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Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

The world is divided into two different kinds of people: overpackers and underpackers. If you fall into the first category, don’t turn away yet! Give me a few minutes to try and convince you that there is a better way to travel.

As you might already suspect, I am an underpacker. My measure of a packing fail: Coming home with even one thing in my suitcase that I did not need, use or wear during my trip. I do fail sometimes, but not often anymore.

Here’s how to pack lighter – all lessons I learned the hard way.

Start with an Attitude Change

It helps that I don’t really care how I look. I don’t mean I would travel in ripped or dirty clothes. But I don’t need to be the glammed up center of attention. In fact, when you’re traveling, the more you can blend in, the better. You’re less likely to be targeted by pickpockets and local scammers.

Spend a little time researching what the locals wear and try to pack like that. This is the lesson I learned when I wore my electric blue winter coat to Romania, a former Soviet block country where there were two colors of winter coat: grey and black.

So if you simply must be a fashion plate, try to pare down the clothes to a capsule wardrobe of items you can mix and match and pieces that will do double duty.

Use a Packing List

These printable packing lists will give you a feel for the things you’ll need. If the list includes something you don’t think you’ll need, don’t pack it. If there is something missing, make a note on the printed sheet so you don’t forget it.

Check the Weather Forecast

I make this recommendation because I live in Chicago. We like to say, “If you don’t like the weather, wait 10 minutes.” Here, the calendar might say May, but the thermometer might say March. Or July.

So check the forecast for your destination. It will tell you whether to pack a raincoat, sunhat, shorts, or sweaters.

Start Packing Early

If you have a spare bed, room, couch or some other spot to hold the things you want to pack, start a week early and put everything on the bed that you think you might want on your trip.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day and look it over. Is there anything missing? Is there anything you think you might not need on the trip? Make adjustments accordingly.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day with the intention of making choices. If you have two pairs of pants on the bed, take away one pair. If you have four shirts, take away two. And so on, until you have cut in half the things on the bed.

Then walk away.

The next day, it’s time to pack. Start with the pieces of clothing you absolutely MUST have with you.

If you run out of suitcase before you run out of clothes to pack, you get to make a choice: Leave something else behind or pay $40 or more to check a bag.

Buy Packing Cubes

I resisted buying this travel essential for years. Now I can’t believe I ever traveled without them.

Packing cubes are flexible pouches with a brilliant zipper system. You pack them with the clothes you want to take, and zip them shut. Then – this is the brilliant part – you zip a second zipper to compress the insides flat. (Think of it like your expandable suitcase, when you open that second zipper, it gives you an extra inch or two of suitcase space. When you zip it shut, everything inside is compressed.)

As a bonus, the clothes you lay inside the packing cube are much more likely to stay wrinkle free. I don’t know why. But it’s true.

Stick with One Basic Color

When I head to a Caribbean resort, that color will be white. But most of the time, it’s black – black pants, a black skirt, a black dress. Then I add color in the tops I will wear with the pants and skirt. Finally, I pack a few scarves and funky costume jewelry to dress everything up or down and add more color.

Wear the Heavy Stuff on the Plane

There are plenty of TikTokers and travel hacker influencers who will tell you to wear layers and layers on the plane to save suitcase space. Or to pack a pillowcase with your stuff and pretend it’s a pillow, not a suitcase, so it doesn’t count as a carryon.

While that might be useful info for travelers on uber-budget airlines that charge for anything that doesn’t fit under your seat, you really don’t have to go that crazy. Just use a little common sense.

If, for example, you’re flying from Florida to Colorado, you know you’ll need your winter coat, hat, gloves, hiking boots and heavy jeans. Wear the jeans and hiking boots on the plane, stuff the hat and gloves in the coat pockets and carry the coat on the plane rather than packing it in a suitcase.

I do this anyway because I’m always chilly on a plane. I’m always surprised when I see someone boarding a flight in shorts and flip flops. I would be blue by the time I landed!

Think Layers, Not Bulk

Thin layers are always the right answer, no matter where you are. Even a Caribbean vacation requires preparing for chilly evenings or overly air-conditioned restaurants. Layers are the answer to staying warm and packing light.

Make the Best Use of Your Under-Seat Bag

Finally, remember that you get not one, but two things to carry onto the plane – a bag that goes into the overhead and a smaller bag that fits under the seat in front of you.

Don’t waste the space in that second bag!

My go-to is a roomy backpack because I travel with a lot of electronics – laptop, Kindle, phone, ear buds and all of the cords and accessories they require. But those only take up two zippered compartments. That leaves two more compartments for other things – makeup bag, an extra pair of shoes, etc.

