Melissa Gorga’s Pink Velour Crop Top and Pants

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Melissa Gorga’s pink velour crop top and pants set in Irleand is giving me old school Jersey / Juicy vibes and I am here for it. And while she might be slightly hungover, I think she’s looking pretty perfect in pink.

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Did you wake up today feeling down? Do you think you need to do something quickly to overcome that feeling and get your emotions back on the happiness track? Does your husband or friend try to cheer you up? Do you feel like a failure if you don’t feel happy?

Consider this quote:

“When people place a great deal of pressure on themselves to feel happy, or think that others around them do, they are more likely to see their negative emotions and experiences as signals of failure. This will only drive more unhappiness.” —Brock Bastian

I’ll Be Happy When….

I realized in my 20s that I was consistently waiting for the next thing to happen for me to feel happy. In my research for this article, I found out this way of thinking has a name, Deferred Happiness Syndrome. I wanted and needed to finish my degree, to meet the perfect partner, to purchase a home, and start my family, then I would be happy.

When I achieved one thing, there was always the next thing. I wasted years waiting and putting my trust in the next thing that would help me feel complete and happy. Is this you? Are you waiting for something to happen to feel happiness?

Focusing on achieving or getting “the thing,” caused me to miss the best parts of every day, right in the moment. Plus, trying so hard to find happiness made me sad and confirmed to myself I was lacking in some way.

Pressure to Be Happy

I took a quote from a fiction book I was reading, After She Left by Claire Amarti:

“I think, maybe there’s too much pressure to be happy… People make it sound like we’re supposed to feel that way all the time, unless there’s something wrong. But I don’t think happiness is a default setting. I think most of the time, we’re just normal.”

Everyday Happiness

Try rating your day on a happiness scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being over-the-moon happy. Where do you come in on that scale today? Realize that a 10 is very infrequent and happens only a few times in our lifetime!

My 10 days include my wedding day, the birth of my child, and the few days after my boss told me I achieved the salary I worked for all my life. Basically, I exist around a 5. Right in the middle, a normal 5. I call this ‘everyday happiness.’ If some days slip below a 5, well, so be it.

Whatever went on to slide that scale down may well be worth the slide. If I failed to help a friend in need, or my cat companion that I’ve had for 20 years is sick (you fill in the blank here), there’s a slide! I realize how normal it is to slide down to a 3. I just know that it will go back to the 5.

I’ve decided it’s ok to allow myself the time needed to get back to my everyday normal happiness. Feeling unhappy is part of being normal. Let it be. Then, when you are ready, shuck it off like taking off a heavy winter coat.

It’s also true that somedays I may come in at an 8. The sun is shining, my heart is full of love, and I feel great to be alive. Isn’t it normal that the range of happy emotions register differently on different days?

Steps to Try

If ready, there’s a few things we can do to help us shake off the heavy coat of sadness:

Focus on What Is Going Right for You

Focus on something small yet enjoyable. Try to see the good in something happening right now, without delaying it for a later acquisition or timing. Don’t make happiness too hard to find. It can be in the smallest of things. A flower, a sunrise, a warm shower. Keep it simple, small, and ordinary.

Remember You Are the Only One in Charge of Your Feelings

When thrift shopping one day, I spotted and bought a small pillow that says, “I’m happy, don’t ruin it.” I love this little pillow, but the truth is, happiness is a choice that I make, not what someone wants for me or does to make it so.

You can accept how you feel, try to change it, ignore it, but your feelings are yours. Give yourself permission to be whatever it is that you are today. If you decide you’ve had enough of sadness, then it’s up to you to change it, slowly, carefully, and in your own timing.

Time to Hang Out with Your Positive Thinking Happy Friend

Who we surround ourselves with makes a huge difference in how we view life. I let go of some of my friendships that brought me down. This was not done lightly, but after realizing that hanging out with this downer person was seriously rubbing off on me. If you need a little boost to your day, spend some time with someone who sees the glass half-full.

