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Gina Kirschenheiter’s Black and Silver Sequin Confessional Look

Gina Kirschenheiter’s Black and Silver Sequin Confessional Look / Real Housewives of Orange County Season 18 Fashion

Gina Kirschenheiter is back for the eighteenth season of the Real Housewives of Orange County and looking better than ever! Her black and silver sequin confessional look is one of her best yet. If it looks familiar it’s because we’ve seen it on Olivia Flowers and we also clocked Tamra Judge wearing it later this season on #RHOC. And if these 3 blonde babes are enough proof you need this piece, much like the dress I’m just going to cut it out because there’s nothing more I can say.

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Also Seen on Olivia Flowers

Olivia Flowers' Black Embellished Cutout Dress on WWHL
Gina Kirschenheiter Black and Silver Sequin Confessional Look

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8 Unmistakable Signs That You May Have Met the Perfect Match

8 Unmistakable Signs That You May Have Met the Perfect Match

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you walked away and suddenly felt a sense of freedom?

Perhaps it was a toxic workplace, a harmful relationship, or distancing yourself from a negative friend. The outcome, however, was a huge feeling of relief as if a heavy burden had been lifted off your chest.

A healthy relationship should never make you feel that way.

You deserve to feel comfortable, unrestricted, and able to be your genuine self in a relationship.

So, what are the signs? Here are my thoughts based on over 28+ years helping people find the “one” and over 6,000 marriages.

There Is Chemistry

All good relationships have a huge dose of physical attraction. Am I alluding to the bedroom? You bet. At any age, we want to enjoy our sexual relationship – it brings us closer and it’s…. fun!

Let’s face it – if you don’t, he’s just a friend. And with my clients, we are not looking for more friends.

If I could forecast chemistry, wow, everyone would be happily in love. It’s that intangible – and it may not happen on the first date, contrary to popular belief. Yes, it may knock you over like a charging bull immediately. But it can also happen on the 2nd or 3rd date.

It may be a smile. A laugh. An engaging conversation. His mannerisms when he gets excited about a topic. And then, Boom.

After 28 years of coaching clients, I know that if it hasn’t happened by the 3rd date – it probably isn’t going to happen. That’s based on over 38,000 clients – yes, I started a while back and can’t keep renaming it.

So, no chemistry? Move on.

Your Values Are in Sync

I can’t say this enough – common values, chemistry and communication are the foundation of a solid relationship.

And, “forever” may be a really, really long time, as those of us who are divorced discovered! There will be countless decisions made between now and forever, decisions that are influenced by your values and beliefs.

These values impact how you spend your time together (as one client told me last week, his barometer on whether a relationship may work is to go on a one-week vacation together!) where and how you tie the knot (if you do), how you celebrate holidays (if you do), and most importantly, how you choose to live your everyday life.

We all have different backgrounds and experiences that shape our perspective of the world. In a relationship, the goal is to find a compromise and a middle ground that satisfies both partners, which is why communication is crucial.

If your value systems are too far apart to find common ground, one or both of you will always feel conflicted about the life you’re leading. You should never compromise your integrity just to be with someone who is not right for you.

Openly Expressing Your Feelings and Opinions

Sharing your innermost thoughts and emotions without any judgment is key.

Healthy relationships are all about open communication and understanding. So go ahead, and express your desires, fears, needs, and feelings freely. Just remember, a judgment-free zone is essential for creating a strong emotional connection with your partner.

You Are Comfortable Introducing Him to Those Closest to You

I mean, sure, you can introduce anyone to your friends and family, but are you really at ease leaving them alone in the other room? Do you trust their behavior and manners? Are you proud to show them off to the VIPs in your life? Or… are you constantly making excuses for their questionable actions and words? Do you secretly worry they’ll embarrass you or themselves?

I just spent a 5-day weekend in Dallas with my 5 siblings, spouses, and countless nieces and nephews, and I was so excited to introduce Jeff to my family. He may have been a bit nervous, but I wasn’t. He was his engaging self, and two of my sisters whispered to me, “Dad would have loved him.”

No, you don’t need anyone’s approval to date someone. But if deep down you wish it was someone else or even no one at all by your side in social situations, well, that’s a big ol’ red flag you can’t ignore.

