Month: November 2022

1 Tip to Minimize the “Balloon Butt” While Honoring Our Older Bodies

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Women seem far ahead of men in understanding the detriments of ‘body shaming.’ At least we, as a culture, have come to realize that the Barbie doll resembles reality in very few ways.

Teaching our daughters and granddaughters, or any young woman, to be proud of her body and confident in her brain is now common. This society-shift is one we should be gratified by – and continue to preach. Score one for progress.

A Healthy Body Is a Beautiful Body

All that said, and recognizing the need for further promotion, many women – young, middle age and older – remain conscious about good looks. It makes us feel better. While a healthy body is the best goal we should strive for, we might notice that there is overlap.

Some societies love heavy women. Though the USA isn’t typically one, we have groups that still greatly appreciate the look of a large rear. Others admire a backside that fits into size two slim-legged jeans.

It’s a secondary concern whether we win or lose ‘body confidence’ by falling into, or out of, our cultural norm. What’s most important is proper and fit function.

What Is a Balloon Butt?

Here’s a surprising example that explains why all movements are not equal. Balloon Butt, usually intended as a pejorative term, may actually be healthy and fine. However, if it is actually Stairmaster butt, a term coined by – or at least accredited to – The Washington Post, we have a different situation.

Despite all the suggested online workouts and gym promotions to the contrary, it is not necessarily healthy and fine. While the phenomenon of Stairmaster butt is noted in both men and women, apparently women complain of it more often.

You realize you are getting older, and you want to stay in shape. You know stairs are beneficial for you as climbing them (indoors or out) is an incredibly good cardiovascular activity. So going to the gym to use a relatively safe stair step machine must be a terrific plan. Buying one for home-use perhaps even better?

Thus, that is what you do. You put in the time. Then you become aware that despite regular workouts on the machine – or other similar equipment–  you notice a ‘ballooning’ of your backside. For your time and effort, you expected better fitting pants, but you feel the opposite is happening.

Why? Age? No.

Limited Motion Machines Don’t Provide Well-Rounded Toning

Structural imbalance is practically guaranteed when we try to isolate and only work on certain muscles. I may be picking on the Stairmaster today to explain the concept, but it’s a general problem with other single-use or limited motion machines as well.

Limited motion can be understood as one with restricted motion, devoid of the slight muscle adjustments made with daily activities, such as when we are walking on irregular or uneven ground.

We may feel good and accomplished after machine stepping, but it doesn’t provide the same degree of well-rounded toning.

Additionally, muscles that compensate for movements are often our strongest. With certain machines, we end up working the helper, compensating, muscles instead of the prime movers.

It’s not conscious. Still, it’s not balanced. Unfortunately, limited, repetitive, constrained motion is built into certain of these machine workouts.

At some settings, the stair-step machines strengthen the peripheral muscles that are used to rotate our hips, while the other – prime – movers, such as the hamstrings, gluteal muscles and quadriceps are almost ignored.

The peripheral muscles then bulk up with our dedicated commitments of time. Ultimately, they end up pushing the poor-toned gluteal muscles outward. Voilà, no slim jeans.

Instead, we see the ballooning effect. For older people, who may have poorer tone, the compensating muscle issue can be even more complicating.

It isn’t just a matter of beauty and looks. It’s a matter of dysfunction – and possibly, later pain. And it is not just the stair-step activity.

Abdominal – or ab machines – work mostly by conditioning muscles in flexion (forward) and nothing in extension (backward). Then we wonder why the advice to ease our back pain by strengthening our abs (which usually do need it) didn’t fully work, or at least not for the long run.

The Tip

Muscles don’t perform their function in isolation. Anything we do to strengthen our muscles, or to develop and keep good functional balance, should consider compensating and prime movers, as well as counteractions or reverse movements.

Do some research or ask a trainer if you need help considering what you should do to compliment any of your machine-based workouts.

Participate in Different Activities

Best of all, one easy way to accomplish this is to participate in different activities. Just as no one program provides all the benefits of improved flexibility or aerobic conditioning we need, neither do limited motion workouts provide functional balance of muscles.

