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Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

The world is divided into two different kinds of people: overpackers and underpackers. If you fall into the first category, don’t turn away yet! Give me a few minutes to try and convince you that there is a better way to travel.

As you might already suspect, I am an underpacker. My measure of a packing fail: Coming home with even one thing in my suitcase that I did not need, use or wear during my trip. I do fail sometimes, but not often anymore.

Here’s how to pack lighter – all lessons I learned the hard way.

Start with an Attitude Change

It helps that I don’t really care how I look. I don’t mean I would travel in ripped or dirty clothes. But I don’t need to be the glammed up center of attention. In fact, when you’re traveling, the more you can blend in, the better. You’re less likely to be targeted by pickpockets and local scammers.

Spend a little time researching what the locals wear and try to pack like that. This is the lesson I learned when I wore my electric blue winter coat to Romania, a former Soviet block country where there were two colors of winter coat: grey and black.

So if you simply must be a fashion plate, try to pare down the clothes to a capsule wardrobe of items you can mix and match and pieces that will do double duty.

Use a Packing List

These printable packing lists will give you a feel for the things you’ll need. If the list includes something you don’t think you’ll need, don’t pack it. If there is something missing, make a note on the printed sheet so you don’t forget it.

Check the Weather Forecast

I make this recommendation because I live in Chicago. We like to say, “If you don’t like the weather, wait 10 minutes.” Here, the calendar might say May, but the thermometer might say March. Or July.

So check the forecast for your destination. It will tell you whether to pack a raincoat, sunhat, shorts, or sweaters.

Start Packing Early

If you have a spare bed, room, couch or some other spot to hold the things you want to pack, start a week early and put everything on the bed that you think you might want on your trip.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day and look it over. Is there anything missing? Is there anything you think you might not need on the trip? Make adjustments accordingly.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day with the intention of making choices. If you have two pairs of pants on the bed, take away one pair. If you have four shirts, take away two. And so on, until you have cut in half the things on the bed.

Then walk away.

The next day, it’s time to pack. Start with the pieces of clothing you absolutely MUST have with you.

If you run out of suitcase before you run out of clothes to pack, you get to make a choice: Leave something else behind or pay $40 or more to check a bag.

Buy Packing Cubes

I resisted buying this travel essential for years. Now I can’t believe I ever traveled without them.

Packing cubes are flexible pouches with a brilliant zipper system. You pack them with the clothes you want to take, and zip them shut. Then – this is the brilliant part – you zip a second zipper to compress the insides flat. (Think of it like your expandable suitcase, when you open that second zipper, it gives you an extra inch or two of suitcase space. When you zip it shut, everything inside is compressed.)

As a bonus, the clothes you lay inside the packing cube are much more likely to stay wrinkle free. I don’t know why. But it’s true.

Stick with One Basic Color

When I head to a Caribbean resort, that color will be white. But most of the time, it’s black – black pants, a black skirt, a black dress. Then I add color in the tops I will wear with the pants and skirt. Finally, I pack a few scarves and funky costume jewelry to dress everything up or down and add more color.

Wear the Heavy Stuff on the Plane

There are plenty of TikTokers and travel hacker influencers who will tell you to wear layers and layers on the plane to save suitcase space. Or to pack a pillowcase with your stuff and pretend it’s a pillow, not a suitcase, so it doesn’t count as a carryon.

While that might be useful info for travelers on uber-budget airlines that charge for anything that doesn’t fit under your seat, you really don’t have to go that crazy. Just use a little common sense.

If, for example, you’re flying from Florida to Colorado, you know you’ll need your winter coat, hat, gloves, hiking boots and heavy jeans. Wear the jeans and hiking boots on the plane, stuff the hat and gloves in the coat pockets and carry the coat on the plane rather than packing it in a suitcase.

I do this anyway because I’m always chilly on a plane. I’m always surprised when I see someone boarding a flight in shorts and flip flops. I would be blue by the time I landed!

Think Layers, Not Bulk

Thin layers are always the right answer, no matter where you are. Even a Caribbean vacation requires preparing for chilly evenings or overly air-conditioned restaurants. Layers are the answer to staying warm and packing light.

Make the Best Use of Your Under-Seat Bag

Finally, remember that you get not one, but two things to carry onto the plane – a bag that goes into the overhead and a smaller bag that fits under the seat in front of you.