You Can Learn from Each Another

No one is perfect, including ourselves and the people we admire. Embracing our differences and unique backgrounds can actually enhance our relationships, rather than hinder them. Just like in sports, where a variety of skills is needed to build a winning team, in relationships, we should focus on our strengths while appreciating our partner’s strengths. By doing so, we can learn from each other, gain new perspectives, and share unique experiences together. But this can only happen if both parties are open to it.

My husband-to-be loves history and documentaries. I love Bridgerton. I’ve learned so much about music  – Muscle Shoals, anyone? We’ve got to keep learning and being curious.

You Engage in Your Interests – Both Together and Separately

Each of us has unique passions and hobbies that we must continue to pursue while in a relationship. Neglecting the things we are passionate about can lead to resentment towards our partner (regardless of fault) as we lose our sense of purpose.

And we lose our friends and identity. I play pickleball and love yoga. Jeff loves to work out, do his volunteer work with the Red Cross and play basketball (a lot). You won’t find me joining him on the bb court. But the golf course? That’s our thing together.

You Imagine a Future Together

I believe that many relationships fail nowadays because people are too focused on living in the moment. They’re out there enjoying life, taking selfies, traveling, and having a blast.

Sure, all of that is great.

You should be able to have fun and enjoy life with your partner.

But those things alone don’t necessarily mean you’re truly compatible in a relationship. You can have fun with anyone, but it doesn’t mean they’re the one you want to spend your life with.

The litmus test? If you can picture yourself waking up in 10 years and still see that person by your side, then you’ve found something special.

You Can Be YOU

What does it truly mean to be yourself? Are you energetic, a spitfire, always ready for a laugh? Or perhaps you have a more serious and composed demeanor. Maybe you’re the hopeless romantic, wearing your heart on your sleeve.

If you find yourself constantly holding back, shaping yourself into someone you’re not just to please your partner, you’ll not be truly happy. It’s like diluting your essence for their sake, putting on a mask that doesn’t truly represent you.

The right person will cherish your quirks, your passions, and all the amazing complexities that make you, you. So never settle for anything less than a love that celebrates your truest self.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

In your last relationship, was there instant chemistry or did it take time to develop? Were you comfortable introducing this person to close friends and family? Were you “you” during the relationship?

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Living in Full Bloom: Embracing the Beauty and Wisdom of a “Certain Age”

Living in Full Bloom Embracing the Beauty and Wisdom of a “Certain Age”

Imagine a rosebud: delicate, tightly closed, full of promise. It’s beautiful in its own right, yet we know its true splendor is revealed only when it fully blooms.

As women, our journey mirrors this transformation. While our youth holds its own charm, it is in our later years that we truly come into our full glory, living life in vibrant, unapologetic bloom.

Living in full bloom means embracing every part of ourselves – heart, mind, body, and soul.

It’s about harnessing the wisdom, strength, and beauty that come from our life experiences and using them to create a life of purpose and joy.

So many of us spent too many years of our lives absorbed in one aspect of ourselves – maybe we were victims of the predatory diet culture or just focused on others, never on ourselves. Some of us were laser focused on church or work or education.

It’s when we begin to understand that in order to have the life we want to live, we need to be synergistically in sync with our whole being – heart, mind, body and soul.

Let’s unpack that a bit.

Heart: Cultivating Emotional Resilience and Compassion

At the heart of living in full bloom is emotional resilience and compassion.

Life has undoubtedly thrown its share of challenges our way. Yet, these experiences have also equipped us with the ability to navigate emotional storms with grace. Embracing our hearts means allowing ourselves to feel deeply, love fully, and forgive generously. That abundant overflow is what fuels everything.

Self-love and compassion are crucial. It’s about recognizing our worth, treating ourselves with kindness, and extending that same compassion to others. When we nurture our hearts, we cultivate a sense of inner peace and emotional balance that radiates outward, touching everyone we encounter. It is the plumb line to serenity.

Mind: Embracing Growth and Positive Thinking

Our minds are powerful tools in shaping our reality.

Living in full bloom involves adopting a growth mindset – an openness to learning, evolving, and seeing challenges as opportunities for growth. It’s about letting go of limiting beliefs and embracing the potential within us.

How we think plays a pivotal role. It’s easy to fall into old patterns of negative thinking, but by consciously choosing to focus on the positive rather than the negative, we can transform the way we think, replacing old, worn-out thoughts with new and inspirational ones. This is done by focusing on the solution rather than the problem, for example.