The other thing that works for me is a big striped bag that is super flexible. I can cram a lot into it and still stuff it under the seat. The downside of that is it is heavy to carry, unlike my backpack which easily distributes the weight across my shoulders.

Practice, Practice, Practice

I know. This isn’t easy. Especially if you’ve always been an overpacker. But practice will make perfect. Try it on your next quick weekend trip. That will give you a chance to see how it feels to only pack what you’ll need for 2-3 days, how much you like being able to lift that light carry-on bag and how happy you are not worrying about whether your suitcase will show up at the other end of your flight.

Just remember to pack one more thing: a credit card. That way, if you find you truly can’t live without something for a few days, you can head to the store to buy it.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Are you an overpacker or an underpacker? What’s your favorite packing hack? Share with us in the comment section below.

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POEM: When Life Gets Silly  

POEM When Life Gets Silly

Oh life is a puzzle with pieces askew,
With socks that go missing (just one of the two).
With glasses misplaced on top of your head,
And thoughts that arrive… then promptly have fled.

We laugh at ourselves (or at least we should try),
At keys in the fridge or the why of the why.
At walking in rooms with no clue why we came—
A personal riddle with no one to blame.

There’s coffee gone cold while you search for your cup,
Then reheat it twice just to warm yourself up.
There are names on the tip of your tongue that won’t land,
And lists that get lost in the palm of your hand.

You double-check doors that you know you just locked,
Then stand there and wonder what made you feel shocked.
You pat down your pockets, retrace every step—
A detective of details you somehow miskept.

We used to be certain, so steady, so sure,
With memories crisp and intentions secure.
But now there’s a looseness, a slip and a slide,
A humbling softness we can’t always hide.

And yet—here’s the secret (it’s quietly true):
This lightness of being is gifting you, too.
For somewhere between all the slips and the spins,
A gentler perspective begins to come in.

You’re less about perfect, more willing to bend,
More open to laughter that doesn’t depend
On things going smoothly or all going right—
You’re finding your humor in life’s little flights.

You notice the moments that once passed you by,
A shared knowing glance or a well-timed reply.
A chuckle that bubbles from deep in your chest,
Reminding you gently you don’t have to “best.”

So what if you wander? So what if you pause?
So what if you’ve long since forgotten the cause?
The joy isn’t hiding in flawless recall—
It’s found in the grace with which you meet it all.

So chuckle a little when things go astray,
Let humor come softly and brighten your day.
For life isn’t testing how much you can hold—
It’s showing you stories more playful than old.

And maybe the point, as the years drift along,
Is learning to laugh when the notes feel off-song.
For joy doesn’t live in a life running straight—
It dances in detours… and shows up late.

And there, in the missteps, the slips, and the spins,
Is where a more lighthearted living begins.
Not perfect, not polished, not tidy or neat—
But joyfully human… and wonderfully sweet.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

How has life turned silly for you after 60? Do you lock your door twice and forget about it? What else happens to you that you find silly and funny?

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How to Make Your Own Essential Oil Blend for Mature Skin (Recipe)

A Basic Essential Oil Blend for Everyday Mature Skin Care

With all the wonderful natural facial serums on the market today, it can be a little overwhelming choosing the correct formula with safe, non-toxic ingredients, all at a reasonable price. The good news is that it’s easy and fun to make a quality product on your own using the miracle of nature – essential oils. 

When I started working with skincare formulas in 2003, one of the first products I was excited about making was an essential oil-based facial serum. My skin needs were changing, and a moisturizing oil made perfect sense for dry, maturing skin.

I decided to work with four wonderful healthy aging essential oils I had discovered: Lavender, Frankincense, Rose Geranium, and Carrot Seed.

The natural and highly effective nature of essential oils makes them perfect for skincare. When blended for their various properties and used with a carrier oil that matches your skin type, you can create a serum tailor-made for your skin.

What Are Essential Oils?

Essential oils are the essence of plants. Hidden away in many parts of the plant, like the flowers, seeds, and roots, they are very potent chemical compounds. They can give the plant its scent, protect it from harsh conditions, and help with pollination.

The benefits of essential oils on humans are diverse and amazing. Lavender flower oil, for example, contains compounds that help soothe skin irritation and redness, while the scent reduces feelings of anxiety and stress.

The beautiful Rose essential oil is hydrating to the skin and sometimes used to treat scarring, while the scent is known to help lift depression. 

