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Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

The world is divided into two different kinds of people: overpackers and underpackers. If you fall into the first category, don’t turn away yet! Give me a few minutes to try and convince you that there is a better way to travel.

As you might already suspect, I am an underpacker. My measure of a packing fail: Coming home with even one thing in my suitcase that I did not need, use or wear during my trip. I do fail sometimes, but not often anymore.

Here’s how to pack lighter – all lessons I learned the hard way.

Start with an Attitude Change

It helps that I don’t really care how I look. I don’t mean I would travel in ripped or dirty clothes. But I don’t need to be the glammed up center of attention. In fact, when you’re traveling, the more you can blend in, the better. You’re less likely to be targeted by pickpockets and local scammers.

Spend a little time researching what the locals wear and try to pack like that. This is the lesson I learned when I wore my electric blue winter coat to Romania, a former Soviet block country where there were two colors of winter coat: grey and black.

So if you simply must be a fashion plate, try to pare down the clothes to a capsule wardrobe of items you can mix and match and pieces that will do double duty.

Use a Packing List

These printable packing lists will give you a feel for the things you’ll need. If the list includes something you don’t think you’ll need, don’t pack it. If there is something missing, make a note on the printed sheet so you don’t forget it.

Check the Weather Forecast

I make this recommendation because I live in Chicago. We like to say, “If you don’t like the weather, wait 10 minutes.” Here, the calendar might say May, but the thermometer might say March. Or July.

So check the forecast for your destination. It will tell you whether to pack a raincoat, sunhat, shorts, or sweaters.

Start Packing Early

If you have a spare bed, room, couch or some other spot to hold the things you want to pack, start a week early and put everything on the bed that you think you might want on your trip.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day and look it over. Is there anything missing? Is there anything you think you might not need on the trip? Make adjustments accordingly.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day with the intention of making choices. If you have two pairs of pants on the bed, take away one pair. If you have four shirts, take away two. And so on, until you have cut in half the things on the bed.

Then walk away.

The next day, it’s time to pack. Start with the pieces of clothing you absolutely MUST have with you.

If you run out of suitcase before you run out of clothes to pack, you get to make a choice: Leave something else behind or pay $40 or more to check a bag.

Buy Packing Cubes

I resisted buying this travel essential for years. Now I can’t believe I ever traveled without them.

Packing cubes are flexible pouches with a brilliant zipper system. You pack them with the clothes you want to take, and zip them shut. Then – this is the brilliant part – you zip a second zipper to compress the insides flat. (Think of it like your expandable suitcase, when you open that second zipper, it gives you an extra inch or two of suitcase space. When you zip it shut, everything inside is compressed.)

As a bonus, the clothes you lay inside the packing cube are much more likely to stay wrinkle free. I don’t know why. But it’s true.

Stick with One Basic Color

When I head to a Caribbean resort, that color will be white. But most of the time, it’s black – black pants, a black skirt, a black dress. Then I add color in the tops I will wear with the pants and skirt. Finally, I pack a few scarves and funky costume jewelry to dress everything up or down and add more color.

Wear the Heavy Stuff on the Plane

There are plenty of TikTokers and travel hacker influencers who will tell you to wear layers and layers on the plane to save suitcase space. Or to pack a pillowcase with your stuff and pretend it’s a pillow, not a suitcase, so it doesn’t count as a carryon.

While that might be useful info for travelers on uber-budget airlines that charge for anything that doesn’t fit under your seat, you really don’t have to go that crazy. Just use a little common sense.

If, for example, you’re flying from Florida to Colorado, you know you’ll need your winter coat, hat, gloves, hiking boots and heavy jeans. Wear the jeans and hiking boots on the plane, stuff the hat and gloves in the coat pockets and carry the coat on the plane rather than packing it in a suitcase.

I do this anyway because I’m always chilly on a plane. I’m always surprised when I see someone boarding a flight in shorts and flip flops. I would be blue by the time I landed!

Think Layers, Not Bulk

Thin layers are always the right answer, no matter where you are. Even a Caribbean vacation requires preparing for chilly evenings or overly air-conditioned restaurants. Layers are the answer to staying warm and packing light.

Make the Best Use of Your Under-Seat Bag

Finally, remember that you get not one, but two things to carry onto the plane – a bag that goes into the overhead and a smaller bag that fits under the seat in front of you.

Don’t waste the space in that second bag!

My go-to is a roomy backpack because I travel with a lot of electronics – laptop, Kindle, phone, ear buds and all of the cords and accessories they require. But those only take up two zippered compartments. That leaves two more compartments for other things – makeup bag, an extra pair of shoes, etc.