It is how we can transform our outcomes. Creativity flows and inspiration hits rather than moping over the problem. We’ve done enough handwringing – it’s time to focus on the fix! This doesn’t mean ignoring life’s difficulties at all, but rather, approaching them with a sense of hope and possibility – this is done when you look elsewhere.

And by the way, our brains can create new synapses and connections, even at this age, which is most exciting!

Body: Nourishing Yourself

Our bodies are the vessels through which we experience life. We cannot divorce ourselves of our bodies – we must love them up as best we can.

And unlike an old car, we can’t turn in our old clunker for a new and shiny model. As we age, it becomes even more important to care for our bodies with a great deal of love and respect.

Nourishing our bodies means taking an honest assessment of our habits – which should stay and which need to go? Evaluating our activity level and listening to what our wise bodies tell us. We might need a little extra rest or reconsider that second glass of wine.

Holistic wellness is key. It’s not just about physical fitness but also about how we fuel our bodies and care for our overall well-being. This includes a supportive diet, regular and varied exercise, plus adequate rest, as well as practices like yoga or meditation that support both physical and mental health.

Soul: Connecting with Your Inner Self

Living in full bloom requires a deep connection with our inner selves. This is about spiritual growth, finding our purpose, and aligning our lives with our core values. It’s about exploring what brings us joy, fulfillment, and a sense of peace.

Spiritual practices can help us connect with our soul. Whether it’s through meditation, prayer, or spending time in nature, these practices allow us to tune into our inner wisdom and cultivate a sense of inner calm and purpose.

At this point in our lives, this is one of the most important connections we can make.

Embrace Your Full Bloom

Living in full bloom as a woman of a “certain age” is a beautiful, powerful journey.

It’s about embracing every part of ourselves – heart, mind, body, and soul – and using our experiences to create a life of joy, purpose, and fulfillment. Just like a rose in full bloom, we are at our most glorious when we fully embrace and celebrate who we are.

This really is in the prime of our lives – live it fully bloomed!

Let’s Talk About It:

Have you embraced your age? In what was have you bloomed past 60? What else can do you to release your full potential?

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Alexis Bellino’s Hot Pink Bralette and Skirt

Alexis Bellino’s Hot Pink Bralette and Skirt / Real Housewives of Orange County Season 18 Episode 1 Fashion

On last night’s Real Housewives of Orange County Season 18 premiere Alexis Bellino slipped right back into place like she never started dating a cast members ex left. And if you love her hot pink embellished bralette and skirt, I hate to say that you’re out of luck because it’s sold out. And like a certain man with double J initials, there really isn’t enough to go around.

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Alexis Bellino's Hot Pink Bralette and Skirt Set

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How to Avoid the Heartbreak of Ghosting Dating After 50

Ghosting Dating After 50

The definition of Ghosting according to Urban Dictionary is, “The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date.”

A better definition is… you and I meet, we have amazing chemistry, we hang out and have awesome sex. I bond to you and then you disappear, ultimately breaking my heart. You don’t answer my calls or texts and I am so confused and concerned.

Here’s how the conversation goes. “Are you hurt? Did I do something wrong? We were making plans and now you’re gone.” Sadly, ghosting happens all the time now.

Back in the day, before the Internet, when people met via a fix up by friends, no one would have even thought to disappear like they do today. Their reputation was at stake, and they didn’t want to face the judgment of their friends. They would have done the proper thing and said… “I think we aren’t a match.” You’d have closure, maybe some tears but you’d have known why the relationship was ending.

In today’s cyber world, no one is holding anyone accountable so it’s easy to disappear. People think by not answering your texts or calls, they are not hurting your feelings. What they don’t realize is you hurt even more because you have no idea what caused the rift and no way to fix it. You can’t totally prevent this from happening but I want to give you some warning signs that can help you recognize you’re headed for trouble when they appear.

Warning Sign #1: Chemistry

Chemistry… and I mean hot, can’t-take-your-hands-off-each-other, and the sex is so amazing!

When the chemistry is this hot, turn and run the other way. Relationships are rarely based on chemistry alone and chemistry keeps a friendship, a much needed connection from happening. You bond so fast from the intimacy that you don’t have a chance to really see who someone is until it’s too late.

Warning Sign #2: No Exclusive Commitment

Usually he’ll say something like, “we are having so much fun, let’s see where it goes.” And you agree to it because you’re bonding through sex, and he’s fun, and you think he is too. He’s not, and he’s telling you he’s not about a relationship. He’s about fun when he uses this phrase.

