As our generation gets a little older, a surprising number of us are putting on our dancing shoes and getting back in the senior dating game. After all, more women over 60 are single than ever before, whether that’s due to divorce or widowhood or just never having been married in the first place.

As part of this singleton trend, more women over 60 are looking to meet men in their age group – but dating is different after 60 than it was in our younger years. Many single women over 50 are simply asking, “Where are all the older single men?”

See also: our list of the 5 best senior dating websites.

When It Comes to Senior Dating, Are the Odds Against Us?

It is a sad fact of life that men tend not to live as long as women, and as a result, many countries have significantly more women than men above the age of 65.

“On average, women live longer than men – this is true for every country in the world. This fact plays an important role in how the sex ratio changes with age through adulthood. But as we move through adulthood, we see that this ratio is lower and lower. For 50-year-olds the ratio is close to 1-to-1; for 70-year-olds there are only 89 males per 100 females; and in the very oldest age bracket (100-year-olds) there are only 25 men per 100 women.” —Our World in Data

Are Our Emotional Scars Keeping Us Single?

Many women have been hurt or disappointed by relationships in their lives and are a little afraid to actively participate in looking for love. However, if you really want to find someone special, you have to make an effort – you really have to want to find a quality relationship!

Check out this interview I did for the Sixty and Me Show with dating coach Lisa Copeland. We discuss what is different about dating after 60 and how men and women our age often want different things from life, having different emotional needs and in many ways speaking a “different language.”

You might need to re-learn how to flirt with men, how to make a man feel good about himself, and how to present your most confident and alluring self in the dating world.

Lisa reinforces that dating is a numbers game. You really cannot give up after just a few dates, that you have to relax, meet lots of guys, and enjoy the process. It is meant to be fun!

This doesn’t mean you have to feel pressure! Senior dating should be fun, not stressful. The stakes of dating are not as high at this part of our life.

We’re not necessarily trying to find someone to marry and live with for decades. Many of us are looking for a companion or a friend or even a no-strings-attached lover.

Fortunately, in some ways, there has never been a better time for women over 60 to be in the dating world. The rise of divorce among “silver splitters” means there are more single older men – and there might be more great guys out there than you might expect at first glance, especially if you give them a chance.

What Do Older Men Really Want When It Comes to Dating?

It might help to know what men say they are looking for in a woman. Both dating coaches I have interviewed agree with this assessment. As we get older, the things we want out of life often change, and we have less time to play games and be superficial – this is a good thing!

But it still helps to know about the emotional languages and occasional disconnects that come up between older men and women. Here is some advice on what you can do to be interesting to older men:

Take Pride in Your Appearance

This doesn’t mean you need to look “20 years old.” It just means that men should find something alluring about you.

Take Good Care of Yourself

Of course, you might not be the same size and weight that you were when you were 30 years younger, but if you eat well and get regular exercise, it shows. Unsure where to start with exercise? Why not try Pilates.

Smile

Women who make themselves approachable by smiling and appearing to have a friendly and enthusiastic personality are much more attractive to older men.

Make Him Feel Like a Man

Don’t expect older men to be “women in men’s clothing.” Men our age often have a preoccupation with their own interests and masculinity.

Don’t Play Games

Honesty and respect is important, with no drama and no games.

Don’t Be Too Serious

Try to relax and seek out companionship based on shared values and common interests. Older men tend to prefer women with a good sense of humor. If you’ve got one, use it.

Be Yourself

Trying to fit a mold or to fit the standards of what men want in a woman can get exhausting. Men will sense that you are not being true to yourself when you go on a date. They may get a sense of falseness about you and that can be a turn off.

Don’t boast and try to sell yourself on a first date either – it isn’t an interview. Let your natural personality shine because that is when we are the most beautiful… when we are being true to ourselves and to the world.

Leave Your Baggage Behind

We know everyone’s got baggage at our age. We all have exes (maybe a few), possibly some children, and lots of experiences that shape our views.

Bringing up your ex and your past relationships too much can make you look resentful. This being said, don’t hide anything or keep your past a mystery either. Also, men may feel like they are being compared to your ex.

Know What You Want

If you’re getting ready to start dating after 50, be sure you know what you want from a man – what makes him “special”?

Also, give some thought to your non-negotiable “deal breakers” – the things that absolutely make you not want to date a man – but ask yourself how many of these things are truly non-negotiable, and which things are really not that important.

Try not to set too many conditions on a new relationship and be open-minded about what you might consider the “ideal” man or perfect relationship.

What are your thoughts on senior dating? Have you had any luck with dating after 50? What tips would you like to share with the other women in our community? Please add your thoughts in the comments section below.

Dune is out this Friday both in theaters and on HBO Max. That means, its stars Zendaya and Timothée Chalamet, have been slaying the red carpet around the world. Monday night, Zendaya’s eye makeup especially sparkled at the UK premiere. The look is both futuristic and modern with shades of purple and silver. Makeup artist Raoúl Alejandre is responsible for the eye-catching glam.

