Month: December 2020

Creativity as a Path to Reinvention in Midlife

Sixty and Me_Creativity as a Path to Reinvention in Midlife

Expressing our creativity becomes more common in midlife as we begin to exchange more stuff for deeper experiences. We finally have the time to pursue a creative project.

Creative expression can be a path of
self-discovery that provides a safe place to experiment and explore
possibilities. It can deepen a spiritual connection beyond ourselves.

Sixty and Me_Creativity as a Path to Reinvention in Midlife

It took courage and a leap of faith
for Hilary Farmer to leave a job in the city for life as an artist in a small,
rural community. It was a big risk to give up the safety net of a full-time job
and trade it for life as a full-time artist.

Hilary works primarily in water colour,
ink and oil paints. Her oil paintings have been described as modern
impressionist. Her supportive husband, Tom, often writes a poem in response to
her painted images, which you can easily explore on her
website
.

The Winding Path

It’s not unusual to take a circuitous
route before embracing creativity in midlife. Synchronicity can also weave its
magic. Hilary’s connection with Canada’s West Coast first came through visits
with relatives. She has always been drawn to its extraordinary beauty.

After her Tai Chi teacher relocated to
the Coast, Hilary came out to attend one of his workshops. That visit led to a
reconnection with an old friend who became her new husband. After a holiday
with Tom in Dominica, Hilary quit her job and moved to Vancouver, where they
lived for two years.

Hilary had spent the previous 10 years
working for a big architecture firm that required a lot of commuting between
Montreal and Ottawa where she worked on renovating the parliament buildings.

This only allowed her to paint on
weekends. Although her work was interesting, she felt it wasn’t fulfilling her
unique potential as a creative person.

While living in Vancouver, Hilary and
Tom sailed around the Gulf Islands. When they arrived on Gabriola Island, they
immediately knew this was where they wanted to live. It would allow them to be
closer to nature and a community of supportive artists.

She intuitively knew she was “home”
when she moved into her new habitat on her birthday. It had everything she
wanted, including a light-filled room to paint in.

Why She Paints

Hilary has a memory of a first
Christmas present being a sketchbook given to her at about age three. Her
parents recognized and nurtured her talent. She has had a lifelong interest in
sketching and painting.

She paints because, “it’s a way of
saying things without words. I want to create beauty and celebrate beauty and
love. I express my love of what I’m painting – be it a kitten, a bowl of apples
or an ocean view. I express the soul of what I paint and how it makes me feel.”

She does this through her use of
colour and light. She tries to capture the beauty of the natural world and her
feelings toward it.

What Has Influenced Her Work

Hilary says she is known to make
impulsive decisions. In 2001, she packed up her suitcase and harp and moved to
Taiwan for two years. She says, “Travel takes you out of your home location and
opens your eyes to see things in a new way.”

Hilary believes we need to do our best
with the time and talent we have. She made a conscious decision to not play it
safe with her art and to keep moving forward with her creative urges.

The beauty of the Island she lives on inspires
her work. She’ll often walk to the ocean to sit by the water and soak up the
view or take a walk through the Elder Cedar forest. She loves the constantly
changing light.

She lives with a favorite quote from
Rumi:

“Let the beauty you love be what you
do. There are a hundred ways to kneel and kiss the ground.”

Creativity as a Spiritual Practice

Hilary sees creativity as a spiritual
practice. She remembers reading that,“it’s how we touch the Divine.
Bringing something from nothing is mystical. If you hold back what is inside
you, it will destroy you.”

She created a series of mandalas as an
internal meditative exploration of her feelings and “to seek the mysteries
within.”They have helped her process major life transitions including
moving, starting a new relationship and the death of family members.

“My art has made me grow in so many
ways. It made me open to the beauty of the world. The more you look, the more
and deeper you see. Although self-doubt is ongoing, showing my work to others
paradoxically gives me the courage to keep doing it.”