Warning Sign #3: Feeling Needy

You find yourself feeling more clingy and needy because you don’t know how he fits into your life.

Instead of being a grown up and telling you this is getting on his nerves, he disappears. People would prefer to just leave than get involved in some type of confrontation with you. Again, the reason is because they are not committed to the relationship.

Warning Sign #4: The Future Talk

He knows there’s no future for the two of you, so he keeps silent. He’s just in this for the fun and nothing serious. He stays silent when you future talk and disappears versus “hurting your feelings” letting you know he’s not on the same relationship page as you are.

Warning Sign #5: Trying to Put an End

He tries to end it but you draw him back into the relationship because you’ve bonded, and you miss him so much when you are apart.

At this point, he feels like you are not hearing him so instead of going through the drama of a breakup again he just disappears. Really listen to what men are saying to you because men mean what they say. We as women don’t always mean what we say… mostly because we are people pleasers and we think things are changeable. The disconnect happens because we think men think this way too! They do not!

I’ve given you 5 warning signs to watch for in future relationships. Use them. They can save you a lot of heartbreak in the future.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you experienced this kind of “ghosting dating,” when someone you were seeing suddenly disappeared and stopped communicating? Do you think it is possible for women over 60 to meet men who want to make a commitment? Do you often miss ‘warning signs’ in your dating relationships?

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Heather Dubrow’s Black Faux Fur Coat

Heather Dubrow’s Black Faux Fur Coat / Real Housewives of Orange County Season 18 Episode 1 Fashion

Originally published on January 10th, 2024

First off we’d like to wish Heather Dubrow a Happy Belated Birthday!! Secondly we’d like to thank her for sharing the deets on her black fur coat that she wore while celebrating. This looks like a very chic and very warm coat (though I’m not sure how bad you needed it in SoCal). But no matter where you are I still think a coat like this is a fabulous necessity for when you are somewhere cold. Which is why we faux sure need to shop one from below!

Sincerely Stylish,


Heather Dubrow's Black Faux Fur Coat

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Proven Exercise Tips: How to Stay Fit Over 60

Proven Exercise Tips How to Stay Fit Over 60

As we all know, our bodies undergo changes as we age. Some of these changes can make maintaining an active life challenging. However, with the right knowledge and guidance, we can maintain or embrace a new exercise habit, even when we are over 60.

That one commitment can help us to get a bit more fit or help us to stay fit longer. And it will also expand and extend the possibilities for a truly enjoyable and fulfilling, long and healthy life.

We owe it to ourselves and to those we love to be as healthy and fit as we can be to ensure a quality life full of adventures and happy memories for many years to come.

Exercise Tips You Can Apply Today

Regular exercise is critical to maintain physical health, strength, and overall well-being, regardless of our age. But as we enter our 60s, it becomes especially important to adopt exercise as a regular part of our lives.

Routines that are tailored to our changing bodies can help us stay fit and also help us to prevent age-related illnesses and physical limitations.

For example, many exercises help improve overall physical health but also help reduce joint stiffness while enhancing cardiovascular health.

Certain exercises also help us to preserve our mobility, flexibility, and balance.

These are all qualities that are key to both physical and cognitive health as we age. That’s right, even our brains benefit from exercise.

Exercise Options for Women Over 60

It’s important that we

  1. Start with activities that match our fitness level,
  2. Consult with a healthcare professional if necessary, and
  3. Listen to our bodies as we try out new things.

Here are some practical ways to begin including exercise in our daily lives:

Take Up Walking

Walking is a low-impact exercise that provides an excellent cardiovascular workout to improve heart health, enhance circulation, and boost mood. Start with shorter walks. Gradually increase the distance and intensity. Consider joining walking groups or finding scenic trails to make it a more mindful, enjoyable and social experience.

Water Time

Swimming and water aerobics are gentle on the joints, making them an ideal choice for women over 60. These activities provide cardiovascular benefits without putting excessive stress on the body. Water supports the body, reduces impact, and increases resistance, helping to improve muscle strength, flexibility, and balance. Many community centers and gyms offer water aerobics classes specifically designed for older adults.

How About Yoga and Pilates?

Yoga and Pilates are fantastic options for women over 60, as they focus on flexibility, strength, and balance. These mind-body practices also promote relaxation, stress reduction, and mental well-being. Both yoga and Pilates can be modified to accommodate different fitness levels and physical abilities. Consider joining classes specifically tailored for older adults or consult with a certified instructor to create a personalized routine.