Variety is key. The more we have variety in activity or movement, the greater number of muscle groups are engaged.

I fear that body shaming truly has a sexist history aimed at women, while many men escape such criticism or self-blame. It’s important to keep that in mind while we talk about the body and our looks.

Keeping our bodies healthy and well-balanced is vital. However, if that comes with an added advantage of some good looks – well, that’s gravy.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What exercises do you enjoy doing? What other things are you doing to keep your body well-balanced and healthy in your 60s? Please use the comments below to share any tips you have found useful.

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Gigi Hadid Wore this Trendy Gray Lipstick to the CFDA Awards — & It’s Less Than $11 on Amazon


If you purchase an independently reviewed product or service through a link on our website, STYLECASTER may receive an affiliate commission.

The goth glam makeup trend has been picking up speed this season, with black eyeliner, smoky shadow and dark lips. It’s a lot like what folks wore in the ’90s but a bit more elevated with different textures and shades. Take Gigi Hadid’s gray lipstick, for example. The supermodel hit up the CFDA Awards last week in all Thom Browne, a faux septum piercing and a gorgeous take on goth glam makeup. “Her villain era,” she wrote on Instagram.

Patrick Ta was responsible for Hadid’s makeup and we’re sure he used a lot of his own line on the star. (Laura Polko was on hair.) Ta didn’t reveal th$10.e exact details of what products he used. But the model, being the beauty girl she is, spilled what lipstick she’s wearing on Instagram Stories and it’s a seriously affordable find. The Maybelline New York spokeswoman wore the brand’s Super Stay Matte Ink Liquid Lipstick in Huntress ($10.44 at Amazon), a really pretty muted gray.

Maybelline SuperStay Liquid Lipstick Huntress Gigi Hadid Wore this Trendy Gray Lipstick to the CFDA Awards — & Its Less Than $11 on Amazon

Maybelline.

If black or dark wine lipstick colors aren’t your jam, this cool gray shade is the perfect way to get into the glam goth look. And if you know the Super Stay Matte Ink Liquid Lipstick formula, you know how ultra-pigmented it is and how long it stays put, even through eating and drinking. In fact, it stays on so long, you might need Maybelline SuperStay Eraser Lip Color Remover ($5.16 at Walmart) to get it all off. We’ve found an oil cleanser works well, too.

Instagram PhotoSource: Instagram

Though $10.44 is a great price for Maybelline’s Super Stay Matte Ink Liquid Lipstick, you can grab it for even cheaper with Amazon’s current “save 50 percent on one when you buy two” deal. Just choose another eligible beauty product, such as another Super Stay Matte Ink Liquid Lipstick shade, KISS imPRESS Color Press-On Manicure ($5.97 at Amazon) and/or CoverGirl+Olay Simply Ageless 3-in-1 Liquid Foundation ($13.77 at Amazon), and get your new gray lipstick for less than $6.

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Will I Be Happy Again After the Loss of My Spouse? 6 Tips to Help You Embrace the New You

Will I Be Happy Again After the Loss of My Spouse 6 Tips to Help You Embrace the New You

Just after
the loss of a spouse, we are often absolutely certain that we will never be
happy again. Even if it felt remotely possible, being happy again would feel
like an insult to our beloved. Fully immersed in the darkness of grief, it is
hard to think about the future or what it might bring.

For a younger
widow, comments like, “You’ve got your whole life ahead of you,” are paralyzing
and frightening. The possibility of happiness is nowhere on the radar. But even
if you’re in your 60s, 70s, or beyond, the loss of a spouse can put a stop to daily
activities and bring depression.

Different You, Different Happy

Will you be
happy again? Yes, but it will be a different version of you who will be
differently happy. The you that was happily part of a couple, the you who knew
happiness as a spouse, does not exist now.

That former
version of happy you once enjoyed has unfortunately reached its expiration
date. Which, in a way, honors your spouse, the time you spent together, and who
you were as a couple.

The two of
you – unique individuals who came together to form a unique couple – can never be reproduced. You can choose to see this as a good
thing, as it sets that relationship in a place of honor – precious and irreplaceable.

