December is here, and the festive season isn’t just for shopping sprees – it’s also prime time for self-reflection and goal-setting, especially in the dating world. Since Black Friday, I’ve been chatting with new and long-time dating clients preparing for January’s dating surge. Amid our conversations, some popular dating misconceptions popped up.
Let’s unpack a few with a holiday spirit twist!
1. “I Can Tell If Someone Is ‘The One’ in the First 5 Minutes of a Date.”
False.
If love-at-first-sight were the rule, I’d have far fewer success stories to share! Chemistry can take time – up to three dates, in fact. So, don’t be so quick to call it quits.
2. “Men Talk Way Too Much on First Dates.”
True.
Sorry, gentlemen! Experience says this happens often (I’ve discussed this in my book, 2nd Acts: 166 Winning Strategies for Dating over 50). The good news? Second dates tend to balance things out.
3. “All the Good Men Are Married.”
False.
Take heart, ladies – there are plenty of amazing single men out there. Shift your mindset and keep looking!
4. “Everyone Lies a Little on Their Dating Profile.”
True.
Let’s call it “embellishment.” Whether it’s a slightly exaggerated gym habit or a polished travel tale, minor tweaks are common. Thankfully, data shows most people are truthful about the essentials like age, height, and weight.
5. “No One Ever Responds to My Messages Online.”
False.
If you’re not getting replies, it’s likely your approach. Canned, impersonal messages don’t cut it. Personalize and engage!
6. “He Hasn’t Shared His Feelings Yet – That’s Just His Mysterious Side.”
False.
Mysterious can be intriguing, but emotional unavailability is a red flag. If someone can’t share, ask yourself what’s holding them back.
7. “Talking About an Ex on the First Date Is No Big Deal.”
False.
Yikes! Leave ex-talk for later. The first date is about the present – building a connection and laying the groundwork for a second date.
8. “Online Dating Feels Like a Full-Time Job.”
False.
If dating apps feel like work, you’re doing it wrong. A solid strategy and focused effort (less than two hours a week!) make it manageable – and even fun.
9. “Starting Over Is Terrifying.”
True.
Re-entering the dating pool in your 50s, 60s, or beyond can be daunting, but confidence builds with practice. Four first dates, and you’ll feel unstoppable.
10. “I’ll Meet Someone ‘Organically.’”
False.
Your dream partner isn’t magically appearing at your doorstep. Over 50 percent of recent couples met online – why not you?
So, How Did You Score?
If some answers hit close to home, it’s time for a new perspective. Lisa, one of my clients, thought she’d never find love again at 68. Then, she met Roger online, and her life transformed. Love isn’t about desperation – it’s about believing in possibilities.
Let’s Have a Conversation:
What misconceptions do you have about dating? How have they affected your dating life? Are you ready to rewrite your dating story this coming year? What are you prepared to do to accomplish your goals and find companionship and love?