Do Strength Training

Strength training is key for maintaining muscle mass and bone density, especially as we age. Engaging in weight-bearing exercises, such as using resistance bands, dumbbells, or bodyweight exercises, helps improve strength, balance, and posture. Strength training also aids in the prevention of osteoporosis and reduces the risk of falls and fractures. Start with lighter weights and gradually increase resistance over time, ensuring proper form and technique.

Another Option Is Tai Chi

Tai Chi is a gentle, low-impact exercise that combines flowing movements with deep breathing and mindfulness. It improves balance, flexibility, and mental focus. Tai Chi also helps reduce stress, improve sleep quality, and increase overall relaxation. Joining a Tai Chi class or following instructional videos can introduce you to the technique and help you gradually master the movements.

Health Screenings Are Essential for Women Over 60

As women age, the risk of developing chronic illnesses and diseases, such as cancer, heart disease, and osteoporosis, increases.

Exercise is important. What’s equally critical? Staying up to date with regular health screenings, such as mammograms, bone density tests, and cholesterol checks.

These preventative measures can help detect any potential health issues early on, leading to better outcomes and care.

Regular check-ups with your medical care provider are also fundamental to maintaining optimal health.

They can offer vital information about any potential risks or concerns you may have and help you develop a personalized wellness plan to address them.

How to Stay Fit and Healthy as Women Over 60

As women over 60, we can take a huge step towards maintaining our health and wellness by incorporating exercise into our daily routine.

Equally important is staying current with health check-ups, routine preventative testing, vaccines, and having a full physical every few years to have a more in-depth assessment of a wider group of key health indicators.

It’s never too late to start leading a healthy lifestyle; the key is to commit to making choices that align with that priority most days, and to take pride in our efforts to stay fit, vibrant and alive.

Your future self will thank you for each step you take, no matter how small!

Surround yourself with others who put their health first, too, and watch your willpower and motivation soar!

Let’s Start a Conversation!

What exercise habits do you currently enjoy? Are there new active hobbies you hope to explore? How would you describe your activity level now? How would you like to maintain or change that? Do you have friends in mind who may want to support you and become an exercise accountability partner? What challenges do you face when trying to implement a regular fitness habit? Share your challenges with other readers, and let’s try to come up with winning strategies together.

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Trying Out Spa Therapy for Mind, Body and Soul

Before I even get into this article, I’d like to share with all the readers that I am a New Yorker who has lived in five different countries for 30 years. I now reside in Austin, Texas, and have called it home for 13 years. None of my stories or features involve politics, religion, or ideology. I write about life and culture and share experiences I believe women our age will appreciate.

Medical Spa + More

That said, I recently was made aware of a lovely little medical spa (which offers more than just the medical part) named Kuya Wellness.

Let me say upfront that I am not paid to write this article. I simply like what they have to offer and thought others may want to check them out as well.

At the end of 2021, Kuya opened its doors to an eager public seeking a scientific and holistic regenerative approach to health. Kuya is not your traditional wellness center; it is a haven to elevate your healing journey. With 11,000 square feet of calm spaces, one quickly and easily drifts barefoot in and out of the two-story space.

Meg Dwyer, who oversees the Neurostimulation program, talked with me about what they do at the facility.

“EEGs are taken, and a brain map is sent to Dr. Tiff Thompson, who runs NeuroField. She has a Ph.D., QEEGD, BCN, LMFT, and is a clinical neuroscientist, licensed therapist, educator, and technologist. She is the founder and owner of the Santa Barbara clinic, NeuroField Neurotherapy, where she offers clinicians quantitative electroencephalography (QEEG)-based functional brain consulting.

“Dr. Thompson reads the electrical outputs – which neurons are over and under-firing, and a report is printed and analyzed. Our customers include people with concussions, traumatic brain injuries, OCD, and social anxiety who find this therapy helpful. The course is 10 sessions long.”

So, what procedures can you do at Kuya Wellness?

Ketamine Assisted Therapy

This is a six-session program facilitated by a medical doctor to help with mental health conditions like depression, PTSD, and anxiety. You can tailor this program in a multitude of ways. Regulating the nervous system while engaging with the Kuya community brings forth a wellspring of connectivity, something people lack, which is part of the reason mental health issues occur in the first place.