The other thing that works for me is a big striped bag that is super flexible. I can cram a lot into it and still stuff it under the seat. The downside of that is it is heavy to carry, unlike my backpack which easily distributes the weight across my shoulders.

Practice, Practice, Practice

I know. This isn’t easy. Especially if you’ve always been an overpacker. But practice will make perfect. Try it on your next quick weekend trip. That will give you a chance to see how it feels to only pack what you’ll need for 2-3 days, how much you like being able to lift that light carry-on bag and how happy you are not worrying about whether your suitcase will show up at the other end of your flight.

Just remember to pack one more thing: a credit card. That way, if you find you truly can’t live without something for a few days, you can head to the store to buy it.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Are you an overpacker or an underpacker? What’s your favorite packing hack? Share with us in the comment section below.

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When Laughter Becomes Legacy: What My Granddaughter’s Birthday Reminded Me

When Laughter Becomes Legacy What My Granddaughter’s Birthday Reminded Me

Over the past few months, I’ve been thinking a great deal about legacy.

After losing both of my parents not long ago, I’ve found myself reflecting on what truly endures. Not just accomplishments or milestones, but the quieter things we pass down without fully realizing it.

Grief has a way of sharpening that question.

Rediscovering Joy

Then, last weekend, something small and joyful offered an unexpected answer.

I had the joy of spending time with my daughter and her family celebrating my granddaughter’s second birthday.

If you’ve ever spent time with a two-year-old, you know they are masters of presence. Everything is fascinating. Everything is funny. Everything is worth laughing about.

And she made me laugh – the deep, genuine, can’t-help-yourself kind of laughter.

In that moment, nothing about my grief changed. Nothing about the world felt different.

But I did.

I felt lighter.

More present.

More like myself again.

Sometimes legacy looks like laughter.

The Legacy We Don’t Plan

When we think about legacy, we often think in big terms – careers, achievements, traditions, financial security, or the values we intentionally teach.

But I’m beginning to believe legacy is also built in smaller, quieter ways.

It’s in the way we show up.

The way we love.

The way we respond to life when it’s difficult.

The way we create safe spaces for joy.

It’s in birthday afternoons and shared laughter that a child may not consciously remember one day – but will feel in her sense of belonging.

My parents lived long lives. They both died at 93. Their longevity has me thinking differently about time – about how many more years of influence, connection, and presence may still be ahead of me.

And how I want to spend them.

Not just productively.

Not just responsibly.

But joyfully.

At this stage of life, I believe we have more agency than we sometimes acknowledge. We may not control everything that happens to us, but we do get to decide how we move through it – and what kind of emotional atmosphere we create around us.

That, too, becomes part of our legacy.

Joy Is Something We Pass Down

As women over 60, many of us stand in a powerful place between generations – holding memories behind us and possibility in front of us.

We can’t control everything our children or grandchildren will face.

But we can pass down resilience.

Warmth.

Perspective.

And joy.

We can model what it looks like to grieve and still laugh.

To face uncertainty and still choose presence.

To carry sorrow – and still allow light in.

Joy is not denial. It’s strength.

And when a two-year-old laughs freely in your arms, you realize how contagious that strength can be.

A Gentle Invitation

This week, I’m holding onto one simple truth:

Small joy moments don’t erase hard things – they help us carry them.

And perhaps more importantly, they help shape the emotional climate of our families.

The tone we bring into a room.

The steadiness we offer in uncertainty.

The laughter we allow to bubble up.

Those are not small things.

They are living, breathing expressions of legacy.

Sometimes the most meaningful legacy isn’t something we leave behind.

It’s something we embody – one joyful moment at a time.

If You’re in a Reflective Season Too, I’d Love to Ask:

When was the last time you laughed deeply and freely? What small moments of joy are present in your life right now? How do you want to be remembered – not just for what you did, but for how you made others feel? What emotional atmosphere are you creating in this season of your life?

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How to Make Your Own Essential Oil Blend for Mature Skin (Recipe)

A Basic Essential Oil Blend for Everyday Mature Skin Care

With all the wonderful natural facial serums on the market today, it can be a little overwhelming choosing the correct formula with safe, non-toxic ingredients, all at a reasonable price. The good news is that it’s easy and fun to make a quality product on your own using the miracle of nature – essential oils. 

When I started working with skincare formulas in 2003, one of the first products I was excited about making was an essential oil-based facial serum. My skin needs were changing, and a moisturizing oil made perfect sense for dry, maturing skin.

I decided to work with four wonderful healthy aging essential oils I had discovered: Lavender, Frankincense, Rose Geranium, and Carrot Seed.

The natural and highly effective nature of essential oils makes them perfect for skincare. When blended for their various properties and used with a carrier oil that matches your skin type, you can create a serum tailor-made for your skin.

