Crystal Kung Minkoff’s Cream Lace Dress on Instagram

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills 2021 Instagram Fashion

Spotted: The RHOBH ladies dressed to the 9’s filming for season 12. One of those beautifully dressed ladies is Crystal Kung Minkoff in a gorg cream lace dress. Even though it will be a while before we see it on our TV screens I’m happy we got to see a sneak peak of it on our phone screens. But not as happy as I will be once we see a Style Stealer of it on our doorsteps.

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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Lisa Barlow’s Black Round Sunglasses on Instastories

Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Instagram Fashion 2021

While Lisa Barlow was definitely in a New York state of mind while walking down the street here post her WWHL appearance, we as usual right now are in a Lisa Barlow fashion state of mind. So when it comes to shopping her very ‘90s-chic black round sunglasses? Um, (*Insert Lisa Voice*) I. Don’t. Do. Think. You. Should.

Fashionably,

Faryn

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Originally posted at: Lisa Barlow’s Black Round Sunglasses

Getting to 60 has taught us to be optimists. Look on the bright side. Whistle a happy tune. Be very grateful for the good in our lives. When we feel down, we distract ourselves.

These are effective, solid strategies, true secrets for living a good life. But. When the darkness comes, as it does at times for most of us, we need to know that we are not alone.

I am a therapist, mother, grandmother, friend, sister. I am a collector of women’s stories, of their truth-telling.

I am here to tell you that even though you may appreciate your life, be devoted to your partner, love your children and adore your grandchildren, you are not alone if you, sometimes:

• Feel overcome by despair;
• Feel shame for having made terrible mistakes in your life;
• Are terrified of not having enough money for your future;
• Are certain you have wasted your life with the wrong partner;
• Fear for your health;
• Wish you could be left completely alone;
• Resent all the obligations;
• Would give anything for a second chance;
• Worry yourself sick about a precious grandchild;
• Wish life would hurry up and be over, because it’s just too hard;
• Desperately wish there were someone you could tell the real truth to;
• Think everyone else has a better life than yours;
• Wonder where you went wrong to feel so lost, confused, and hopeless;
• Regret your choices;
• Find yourself unexpectedly crying;
• Go through your day with an overwhelming sense of sadness;
• Dislike where you live;
• Feel sick to death of putting everyone’s needs above your own;
• Feel crippled by grief;
• Sense that your emotions are making you physically sick;
• Feel amazed that you have lived so long yet do not have anything figured out;
• Are unable to sleep because that’s when the demons come;
• Feel you just want to pull the covers over your head and give up;
• Miss someone every minute of every day;
• Wonder how you ended up being so very alone;
• Feel that your chronic physical pain makes life not worth living;
• Are paralyzed by fear of what is to come.

If you experience any of this, rest assured you are part of a sisterhood of older women struggling to make sense of the life we have been given. You are not alone. These are normal responses to life’s difficulties.

Just because we do not always feel wise or strong – as we think elders are “supposed” to feel – that does not mean we are weak, or that we have failed in some way. We must be gentle with ourselves. The dark feelings are part of what makes us human; they deepen our compassion for others and even increase our ability to feel joy.

Life is a complex and continual interweaving of sunshine and shadow. No one reaches sixty plus without pain and sometimes tragedy, in addition to all the good things. We must walk through the shadows to reach the sunlight. So, don’t be afraid to feel your feelings, even the feelings you think are unacceptable.

Write about them, talk about them to someone you trust, allow your tears, sit still with your pain, breathe, breathe, breathe, and sense yourself as part of womanhood, part of humanity.

We may need to practice radical acceptance. This means to accept ourselves as flawed and imperfect. And to accept, deep in our bodies and minds and hearts and souls, that certain things simply are what they are. That it’s time to let go of certain wishes or dreams. To embrace what we have, and to let go of what we don’t. This can be a great relief.

And then we do what we do best. Pick ourselves up, get out of bed, smile into the mirror despite it all, dress in pretty colors, and greet the day. Knowing that we can hold the grief alongside the joy. And that it’s all ok. And that we are not alone.

In the words of Kahlil Gibran, “The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.”

What do you do when you feel overcome with sadness and despair? What advice would you give to other women in our community who are feeling alone? Please join the conversation and share your thoughts.

After getting home from a long day of work, the last thing you want to do is remove your makeup and wash your face. It can sometimes become a monotonous task that almost feels like a burden. But it doesn’t have to feel that way, especially when you can skip a few steps and use just one item to scrub off your makeup and double cleanse. Let us bring you in on a secret to saving time, energy, and money when you’re tired AF and can’t be bothered to walk through your entire skincare routine: Youth To The People’s new Superberry Dream Cleansing Balm.

This multifunctional formula quickly removes layers of makeup and sunscreen from your skin, without stripping it dry. Because while it is an effective makeup remover, it also functions as a cleansing balm and can remove excess oils and impurities. This is probably why shoppers call it a “game changer.”