Don’t waste the space in that second bag!

My go-to is a roomy backpack because I travel with a lot of electronics – laptop, Kindle, phone, ear buds and all of the cords and accessories they require. But those only take up two zippered compartments. That leaves two more compartments for other things – makeup bag, an extra pair of shoes, etc.

The other thing that works for me is a big striped bag that is super flexible. I can cram a lot into it and still stuff it under the seat. The downside of that is it is heavy to carry, unlike my backpack which easily distributes the weight across my shoulders.

Practice, Practice, Practice

I know. This isn’t easy. Especially if you’ve always been an overpacker. But practice will make perfect. Try it on your next quick weekend trip. That will give you a chance to see how it feels to only pack what you’ll need for 2-3 days, how much you like being able to lift that light carry-on bag and how happy you are not worrying about whether your suitcase will show up at the other end of your flight.

Just remember to pack one more thing: a credit card. That way, if you find you truly can’t live without something for a few days, you can head to the store to buy it.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Are you an overpacker or an underpacker? What’s your favorite packing hack? Share with us in the comment section below.

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Spring Dresses for Women Over 50 – Flattering Cuts and Classic Styles

Spring Dresses for Women Over 50 – Flattering Cuts and Classic Styles

Spring is the perfect time to refresh your wardrobe with styles that are both elegant and comfortable. If you’re looking for the best spring dresses for women over 50, you’ll want to focus on flattering cuts, timeless silhouettes, and breathable fabrics. Whether you prefer casual styles for everyday wear or sophisticated options for special occasions, there are plenty of beautiful choices to add to your spring fashion wardrobe.

Here are our top 2025 spring/summer dresses:

  1. Chico’s Floral Print Midi Dress – an excellent option with its soft, breathable knit fabric and classic silhouette.
  2. Diane von Furstenberg Classic Wrap Dress – an investment piece that never goes out of style.
  3. Talbots Belted Shirt Dress – in linen is both stylish and breathable for spring.
  4. J.Jill Wearever Double-Face Jersey Fit-and-Flare Dress – super comfortable and versatile. You can easily dress up or down this dress with the right accessories. 

Keep reading to discover more spring and summer dresses for women over 50. 

Spring Dresses for Mature Women

A-Line Midi Dresses

An A-line midi dress is a universally flattering style that offers ease of movement and a polished look. This cut accentuates the waist while skimming over the hips, making it ideal for women over 50 who want comfort without sacrificing elegance. Look for floral prints, solid pastels, or lightweight cotton blends for a fresh spring feel. 

Chico’s Floral Print Midi Dress

Chico’s Floral Print Midi Dress is an excellent option with its soft, breathable knit fabric and classic silhouette.

Wrap Dresses

The wrap dress is a classic for a reason. It cinches at the waist, enhances curves, and provides a feminine yet structured look. This style is perfect for brunch dates, garden parties, or even casual workdays. Look for jersey fabric or silky finishes for a touch of sophistication.

Diane von Furstenberg Classic Wrap Dress

A Diane von Furstenberg Classic Wrap Dress is an investment piece that never goes out of style.

Shirt Dresses

A shirt dress is the epitome of effortless style. It can be worn buttoned up for a refined look or slightly open with a camisole underneath for a relaxed feel. Belted waist styles add shape, while sleeveless options allow for easy layering.

Talbots Belted Shirt Dress

The Talbots Belted Shirt Dress in linen is both stylish and breathable for spring.

Read more: 7 Casual Dresses for Women Over 50.

Fit-and-Flare Dresses

The fit-and-flare dress is a flattering choice that highlights the waist and flows gently over the hips. It works well for both casual days and evening events. Consider eyelet fabrics, soft pastels, or classic navy and black for versatility.

J.Jill Wearever Double-Face Jersey Fit-and-Flare Dress

The J.Jill Wearever Double-Face Jersey Fit-and-Flare Dress is super comfortable and versatile. You can easily dress up or down this dress with the right accessories. 

Maxi Dresses with Sleeves

For those who prefer a little extra coverage, a maxi dress with sleeves is an excellent option. These dresses offer both style and sun protection, making them ideal for outdoor gatherings and vacations.

Soft Surroundings Textured Santiago Maxi Dress

The Soft Surroundings Textured Santiago Maxi Dress provides a relaxed yet polished look.