Alejandre didn’t reveal which products he used on the star but since he’s a Valentino makeup artist, chances are he used the brand’s luxe beauty line. It looks like he gave Zendaya a smokey cat eye with an eggplant eyeshadow hue and applied a shimmery shade up to the brow bone. A brighter purple was applied on the bottom lash line — either shadow or eyeliner. But instead of fully lining the lash line, he took the purple color out away from her eye towards her nose. Shimmery shadow was applied right in the inner corners. The result is ultra-cool and futuristic, going perfectly with her Rick Owens gown.

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Though you might not have Alejandre at your disposal for a night out, this reverse eyeliner look is totally doable at home. Just take your favorite eyeliner shade and stop lining before you get to the inner corners of your eyes. In a similar motion as you do to create a cat-eye on the eyelids, finish the line by swooping the color away from the lash line. You can smudge it up to make it look more lived-in and hide any mistakes you make. Gorgeous!

Friendships with women are what get a lot of us through life. On TV, in movies, and on the Net, friendship is exalted and even elevated to the level of one’s “tribe.” But in real life, people can betray confidences, fail to come through when they’re needed most, turn into bores, or are more work than they’re worth.

When our relationships with other women are fulfilling, there’s nothing better. But when we see or speak to others solely out of habit, a sense of duty, or an inability to call it quits, we have a problem.

Friend of Long Standing

Some of us have friends going back to kindergarten. We shared many coming-of-age experiences with them as girls. Then our paths diverged – what with work, husbands, family, philanthropy, and hobbies – and we no longer have anything in common.

Yet we keep up the friendship, feeling too guilty to cut it. It’s as if we owe the relationship something.

Friendships from the Recent Years

Some of us have more recent office friends, PTA friends, bridge friends, or golfing friends with whom we share a common interest. Over time, though, we find that they kick the ball out of the rough when they think no one is looking.

Or they gossip and drag us into it. Or they cheat on their income taxes – and brag about it. Or they engage in petty vendettas. We don’t like to think of ourselves as judgmental, but we all have our values and standards. It’s hard to be friends with people we don’t approve of.

Incompatibility as Friends

Some of us find that certain people just don’t wear well. Maybe we’ve changed or maybe we’ve just run out of patience.

Let’s face it, a lot of people are totally self-absorbed. They exhibit no interest in us but want to tell their own stories, over and over. Tired of being a sounding board for a friend, one woman confided in me, “I feel so used!”

Why Is There a Chasm in the Relationship

If we want to live a considered life – especially now that we are over 60 and we have a heightened awareness that our lives are getting shorter – we may want to take a cold, hard look at why we are dissatisfied with some relationships. Ask yourself:

• Am I suffering from meaningless “friendship clutter?”
• Am I seeing certain people out of inertia?
• Do they manipulate me into saying or doing things I’m not comfortable with?
• Do I like the person I am when I am with them?

Setting Boundaries

Everyone likes to be embedded in circles of acquaintanceship, so I’m not saying we should cut off anyone who doesn’t meet our exalted standards. If so, we could find ourselves sitting at home alone!

But we don’t have to be wholehearted with everyone, either. In one book on friendship, the author starts out with this question: “If a friend asked you to come over at 3 am and help him bury a body, would you do it?” My first reaction was, “Oh, why couldn’t he ask someone else?” I feel there’s no disgrace in setting boundaries.

How to Break Up With Your Friend

Let’s say you’ve made the decision to end it. Remember the Paul Simon song, “There Must be 50 Ways to Leave your Lover”?

You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don’t need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don’t need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free

When it comes to friendships, though, there seem to be only three main ways to say goodbye:

Confrontation

Tell the person why you no longer want to be friends. This is extremely unpleasant as chances are she will be hurt and defensive. If you can stand it, this approach has the advantage of getting your grievances off your chest and not allowing any ambiguity that it’s over.

Avoidance

Let the relationship peter out by not answering emails, acting evasive when she wants to set up a Zoom, ignoring her birthday, etc. You continually make excuses and eventually she gets the picture. This morphs into “we just drifted apart.”

Withdrawal

This is the middle way. You might have to be in the same orbit at work, church, or play, but you stop giving emotionally. Your interactions become more superficial and less personal. You contrive not to be alone with this person if you can help it.

Socrates said the unexamined life is not worth living. Perhaps it’s time to extend that to “the unfulfilling friendship is not worth having.” Try it out and see where it leads you.

How many close female friends do you have? Have you withdrawn from a friend in the past? Why? How do you feel about that today? Please share your thoughts and stories below.

Madison LeCroy’s Pink Floral Ruffle Gown on Instagram

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Madison LeCroy is engaged y’all! And while we’d like to wish her a big congratulations on that, we’d also like to congratulate her on finding the perfect dress to celebrate in (at an apparently all-pink bash!) with this stunning floral ruffle gown. Which we’re pretty sure having in one’s closet is guaranteed to bring lifetime of happiness.

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The Bachelorette Season 18 Premiere: Looks We Love

The premiere of The Bachelorette season 18 is finally here! Will it be the most dramatic season yet? We will just have to wait and see. But judging from Michelle Young, Kaitlyn Bristowe, and Tayshia Adam’s first night looks I think we can all agree it’s def going to be one of the most fashionable seasons. And we of course have Style Stealers of them all below that you’ll be excited to see come out of the limo delivery truck.

*Additional looks will be added as the show airs

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

Her Gold Sequin Cutout Dress is Randi Rahm

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