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Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

Why You Should Commit to the Carry-On and Tips for Making it Easy

The world is divided into two different kinds of people: overpackers and underpackers. If you fall into the first category, don’t turn away yet! Give me a few minutes to try and convince you that there is a better way to travel.

As you might already suspect, I am an underpacker. My measure of a packing fail: Coming home with even one thing in my suitcase that I did not need, use or wear during my trip. I do fail sometimes, but not often anymore.

Here’s how to pack lighter – all lessons I learned the hard way.

Start with an Attitude Change

It helps that I don’t really care how I look. I don’t mean I would travel in ripped or dirty clothes. But I don’t need to be the glammed up center of attention. In fact, when you’re traveling, the more you can blend in, the better. You’re less likely to be targeted by pickpockets and local scammers.

Spend a little time researching what the locals wear and try to pack like that. This is the lesson I learned when I wore my electric blue winter coat to Romania, a former Soviet block country where there were two colors of winter coat: grey and black.

So if you simply must be a fashion plate, try to pare down the clothes to a capsule wardrobe of items you can mix and match and pieces that will do double duty.

Use a Packing List

These printable packing lists will give you a feel for the things you’ll need. If the list includes something you don’t think you’ll need, don’t pack it. If there is something missing, make a note on the printed sheet so you don’t forget it.

Check the Weather Forecast

I make this recommendation because I live in Chicago. We like to say, “If you don’t like the weather, wait 10 minutes.” Here, the calendar might say May, but the thermometer might say March. Or July.

So check the forecast for your destination. It will tell you whether to pack a raincoat, sunhat, shorts, or sweaters.

Start Packing Early

If you have a spare bed, room, couch or some other spot to hold the things you want to pack, start a week early and put everything on the bed that you think you might want on your trip.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day and look it over. Is there anything missing? Is there anything you think you might not need on the trip? Make adjustments accordingly.

Then walk away.

Come back the next day with the intention of making choices. If you have two pairs of pants on the bed, take away one pair. If you have four shirts, take away two. And so on, until you have cut in half the things on the bed.

Then walk away.

The next day, it’s time to pack. Start with the pieces of clothing you absolutely MUST have with you.

If you run out of suitcase before you run out of clothes to pack, you get to make a choice: Leave something else behind or pay $40 or more to check a bag.

Buy Packing Cubes

I resisted buying this travel essential for years. Now I can’t believe I ever traveled without them.

Packing cubes are flexible pouches with a brilliant zipper system. You pack them with the clothes you want to take, and zip them shut. Then – this is the brilliant part – you zip a second zipper to compress the insides flat. (Think of it like your expandable suitcase, when you open that second zipper, it gives you an extra inch or two of suitcase space. When you zip it shut, everything inside is compressed.)

As a bonus, the clothes you lay inside the packing cube are much more likely to stay wrinkle free. I don’t know why. But it’s true.

Stick with One Basic Color

When I head to a Caribbean resort, that color will be white. But most of the time, it’s black – black pants, a black skirt, a black dress. Then I add color in the tops I will wear with the pants and skirt. Finally, I pack a few scarves and funky costume jewelry to dress everything up or down and add more color.

Wear the Heavy Stuff on the Plane

There are plenty of TikTokers and travel hacker influencers who will tell you to wear layers and layers on the plane to save suitcase space. Or to pack a pillowcase with your stuff and pretend it’s a pillow, not a suitcase, so it doesn’t count as a carryon.

While that might be useful info for travelers on uber-budget airlines that charge for anything that doesn’t fit under your seat, you really don’t have to go that crazy. Just use a little common sense.

If, for example, you’re flying from Florida to Colorado, you know you’ll need your winter coat, hat, gloves, hiking boots and heavy jeans. Wear the jeans and hiking boots on the plane, stuff the hat and gloves in the coat pockets and carry the coat on the plane rather than packing it in a suitcase.

I do this anyway because I’m always chilly on a plane. I’m always surprised when I see someone boarding a flight in shorts and flip flops. I would be blue by the time I landed!

Think Layers, Not Bulk

Thin layers are always the right answer, no matter where you are. Even a Caribbean vacation requires preparing for chilly evenings or overly air-conditioned restaurants. Layers are the answer to staying warm and packing light.

Make the Best Use of Your Under-Seat Bag

Finally, remember that you get not one, but two things to carry onto the plane – a bag that goes into the overhead and a smaller bag that fits under the seat in front of you.

Don’t waste the space in that second bag!

My go-to is a roomy backpack because I travel with a lot of electronics – laptop, Kindle, phone, ear buds and all of the cords and accessories they require. But those only take up two zippered compartments. That leaves two more compartments for other things – makeup bag, an extra pair of shoes, etc.

The other thing that works for me is a big striped bag that is super flexible. I can cram a lot into it and still stuff it under the seat. The downside of that is it is heavy to carry, unlike my backpack which easily distributes the weight across my shoulders.