There are many essential oils to choose from for specific skincare needs. I have used a myriad of different combinations but keep coming back to the tried and true blend from my very first serum.

The four essential oils used are the workhorses of skincare for mature skin, as well as being wonderfully uplifting for mind, body, and spirit. 

The Base Oil Blend Formula

Here’s what you’ll need:

Bottle

1 oz. amber dropper bottle. You can find those in pharmacies or online.

Base (Carrier) Oil

As a base, you can use one of the oils below or a combination of several that meet your skin’s needs:

  • Jojoba oil is my base oil of choice. It’s incredible for most skin types: it’s extremely gentle and non-irritating for sensitive skin, moisturizing for dry skin, balancing for oily skin, ideal for combination skin, and offers a barrier of protection from environmental stressors. It also helps skin glow as it delivers deep hydration.
  • Rosehip oil smooths the skin’s texture and calms redness and irritation.
  • Argan oil contains high levels of vitamin E and absorbs thoroughly into the skin leaving little oily residue.
  • Avocado oil is effective at treating age spots and sun damage, as well as helping to soothe inflammatory conditions such as blemishes and eczema.
  • Olive oil is a heavier oil and the perfect choice if your skin needs a mega-dose of hydration. Just be aware that olive oil takes longer to absorb and leaves the skin with an oily feeling. This may be desirable for extremely dry, red, itchy skin.

Essential Oils

  • Lavender essential oil is very versatile and healing. It helps reduce inflammation, kill bacteria, and clear pores. Its scent is also calming and soothing.
  • Frankincense essential oil helps to tone and strengthen mature skin in addition to fighting bacteria and balancing oil production.
  • Rose Geranium essential oil helps tighten the skin by reducing the appearance of fine lines, helps reduce inflammation and fight redness, and offers anti-bacterial benefits to help fight the occasional breakout. The scent is also known to be soothing and balancing.
  • Carrot seed oil is a fantastic essential oil for combination skin. It helps even the skin tone while reducing inflammation and increasing water retention.

The Recipe

Let’s start with a simple recipe:

  • 1 oz. Jojoba oil (or carrier oil of your choice)
  • 10 drops Lavender
  • 10 drops Frankincense
  • 10 drops Rose Geranium
  • 10 drops Carrot seed oil 

Place the essential oil drops in the amber dropper bottle then fill with Jojoba/carrier oil. It’s that simple!

Applying Your Homemade Serum

Use this serum morning and evening as part of your regular skincare routine. Serums work best when applied after cleansing your face. You can cleanse with Coconut Oil or a mixture of oils for enhanced hydration (we will cover this in the next article) or use your regular facial cleanser.

Essential oils will not interfere in any way with your normal skincare products.

Keep in mind that the serum is concentrated. Use only a pea-sized amount, work it into your fingertips, and apply evenly over the face without tugging or pulling.

If your skin feels tacky, reduce the amount on the next application. Your skin should feel soft, not oily. Follow with your regular moisturizer if you like. 

Making your own facial serum is fun and rewarding! I look forward to hearing your thoughts and ideas on essential oils and making personalized serums and skincare.

What facial serum do you use? Have you made one yourself? What is your favorite essential oil for skin care? Please share your thoughts with our community!

POEM: When Life Gets Silly  

POEM When Life Gets Silly

Oh life is a puzzle with pieces askew,
With socks that go missing (just one of the two).
With glasses misplaced on top of your head,
And thoughts that arrive… then promptly have fled.

We laugh at ourselves (or at least we should try),
At keys in the fridge or the why of the why.
At walking in rooms with no clue why we came—
A personal riddle with no one to blame.

There’s coffee gone cold while you search for your cup,
Then reheat it twice just to warm yourself up.
There are names on the tip of your tongue that won’t land,
And lists that get lost in the palm of your hand.

You double-check doors that you know you just locked,
Then stand there and wonder what made you feel shocked.
You pat down your pockets, retrace every step—
A detective of details you somehow miskept.

We used to be certain, so steady, so sure,
With memories crisp and intentions secure.
But now there’s a looseness, a slip and a slide,
A humbling softness we can’t always hide.

And yet—here’s the secret (it’s quietly true):
This lightness of being is gifting you, too.
For somewhere between all the slips and the spins,
A gentler perspective begins to come in.

You’re less about perfect, more willing to bend,
More open to laughter that doesn’t depend
On things going smoothly or all going right—
You’re finding your humor in life’s little flights.

