Taylor Ann Green’s Purple Lace Tie Front Top in Georgia

Southern Charm Season 8 Episode 13 Fashion

Taylor Ann Green looked lovely in lace with her purple tie front top on the way to Georgia on last night’s episode of Southern Charm. And unlike Shep we highly recommend that you don’t quit your job (!), so that you can continue to shop her and the casts cute looks for the rest of the season.

Fashionably,

Faryn

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Originally posted at: Taylor Ann Green’s Purple Lace Tie Front Top

If you divorced in your 50s or 60s, you’re familiar with that feeling. Some of us know it all too well, both during divorce and afterwards.

It rears its head when one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the “new friend” that is at your ex’s house.

Or, when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe while you’re struggling to make ends meet.

Ah, jealousy.

The Green Eyed Monster that consumes us when what we should really be doing is focusing on our own divorce recovery.

You’re not alone when it comes to dealing with jealousy after a divorce at 50 or 60. I’d like to share with you two very ugly truths about this emotion.

One: Jealousy Is Selfish

Have you ever known someone that was always concerned about “me, me, me” and never bothered to ask about your day, or your hopes and dreams? Well, jealousy is like that person. It’s a barrier that causes you to worry about something (your ex’s new life) that you have no control over.

Instead of focusing on yourself, jealously is there, bringing out thoughts like, “Oh, look at their wonderful life! Oh, look at all the things they’re doing that are amazing!”

What do you benefit from focusing your energy on what the other person is doing? What do you benefit from thinking about how good your ex has it, while you feel like you were screwed over?

You already know the answer. Being jealous is of no benefit. So why is it still something that we can’t seem to shake while trying to move on from divorce?

The truth hurts and you’re about to learn why.

Two: Jealousy Is Also Lazy

Do you know what’s easier than working on yourself?

Sitting there, stewing over how much better your ex has it.

One of the many reasons why jealousy brings out the worst in us is because it diverts attention away from putting ourselves first. Instead of doing the hard work of focusing on how we can move on, jealousy leads us astray. It takes us down the easy road of being reactive about things beyond our control.

Moreover, while you’re worrying about that, you waste precious time that could be spent focusing on the most important thing – yourself.

It’s easier to say, “Oh, it should be me taking that vacation instead of my ex” than to focus on your own finances and schedule, and plan a vacation that fits your lifestyle and budget.

It’s easier to say, “That jerk already has a new partner! It’s not fair!” than starting to take care of yourself, learning how to plan for your own future, focusing on getting out of your rut and getting your life back on track.

See what I mean?

Jealousy is sapping you of your move-on energy. It’s a lot easier to remain bitter over something you can’t control than it is to be responsible for your own happiness and move ahead under your terms.

But I’m Jealous! So What Am I Supposed to Do?!

I know, I know… You are human, and you may be hurting, especially if your marriage lasted decades. But there’s something you can do about it.

Exercise: Turn Your Jealousy into Productivity

The next time you’re feeling jealous about whatever your ex is doing – or if anything happens in your life – do the following:

Pinpoint exactly what is making you jealous. These are your jealousy triggers.

“I heard from my son that his father is going to Europe in the fall, with his new girlfriend, and I’m here having trouble paying rent. What the hell?”

Dig deeper. What is it exactly that you’re jealous of? List it, and be honest with yourself. Jealousy rarely has anything to do with the other person.

It has everything to with what you’re doing and how you’re thinking about yourself. It is an emotion that has no power when you are being mindful and proactive with your own life.

“I am jealous because I am hurt. I feel hurt because we never did anything fun or adventurous or travel in our relationship, and now I feel left out. I am also jealous because I feel that financially, I cannot treat myself.”

Ask yourself what you can do instead. How can you divert the precious energy you are spending being jealous into something actionable for you?

“My feelings are hurt, and maybe I can’t fix that pain myself. The next time I am triggered, perhaps I can reach out to friends or family for support, or instead direct that energy into doing an activity that I like to do.”

“As far as finances go… sure, I can’t go anywhere exotic right now. But I can start looking at my finances and budget, and maybe start planning a getaway or a nice trip for myself that is within my budget.”

The road to divorce recovery in your 50s and 60s isn’t always easy, but with a healthy mind frame, you’ll be able to move on to the amazing life you deserve.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you struggle with divorce jealousy after age 50 or 60? What are some of the triggers that make you feel this way? What will you do to turn that jealousy into self-care? Please join the conversation below!

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Bulgarian label By Far has some serious celeb fans. Kendall Jenner, Kaia Gerber, Bella Hadid and Gigi Hadid wear the brand’s sleek, understated shoes and accessories. It only makes sense By Far would do something a little different for its first-ever fragrance collection, Daydreams. Instead of typical perfume bottles, the It-label made refillable charms you can wear on your By Far bag or just on a belt loop to upgrade any ‘fit. Kendall Jenner is the face of the campaign, directed by Charlotte Wales.

There are seven scents to choose from. Each fragrance oil has been handmade in Grasse in the South of France by three perfumers: Fanny Bal, Jean- Cristophe Hérault and Caroline D. You get the cute charm accessory with a 20mL bottle inside, as well as the 100mL bottle to refill your charm. It’s a great way to travel with your fave fragrance instead of carrying big perfume bottles.

By Far.