What Are Essential Oils?

Essential oils are the essence of plants. Hidden away in many parts of the plant, like the flowers, seeds, and roots, they are very potent chemical compounds. They can give the plant its scent, protect it from harsh conditions, and help with pollination.

The benefits of essential oils on humans are diverse and amazing. Lavender flower oil, for example, contains compounds that help soothe skin irritation and redness, while the scent reduces feelings of anxiety and stress.

The beautiful Rose essential oil is hydrating to the skin and sometimes used to treat scarring, while the scent is known to help lift depression. 

There are many essential oils to choose from for specific skincare needs. I have used a myriad of different combinations but keep coming back to the tried and true blend from my very first serum.

The four essential oils used are the workhorses of skincare for mature skin, as well as being wonderfully uplifting for mind, body, and spirit. 

The Base Oil Blend Formula

Here’s what you’ll need:

Bottle

1 oz. amber dropper bottle. You can find those in pharmacies or online.

Base (Carrier) Oil

As a base, you can use one of the oils below or a combination of several that meet your skin’s needs:

  • Jojoba oil is my base oil of choice. It’s incredible for most skin types: it’s extremely gentle and non-irritating for sensitive skin, moisturizing for dry skin, balancing for oily skin, ideal for combination skin, and offers a barrier of protection from environmental stressors. It also helps skin glow as it delivers deep hydration.
  • Rosehip oil smooths the skin’s texture and calms redness and irritation.
  • Argan oil contains high levels of vitamin E and absorbs thoroughly into the skin leaving little oily residue.
  • Avocado oil is effective at treating age spots and sun damage, as well as helping to soothe inflammatory conditions such as blemishes and eczema.
  • Olive oil is a heavier oil and the perfect choice if your skin needs a mega-dose of hydration. Just be aware that olive oil takes longer to absorb and leaves the skin with an oily feeling. This may be desirable for extremely dry, red, itchy skin.

Essential Oils

  • Lavender essential oil is very versatile and healing. It helps reduce inflammation, kill bacteria, and clear pores. Its scent is also calming and soothing.
  • Frankincense essential oil helps to tone and strengthen mature skin in addition to fighting bacteria and balancing oil production.
  • Rose Geranium essential oil helps tighten the skin by reducing the appearance of fine lines, helps reduce inflammation and fight redness, and offers anti-bacterial benefits to help fight the occasional breakout. The scent is also known to be soothing and balancing.
  • Carrot seed oil is a fantastic essential oil for combination skin. It helps even the skin tone while reducing inflammation and increasing water retention.

The Recipe

Let’s start with a simple recipe:

  • 1 oz. Jojoba oil (or carrier oil of your choice)
  • 10 drops Lavender
  • 10 drops Frankincense
  • 10 drops Rose Geranium
  • 10 drops Carrot seed oil 

Place the essential oil drops in the amber dropper bottle then fill with Jojoba/carrier oil. It’s that simple!

Applying Your Homemade Serum

Use this serum morning and evening as part of your regular skincare routine. Serums work best when applied after cleansing your face. You can cleanse with Coconut Oil or a mixture of oils for enhanced hydration (we will cover this in the next article) or use your regular facial cleanser.

Essential oils will not interfere in any way with your normal skincare products.

Keep in mind that the serum is concentrated. Use only a pea-sized amount, work it into your fingertips, and apply evenly over the face without tugging or pulling.

If your skin feels tacky, reduce the amount on the next application. Your skin should feel soft, not oily. Follow with your regular moisturizer if you like. 

Making your own facial serum is fun and rewarding! I look forward to hearing your thoughts and ideas on essential oils and making personalized serums and skincare.

What facial serum do you use? Have you made one yourself? What is your favorite essential oil for skin care? Please share your thoughts with our community!

When Laughter Becomes Legacy: What My Granddaughter’s Birthday Reminded Me

When Laughter Becomes Legacy What My Granddaughter’s Birthday Reminded Me

Over the past few months, I’ve been thinking a great deal about legacy.

After losing both of my parents not long ago, I’ve found myself reflecting on what truly endures. Not just accomplishments or milestones, but the quieter things we pass down without fully realizing it.

Grief has a way of sharpening that question.

Rediscovering Joy

Then, last weekend, something small and joyful offered an unexpected answer.

I had the joy of spending time with my daughter and her family celebrating my granddaughter’s second birthday.

If you’ve ever spent time with a two-year-old, you know they are masters of presence. Everything is fascinating. Everything is funny. Everything is worth laughing about.

And she made me laugh – the deep, genuine, can’t-help-yourself kind of laughter.

In that moment, nothing about my grief changed. Nothing about the world felt different.

But I did.

I felt lighter.

More present.

