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Originally posted at: Kyle Richards’ Green Reading Glasses

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We love the idea of reinvention.

It sounds bold.
Empowering.
Almost glamorous.

New chapter.
New purpose.
New clarity.

But no one tells you how quiet reinvention really is.

Especially after 60.

How Reinvention Starts

Reinvention doesn’t usually begin with applause.
It begins with discomfort.

It begins when you notice something no longer fits – your routine, your relationships, your role, your expectations.

You look at your life and think: This can’t be all there is.

And that thought – as honest as it is – can feel isolating. Because not everyone around you is asking the same questions.

We’re Not All the Same or on the Same Path

Some people are comfortable maintaining the status quo. Some friendships were built around shared survival seasons – raising children, managing careers, navigating marriage.

When you begin reaching for something deeper, something more aligned, you may feel subtle resistance.

Not hostility.

Just distance.

Growth rearranges relationships. When you change, dynamics shift.

The friend who bonded with you over complaint may not know how to connect with you in hope. The community built around busyness may feel foreign when you begin craving intentionality.

It Begins with Solitude

Reinvention often requires solitude before it creates alignment. That solitude can feel like loneliness. But it is important to distinguish between the two.

Loneliness says, “No one sees me.”

Solitude says, “I am becoming someone new.”

In midlife, reinvention usually involves shedding.

Shedding borrowed expectations.
Shedding outdated identities.
Shedding roles that were never meant to last forever.

And shedding is rarely comfortable.

Half In – Half Out

There is a hallway season in every reinvention.

You have stepped out of who you were.
But you haven’t fully stepped into who you are becoming.

Hallways are transitional.

You don’t decorate them.
You pass through them.

But when you’re standing in one, it can feel endless.

You may question yourself:

Was it foolish to want more?
Should I have just stayed content?
Why does this feel so lonely?

Because transformation is deeply personal. And not everyone has the courage to undergo it at the same time.

Loneliness Isn’t Permanent

But here is what I want you to understand: The loneliness of reinvention is temporary.

The clarity that comes from it is lasting.

When you allow yourself to sit in the questions –

What matters now?
What feels true?
What am I done pretending about?

– you begin building a life rooted in integrity instead of expectation.

And integrity attracts new alignment.

You Can Build New Relationships

New friendships form around authenticity.
New opportunities appear when you stop shrinking.

The woman you are becoming may require different rooms.

Different conversations.
Different rhythms.

That is not betrayal of your past.

It is evolution.

You are not behind.
You are not selfish.
You are not restless for no reason.

You are unfolding.

You Are Becoming

Reinvention after 60 is not about erasing who you’ve been. It is about integrating her and expanding beyond her.

Yes, it may feel lonely at first. But loneliness is often the signal that you are no longer willing to live unconsciously.

And that is strength.

Do not panic in the hallway. Keep walking. The door you are headed toward is wider than the one you left.

Loneliness isn’t proof you’re lost.
It’s proof you’re evolving.

If you’re standing in that hallway season right now, you are not alone here. Reinvention is brave work – and you are capable of it.

Let’s Discuss:

In what ways are you becoming someone new? Who are you in the hallway season and where are you headed?

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I spent much of last year in a reading rut, and I couldn’t understand why. It seems like book recommendations are everywhere; podcasts, Facebook posts, and the viral ‘bookstgrammers’ I like to follow have no shortage of suggestions for me. 

At first I thought it was a matter of ‘getting organized’. I started a Google sheet to add titles every time something that looked interesting crossed my path. But later, I could not remember anything about the books on the list or why I added them. Choosing my next book started feeling like a job, not a hobby. 

Looking in the Library and Book Stores

Before the internet, I found books by browsing at the library, but often I was picking up books by a handful of authors I knew I liked, rarely venturing outside that comfort zone. While the library is still my first stop to pick up a book I want to read, returning to aimlessly browsing the shelves seemed like an inefficient way to find something fresh. 

While I love the convenience of putting a book on hold through my library’s website or app, reading the descriptions there is not always helpful. 

I turn to a third-party site, like Amazon, Goodreads, or Bookshop.org to dig deeper and vet the books that pique my interest. But then I must take another step to see if my local library has it available. Often it was easier to click that book into my cart and purchase it. But then it’s even harder to abandon a book you’ve paid for if it doesn’t fit. I needed one place to discover books AND borrow them easily.

The Library Extension

Then I found a Chrome browser extension called “Library” that changed everything. The Library extension works seamlessly with Amazon, Goodreads, and Bookshop.org to show me if a book I’m looking at is available at the library, without switching tabs. This not only saves me from impulse purchasing books I might not enjoy, but also saves a ton of time. It has become my favorite way to manage my reading list. 

When I click on a specific book on a third-party site, the library extension loads on the far right side of the screen and shows if my library has a copy of the book, what format the book is in, and whether or not the book is available to check out. If I want to place a hold, one click takes me right to my library page where I can do that. 

My Current Go-To Place

Lately my favorite place to browse is Bookshop.org. This site is an online bookstore created specifically to support independent bookstores.

Instead of all your purchases feeding a massive corporation, Bookshop shares profits with local bookshops across the country, helping keep small community stores alive. You still get detailed book descriptions, reviews, curated lists, and easy online ordering – but with the added benefit of knowing your money is supporting real bookstores and real readers.

It’s a great alternative to Amazon if you enjoy discovering books thoughtfully and want your reading habit to have a positive impact.

Choosing Books for My Specific Needs and Likes

Once borrowing books became easier, I realized I still had a reading problem I needed to solve. The library extension fixed my access problem. But making a good book choice still felt heavy. I sometimes struggled to choose books that matched what I felt like reading at that moment.

I need more than ‘a good book recommendation’. Mood matters to me; sometimes I want to read something comforting and escaping, other times I’m up for more of a challenge. A book can be great, but not right for every moment. Discerning this takes some thoughtful energy, and it can be a bit much when all I want to do is dive into a good read. 

This led me to build a simple tool that helps me describe what kind of book I’m in the mood for and then suggests titles that fit. It works alongside the library extension, giving me solid recommendations to explore online. If you’re a reader like me who wants the entire process of choosing books to feel easier again, I made this for you. It helps narrow your choices and reduces overwhelm so you can focus on reading, not finding something to read. 

If you’d like to try it, I’ve made the tool available free here: https://friendsover50.com/tools/find-your-next-great-read/.

It also includes access to a free reading tracker and a quick video showing how to install the Library Chrome extension.

In Conclusion

When reading started to feel like too much ‘work’ was involved, I knew something needed to change. A few tools helped make it much lighter. As my reading tastes continue to evolve, I’m confident I’ll be able to easily choose and find the right books quickly and get back to a hobby I’ve enjoyed since childhood. At this stage of life, I want reading to feel less like another thing to manage and more like the simple pleasure it used to be.

Let’s Chat:

Where do you get book recommendations from? Have your reading tastes evolved? Do you find it more difficult to look up and choose books?

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