Tiered Dresses

Tiered dresses add movement and texture while maintaining a structured shape. These are perfect for day outings, travel, and spring celebrations. Soft cotton and gauze fabrics make them comfortable for all-day wear.

Chico’s Tencel™ Tiered Belted Jean Shirtdress

The Chico’s Tencel™ Tiered Belted Jean Shirtdress is a great pick for easy elegance.

Sleeveless Sheath Dresses

For a more tailored look, the sleeveless sheath dress is a timeless piece that works well for weddings, business events, or dinner dates. A lightweight blazer or cardigan can be added for extra coverage.

Eileen Fisher Sheath Dress in jersey knit

The Eileen Fisher Sheath Dress in jersey knit is a sleek, sustainable choice.

Boho-Inspired Midi Dresses

A boho midi dress embraces a relaxed style while offering a chic silhouette. Flowy fabrics, embroidery details, and lightweight materials make them great for casual spring days.

Chico’s Kaftan Midi Dress Midi Dress

The Chico’s Kaftan Midi Dress Midi Dress offers a blend of comfort and artistic flair.

Read more: 10 Best Boho Dresses for Women Over 50.

Ruffle-Hem Dresses

Ruffle hems add a touch of femininity to any dress. Whether in a solid color or a delicate print, this style is perfect for brunches, picnics, and weekend getaways.

Nordstrom Floral Ruffle Midi Dress

The Nordstrom Floral Ruffle Midi Dress is an easy-to-style favorite.

Polka Dot Dresses

Polka dots bring a playful yet classic look to spring fashion. Whether in a retro-inspired silhouette or a modern fit, this print adds charm to any wardrobe.

Donna Karan New York Printed Belted A-Line Dress

The Donna Karan New York Printed Belted A-Line Dress is a flattering and cheerful option.

Choosing the Perfect Spring Dress

When selecting spring dresses for women over 50, focus on:

  • Comfortable, breathable fabrics like cotton, linen, or jersey.
  • Flattering cuts such as A-line, wrap, and fit-and-flare styles.
  • Classic colors and prints that offer versatility and elegance.

How Can You Style Your Spring Dresses?

Once you’ve chosen the perfect dress, consider layering it with lightweight cardigans, denim jackets, or scarves to add warmth and texture. Accessories like statement jewelry, chic sandals, and structured handbags can also add style to your outfit. 

Read more: Scarf Magic for Mature Women: How to Turn 3 Scarves into 27 Outfits.

What Fabrics Work Best for Spring Dresses?

Spring weather can be unpredictable, so choosing breathable, lightweight fabrics like cotton, linen, rayon, and jersey ensures comfort. Avoid heavy or synthetic materials that can trap heat.

Read more: 10 Church Dresses for Older Ladies.

Where Can You Find the Best Spring Dresses for Women Over 50?

You can find stylish and comfortable spring dresses at retailers like Talbots, Nordstrom, Chico’s, J.Jill, Eileen Fisher, and Macy’s. Many of these stores and brands offer inclusive sizing and designs tailored to women over 50.

 Read more: Best Clothing Stores for Women over 50.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you like to wear dresses in the spring and summer months? What is your favorite type of warm-weather dress? Do you wear sleeveless dresses? Tell us about it in the comments below. 

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How to Make Your Own Essential Oil Blend for Mature Skin (Recipe)

A Basic Essential Oil Blend for Everyday Mature Skin Care

With all the wonderful natural facial serums on the market today, it can be a little overwhelming choosing the correct formula with safe, non-toxic ingredients, all at a reasonable price. The good news is that it’s easy and fun to make a quality product on your own using the miracle of nature – essential oils. 

When I started working with skincare formulas in 2003, one of the first products I was excited about making was an essential oil-based facial serum. My skin needs were changing, and a moisturizing oil made perfect sense for dry, maturing skin.

I decided to work with four wonderful healthy aging essential oils I had discovered: Lavender, Frankincense, Rose Geranium, and Carrot Seed.

The natural and highly effective nature of essential oils makes them perfect for skincare. When blended for their various properties and used with a carrier oil that matches your skin type, you can create a serum tailor-made for your skin.

What Are Essential Oils?

Essential oils are the essence of plants. Hidden away in many parts of the plant, like the flowers, seeds, and roots, they are very potent chemical compounds. They can give the plant its scent, protect it from harsh conditions, and help with pollination.