IV Infusion Therapy

Kuya offers a variety of boosters, from red blood cells to mood enhancements, relaxation, and alkaline balancing.

OPUS Sound Therapy

I had the pleasure of trying out the sound bed. At first, before stepping into the chamber, I thought, ‘Sound therapy, I’ve done that before with a practitioner using a tuning fork to attune my body’s sound and Tibetan bowl music, with chanting,’ but this was unexpected. If you’re old enough to remember vibrating beds at motel rooms, the kind where you put a quarter in and for 15 minutes your bed rocked and rolled, you’ll get the gist of OPUS.

It vibrates pretty intensely, starting from your calves to your neck, and then moves to a pre-determined rhythm programmed to match the soundtracks on the iPad. I first chose a bird sound but found the vibration too hard. Then I switched to a soothing ambient track and enjoyed the movement as I lay on the bed in a dark room (my choice).

Cedar Sauna and Cold Plunge Pool

I didn’t try the latter as it was too hot outside, and I felt sticky. However, I’m looking forward to it. Besides, I once took a cold plunge at a Japanese spa in Hokkaido and didn’t know what happened to me. I couldn’t move my body and felt my eyes rolling back. I thought I was dying. So, cold plunges are not for me.

Lymphatic Massage

Lymphatic massage was the best modality I tried. Someone wraps you manually in leg and arm nylon with velcro to keep the attachments secured and well-fitted. The outfit is attached to pumps, which cause pressure up and down your entire body, like taking your blood pressure only everywhere, in a tightening and releasing motion. After the 45-minute session, I felt rejuvenated and highly recommend this for circulation and natural lymphatic drainage.

Sensory Deprivation Tank

I last experienced one of these in Amsterdam when I lived there in 1994. It was the first of its kind, so I was thrilled to try it again after such a long time. The technology may have changed. This tank was more comprehensive than I remembered, so you could almost reach a 45-degree angle as you float, depending on your height.

There was no music or sound as there was in the Dutch floatation tank. That allowed me to meditate in peace and listen to my breath. It could be a challenging experience for those who have never let the silence engulf their space. It’s probably nearly impossible to find complete stillness anywhere. Even in nature, it is quite the racket.

The tank is in a private room with a shower, earbuds, and a foam neck brace to keep your hair somewhat dry.

What Else to Know About Kuya

Kuya is a membership club. What sets it apart is the freedom to come and go and use any magnificent rooms upstairs or downstairs for meetings or just to relax, much like a co-working space. Additionally, there are events and happenings. Naturally, you can buy a day pass for $65.00.

If you are in Austin for a conference, of which there are hundreds, a wedding, visiting your grandchildren or children, or just taking a weekend to explore, I recommend visiting Kuya.

For more information, visit

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you been to a wellness center in the past year? What was the experience like? Do you think places like Kuya could benefit us women over 60?

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What Can I Do About These Jowls? Here Are Some Answers!

What Can I Do About These Jowls Here Are Some Answers!

Do you ever find yourself looking in the mirror and occasionally pulling the skin tighter around your jaw line? I certainly have! For many of us, that once sharp and defined jaw line we used to have has gone the way of the mimeograph machine and transistor radio. And what has replaced it is the looser, sagging skin we call jowls.

As our skin ages, it starts to lose some of the compounds that helped keep its shape – specifically the fat and connective tissue proteins elastin and collagen. So, in this article and the accompanying video I’m going to share many options for dealing with jowls, including the easiest and least expensive option: makeup.

Non-Makeup Options

Before we talk about the makeup and makeup techniques that can help us deal with jowls, I first want to briefly mention other options that can make a difference.

Since the changes in our skin are what contribute most to the development of jowls, maintaining our skin integrity is extremely important. It won’t prevent jowls, but it can slow the process. This means protecting our skin from UV radiation and pollution with regular use of sunscreen – and the regular application of topical retinol products.

Since lack of sleep, stress, diet and weight fluctuation can also impact our skin, doing what we can to reduce stress, exercise and avoid as much salt, sugar and processed food is key as well. And here’s an interesting connection: poor diet causes inflammation which can cause an excess of lymphatic fluid which can weigh down our skin – including the skin around our jaw line.

So doing what we can to drain that lymphatic fluid through facial massage or the practice of Gua Sha can make a difference. In addition to helping our skin, Gua Sha can also be a wonderful relaxation technique as well. If you’re unfamiliar with Gua Sha, here’s a video where I demonstrate Gua Sha techniques.