Advice for Others

If you want – but are afraid – to use
your creativity, give yourself permission to just begin. A lot of people dream
about it. Many go through life without trying it. Fear and resistance may be
signs of truly needing to delve into your creativity.

Make space for creativity in your
home. Dedicate a physical area to your work and a specific time and day for it.
No matter how small your home or how busy your life, it is important and
possible to do this for yourself.

Keep a journal of your creative ideas
so you are ready when you have time to create.

Work small at first. It will take the
pressure off you, as it’s less of a commitment of both time and materials, and
you’ll feel free to experiment.

Try a daily painting challenge – maybe
for 30 days. It will give you the satisfaction of completion and there’s
nothing like painting on a daily basis to help you improve. This can evolve
your skills quickly.

Take an art class online or in person.

Hilary took an online art class that
inspired and encouraged her to move forward with her work. It connected her
with other artists all over the world, including a supportive painter from her
new community.

Connect with established or aspiring
artists.

Take your own leap of faith to see
where your creativity leads you.

How have you used your own creativity
to reinvent your life? What creative path has been most tempting in your life? Please
share how you have used your creativity.

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Twice a year, Bath & Body Works pulls out all the stops and discounts holiday and everyday favorites up to 75 percent off, which new discounts throughout the week. The Bath & Body Works Semi-Annual sale for holiday 2020 is no different—actually, it might be even better. We’ve got the details on all the goods so you can game-plan your shopping trip.

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For the best of the best deals, you’ll want to dig for those 75 percent off products. These include body care, candles, hand soaps and tons of non-holiday items you’ll want to use all-year round. You’ll even be able to find some best-selling fall body scare scents and ones you haven’t smelled for months. It’s basically like a rummage sale where you never know exactly what you’ll find.

The sale begins Saturday, December 26. If you’re shopping in store, don’t forget your face mask and hand sanitizer and maybe even consider going on off hours to avoid the crowds. Or, there’s always delivery! As much as we want to shop and treat ourselves this year (we deserve it), we also have to stay safe too. Set your iCal and get ready to get your haul on. Then, have big New Year zoom with friends to share exactly what you got.

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What We’re NOT Going To Do Is Use Our New Year’s Resolutions To Body-Shame Ourselves

Many of us have done it: Started the year with the resolution to lose weight, sure we’d stick to high-pressure goal we’d dreamed up in a fit of self-hatred. To drop 20lbs, go to the gym every day, count calories or never look at a piece of bread ever again. The fact of the matter is, New Year’s resolutions about weight loss can be dangerous and damaging, especially if you let them warp your self-image and negatively impact your self-esteem.

I’ve been that person—the first one at the gym on January 1, so sore by day three that they take the rest of the month off. I’ve also been the person to go and stick to it, grinding day in and day out. Both versions of myself are valid. In transparency, I’ve never been the person to commit to a hardcore diet, but I’ve definitely been the person to try to eat less and end up binging, only to totally hate myself for it. In at least one of these examples (or potentially all of them) I’m sure you see yourself. That’s OK. This is a reminder that you don’t have to start your 2021 apologizing for or trying to “fix” your appearance.

For some reason, weight loss, gym dedication and getting in shape are some of the most common New Year’s Resolutions of all time. And for people who, for one reason or another, need to do all of the above, that’s perfectly okay. Setting goals and sticking to them is a good thing. A great thing. I’m not here to shame anyone for trying to become healthier. My concern is for anyone who allows an unhealthy self-hated to bloom from the desire to look a certain way.

My concern is for anyone who allows an unhealthy self-hated to bloom from the desire to look a certain way.

I’m sure I don’t have to give you the whole ~we live in a world of Face-Tuned Instagram models and Photoshopped magazine ads~ spiel, but in case I do, I’ll keep it brief: The perfect bodies you see online and in ads are often not real. You shouldn’t compare yourself to them. Healthy looks different on everyone.