The benefits of essential oils on humans are diverse and amazing. Lavender flower oil, for example, contains compounds that help soothe skin irritation and redness, while the scent reduces feelings of anxiety and stress.

The beautiful Rose essential oil is hydrating to the skin and sometimes used to treat scarring, while the scent is known to help lift depression. 

There are many essential oils to choose from for specific skincare needs. I have used a myriad of different combinations but keep coming back to the tried and true blend from my very first serum.

The four essential oils used are the workhorses of skincare for mature skin, as well as being wonderfully uplifting for mind, body, and spirit. 

The Base Oil Blend Formula

Here’s what you’ll need:

Bottle

1 oz. amber dropper bottle. You can find those in pharmacies or online.

Base (Carrier) Oil

As a base, you can use one of the oils below or a combination of several that meet your skin’s needs:

  • Jojoba oil is my base oil of choice. It’s incredible for most skin types: it’s extremely gentle and non-irritating for sensitive skin, moisturizing for dry skin, balancing for oily skin, ideal for combination skin, and offers a barrier of protection from environmental stressors. It also helps skin glow as it delivers deep hydration.
  • Rosehip oil smooths the skin’s texture and calms redness and irritation.
  • Argan oil contains high levels of vitamin E and absorbs thoroughly into the skin leaving little oily residue.
  • Avocado oil is effective at treating age spots and sun damage, as well as helping to soothe inflammatory conditions such as blemishes and eczema.
  • Olive oil is a heavier oil and the perfect choice if your skin needs a mega-dose of hydration. Just be aware that olive oil takes longer to absorb and leaves the skin with an oily feeling. This may be desirable for extremely dry, red, itchy skin.

Essential Oils

  • Lavender essential oil is very versatile and healing. It helps reduce inflammation, kill bacteria, and clear pores. Its scent is also calming and soothing.
  • Frankincense essential oil helps to tone and strengthen mature skin in addition to fighting bacteria and balancing oil production.
  • Rose Geranium essential oil helps tighten the skin by reducing the appearance of fine lines, helps reduce inflammation and fight redness, and offers anti-bacterial benefits to help fight the occasional breakout. The scent is also known to be soothing and balancing.
  • Carrot seed oil is a fantastic essential oil for combination skin. It helps even the skin tone while reducing inflammation and increasing water retention.

The Recipe

Let’s start with a simple recipe:

  • 1 oz. Jojoba oil (or carrier oil of your choice)
  • 10 drops Lavender
  • 10 drops Frankincense
  • 10 drops Rose Geranium
  • 10 drops Carrot seed oil 

Place the essential oil drops in the amber dropper bottle then fill with Jojoba/carrier oil. It’s that simple!

Applying Your Homemade Serum

Use this serum morning and evening as part of your regular skincare routine. Serums work best when applied after cleansing your face. You can cleanse with Coconut Oil or a mixture of oils for enhanced hydration (we will cover this in the next article) or use your regular facial cleanser.

Essential oils will not interfere in any way with your normal skincare products.

Keep in mind that the serum is concentrated. Use only a pea-sized amount, work it into your fingertips, and apply evenly over the face without tugging or pulling.

If your skin feels tacky, reduce the amount on the next application. Your skin should feel soft, not oily. Follow with your regular moisturizer if you like. 

Making your own facial serum is fun and rewarding! I look forward to hearing your thoughts and ideas on essential oils and making personalized serums and skincare.

What facial serum do you use? Have you made one yourself? What is your favorite essential oil for skin care? Please share your thoughts with our community!

Spring Dresses for Women Over 50 – Flattering Cuts and Classic Styles

Spring Dresses for Women Over 50 – Flattering Cuts and Classic Styles

Spring is the perfect time to refresh your wardrobe with styles that are both elegant and comfortable. If you’re looking for the best spring dresses for women over 50, you’ll want to focus on flattering cuts, timeless silhouettes, and breathable fabrics. Whether you prefer casual styles for everyday wear or sophisticated options for special occasions, there are plenty of beautiful choices to add to your spring fashion wardrobe.

