In a bit of a recycle of information, I ran across a post I wrote in 2018. Four years ago. I wrote it thinking about the woman I would like to be in my “older” age, like 80s and 90s. It was a list of things I would quit doing to make my life more intentionally reflect who I want to be.

Now, in 2022, living with a diagnosis that is expected to be terminal, I can see direct ways that making these choices earlier in my life has set the stage for me to be able to live every day fully, even with an inoperable cancer.

I Am Going to Quit Complaining

Now, in 2022 and constantly itching as a side effect of life-giving immunotherapy drugs, frequently waiting for medical professionals who are late, and with much less energy to do most things I used to enjoy, I am glad I have made it a conscious choice to replace complaining with giving thanks.

I am thankful that I have a comfortable home in the country that I enjoy a lot. I am thankful that I have a loving husband who never complains about having to care for me. I’m thankful that I have excellent medical insurance that allows me to receive treatment without financial stress.

I am thankful for my family who has risen to the occasion and who each show me love in their unique ways. I’m thankful for a caring community of friends who express care and concern for me.

I Am Going to Quit Criticizing

Early on, we had great frustration with the lack of communication from one doctor in particular. I decided he was important to my medical team and chose to talk with him about my need for more communication instead of complaining about him.

I have not had a care coordinator to help sift through all of the information thrown at me/us. That would have been so helpful and was frustrating to have to figure out who to ask and when to be assertive and how to find answers.

My daughter and I were able to have a meeting with the head of the cancer clinic to tell him our experience. One of my doctors had assured him I was not wanting to complain, but that we had a perspective that would be helpful.

Generally, I think that the doctors, nurses, assistants, phlebotomists, and technicians do not dread me coming in because they do not expect that I will be complaining.

I Am Going to Quit Comparing

If I were comparing myself in the present to myself even nine months ago, I would be struggling to stay positive. I can no longer walk two miles daily. I cannot spend an hour, three times a week, working out. I weigh less but have lost tone so my body is a different shape. No traveling to Mexico or even Phoenix at this point.

I have known people who have wondered, “Why me?” I’ve known people (women in particular, I think) who resent others’ successful pregnancies or happy marriages or well behaved children. It is better to not compare but to accept my present circumstances and to see how I can make the most of what I have.

I Am Going to Quit Avoiding

This morning is a good one. I have energy and have checked things off my list that I have wanted to do. I baked a loaf of gluten free bread, cleaned and refilled our hummingbird feeders, mixed up a sterilizing solution for my nephrostomy tube bag, and am writing this post for Sixty and Me.

My challenge now is to be patient with what I’d like to do but am unable. Now, I find that living with purpose and intention looks different than when I had too many options, but the practice has prepared me for now.

I Am Going to Quit Waiting to Be Asked

This is about determining what is important to me. I have been challenged to be okay with being the opposite of this. I have not invited, scheduled, or volunteered for much of anything in the past eight months because I was not able.

By learning to recognize what is important to me, I have been able to be comfortable hibernating a bit for my own health and sanity. I waited eight months before I was public about having cancer because it was what I wanted and what was good for me.

We have the option of continuing on with personal growth as long as we have breath.

These behaviors that I am quitting are just simple ways that get me to who I want to keep becoming. I will keep moving towards being the Woman I Want to Be in my ThirdThird!

I am proving that what I said in 2018 is true! I’m still learning and growing. I want to be a woman who oozes grace and truth and who is an encouragement, even when I need to be cared for. I’m so grateful that long ago (even before 2018), I defined who I wanted to become, who I would be when I was “old.” Now, I see the benefit for when I am sick, as well.

What do you need to quit? Which kind of Old Woman do you want to be? How are you investing in your own personal growth?

Dolores Catania’s White Cutout Maxi Dress on Instagram

Real Housewives of New Jersey Instagram Fashion 2022

Whether you decide under to wear Dolores Catania’s (under $100!) white cutout maxi dress that she wore to the Saks OFF 5TH Jersey Shore event cross neck like the model or halter style like her, you truly cannot go wrong. Well, that is unless you decide to wear it after Labor Day (we kid, we kid). 

Fashionably,

Faryn

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Diana Jenkins’ Green Metallic Jacket and Hat FaceTiming Dorit

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 12 Episode 13 Fashion

Diana Jenkins’ looks sick in her green metallic jacket and hat while FaceTiming Dorit. Okay but all jokes aside for being down with the ‘vid she does look great. And even though half of the group was out with it, I’m glad we still got to catch a glimpse of Diana even if it was miniscule. Otherwise we wouldn’t have known we needed to shop a Style Stealer of this look.