That version
of you is a thing of the past for another reason. That version of you didn’t
yet know the death of your spouse.

That version had never been plunged into complete darkness, never experienced soul-shattering sadness, never felt the incredible weight of grief perched on the chest, making it impossible to draw a deep breath.

That version
of you perhaps didn’t know the value of every precious moment, and how quickly
everything can change. That version of you may have been so busy pleasing
others that she didn’t make time for what mattered most.

Perhaps she
let life’s little annoyances get in the way. Maybe work took precedence over
relationships. Perhaps she wasn’t fully present in her own life.

Maybe now you
wouldn’t even recognize that former version of you. And for good reason,
because she is no more. She stopped existing the day her world stopped turning.
And in the very next moment, a new version began forming.

Transforming in the Darkness

The formation
of the new you is a messy, unpredictable, and painful process. The age-old
advice, “don’t make any major decisions while grieving,” comes at a time when
you are required to make constant decisions.

You struggle
with identity, guilt, self-doubt, self-judgement, and insecurity while the people
around you offer well-intended yet unhelpful things.

You can’t
read even a short paragraph and understand it, yet you must get back to work. In
your free time, you must figure out how to survive on one income and identify
what foods you can actually digest, all while willing your heart to beat.

The
microscopic bit of energy you might feel in the morning is long gone by noon,
and the grief train seems to come out of nowhere and mow you down at
unpredictable and inconvenient times.

You navigate
your year of firsts with equal amounts of dread and sadness, and you realize
that every single holiday comes with an extra dose of sorrow because of your
associated memories and traditions.

All the while,
the only certainty (aside from knowing you’ll never feel happiness again) is
that you’re screwing everything up, including – and especially – your kids.

Then one day
you realize that the current version of you is who she is because of that
messy, painful, uncertain time. In sheer darkness, she was shaped into a new
being. Not in spite of grief, but because of it.

You, the Dragonfly

Did you know
that dragonflies spend the early part of their lives crawling around in the
darkness of ponds? Only once they’ve grown enough do they transform, spread
their wings, and fly.

The dragonfly version of you is also transformed in darkness. This version knows the power of being present in each moment. She is a careful editor of what she allows in her life, of what consumes her energy.

She
prioritizes herself and her family, because she left the people-pleasing habit
behind in her old life. She doesn’t allow herself to be affected by life’s
little annoyances, because by comparison to the day her world stopped turning,
there aren’t many bad days.

When sadness
comes, she’s brave enough to feel that feeling rather than run from it. She
knows that she can do anything because she’s been through the unimaginable. She
survived, and now she is ready to thrive.

6 Tips for the Journey

  • Recognize your former self for
    having done her best and forgive her for her shortcomings.
  • Know that how messy the journey
    looks and feels is not a predictor of how well it will all turn out.
  • Don’t spend your energy arguing
    with reality, instead play the hand you were dealt with gusto.
  • Get your perspective in view – if
    you can survive the darkest of days, you can navigate today’s tough times as
    well.
  • Journal your thoughts and decide
    which are serving you (would you speak to your best friend in the same way?)
    and delete the rest.
  • Hold your beliefs into the light
    and decide if they are your own and if they are true today. Determine whether
    they serve you today and the person you are becoming.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Which event
in your life marked the end of the old you? Do you agree that loss creates a
divide between your former self and current self? What does your dragonfly transformation
look like? Is happiness possible again after the loss of a spouse? Please share
with our community!

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Gigi Hadid Wore this Trendy Gray Lipstick to the CFDA Awards — & It’s Less Than $11 on Amazon


If you purchase an independently reviewed product or service through a link on our website, STYLECASTER may receive an affiliate commission.

The goth glam makeup trend has been picking up speed this season, with black eyeliner, smoky shadow and dark lips. It’s a lot like what folks wore in the ’90s but a bit more elevated with different textures and shades. Take Gigi Hadid’s gray lipstick, for example. The supermodel hit up the CFDA Awards last week in all Thom Browne, a faux septum piercing and a gorgeous take on goth glam makeup. “Her villain era,” she wrote on Instagram.