Here are our top 2025 spring/summer dresses:

  1. Chico’s Floral Print Midi Dress – an excellent option with its soft, breathable knit fabric and classic silhouette.
  2. Diane von Furstenberg Classic Wrap Dress – an investment piece that never goes out of style.
  3. Talbots Belted Shirt Dress – in linen is both stylish and breathable for spring.
  4. J.Jill Wearever Double-Face Jersey Fit-and-Flare Dress – super comfortable and versatile. You can easily dress up or down this dress with the right accessories. 

Keep reading to discover more spring and summer dresses for women over 50. 

Spring Dresses for Mature Women

A-Line Midi Dresses

An A-line midi dress is a universally flattering style that offers ease of movement and a polished look. This cut accentuates the waist while skimming over the hips, making it ideal for women over 50 who want comfort without sacrificing elegance. Look for floral prints, solid pastels, or lightweight cotton blends for a fresh spring feel. 

Chico’s Floral Print Midi Dress

Chico’s Floral Print Midi Dress is an excellent option with its soft, breathable knit fabric and classic silhouette.

Wrap Dresses

The wrap dress is a classic for a reason. It cinches at the waist, enhances curves, and provides a feminine yet structured look. This style is perfect for brunch dates, garden parties, or even casual workdays. Look for jersey fabric or silky finishes for a touch of sophistication.

Diane von Furstenberg Classic Wrap Dress

A Diane von Furstenberg Classic Wrap Dress is an investment piece that never goes out of style.

Shirt Dresses

A shirt dress is the epitome of effortless style. It can be worn buttoned up for a refined look or slightly open with a camisole underneath for a relaxed feel. Belted waist styles add shape, while sleeveless options allow for easy layering.

Talbots Belted Shirt Dress

The Talbots Belted Shirt Dress in linen is both stylish and breathable for spring.

Read more: 7 Casual Dresses for Women Over 50.

Fit-and-Flare Dresses

The fit-and-flare dress is a flattering choice that highlights the waist and flows gently over the hips. It works well for both casual days and evening events. Consider eyelet fabrics, soft pastels, or classic navy and black for versatility.

J.Jill Wearever Double-Face Jersey Fit-and-Flare Dress

The J.Jill Wearever Double-Face Jersey Fit-and-Flare Dress is super comfortable and versatile. You can easily dress up or down this dress with the right accessories. 

Maxi Dresses with Sleeves

For those who prefer a little extra coverage, a maxi dress with sleeves is an excellent option. These dresses offer both style and sun protection, making them ideal for outdoor gatherings and vacations.

Soft Surroundings Textured Santiago Maxi Dress

The Soft Surroundings Textured Santiago Maxi Dress provides a relaxed yet polished look.

Tiered Dresses

Tiered dresses add movement and texture while maintaining a structured shape. These are perfect for day outings, travel, and spring celebrations. Soft cotton and gauze fabrics make them comfortable for all-day wear.

Chico’s Tencel™ Tiered Belted Jean Shirtdress

The Chico’s Tencel™ Tiered Belted Jean Shirtdress is a great pick for easy elegance.

Sleeveless Sheath Dresses

For a more tailored look, the sleeveless sheath dress is a timeless piece that works well for weddings, business events, or dinner dates. A lightweight blazer or cardigan can be added for extra coverage.

Eileen Fisher Sheath Dress in jersey knit

The Eileen Fisher Sheath Dress in jersey knit is a sleek, sustainable choice.

Boho-Inspired Midi Dresses

A boho midi dress embraces a relaxed style while offering a chic silhouette. Flowy fabrics, embroidery details, and lightweight materials make them great for casual spring days.

Chico’s Kaftan Midi Dress Midi Dress

The Chico’s Kaftan Midi Dress Midi Dress offers a blend of comfort and artistic flair.

Read more: 10 Best Boho Dresses for Women Over 50.

Ruffle-Hem Dresses

Ruffle hems add a touch of femininity to any dress. Whether in a solid color or a delicate print, this style is perfect for brunches, picnics, and weekend getaways.

Nordstrom Floral Ruffle Midi Dress

The Nordstrom Floral Ruffle Midi Dress is an easy-to-style favorite.

Polka Dot Dresses

Polka dots bring a playful yet classic look to spring fashion. Whether in a retro-inspired silhouette or a modern fit, this print adds charm to any wardrobe.

Donna Karan New York Printed Belted A-Line Dress

The Donna Karan New York Printed Belted A-Line Dress is a flattering and cheerful option.