Practice, Practice, Practice

I know. This isn’t easy. Especially if you’ve always been an overpacker. But practice will make perfect. Try it on your next quick weekend trip. That will give you a chance to see how it feels to only pack what you’ll need for 2-3 days, how much you like being able to lift that light carry-on bag and how happy you are not worrying about whether your suitcase will show up at the other end of your flight.

Just remember to pack one more thing: a credit card. That way, if you find you truly can’t live without something for a few days, you can head to the store to buy it.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Are you an overpacker or an underpacker? What’s your favorite packing hack? Share with us in the comment section below.

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How to Make Your Own Essential Oil Blend for Mature Skin (Recipe)

A Basic Essential Oil Blend for Everyday Mature Skin Care

With all the wonderful natural facial serums on the market today, it can be a little overwhelming choosing the correct formula with safe, non-toxic ingredients, all at a reasonable price. The good news is that it’s easy and fun to make a quality product on your own using the miracle of nature – essential oils. 

When I started working with skincare formulas in 2003, one of the first products I was excited about making was an essential oil-based facial serum. My skin needs were changing, and a moisturizing oil made perfect sense for dry, maturing skin.

I decided to work with four wonderful healthy aging essential oils I had discovered: Lavender, Frankincense, Rose Geranium, and Carrot Seed.

The natural and highly effective nature of essential oils makes them perfect for skincare. When blended for their various properties and used with a carrier oil that matches your skin type, you can create a serum tailor-made for your skin.

What Are Essential Oils?

Essential oils are the essence of plants. Hidden away in many parts of the plant, like the flowers, seeds, and roots, they are very potent chemical compounds. They can give the plant its scent, protect it from harsh conditions, and help with pollination.

The benefits of essential oils on humans are diverse and amazing. Lavender flower oil, for example, contains compounds that help soothe skin irritation and redness, while the scent reduces feelings of anxiety and stress.

The beautiful Rose essential oil is hydrating to the skin and sometimes used to treat scarring, while the scent is known to help lift depression. 

There are many essential oils to choose from for specific skincare needs. I have used a myriad of different combinations but keep coming back to the tried and true blend from my very first serum.

The four essential oils used are the workhorses of skincare for mature skin, as well as being wonderfully uplifting for mind, body, and spirit. 

The Base Oil Blend Formula

Here’s what you’ll need:

Bottle

1 oz. amber dropper bottle. You can find those in pharmacies or online.

Base (Carrier) Oil

As a base, you can use one of the oils below or a combination of several that meet your skin’s needs:

  • Jojoba oil is my base oil of choice. It’s incredible for most skin types: it’s extremely gentle and non-irritating for sensitive skin, moisturizing for dry skin, balancing for oily skin, ideal for combination skin, and offers a barrier of protection from environmental stressors. It also helps skin glow as it delivers deep hydration.
  • Rosehip oil smooths the skin’s texture and calms redness and irritation.
  • Argan oil contains high levels of vitamin E and absorbs thoroughly into the skin leaving little oily residue.
  • Avocado oil is effective at treating age spots and sun damage, as well as helping to soothe inflammatory conditions such as blemishes and eczema.
  • Olive oil is a heavier oil and the perfect choice if your skin needs a mega-dose of hydration. Just be aware that olive oil takes longer to absorb and leaves the skin with an oily feeling. This may be desirable for extremely dry, red, itchy skin.

Essential Oils

  • Lavender essential oil is very versatile and healing. It helps reduce inflammation, kill bacteria, and clear pores. Its scent is also calming and soothing.
  • Frankincense essential oil helps to tone and strengthen mature skin in addition to fighting bacteria and balancing oil production.
  • Rose Geranium essential oil helps tighten the skin by reducing the appearance of fine lines, helps reduce inflammation and fight redness, and offers anti-bacterial benefits to help fight the occasional breakout. The scent is also known to be soothing and balancing.
  • Carrot seed oil is a fantastic essential oil for combination skin. It helps even the skin tone while reducing inflammation and increasing water retention.

The Recipe

Let’s start with a simple recipe:

  • 1 oz. Jojoba oil (or carrier oil of your choice)
  • 10 drops Lavender
  • 10 drops Frankincense
  • 10 drops Rose Geranium
  • 10 drops Carrot seed oil 

Place the essential oil drops in the amber dropper bottle then fill with Jojoba/carrier oil. It’s that simple!

Applying Your Homemade Serum

Use this serum morning and evening as part of your regular skincare routine. Serums work best when applied after cleansing your face. You can cleanse with Coconut Oil or a mixture of oils for enhanced hydration (we will cover this in the next article) or use your regular facial cleanser.

Essential oils will not interfere in any way with your normal skincare products.

Keep in mind that the serum is concentrated. Use only a pea-sized amount, work it into your fingertips, and apply evenly over the face without tugging or pulling.

If your skin feels tacky, reduce the amount on the next application. Your skin should feel soft, not oily. Follow with your regular moisturizer if you like. 

Making your own facial serum is fun and rewarding! I look forward to hearing your thoughts and ideas on essential oils and making personalized serums and skincare.