Before you think I’m out here shaming anyone with the goal of hitting the gym, let me clarify yet again. Working towards a healthier lifestyle is an admirable goal! However, in this negative world, it is all too common that we use the season of New Year’s Resolutions to body-shame ourselves, picking our appearance apart in the mirror until we’ve resolved to change every little thing we hate. Does this behavior ultimately lend itself to a healthy lifestyle? No. Very often, it leaves us so distressed that we lose all motivation to do anything. We feel doomed. Defeated. Embarrassed. Trapped.

Out of all those words, “trapped” hurts me the most. My body is my home, the only home I’ll have forever. I hate the idea of someone feeling trapped inside theirs. My body is the reason I am able to get up and live my life every single day—how can I hate it (and hate myself!) for not looking exactly the way I want?

My body is my home, the only home I’ll have forever.

As you set your New Year’s resolutions, ring in 2021 and maybe even stock up on some new gym gear or healthy snacks, I urge you to be intentional with your goals. Don’t use your resolutions as opportunities to body-shame yourself. Instead, resolve to appreciate and love your body—in fact, this is a far better reason to vow to make healthy choices. Aim for health because your body deserves a long and beautiful life, not because you need to drop 10lbs in case low-rise jeans come back in style (and believe me, I’m doing all that I can to ensure they don’t). In 2021, I challenge you to a different kind of New Year’s Resolution: Resolve to be kind to yourself. You deserve it.

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Of course, deals will be online as well as in-store so if you feel safer shopping from your couch, you can still stock up on Bath & Body Works favorites. Now’s the chance to score the beloved holiday fragrances before they’re gone (until next year), as well as throwbacks including Secret Wonderland, Honeysuckle and Sensual Amber brought back just for this sale. Christmas body care will be just $4.95 and select Christmas 3-Wick Candles will be $11.95.

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For the best of the best deals, you’ll want to dig for those 75 percent off products. These include body care, candles, hand soaps and tons of non-holiday items you’ll want to use all-year round. You’ll even be able to find some best-selling fall body scare scents and ones you haven’t smelled for months. It’s basically like a rummage sale where you never know exactly what you’ll find.

The sale begins Saturday, December 26. If you’re shopping in store, don’t forget your face mask and hand sanitizer and maybe even consider going on off hours to avoid the crowds. Or, there’s always delivery! As much as we want to shop and treat ourselves this year (we deserve it), we also have to stay safe too. Set your iCal and get ready to get your haul on. Then, have big New Year zoom with friends to share exactly what you got.

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Twice a year, Bath & Body Works pulls out all the stops and discounts holiday and everyday favorites up to 75 percent off, which new discounts throughout the week. The Bath & Body Works Semi-Annual sale for holiday 2020 is no different—actually, it might be even better. We’ve got the details on all the goods so you can game-plan your shopping trip.

Of course, deals will be online as well as in-store so if you feel safer shopping from your couch, you can still stock up on Bath & Body Works favorites. Now’s the chance to score the beloved holiday fragrances before they’re gone (until next year), as well as throwbacks including Secret Wonderland, Honeysuckle and Sensual Amber brought back just for this sale. Christmas body care will be just $4.95 and select Christmas 3-Wick Candles will be $11.95.

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For the best of the best deals, you’ll want to dig for those 75 percent off products. These include body care, candles, hand soaps and tons of non-holiday items you’ll want to use all-year round. You’ll even be able to find some best-selling fall body scare scents and ones you haven’t smelled for months. It’s basically like a rummage sale where you never know exactly what you’ll find.

The sale begins Saturday, December 26. If you’re shopping in store, don’t forget your face mask and hand sanitizer and maybe even consider going on off hours to avoid the crowds. Or, there’s always delivery! As much as we want to shop and treat ourselves this year (we deserve it), we also have to stay safe too. Set your iCal and get ready to get your haul on. Then, have big New Year zoom with friends to share exactly what you got.

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