Starting off the new year is a perfect opportunity to reflect on what you want from life and love. If you’re lonely or frustrated about dating, because you can’t seem to ‘put yourself out there’ and you’re ready to invite someone new into your life, you can’t keep doing what you’re doing now and expect different results. You have to try something new and different.
Here are some practical tips to help you up-level your dating style to help you take a fresh approach to your dating journey and improve your chances of finding love.
1. Embrace Your True Self
One of the greatest advantages of dating later in life is the clarity you gain about who you are. By this time, you’ve learned a lot about your desires, boundaries, and the qualities you value in a partner. Instead of trying to fit into someone else’s expectations, embrace your true self.
Whether you’re looking for a casual companion or a lifelong partner, being authentic is crucial. Let go of any insecurities or pressures about “doing it right” and focus on being genuine. The right person will appreciate you for who you truly are.
2. Expand Your Social Circles
To meet new people, it’s important to step outside of your usual social circles. While traditional avenues like clubs or bars may not be the best places to meet someone at this stage of life, there are plenty of other opportunities. Consider joining groups that align with your interests, such as book clubs, hiking groups, or art classes.
You can also explore online dating platforms designed specifically for people over 50. Sites like Match, OurTime, or eHarmony are known for helping mature singles find meaningful relationships. If you’re not sure where to start, try volunteering or attending local events in your community. These places offer natural ways to meet people while participating in activities you enjoy.
3. Be Open to Online Dating
Online dating is no longer just for younger generations. Many people over 60 are finding success online, and it can be an excellent way to meet high quality men. The key is to approach it with an open mind. Take the time to write a thoughtful profile that reflects who you are and what you’re looking for. Avoid the temptation to be vague. A detailed and honest profile will attract people who are looking for a similar type of relationship. Don’t rush the process – let connections develop naturally.
Remember, safety is important: If you can’t meet an online match in person within five to seven days (regardless of the reason), you are most probably communicating with a scammer. Always focus on his actions rather than his words/text and meet in a public place for the few couple of dates.
4. Focus on True Compatibility
As you date, keep in mind that chemistry is fun and sizzling, but emotional intimacy is what creates strong heart-to-heart connections. Even though physical attraction is important, we’re all more than the package we come in. When you focus on the person rather than the packaging, you create opportunities to build emotional connections that are the foundation of a lasting relationship.
Look for someone who shares your values, interests, and outlook on life. Pay attention to how someone makes you feel. Are they supportive, kind, and understanding? Emotional intimacy lays the groundwork for a deeper, more meaningful connection.
5. Communicate Clearly and Honestly
Honest communication is essential at any stage in life, but especially now. If you’re entering the dating scene after a long marriage or a period of being single, it’s important to be upfront about your intentions.
Whether you’re looking for a meaningful relationship, companionship, or a casual fling, make sure both you and your potential partner are on the same page. Clear communication about your needs and boundaries will set the foundation for a healthy and respectful relationship. Remember, it’s okay to express what you want and need.
6. Be Reasonable
Are your expectations realistic? Recently, I read an article from a dating coach who mentioned how she no longer works with women over 50 because the man they are looking for doesn’t exist. Was she talking about you?
While it’s important to have standards, being too inflexible can limit your dating opportunities. The person you end up with may not check every box on your list, but they may offer qualities that are more important overall, such as emotional intelligence, kindness, and compatibility. Be open to dating people who may not meet all your criteria, but who show potential for a meaningful connection.
7. Give Yourself Time
While it can be tempting to rush into a relationship, especially if you’re feeling lonely, it’s important to take your time and let connections develop organically. Whether it’s your first date or your 50th, take the time to learn about the person and evaluate if you share a true connection. If you haven’t dated in a while, it’s important to give yourself time to understand the new emotions that you’re feeling. Even positive emotions can be scary if you’re unfamiliar with how they feel in your heart and mind.
I’ve seen women end budding relationships because they made a snap decision about someone and then, when they had time to reflect, were regretful that they didn’t give things more time. Feeling an instant connection isn’t the only way to find love.
8. Have Fun with the Process
Above all, dating should be fun. The goal isn’t just to find love, but also to embrace new experiences, meet interesting people, and enjoy the journey. Approach dating with a sense of adventure and a playful attitude. You’ve already spent decades learning who you are, so now is the time to embrace the excitement of discovering new possibilities. Whether you’re enjoying dinner with a potential partner or striking up a conversation with a new friend, keep things light-hearted, open, and fun.
Dating is an exciting opportunity to find a fulfilling relationship, and you can do so with an open heart, confidence, and inner awareness. As you enter the new year, focus on enjoying the process, prioritizing emotional connection, and finding a man who makes you feel loved and supported. Love knows no age, and with the right mindset, you can find companionship that enhances your life and brings joy in the year ahead.
If you’re struggling to know how to begin your dating journey so you can start attracting and dating the type of men you could write your next chapter with, watch my free masterclass, How to Find Love without Losing Yourself. You’ll learn the three dating mistakes all women make and how to avoid them, plus the four key ingredients you need to create your very own unique recipe of romance.
Let’s Have a Conversation:
Knowing yourself, what is the one thing you can do differently next year to create a more open dating style so you can find love?