Choosing the Perfect Spring Dress

When selecting spring dresses for women over 50, focus on:

  • Comfortable, breathable fabrics like cotton, linen, or jersey.
  • Flattering cuts such as A-line, wrap, and fit-and-flare styles.
  • Classic colors and prints that offer versatility and elegance.

How Can You Style Your Spring Dresses?

Once you’ve chosen the perfect dress, consider layering it with lightweight cardigans, denim jackets, or scarves to add warmth and texture. Accessories like statement jewelry, chic sandals, and structured handbags can also add style to your outfit. 

Read more: Scarf Magic for Mature Women: How to Turn 3 Scarves into 27 Outfits.

What Fabrics Work Best for Spring Dresses?

Spring weather can be unpredictable, so choosing breathable, lightweight fabrics like cotton, linen, rayon, and jersey ensures comfort. Avoid heavy or synthetic materials that can trap heat.

Read more: 10 Church Dresses for Older Ladies.

Where Can You Find the Best Spring Dresses for Women Over 50?

You can find stylish and comfortable spring dresses at retailers like Talbots, Nordstrom, Chico’s, J.Jill, Eileen Fisher, and Macy’s. Many of these stores and brands offer inclusive sizing and designs tailored to women over 50.

 Read more: Best Clothing Stores for Women over 50.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you like to wear dresses in the spring and summer months? What is your favorite type of warm-weather dress? Do you wear sleeveless dresses? Tell us about it in the comments below. 

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The Oracle of Caieta and the Power of Choice

The Oracle of Caieta and the Power of Choice

In the ancient world, an oracle was a sacred source of divine guidance, often delivered by priests or priestesses at temples, and believed to convey the will of the gods through cryptic messages, visions, or signs. For Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor and Stoic philosopher, the following message was imparted by the Oracle in Caieta, a place of cultural and religious significance:

“Just as you use yourself.”

A Little About Marcus Aurelius and His Time

This short, obscure phrase found in his private journal, Meditations, expresses the abiding truth that our lives are fashioned less by external forces and more by our internal choices. In other words, our life is not determined by Fate but reflects our inner work and how we use our abilities.

Marcus Aurelius, who reigned from 161 to 180 AD, faced immense instability. The Roman Empire was besieged by barbarian invasions, devastated by the Antonine Plague, and ravaged by internal political strife. Amidst this chaos, he sought inner peace and turned to the Oracle in Caieta for clarity.

As a devoted practitioner of Stoicism, Marcus Aurelius recognized in “Just as you use yourself” the underlying Stoic principle of applying wisdom, justice, courage, and temperance to daily life. This meant controlling one’s reactions, cultivating inner strength, and discerning between what we can affect and what we cannot (and focusing on the former).

Today, we might receive sudden understanding in moments of profound introspection, epiphanies, the counsel of trusted mentors, the symbolic language of our dreams, or the lucidity that arises from periods of solitude, to name a few.

For mor on Stoicism, read Stoicism: A Timeless Philosophy for a Balanced Life

Modern Relevance

“Just as you use yourself” holds powerful lessons for women today, particularly when harmonizing family, personal growth, and self-reliance. It emphasizes that our thoughts, habits, and choices merge in forming our character and in shaping our lives, and that we are not inherently ships without a rudder or leaves in the wind.

Consider the Role of a Mother

Within a family, the mother’s actions and attitudes set a powerful example. A mother who internalizes the message of the Oracle understands that her demeanor, habits, and decisions influence not only her own life but also her children’s.

A single mother facing hardship and heeding the Oracle, for instance, would refrain from fixating on difficulties and choose resilience, patience, and a love of learning. Knowing that when she conducts herself with maturity, kindness, and balance, her exemplary behavior will have beneficial effects on the lives of those around her.

The Grandmother Role

Beyond the immediate family, “Just as you use yourself” extends to those who take on familial roles in later life. A grandmother raising her grandchildren would concentrate on building stability and providing empathy and understanding. Instead of dwelling on what she doesn’t have, she would devote her attention to what she is able to build.

Beyond the Family

The Oracle applies equally to women in later life. A retired teacher, to illustrate, would choose to remain engaged by mentoring young educators in community programs or volunteering at local libraries, rather than resigning herself to passivity. A widow would rediscover her independence and find new purpose through travel, writing, or deepening friendships. By “using” herself wisely, she would reclaim her agency.