Patrick Ta was responsible for Hadid’s makeup and we’re sure he used a lot of his own line on the star. (Laura Polko was on hair.) Ta didn’t reveal th$10.e exact details of what products he used. But the model, being the beauty girl she is, spilled what lipstick she’s wearing on Instagram Stories and it’s a seriously affordable find. The Maybelline New York spokeswoman wore the brand’s Super Stay Matte Ink Liquid Lipstick in Huntress ($10.44 at Amazon), a really pretty muted gray.

Maybelline SuperStay Liquid Lipstick Huntress Gigi Hadid Wore this Trendy Gray Lipstick to the CFDA Awards — & Its Less Than $11 on Amazon

Maybelline.

If black or dark wine lipstick colors aren’t your jam, this cool gray shade is the perfect way to get into the glam goth look. And if you know the Super Stay Matte Ink Liquid Lipstick formula, you know how ultra-pigmented it is and how long it stays put, even through eating and drinking. In fact, it stays on so long, you might need Maybelline SuperStay Eraser Lip Color Remover ($5.16 at Walmart) to get it all off. We’ve found an oil cleanser works well, too.

Instagram PhotoSource: Instagram

Though $10.44 is a great price for Maybelline’s Super Stay Matte Ink Liquid Lipstick, you can grab it for even cheaper with Amazon’s current “save 50 percent on one when you buy two” deal. Just choose another eligible beauty product, such as another Super Stay Matte Ink Liquid Lipstick shade, KISS imPRESS Color Press-On Manicure ($5.97 at Amazon) and/or CoverGirl+Olay Simply Ageless 3-in-1 Liquid Foundation ($13.77 at Amazon), and get your new gray lipstick for less than $6.

STYLECASTER | Ashley Benson Interview

 

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Gigi Hadid Wore this Trendy Gray Lipstick to the CFDA Awards — & It’s Less Than $11 on Amazon


If you purchase an independently reviewed product or service through a link on our website, STYLECASTER may receive an affiliate commission.

The goth glam makeup trend has been picking up speed this season, with black eyeliner, smoky shadow and dark lips. It’s a lot like what folks wore in the ’90s but a bit more elevated with different textures and shades. Take Gigi Hadid’s gray lipstick, for example. The supermodel hit up the CFDA Awards last week in all Thom Browne, a faux septum piercing and a gorgeous take on goth glam makeup. “Her villain era,” she wrote on Instagram.

Patrick Ta was responsible for Hadid’s makeup and we’re sure he used a lot of his own line on the star. (Laura Polko was on hair.) Ta didn’t reveal th$10.e exact details of what products he used. But the model, being the beauty girl she is, spilled what lipstick she’s wearing on Instagram Stories and it’s a seriously affordable find. The Maybelline New York spokeswoman wore the brand’s Super Stay Matte Ink Liquid Lipstick in Huntress ($10.44 at Amazon), a really pretty muted gray.

Maybelline SuperStay Liquid Lipstick Huntress Gigi Hadid Wore this Trendy Gray Lipstick to the CFDA Awards — & Its Less Than $11 on Amazon

Maybelline.

If black or dark wine lipstick colors aren’t your jam, this cool gray shade is the perfect way to get into the glam goth look. And if you know the Super Stay Matte Ink Liquid Lipstick formula, you know how ultra-pigmented it is and how long it stays put, even through eating and drinking. In fact, it stays on so long, you might need Maybelline SuperStay Eraser Lip Color Remover ($5.16 at Walmart) to get it all off. We’ve found an oil cleanser works well, too.

Instagram PhotoSource: Instagram

Though $10.44 is a great price for Maybelline’s Super Stay Matte Ink Liquid Lipstick, you can grab it for even cheaper with Amazon’s current “save 50 percent on one when you buy two” deal. Just choose another eligible beauty product, such as another Super Stay Matte Ink Liquid Lipstick shade, KISS imPRESS Color Press-On Manicure ($5.97 at Amazon) and/or CoverGirl+Olay Simply Ageless 3-in-1 Liquid Foundation ($13.77 at Amazon), and get your new gray lipstick for less than $6.

STYLECASTER | Ashley Benson Interview

 

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