Facial Exercises and Gua Sha

Some research indicates that facial exercises can help reduce the appearance and severity of jowls by making the face, jaw and neck muscles better able to hold their shape. A 2021 review of research concluded that there is limited evidence that facial exercises can aid with facial rejuvenation. However, many studies did show positive outcomes so the evidence is mixed. If you’re interested in giving facial exercises a try, this video demonstrates several face yoga exercises specifically for the jaw line.

Dermatologist and Plastic Surgery Options

There are also in office services through dermatologists and plastic surgeons which can add volume or reduce volume which can help jowls look less prominent. These treatments can involve filler, botox, and a variety of different fat reduction options such as Kybella, liposuction, radiofrequency microneedling or ultrasound therapy.

If you’re interested in learning more about these in office procedures, this video from dermatologist Dr. Sam Ellis called “How to Fix Jowls” may be of interest. The research I’ve done on jowls ultimately reveals that the most effective in office procedure is a facelift.

Makeup Options

Now let’s take a look at the easiest and least expensive option: makeup. There are two things we can do with makeup to minimize the look of jowls. You certainly don’t have to do both of them since either technique can help, but doing both can make the biggest difference in minimizing the look of our jowls.

The first thing we can do with makeup is to contour our skin using a concealer, foundation or a specific contour stick that is 1-2 shades deeper than our skin tone. By using contour we’re using the principles of color theory to help shape our face. Because contour is darker than our skin tone, it helps areas of our face recede so those areas look less prominent and are therefore less noticeable.

If you have dry skin, it’s best to use a cream contour. But if you have oily skin, powder contour will be your best choice. And it’s very important to use a contour which glides on easily and is very blendable so the contour can be easily blended into the face and not look obvious. Benefit’s Hoola Powder Bronzer is a longtime cult favorite for good reason. And five excellent cream contours are from the brands Rare Beauty, Em Cosmetics, Westman Atelier, Huda Beauty and Makeup Revolution.  

Be sure to check out Elise’s YouTube channel which specifically focuses on makeup tips, techniques, and product reviews for those of us 50+. Don’t forget to subscribe!

Step 1: Location, Location, Location

The first place to apply the contour is under the cheekbones in an upward sweep toward the ear. However, if you have a round face, it will be most flattering to apply the contour more horizontally across the face rather than diagonally.

Contouring under the cheekbones gives definition to the face and makes the cheekbones look more prominent. And by making the cheekbones more prominent, you’re drawing attention to the cheekbones which takes attention away from the jowls.

In the video I’ll use the Rare Beauty stick contour in the shade “Good Energy” and only apply it on one side of my face so we can look at the difference this contour makes later in the video. So I don’t apply too much contour, I like to dip my brush into the contour, rub it around a bit and then rub it onto the back of my hand or into my palm in a swirling motion to take some product off my brush and to evenly distribute it on my brush. Then I’ll apply it and blend it out.

This contour placement makes the cheekbones look more prominent because the space underneath the cheekbones where you’ve applied the contour recedes and is therefore less prominent.

So, there are no noticeable contour edges, I then take my foundation brush and go over the edges of the contour.

Next, we want to directly make those jowls recede by using contour. So, we want to apply the contour right along the jawline and slightly underneath it. In the video I’ll do this on one side of my face so you can see the difference. Then I’ll blend it out in downward strokes.

Many of us also have a little pouch of skin along our jawline. I certainly do. So in order to minimize the look of that pouch, I’ll apply a bit of contour on top of it and blend it in. Just as I did earlier with the under the cheekbone contour, I like to take my foundation brush and just go around the edges of the jawline so there are no harsh lines.

Step Two: Highlight

The second thing we can do to minimize the jowls is to use a highlighter that’s one to two shades lighter than our skin tone. This will give the illusion of lifting the face and thus draw attention away from our jowls. Two stick highlighters that I think work especially well are from NYX and Doll 10. The NYX sticks come is 6 color correcting shades and 18 concealer shades. The Doll 10 stick is actually an eye crayon, but it can also do double duty as a highlighter.

Once again, the placement of this highlighter is key. We want to take it from the side of the nose upward and from the edge of the lip upward. And then blend. This is subtle but in the video I hope you can see how this lighter shade applied in upwards strokes helps lift the face and draw attention to that part of the face rather than to the jowls.

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