains the tools to recognize and surmount what the universe puts in front of us.

Acceptance and Evaluation

We need to understand what future stages of recovery look like by accepting what’s happened. It’s important to forgive ourselves for tripping over a crack in the sidewalk or avoid carrying blame or guilt for someone else’s actions. Acknowledging grief, despite the pain it imparts, is a major step. Take time to let sadness in because sorrow takes a toll even when ignored.

Mark life’s changes, major or minor. Recognize that as human beings, we are vulnerable to both physical and emotional harm. The stages of grief are complicated. As Terry Edmund writes, “Change is hardest when it isn’t chosen.” A sudden death or difficult disease will challenge us. Physical injuries create emotional responses and lessen independence. When we ignore or power through our body’s damage, recovery may be elusive or take longer as more harm occurs.

I’m having a reverse shoulder replacement soon, and my physical therapy orders are clear. For six weeks, I am to wear a sling, not extend the arm, or lift any object. The joint needs to heal before I test it out, thus the sling will keep it stabilized. I am vulnerable to injury again and am determined to follow each letter of instruction so I can rebuild my shoulder and my resilience.

No One Is Suggesting It’s Easy

It is work to rehabilitate your dominant arm, for example, or move past a loved one’s death or an unwanted divorce, and there is no-one-size-fits-all for solution. Chronic illness sufferers understand that their plans may vary from week to week, as energy stores dwindle. Flexibility is key.

To start, establish goals and determine how to meet them. Those among us who persevere are not blessed with some magical power. What resilient people share, however, is the willingness to engage in behaviors that drive them forward. Goals must be reasonable.

One is not going to play pickleball five days a week after the cast comes off a broken leg, for example. However, muscles can be rebuilt and ligaments strengthened enough to walk a certain amount each day. If one or two miles is too strenuous, set the goal at one hundred feet and build from there. Incorporating a healthcare team or behavioral therapists into any plan is a smart choice that enhances safety.

Respect the Body

Generate energy to feed your drive. Incorporate healthy practices. Proper diet, ample sleep, and ongoing exercise all contribute to energy stores, no matter how limited you are. Go for repetition of squats rather than lifting heavy weights, for example, to build core muscles and maintain balance. Seek out appropriate choices to alleviate pain like gentle stretches, meditation, or passive activities like watching birds or enjoying funny movies. Avoid alcohol and drug abuse. Stay flexible and persistent and positive changes will occur over time.

We Need Our People

Engage with others. Research supports the notion that we need other human beings to speak with, as our helpers, as our advisors. Behavioral health therapists are available online or in-person. You may be religious and have a spiritual advisor who is professionally trained to guide you. Volunteering or paid work are always possibilities if you are interested in either.

According to WebMD, people who work past retirement age are healthier and suffer from less dementia. Pick up an old hobby and join a knitting group. Take a class online or in person at a local college. Not everything costs money either. Scheduling activities with friends or acquaintances at adult centers, museums, or public parks can put you in the company of like-minded individuals.

Stay Upright

Falling is a major cause of injury in those of us over age 60. According to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, over 3 million people find their way to the emergency room in the United States every year after a fall. Doctors tell those of us over 60 to wear proper footwear, to do balance exercises, and avoid hazards like scatter rugs or racing up or down stairways.

We must do what we can to shore up our ability to deal with what life brings. It does not matter how much we protect ourselves, our vulnerability will show at some point. The more resilience we gain, the more productive we are, and the less dependence we have on others.

Discussion Questions:

What makes you feel vulnerable as you get older? What strategies have you developed to stay emotionally and physically strong?

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Many women imagine midlife freedom will feel exhilarating. And sometimes it does. It did for me – eventually, but not at first.

Many women over 50 quietly experience another reality first: emotional displacement.

For years, motherhood provided identity, structure, purpose, urgency, and connection. Then children grow up, routines disappear, and women suddenly find themselves asking questions they have not had time to ask in decades.

Who am I now? What do I want? What belongs to me in this next chapter?

Those questions can feel deeply lonely.

Women Were Conditioned to Disappear Inside Caregiving

Many women learned early that good motherhood meant self-erasure.

Be available. Be supportive. Be flexible. Put everyone else first.

Over time, many mothers became so skilled at emotional caretaking that they lost touch with themselves entirely.

Then midlife arrives and exposes the imbalance. Not because women failed. Because they survived the roles they were taught to prioritize.

Reinvention Is Not Selfish

One of the healthiest things women over 50 can do is stop treating personal growth like betrayal.

You are allowed to want:

• More meaningful friendships
• Creativity
• Purpose
• Travel
• Better emotional health
• Boundaries
• Joy
• Rest
• A life that includes your own needs too

Reinvention is not abandoning your family. It is returning to yourself.

Start Building a Life That Includes You

Many women wait for confidence before changing their lives.

Usually, confidence comes after movement. Take the class. Join the group. Start writing. Reconnect socially. Create routines that nourish you emotionally instead of only serving everyone else.

You do not need to become who you were at 30.

You get to become someone wiser now.

She may astonish and delight you!

Let’s Discuss:

What part of midlife reinvention feels most difficult — and what part secretly feels exciting too?

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