Monitor Your Loop of Self-Talk

Are you being too hard on yourself? Are you thinking the worst about every situation you’re in? Are you excessively thinking you’re bad, look bad, and the world is bad? Give yourself a break. Stop it! You can change your self-talk. I’ve done this over time, so I know you can too.

Start to reverse your negative self-talk loop by allowing yourself to find something (even if it’s small) that’s good about you.

I recently asked a client to tell me her strengths. It took her time to come up with them, but once she did, we were able to emphasize them in helping her make choices for her life. You have strengths, and you have a specific place in this world. Find your own strengths and use them for your happiness.

Need more ideas on how to achieve simple everyday happiness? Try the ideas in my book, Crazy Simple Steps to Feeling Happier.

Disclaimer: This article is not addressing the clinical diagnosis of depression. There’s a difference between depression and feeling sad or down. You can read about it here.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you felt guilty for not being happy? Do others want you to “get over it,” and feel happy before you are ready? Have you tried simple ways to feel happy inside? Can you share what works for you?

Teresa Giudice’s Black and Gold Pajamas in Irleand

Real Housewives of New Jersey Season 13 Episode 12 Fashion

If Teresa Giudice’s black and gold pajamas look familiar it’s because you’ve seen them before on Kyle Richards’ during their shared season of Real Housewives Ultimate Girls trip. And just like Teresa may have been inspired by Kyle to scoop up a pair of the super affordable PJ’s, we’re feeling the need to do the same.

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Someone call King Kylie — liquid lipstick is back. But the new matte lippies are hydrating and creamy, with a lot less dry-down than 2016 versions. Even Kylie Cosmetics revamped its liquid lip formula. The newest one that has everyone talking is from an unlikely source: Glossier. G Suit Soft touch lip crème is out today and it’s a bit of a departure for the “no-makeup makeup” brand. Unlike Glossier’s Generation G, which is a sheer matte lipstick, G Suit is much more full-coverage.

The soft buttery formula has a demi-matte finish and opaque coverage with one swipe. It feels creamy with application and doesn’t dry down, but has no shine or gloss to the finish. The creaminess comes from ingredients including rose wax silica, shea butter, orchid complex and black raspberry seed oil. It’s also vegan and cruelty-free like all of Glossier’s products.

In an interview with Elle, Kleo Mack, Chief Marketing Officer Glossier, explained why it’s called G Suit. “We created G Suit to stand out—on the wearer, within our lip portfolio, and in the industry,” she said. “We want to break barriers on how, when, and where bold lipstick shows up to enhance the wearer’s personality and mood. G suit is all about ‘suiting yourself,’ creating the space for you to decide your look.”

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There are nine shades to choose from: Drive (a rich, warm, brown), Shift (a deep burgundy), Jet (a true blue-red), Strike (a burnt orange-red), Curve (a cool, dusty mauve), Tempo (a rich berry), Lane (a natural brown), Flip (a warm peony pink) and Pilot—a bright, cool pink that’s a Glossier exclusive.

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Here’s how you wear G Suit. It has a pointed edge of the doe foot applicator to line the edges of your lips. Then, just fill them in with the flat side. I actually prefer to wear it like the K-beauty, blurred lip trend. I apply it to the middle on my lips and blend it out towards the lip line. It doesn’t stay on all day but long enough that I don’t feel like I have to continually reapply it. That’s actually the perfect middle ground for me.

Grab G Suit now on Glossier’s website and May 5 at Sephora.

Dolores Catania’s Green Metallic Striped Dress in Ireland

Real Housewives of New Jersey Season 13 Episode 12 Fashion

I had the luck of the Irish finding Dolores Catania’s green metallic striped dress in Ireland. But the look on her face makes me think that she does not feel the same luck when it comes to her attendance at dinner on tonight’s episode.

Based on the previews I can say I haven’t attended a meal that has ended up with so much screaming. Although, thanks to the very limited stock of her dress, I can almost hear similar collective screams from your homes as we fight to see who gets to it first.

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