You notice the moments that once passed you by,
A shared knowing glance or a well-timed reply.
A chuckle that bubbles from deep in your chest,
Reminding you gently you don’t have to “best.”

So what if you wander? So what if you pause?
So what if you’ve long since forgotten the cause?
The joy isn’t hiding in flawless recall—
It’s found in the grace with which you meet it all.

So chuckle a little when things go astray,
Let humor come softly and brighten your day.
For life isn’t testing how much you can hold—
It’s showing you stories more playful than old.

And maybe the point, as the years drift along,
Is learning to laugh when the notes feel off-song.
For joy doesn’t live in a life running straight—
It dances in detours… and shows up late.

And there, in the missteps, the slips, and the spins,
Is where a more lighthearted living begins.
Not perfect, not polished, not tidy or neat—
But joyfully human… and wonderfully sweet.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

How has life turned silly for you after 60? Do you lock your door twice and forget about it? What else happens to you that you find silly and funny?

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Six 1-Minute-Hacks to Redecorate Your Home at NO COST

Six 1-Minute-Hacks to Redecorate at NO COST

I am a collector of stuff. I always find ways to reuse, upcycle and redecorate objects. I believe in sustainability and the second and third lives of „things“. I find shopping my home extremely rewarding: looking in drawers and cupboards for sleeping treasures waiting to be brought to life. In using what is already around me, I get to detect new potential in forgotten objects. I also believe in reinventing myself continously. Little steps go a long way. My home is an enabler of change. My space mirrors the changes that I am up to.

Here are 6 easy hacks to redecorate your home at any given time – all doable in 1 minute and without spending a dime. Just use what you find at home. As summer is approaching, most ideas are inspired by seaside souvenirs.

#1: Reusing Wreaths

2 wreaths w. starfish; photo by Beate Schilcher

Reuse a plain Christmas (or Easter) wreath to create a beachy summertime deco. Wrap the shell necklaces from Hawaii (which you never wore) around that wreath. Add shells or a starfish – here’s your fresh look for an inside wall or your entrance door.

#2: Upcycle a Plain Big Basket

Big basket w. starfish hanging on the wall; sea shells arrangement above. Photo by Beate Schilcher

Decorate a plain big basket with seaside memoirs. Use a simple string to attach the objects (so you can re-use them later on) – and here’s your unique signature basket for the entrance console or on top of an armoire.

#3: Touch Up Little Baskets

2 turquoise baskets with starfish. Photo by Beate Schilcher

Pimp up little baskets that may hold beauty or other utensils – once more, starfish and shells do the job.

#4: Repurpose Artwork

Painting with multiple shades of pink and lots of artificial flowers. Photo by Beate Schilcher

Re-think art: artwork from the fleamarket doesn’t need to stay as is. You can change it. Scratch off paint, glue pearls, stones, photographs, postcards, dry pasta, artificial flowers or you-name-it on them. Bam, here’s your very own unique artwork. (May take more than 1 minute, but oh, the fun you will have!)

#5: New Life for Household Items

Golden samowar with kitchen utensils. Photo by Beate Schilcher

Re-purpose household stuff: my aunt once gifted me a Samowar that I never used but liked the shape of. Now, it holds my kitchenware and I get to appreciate and use it everyday. The little teapot that came with it serves as a flower vase.

#6: Re-think How You Use/Store Brooches

Pink pillow with brooches. Photo by Beate Schilcher

Re-think the way you store your brooches (if you have any). Once again, get inspired by a beach that generously displays its shells: Put your brooches on a pillow, and you’ll always see the full collection to choose from.

You can do it, too! All it takes is a little curiosity, and some „appetite“ to start the project. Rainy days help, too.

For more ideas and inspiration, see my book: 17 Steps To Being Home.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What is your design approach to the seasons? Do you buy deco new every year or rather repurpose objects? What is a hack that you have come up with? Share your creativity and inspiration with this community. Every idea is a stepping stone to the next fun project.

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Who Are You After Motherhood Changes?

Who Are You After Motherhood Changes

One of the strangest parts of midlife motherhood is realizing your children still matter deeply to you while also realizing they no longer need you in the same way.

No one really prepares women for that emotional transition.

We spend decades building lives around caregiving: Driving. Organizing. Encouraging. Worrying. Showing up. Motherhood becomes woven into the structure of daily life so completely that many women cannot separate who they are from what they did for everyone else.

And then, slowly or suddenly, the rhythm changes.

The phone rings less.

The traditions shift.

The family dynamic evolves.

Sometimes relationships stay close. Sometimes they become strained or distant. Sometimes they simply become different.