A woman in her 60s or 70s may feel that much of her identity was once tied to roles she no longer holds – whether as a mother with grown children, a retired professional, or a widow. However, if she applies the Oracle’s wisdom, she would understand that her life remains shaped by how she chooses to “use” herself. If she “uses” herself well, she will remain vital and engaged, contributing not just to her own well-being but also to others whose lives she touches.

Conclusion

Just as Marcus Aurelius took the words of the Oracle as a guide for his own life, so, too, can women today heed it in finding a pathway to strength, renewal, and meaning.

Let us remember that the power to direct our lives lies within, and that by “using” ourselves wisely, we can navigate both challenge and opportunity.

Let’s Reflect:

Which recent choice affects your life today? Do you carefully analyze your options to make balanced decisions? Are you in a role/position where your choices can affect others around you?

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Breaking the Mold: How Women Over 60 Are Redefining Aging

Breaking the Mold How Women Over 60 Are Redefining Aging

Aging used to mean fading into the background. For generations, society has told women over 60 that their best years are behind them, that they should quietly step aside for the younger crowd. But today, mature women are pushing back against that narrative.

We are redefining aging by embracing our confidence, prioritizing our well-being, and showing up in the world with boldness and purpose. The outdated idea of quietly “growing old” no longer applies. Instead, we are growing stronger, louder, and more visible than ever before.

Dismantling Stereotypes

For far too long, aging has been associated with decline, frailty, and limitation. Women over 60 were expected to shrink their lives, not expand them. But today’s mature women are challenging these stereotypes in powerful ways. We are continuing to build careers, start businesses, travel, take up new fitness routines, and reinvent our social lives. Many of us are even finding new love or rediscovering passions that were long put on hold.

In fashion, beauty, and fitness, we are rejecting the notion that we must fade into the background. Women over 60 are gracing magazine covers, leading wellness movements, and proving that style and strength don’t have an expiration date. As the founder of Inner Joy Activewear, I’ve seen firsthand how the right clothing can transform confidence – our bodies change, but our desire to move and feel good never disappears.

Prioritizing Health and Vitality

One of the most powerful ways we’re redefining aging is by taking charge of our health. This is the first generation of women to have access to better healthcare, nutrition, and fitness knowledge than ever before. Instead of accepting aches and pains as inevitable, we’re finding ways to stay strong and active.

Yoga, walking groups, strength training, and even dance classes are becoming staples for women in their 60s and beyond. Many of us are choosing to age with energy and enthusiasm, knowing that movement is the key to longevity and well-being. Staying active isn’t just about avoiding illness – it’s about living fully and enjoying every moment.

Embracing Visibility and Leadership

Perhaps the biggest shift is that women over 60 are refusing to be invisible. We are running businesses, mentoring younger women, traveling, and getting involved in our communities. Some of us are finally stepping into leadership roles after years of being overlooked.

We have wisdom, experience, and resilience that the world needs. We are redefining what it means to be a role model, not just for younger generations but for each other. By living boldly, staying engaged, and supporting one another, we are proving that life after 60 is not just a chapter – it’s an entirely new book.

The narrative is changing because we are changing it. We are aging on our own terms, and the world is taking notice.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What is your definition of aging? Are you actively aging? How do you support an active lifestyle? What have you redefined in your life?

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The Mind-Blowing Benefits of ‘Radical Self-Silence’: How Disconnecting Can Transform Your Life

The Mind-Blowing Benefits of ‘Radical Self-Silence’ How Disconnecting Can Transform Your Life

Let’s be real: we live in a world that worships noise. Notifications, endless conversations, social media updates, group chats that never die – it’s a whirlwind of constant connection. And yet, have you ever wondered what all this noise is doing to you?

Sometimes, the most life-changing act isn’t adding more to your life – it’s taking it all away. Unplugging. Quieting the noise. Choosing radical self-silence.

What Is Radical Self-Silence?

It’s more than just turning off your phone for an hour. It’s a deliberate, deep, and transformational choice to disconnect from the external chaos so you can reconnect with yourself. It’s the act of stepping away from the relentless buzz of life and immersing yourself in stillness. Self-silence reflects the Taoist wisdom of emptiness – the idea that a cup has the potential to be filled only when it’s empty.