What facial serum do you use? Have you made one yourself? What is your favorite essential oil for skin care? Please share your thoughts with our community!

5 Useful Tips for Navigating Dementia After 60 – The Advice of a Caring Daughter

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In the past months, I have been navigating the rough and turbulent waters of dementia, trying to cope with the changes I observe in my mother’s behavior.

I was oblivious at first – or perhaps I overlooked the signs. I hoped the dementia problem would simply go away or sort itself out. Neither happened, and I continue to battle, question, blame, and at long last, accept what I cannot change.

When I was younger, a friend mentioned their fear of dementia and Alzheimer’s because it ran in her family. I hardly gave it a thought at the time because I knew of no family member who had succumbed to either. I felt relieved and unburdened.

As a volunteer Emergency Medical Technician, I dealt with numerous patients and found it easy to talk with them and give comfort. But it wasn’t until my mother was stricken with dementia that I discovered the number of afflicted and their many facets of dementia.

The hurts and hurdles one must suffer through or go over are challenging both for the person experiencing the problem and their caregiver. It can begin with forgetting, misplacing, and confusing people, issues, and things, and continues forward with accusing others of stealing.

The Road to Confusion and Battles

To the patient, time appears mixed up. They forget when you visited last or who visited and gave them the box of chocolates.

One day, you can become the bad person who hurt them, even if you didn’t. They can watch television and believe something happened to them. Relatives who died may be living in their world. You may be blamed for things you didn’t say or do.

Names and simple information told a minute ago is forgotten a minute later. If a woman is newly pregnant, the person may expect the baby to arrive the next day. Things mentioned one day are not recalled the next day, and it leads to arguments.

The fights begin when one attempts to correct the dementia patient’s mistake. I made these errors at first, but now I don’t argue or make attempts at any explanation. Both of us experienced the discomfort, pain, and humbling experience of futile arguments that went nowhere.

Now I gently accept my mother’s world view and we travel the road together. I learned to take her lead and accept her reality. I was not successful overnight, and I still work on acceptance.

A dementia patient will not remember an experience just because you give reminders or repeat the episode with actions and words. I tried that. It is difficult to jog their memory or push them to deduce something with an array of facts.

Sometimes they are aware of mixing things up, especially in the beginning stages. They hate it more than family members do, but they can’t make it stop.

They may introduce you to people you met before. Say hello and move on. It is quick and simple, and everyone is safe and happy. Keep conversations positive and joyful. Tell stories that are simple to follow and drop any subject that creates fear or annoyance to the patient.

Have a Relaxed Attitude

Caregivers coping with a person who has dementia must try to understand and be patient. They may refuse to choose lunch from a menu because they have forgotten how to do it and are embarrassed.

One woman I knew always chose to have the lunch the previous person ordered. She would say, “I’ll have what she ordered. It sounds good.”

Another woman always stated she wasn’t hungry, so that she didn’t have to order. I always suggest something to my mother and she immediately accepts and feels proud that she ordered dinner.

They repeat news and stories because they don’t recall having said it before. It is easier to listen again or attempt to change a subject to something new.

People who have dementia like to keep precious items with them at all times. It is their survival kit, and without it they feel helpless.

They know things changed, and they attempt to carry their personal world with them. It promotes security for them. They may even take items from your house or a store on a survival instinct.

Allow them to keep items close and overlook the drama or inconvenience. This makes them relax. They are not mean when they accuse you of stealing. It comes from their insecurity of being fragile and helpless.

They don’t understand how to deal with any loss of their items. Instead, the patient lives in a wild world and doesn’t know how to get the items they need.

Remember Your Own Needs

We work at home, have a job or babysit the grandchildren. Now we add the responsibility of being caregiver to an aged parent, spouse, or friend.

But we often get tired and need a break – physically, emotionally, and mentally. We are not robots and our feelings get hurt, especially when we aren’t recognized anymore by loved ones with dementia.

We appreciate who they were as an individual and all the wonderful things they accomplished. But their identity dissipates slowly, and it can be torturing if we let it. We have memories from long ago, to remind us.

At times, there is a spark of the person our loved one once was, and we must grasp that moment of knowledge and appreciate it. For some, the body slips away first, but for others, it is the mind. Don’t beat yourself up when you fail to understand. Just do your best.

Release Fear, Anger, and Guilt

We don’t have many choices with dementia, but we can control our attitude. We can make many short visits or phone calls and express our love to the people we care about. The alternative is to be anxious and angry about what could or should have been.

Guilt can devour us when we realize time has passed and is now limited. Happy memories and precious current moments of pleasure spent with a loved one are not over. It would be a waste if we don’t attempt to connect in new ways with the changed person beside us whom we continue to love.

We can’t know nor control our time on earth, but we can control to whom and when we send our love. The past is gone, so don’t carry burdens of guilt. Live your life in the present.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What impact has dementia had on your life? Do you know someone who suffers from this illness? How have they changed as the illness developed? What can you tell others who deal with dementia in their family? Please share your thoughts in the box below.

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