More like myself again.

Sometimes legacy looks like laughter.

The Legacy We Don’t Plan

When we think about legacy, we often think in big terms – careers, achievements, traditions, financial security, or the values we intentionally teach.

But I’m beginning to believe legacy is also built in smaller, quieter ways.

It’s in the way we show up.

The way we love.

The way we respond to life when it’s difficult.

The way we create safe spaces for joy.

It’s in birthday afternoons and shared laughter that a child may not consciously remember one day – but will feel in her sense of belonging.

My parents lived long lives. They both died at 93. Their longevity has me thinking differently about time – about how many more years of influence, connection, and presence may still be ahead of me.

And how I want to spend them.

Not just productively.

Not just responsibly.

But joyfully.

At this stage of life, I believe we have more agency than we sometimes acknowledge. We may not control everything that happens to us, but we do get to decide how we move through it – and what kind of emotional atmosphere we create around us.

That, too, becomes part of our legacy.

Joy Is Something We Pass Down

As women over 60, many of us stand in a powerful place between generations – holding memories behind us and possibility in front of us.

We can’t control everything our children or grandchildren will face.

But we can pass down resilience.

Warmth.

Perspective.

And joy.

We can model what it looks like to grieve and still laugh.

To face uncertainty and still choose presence.

To carry sorrow – and still allow light in.

Joy is not denial. It’s strength.

And when a two-year-old laughs freely in your arms, you realize how contagious that strength can be.

A Gentle Invitation

This week, I’m holding onto one simple truth:

Small joy moments don’t erase hard things – they help us carry them.

And perhaps more importantly, they help shape the emotional climate of our families.

The tone we bring into a room.

The steadiness we offer in uncertainty.

The laughter we allow to bubble up.

Those are not small things.

They are living, breathing expressions of legacy.

Sometimes the most meaningful legacy isn’t something we leave behind.

It’s something we embody – one joyful moment at a time.

If You’re in a Reflective Season Too, I’d Love to Ask:

When was the last time you laughed deeply and freely? What small moments of joy are present in your life right now? How do you want to be remembered – not just for what you did, but for how you made others feel? What emotional atmosphere are you creating in this season of your life?

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Kyle Richards’ Gold Hoop Earrings

Kyle Richards’ Gold Hoop Earrings/ Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 15 Episode 10 Fashion

While the ladies were dancing and dining at The Surf Lodge last night on #RHOBH, I was surfing the web for all things fashion and accessories. And I’m happy to tell you I found the gold hoop earrings Kyle Richards was wearing! She always has great simply versatile pieces, which both of these are. So be sure you snag something similar for yourself below. 

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess


Kyle Richards' Gold Hoop Earrings and Necklace

*Hers is part of her dress


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Kyle Richards’ Lip Gloss in the Hamptons

Kyle Richards’ Lip Gloss in the Hamptons / Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 15 Episode 10 Beauty

When it comes to seeing our fav Bravolebs beauty products we absolutely have to find and share. Especially when its something affordable like Kyle Richards’ lip gloss she used in the Hamptons last night on #RHOBH. So if you’re thirty for deets on it then quench your thirst with a little Milk below.

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess


Kyle Richards' Lip Gloss

We think in Shade ‘Soul Search’

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Rachel Zoe’s Eyeshadow Stick

Rachel Zoe’s Eyeshadow Stick / Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 15 Episode 10 Beauty

Considering I usually do my eyeshadow with my fingers (I know) I feel as though I could really benefit from having a product like the eyeshadow stick Rachel Zoe used last night on #RHOBH. Thankfully we tracked hers down and in a plethora of shades so that I (and anyone else like me) can just stick to using the correct utensils for makeup.

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess


Rachel Zoe's Eyeshadow Stick

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Dorit Kemsley’s Red Knotted Tank Top

Dorit Kemsley’s Red Knotted Tank Top / Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 15 Episode 10 Fashion

Red has been one of my favorite summer colors for the past few years and I don’t think that’s going to change this year. Especially after seeing Dorit Kemsley’s look at Surf Lodge on #RHOBH tonight with her red tank top. It perfectly mixes cute and casual which is why you’d be crazy knot to shop it. 

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess


Kyle Richards' Burgundy Cutout Dress at Surf Lodge

Photo: @thesurflodge


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Kyle Richards’ Green Reading Glasses

Kyle Richards’ Green Reading Glasses / Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 15 Episode 10 Fashion

According to our DM’s you guys have been loving Kyle Richards and her glasses this season on #RHOBH. And on tonight’s episode we get another fabulous pair! This time they are green and we all know what ‘green’ signifies— go. As in you should go shop them because they are in stock and only $10!

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess


Kyle Richards' Green Reading Glasses

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