When we quiet our minds and step back from constant noise, we empty ourselves of distraction, fear, and external expectations. In that space of stillness, the cup of our being becomes open and ready to receive clarity, creativity, and inner guidance. It is through this deliberate pause, this returning to emptiness, that we find the fullness of what truly matters.

 And no, self-silence is never about loneliness. It’s about liberation.

Why Radical Self-Silence Is Empowering

We’ve been sold the idea that constant communication equals productivity, relevance, and success. But the truth? Silence is where real magic happens. Here’s why:

You Start Hearing Yourself Again

With so many voices telling you what to do, who to be, and how to feel, your own voice gets drowned out. Radical Self-Silence clears the static. It gives you space to listen to you. Your instincts. Your desires. Your truth.

2. Mental Clarity Like You’ve Never Known

When was the last time you sat in total stillness? Silence clears the brain fog. It’s like decluttering your mind’s inbox, deleting spam, and finally getting a moment to think deeply. Imagine making decisions without second-guessing yourself. That’s what happens when your mind isn’t overloaded.

3. Unlocking Creativity & Problem-Solving

You know that “aha” moment that hits when you’re in the shower? That’s your brain finally getting space to process. Silence is fuel for creativity. It’s where innovative ideas, solutions, and new perspectives are born. No wonder history’s greatest thinkers spent time in solitude.

4. Reclaiming Your Energy

Constant interaction is draining. Whether it’s emails, social media, or small talk, it takes energy. Silence is the reset button your mind and body crave. It refuels you in ways no external stimulation ever can.

How to Practice Radical Self-Silence

This isn’t about becoming a monk overnight. It’s about making conscious shifts to prioritise inner peace. Here’s how to start:

1. Set Digital Boundaries

Turn off notifications. Delete social media apps for a day (or a week!). Set specific times to check messages. Your brain will thank you. And if you’re brave, try a full digital detox weekend.

2. Schedule Silence Like an Appointment

Block out time for silence in your day. Whether it’s 10 minutes in the morning or a full-day retreat, make it non-negotiable. Treat it like the most important meeting of your day – because it is. Silence isn’t wasted time; it’s a sacred investment in your mental and emotional clarity.

3. Go on a Solo Walk (No Headphones!)

Nature plus silence? A game-changer. Let your thoughts flow without distractions. Listen to the sounds around you– the rustle of leaves, the rhythm of your footsteps, your own breathing.

4. Practice the Art of Saying Nothing

Not every silence needs to be filled. Try resisting the urge to respond immediately. Let conversations breathe. Observe more, speak less. Allow moments of silence to exist without discomfort; they are spaces where real understanding and depth can grow.

“The most profound statements are often said in silence.” – Lynn Johnston

5. Journal Instead of Talking

Instead of texting or venting online, write it down. You’ll be surprised how much clarity comes from self-reflection. Make journaling a daily ritual – stream-of-consciousness writing can reveal what’s been buried under layers of noise and distraction.

Also read, Journaling for Clarity: 6 Prompts for Self-Discovery and Growth.

6. Create a “Silence Sanctuary” in Your Home

Find a space – a corner, a room, even just a chair– where no devices are allowed. Fill it with calming items: a candle, a plant, a soft blanket.

7. Start Small, Build Up

Don’t overwhelm yourself by trying to be silent for hours on end right away. Begin with five minutes. Then ten. Gradually extend the time. Like any habit, silence becomes easier and more fulfilling with practice.

The Ultimate Takeaway

Radical Self-Silence isn’t about rejecting the world. It’s about reclaiming yourself from it. It’s an act of rebellion in a society that demands your constant attention. And the best part? Once you tap into its power, you’ll never crave the noise the same way again.

“How much better is silence; the coffee cup, the table. How much better to sit by myself like the solitary sea-bird that opens its wings on the stake. Let me sit here for ever with bare things, this coffee cup, this knife, this fork, things in themselves, myself being myself.” ― Virginia Woolf, The Waves

So, are you ready to disconnect to truly reconnect? Your most powerful, peaceful, and authentic self is waiting in the silence.

Start today! I’ve prepared a free MY RADICAL SELF-SILENCE JOURNAL, and I’d love to share it with you. Just email me and I will forward it to you.

Let’s Reflect:

What feelings come up for you when you think about complete silence? What’s holding you back from embracing it? Share your thoughts in the comments – I’d love to hear how you plan to create more Radical Self-Silence in your life!

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