By Far is obviously working towards sustainability, too. The 20mL bottles are made from 15 percent post-consumer recycled glass, while the refill bottles are fully recyclable and wrapped in recyclable paper. The fragrance is cruelty-free and free from colourants
and UV filters. Even the blend of rose essential oils are recovered from discarded rose water.

Source: Instagram

What is especially cool about the charms is how customizable they are, which makes for a seriously stellar gift. (It’s never too early to start thinking about the gift-giving season!) There are six charm shades, silver or gold detailing and a carabiner or leather strap for your charm bracelet. Then, of course, you choose your fragrance, such as Daydream of Love Trance (with white florals) and Daydream of Rose Garden (with a blend of roses).

Watch Kendall Jenner dance to Mariah Carey’s iconic Fantasy, above, while rocking her By Far charms to get all the inspiration.

As a child, did you know what you wanted to be when you grew up? Did you aspire to be a teacher, doctor, musician or something else? When I was six, I wanted to be an actress.

What You Wanted to Be Has Meaning

Your desires of long ago are clues to your innate talents, skills and interests.

Yet you may have grown up like most of us by pushing away and replacing your aspirations and doing what you felt you should do as an adult. Over time, you may have forgotten your initial interests and moved on to other activities and responsibilities.

Still your wishes continued to exist, below the surface of your consciousness, waiting for the day that you would rediscover and express them.

Amy’s Story

When Amy was a child, her parents told her that her job as an adult was to bring home a paycheck. She listened, and did that for 30 years – until she acquired some physical problems. At that time, her doctor told her she needed to stop working or she would end up incapacitated.

So, she retired at 52.

“But, now what will I do,” she thought. “Well, perhaps I’ll take an art class.”

We see Amy on her first day in art class with a sketching pad and pen. Then out of nowhere, according to Amy, she began to draw beautiful illustrations of animals. A fox. A bear. A dog.

Over the next few weeks, 20 different animals appeared on her sketchpad. She was amazed! She said, “I didn’t know I could do this. I don’t know where all this came from.”

With time, she wrote a story about each animal. Then she made a booklet with the illustrations and stories, and gave it to her husband for Christmas.

Amy’s Discovery Gave Her Joy

What’s important about Amy’s story is that for most of her existence she didn’t know there was a beautiful, talented artist inside of her, and she could have expressed that inner artist her whole life.

Fortunately, she does now, and is enjoying her new avocation immensely. In fact, now that she knows she is an artist, she is adding other art forms to her palette of artistic endeavors, like painting in watercolor.

They say, don’t let the music die inside of you.

There are more stories about real people rediscovering themselves in my book, Revivement: Having a Life After Making a Living.

What Are You Doing to Find Your Music?

If you would like to discover what’s inside of you, write your answers to the following questions:

1. What did I say I wanted to be when I grew up?
2. What activities did I enjoy the most?
3. What was the most fun when playing with other kids?
4. What activities are so engrossing now that they make the day fly by?
5. What else?

My Story

Becoming the person you dreamed you wanted to be when you grew up might not happen exactly the way you thought.

For instance, I didn’t become an actress. But I did become a professional speaker. Interestingly, my profession requires similar skills to acting – you get up on a stage, speak and provide interest, entertainment and education to an audience.

We all have something inside of us that needs to be honored, to shine and to bring out into the world. By finding the secret sauce within you, you will experience immense pleasure because you will be using the gifts and talents that align with who you are.

Now is the time for rediscovery.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What do you want to do now that you are grown up? What did you always want to do when you were a child? Please share your thoughts below!

If you purchase an independently reviewed product or service through a link on our website, STYLECASTER may receive an affiliate commission.

Bulgarian label By Far has some serious celeb fans. Kendall Jenner, Kaia Gerber, Bella Hadid and Gigi Hadid wear the brand’s sleek, understated shoes and accessories. It only makes sense By Far would do something a little different for its first-ever fragrance collection, Daydreams. Instead of typical perfume bottles, the It-label made refillable charms you can wear on your By Far bag or just on a belt loop to upgrade any ‘fit. Kendall Jenner is the face of the campaign, directed by Charlotte Wales.

There are seven scents to choose from. Each fragrance oil has been handmade in Grasse in the South of France by three perfumers: Fanny Bal, Jean- Cristophe Hérault and Caroline D. You get the cute charm accessory with a 20mL bottle inside, as well as the 100mL bottle to refill your charm. It’s a great way to travel with your fave fragrance instead of carrying big perfume bottles.

By Far.

By Far is obviously working towards sustainability, too. The 20mL bottles are made from 15 percent post-consumer recycled glass, while the refill bottles are fully recyclable and wrapped in recyclable paper. The fragrance is cruelty-free and free from colourants
and UV filters. Even the blend of rose essential oils are recovered from discarded rose water.

Source: Instagram

What is especially cool about the charms is how customizable they are, which makes for a seriously stellar gift. (It’s never too early to start thinking about the gift-giving season!) There are six charm shades, silver or gold detailing and a carabiner or leather strap for your charm bracelet. Then, of course, you choose your fragrance, such as Daydream of Love Trance (with white florals) and Daydream of Rose Garden (with a blend of roses).

Watch Kendall Jenner dance to Mariah Carey’s iconic Fantasy, above, while rocking her By Far charms to get all the inspiration.