“My skin has felt more vibrant, soft, and youthful in the mornings, and I cannot recommend this product enough!” wrote one reviewer.

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We’ll explain how it wields such powers, but just know that this velvety, whipped balm is here to help your skin in more than one way. It consists of only the best ingredients, as well as the most divine fruity aroma.

If you’ve ever wondered about what a cleansing balm might feel like and do for your complexion, the Superberry Dream Cleansing Balm is a great place to start (and stay). Keep reading for a breakdown of its ingredients and how to use it. 

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This cleansing balm works like magic by gently taking off all your makeup while still providing a bunch of skin benefits. A blend of moringa, jojoba, and sunflower seed oils melts away your makeup and sunscreen, but they’re also packed with omegas, antioxidants, and vitamins, so they won’t strip your skin of moisture. They also level your oil production and smooth your complexion. 

Another group of ingredients, superberry extracts, are enriched with lots of antioxidants to protect your skin from damage. These magical maqui, acai, and goji berries join forces with oil-soluble hyaluronic acid to deliver hydration deep into your skin. 

The formula has a ton of natural ingredients that cleanse and moisturize your complexion, without leaving it feeling greasy. It’s also gentle enough for those with sensitive skin and is safe to use around the eyes.

Using it is simple, too. With dry hands, rub the balm onto your dry skin. You’ll notice the texture will feel more like an oil. Then, splash some water onto your hands and keep massaging the product into your skin as it transforms into a milky cleanser. You can use this balm on its own or as part of your double cleanse.

Several reviewers, like this one, had never used a cleansing balm before, but said that this formula turned them into believers. “This is going to save me so much money on face wash, as I was double or triple cleansing to get all my makeup off,” they wrote. “I highly recommend, and will be purchasing again!” 

You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain from this multifunctional cleansing balm. So, why not give it a chance?

Recently, a client asked me to go through her husband’s closet with her to see what he had selected to discard. Her husband commented, “My polo shirts alone will last me for the rest of my life.”

I was quite taken aback. I had never thought about someone’s wardrobe in terms of its longevity before. But clearly, he had a point. Do we really need much after a certain age? Who are we trying to impress? What would we rather spend our money on?

I think, in part, he was simply reflecting a sentiment rippling throughout the entire culture these days. Many elements are putting a damper on the enthusiasm we all have had for investing in practically anything. A quick scan of the news reinforces this.

When nearly every post on social media is about political fear and uncertainty, people tend to hang onto their wallets. When we see hundreds of thousands of refugees who barely have access to food, we have difficulty justifying buying luxuries of any kind. Our problems are clearly First World ones.

Does the Fashion Industry Care About Older Women?

But in addition, a lot of my Facebook friends and readers have been expressing a deep frustration with fashion and the fact that the industry doesn’t “see” them any longer. Although this spans the age spectrum, it is particularly prevalent among older women and those who are not a size 4.

Another constant complaint is that what is available these days is cheap looking, made from synthetics and lacks any unique personality or style elements. That pretty much describes the simple silhouettes of what is called “Normcore.” Normcore disgust runs rampant lately, particularly among my older readers.

So for all those reasons, as we age we tend to opt for comfort and familiarity. We have a good idea about what worked for us so far and we’re not enthusiastic about experimenting, particularly when we don’t like what’s available. Besides, if we think we have enough to last for the rest of our lives, why should we shop?

Clothing Becomes a Personal Statement to the World

For a lot of us having joyful experiences carries more importance. A desire for connection, knowledge, and deeper understanding motivates us more than being seen as fashionable. But those are the very things that validate the value of continuing to dress up and refresh our clothing – our personal statement to the world.

As my friend life coach Anna Urrea says, “Every time we get dressed we tell a story about ourselves.” What is the story we are telling, and are we happy with that story? Or, is our story one of resignation? If the latter is true, then a fashion reboot is not a bad thing.

Here is why. As we age we like to stay within our comfort zone. But life is change. It’s the great disruptor. It’s what destroys our complacency, our plans and our routines. Life will intervene, knocking us on our bums, particularly as we age. The more we are able to feel comfortable outside our comfort zone, the more we are able to ride those waves of change. Fashion, in its small – and yes, superficial – way is one way to step out of our complacency.

Exploring Fashion Over 60 as a Window on Changing Times

For those of us who have a closet full of things we love and that have withstood the test of time, we certainly don’t want to toss them and start over. But I suggest that going for a shopping expedition, even if we don’t buy anything, has value, particularly as we age. Fashion reflects the changing times, whether we like that change or not.

When we explore what is new in the world of art and fashion, it changes our brain a little. It expands our vision of possibilities. It opens up the intuitive, expressive side of our brains. And besides, it’s a fun exercise. It helps shift us from thinking about our wardrobe as a measure of mortality and seeing it as an expression of our creative, ever-changing, ever-growing self.

So – do you still like to shop? And if so, how much are you willing to experiment with something new? What is the story that your clothing tells about you? What do you think is the essence of fashion over 60? Please share in the comments.