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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Originally posted at: Diana Jenkins’ Green Metallic Jacket and Hat

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August marks National Hair Loss Awareness Month, and though hair shedding can be difficult to talk about, it’s important to note just how many people deal with problematic scalps. While it’s relatively normal to lose between 50 to 100 hairs a day, according to the American Academy of Dermatology Association, anything beyond may be considered excessive. Treatment options ultimately do vary depending on several factors, but if you are experiencing a reduction in growth, investing in an effective biotin serum may be a solution.

While you’re assessing all the options available at your fingertips, consider the Luv Me Care Biotin Hair Growth Serum on Amazon. The under-the-radar formula is not only on sale for $16 right now, but has thousands of shopper’s backing up its claims. Packed full of essential vitamins and botanical ingredients, the serum stimulates growth at the roots while boosting their hair’s natural texture, volume and strength. It also rejuvenates the scalp and strands to prevent thinning and breakage, therefore dry, damaged and frizzy locks will only appear smoother, shinier and healthier with time. 

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Luv Me Care Biotin Hair Growth Serum

Just take one reviewer’s photo evidence as proof: “I’ve always had very thin hair and I was shedding like a husky on a hot summer day! These pictures were taken after one week, ONE FREAKING WEEK,” they wrote. “I was very impressed, my hair was shedding less, it felt stronger and fuller…I also applied the product at night on the corner of my lashes and eyebrows, with an eyebrow brush and I started noticing a difference when I put my mascara on, my lashes looked fuller and longer with just one coat!”

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Consider our minds blown. Though, with highly-nourishing additives like biotin, caffeine and castor oil included in the serum, we’re not surprised it actually provides results. In fact, reviewers say it has the ability to fill out a range of sparse areas, including the hairline, bald spots and the eyebrows. One person even noted that it has the power to greatly minimize dandruff with continual use. 

“This product has been unbelievable for my hair,” shared another. “I had Covid over a year ago, and had the unpleasant afterwards side effect where my hair was falling out in clumps. My fiancé originally got this for me as a test run, and now I can’t live without it. I was skeptical but I can see the difference already. If you’re suffering from Covid related hair loss please try this. I hope it works for you the same way it did for me!”

Say no more—the Luv Me Care Biotin Hair Growth Serum just may be worth a try. Grab it while it’s down to $16 on Amazon right now.

If you purchase an independently reviewed product or service through a link on our website, STYLECASTER may receive an affiliate commission.

August marks National Hair Loss Awareness Month, and though hair shedding can be difficult to talk about, it’s important to note just how many people deal with problematic scalps. While it’s relatively normal to lose between 50 to 100 hairs a day, according to the American Academy of Dermatology Association, anything beyond may be considered excessive. Treatment options ultimately do vary depending on several factors, but if you are experiencing a reduction in growth, investing in an effective biotin serum may be a solution.

While you’re assessing all the options available at your fingertips, consider the Luv Me Care Biotin Hair Growth Serum on Amazon. The under-the-radar formula is not only on sale for $16 right now, but has thousands of shopper’s backing up its claims. Packed full of essential vitamins and botanical ingredients, the serum stimulates growth at the roots while boosting their hair’s natural texture, volume and strength. It also rejuvenates the scalp and strands to prevent thinning and breakage, therefore dry, damaged and frizzy locks will only appear smoother, shinier and healthier with time. 

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Luv Me Care Biotin Hair Growth Serum

Just take one reviewer’s photo evidence as proof: “I’ve always had very thin hair and I was shedding like a husky on a hot summer day! These pictures were taken after one week, ONE FREAKING WEEK,” they wrote. “I was very impressed, my hair was shedding less, it felt stronger and fuller…I also applied the product at night on the corner of my lashes and eyebrows, with an eyebrow brush and I started noticing a difference when I put my mascara on, my lashes looked fuller and longer with just one coat!”

RELATED: This TikTok-Viral Brand Dropped a Mask That ‘Transforms’ Skin After One Application—& We Have a Discount

Consider our minds blown. Though, with highly-nourishing additives like biotin, caffeine and castor oil included in the serum, we’re not surprised it actually provides results. In fact, reviewers say it has the ability to fill out a range of sparse areas, including the hairline, bald spots and the eyebrows. One person even noted that it has the power to greatly minimize dandruff with continual use. 

“This product has been unbelievable for my hair,” shared another. “I had Covid over a year ago, and had the unpleasant afterwards side effect where my hair was falling out in clumps. My fiancé originally got this for me as a test run, and now I can’t live without it. I was skeptical but I can see the difference already. If you’re suffering from Covid related hair loss please try this. I hope it works for you the same way it did for me!”

Say no more—the Luv Me Care Biotin Hair Growth Serum just may be worth a try. Grab it while it’s down to $16 on Amazon right now.