And many women are left asking a quiet but deeply important question:

Who am I now?

The Emotional Identity Crisis Many Women Never Expected

For women over 50, identity loss is rarely discussed honestly. People talk about empty nests in cheerful language: More freedom. More time. More possibilities.

But many women experience something much more emotionally layered.

They feel grief.

Not necessarily because they want their children dependent forever, but because a role that shaped their entire identity has changed dramatically.

Mother’s Day often intensifies those feelings.

A woman can logically understand that her adult children are busy building their own lives while still feeling emotional pain when the day passes with little acknowledgment.

That tension is real.

And it deserves compassion rather than shame.

Why Adult Children’s Choices Feel So Personal

One of the hardest emotional shifts in midlife motherhood is learning that your children’s choices are not a direct measurement of your worth.

Many women internalize everything:

  • distance
  • missed calls
  • difficult relationships
  • emotional disconnection

And underneath it all is often the same painful question:

Did I fail somehow?

But adulthood is complicated.

Adult children are shaped by countless influences: personality, relationships, mental health, life stress, culture, partners, priorities, and their own emotional limitations.

Mothers matter deeply. But mothers are not responsible for controlling every outcome forever. That realization is both painful and freeing.

Because when women stop making their identity dependent on their children’s behavior, they finally have room to rediscover themselves again.

Midlife Is Not the End of Purpose

Many women secretly fear that the most meaningful part of life is behind them.

Especially after:

  • divorce
  • caregiving burnout
  • loneliness
  • difficult family dynamics
  • major life transitions

But midlife is not simply an ending. It can also become a return. A return to parts of yourself that were postponed while everyone else needed you.

Perhaps there are interests you abandoned years ago. Dreams you minimized. Parts of your personality that quietly disappeared under responsibility and survival.

This season may be asking you to excavate those things again.

Not selfishly.

Honestly.

It May Be Time to Meet Yourself Again

One of the healthiest questions women can ask in this season is:

“What do I want my life to feel like now?”

Not: “What will make everyone else happy?”

But: “What brings me peace, purpose, connection, and vitality?”

That question often feels unfamiliar at first because many women spent decades prioritizing everyone else.

But emotional maturity in midlife often involves learning how to:

  • love deeply without losing yourself
  • maintain boundaries without guilt
  • grieve honestly without collapsing
  • build a meaningful life beyond old roles

This is not about becoming hardened or detached.

It is about becoming whole.

And for many women, that journey begins the moment they stop defining themselves solely through motherhood and begin exploring who they are now.

If you are navigating emotional exhaustion, shifting family dynamics, or the challenge of rediscovering yourself after motherhood changes, my free resource Prayers for Bone-Weary Moms offers encouragement and grounding for this season.

And for women ready to move beyond survival mode and begin rebuilding life with clarity and strength, the Marriage and Motherhood Survivor Method offers a deeper next step.

Let’s Discuss:

What part of yourself have you neglected while caring for everyone else – and what would it look like to begin reclaiming it now?

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Amanda Batula’s Brown Suede Jacket with Lindsay

Amanda Batula’s Brown Suede Jacket with Lindsay / In The City Fashion Season 1 Episode 1

We got a glimpse of Amanda Batula grocery shopping with Lindsay Hubbard and on last night’s premiere of In The City. I first fell in love with this under $100 jacket when Amanda wore it on Summer House and so did a lot of you because it’s best seller. And I’m here to tell you that we should shop it while it’s still in stock before someone comes along and takes it 👀.

Best in Blonde,

Amanda


Amanda Batula's Brown Suede Jacket with Lindsay
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What Long-Haul Travel Has Taught Me About Traveling Well

What Long-Haul Travel Has Taught Me About Traveling Well

The reality of a long-haul trip can feel daunting, especially if traveling alone. My bi-annual journey between Koh Lanta, Thailand and Ottawa, Canada has two very long flights, with shorter ones at the beginning and end. In total, it’s usually close to 40 hours door-to-door if the connections are good. That means multiple airports, recycled air, little sleep, and eventually arriving feeling slightly disoriented.

Most people hear about the trip and immediately say, “No way.” But strangely, it has become easier over time. It isn’t because the flights are shorter or more comfortable, but because experience has taught me what actually matters. I’m 72 and have been traveling between my homes for over 20 years.

I no longer approach long-haul travel the way I once did. Years ago, I focused mostly on getting there. Now I focus on managing the experience well.

The Preparation Begins Before the Airport

Once I book my ticket (always economy, as that’s all my budget can handle), and understand the flights, I start preparing mentally for the trip. My goal is simple: comfort. Not style, not fashion, and certainly not looking polished after so many hours in transit.

I plan carefully for what I’ll wear long before I pack my suitcase. Layers matter because airports and airplanes are never the same temperature. Comfortable pull-on clothes are far more practical than anything with too many buttons or zippers, especially when trying to maneuver inside a tiny airplane bathroom. Socks are essential, and I always bring extra pairs. And yes, on long flights, I take my shoes off.

A few days after booking, I check the airline website for meal selections and seat assignments. I used to prefer a window seat, but now I always try for an aisle, preferably one with an empty seat beside me. The freedom to get up easily matters far more than the view outside the plane.

I also organize my medications carefully and make sure anything important is easy to reach in my carry-on bags. Toothbrush, moisturizer, tissues, wet wipes, extra hair scrunchies, chargers, and snacks, all become surprisingly important after enough hours in the air.

And snacks really do matter. Long-haul flights never seem to provide quite enough food, especially during awkward overnight stretches when nothing is being served. I usually bring fruit, nuts, and cookies, and gum for takeoff and landing. Yawning doesn’t always solve ear pressure problems.

Experience teaches these things quickly. Forget something important once, and you rarely forget it again.

Learning to Settle into the Flight

The first half hour after takeoff is always busy for me, and intentionally so. It keeps my mind occupied while the plane climbs, but more importantly, it helps me mentally organize the long hours ahead.

I check the entertainment system, browse the movies, look at the flight map, and usually see if there’s a wing-cam available. I decide what I may want to watch while I’m still fresh and awake enough to enjoy it. I also think about the other things I brought with me, like my e-reader, Sudoku book, or current crochet project.

I come up with a tentative plan for what I’ll do as the flight progresses. Oddly enough, this small ritual changes the entire tone of the flight.

Long-haul travel feels much easier when I stop thinking about the destination for a while and simply settle into the experience itself. Once I mentally divide the trip into manageable pieces, time seems to move more naturally. Otherwise, it’s easy to fall into the habit of checking the clock every few minutes and wondering how it’s possible that only 20 minutes have passed.

Over time, I’ve also learned that movement matters. I try to get up regularly, walk around a little, stretch near the galley area, drink water often, and avoid sitting frozen in one position for hours at a time. Small habits make a tremendous difference later.

Preparing to Arrive

About 30 minutes before landing, I shift gears mentally again.

I use the bathroom before the rush begins and carefully check my seat area for anything that may have disappeared during the flight. Shoes slide around under seats. E-readers slip into side pockets. Crochet hooks seem to develop a life of their own.

I make sure my passport, boarding pass, and any transit paperwork are easy to access before the plane lands. After a very long flight, even small disorganization can suddenly feel overwhelming.

If I don’t have a window seat, I often watch the wing-cam during landing. There’s something calming about seeing the city slowly appear below after so many hours suspended somewhere between countries and time zones.

And then suddenly, it’s over.

Small Things Matter More Than We Think

One thing I’ve noticed over the years is that attitude changes the emotional tone of long-haul travel more than almost anything else. I smile at people. I thank the flight attendants when they bring meals or drinks. I try to stay patient when airports are crowded or flights are delayed. Everyone around me is tired too.

Long-haul travel will probably never become easy, not exactly. Forty hours is still forty hours. But experience changes how we move through it.

I no longer try to fight the trip or rush through it mentally. I work with it instead. Preparation reduces stress. Familiar routines create comfort. Small habits help the hours pass more smoothly.

And after enough trips, even a journey across the world begins to feel manageable.

Click for free access to my Substack, Retired Way Out There, where I publish a bi-monthly newsletter and provide handouts.

Let’s Chat:

What is your experience with long-haul flights? What’s the longest flight you’ve been on? Do you have particular habits you’ve developed for longer flights?

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Lindsay Hubbard’s Army Green Cargo Pants

Lindsay Hubbard’s Army Green Cargo Pants / In The City Fashion Season 1 Episode 1 Fashion

Lindsay Hubbard showed up to last night’s lil’ In The City gathering in a great pair of army green cargo pants. And though some people might be getting “I hate men vibes” (🙄 ) the only vibes we’re getting are that this baddie knows how to dress. So if you want to look like Lindsay scroll down below and scoop up the perfect pair of big girl pants for the next time you find yourself in the city or out.

The Realest Housewife,

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Lindsay Hubbard's Army Green Cargo Pants on In The City
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