At each stage of life, we adopted specific beliefs, traits, and behaviors to adapt to different people, environments, and circumstances.
Where did these beliefs, traits, and behaviors come from?
In most cases, they were passed down to us from previous generations and authority figures in society as a roadmap to live happily ever after.
Unbeknownst to us at the time, a majority of these beliefs, traits, and behaviors were rooted in a disempowered mindset.
This mindset may have prompted us to work extra hard to achieve our desired outcomes, but in the end, a disempowered mindset limits our capacity to be truly fulfilled.
How is this relevant to your desires being met after 60?
A Repetitive Cycle of Unfulfillment
If you did not uncover and remove the root cause of earlier struggles with unworthiness, a repetitive lack of fulfillment in life will follow you well into your 60s.
To stop this cycle requires that you embody the worthiness to be, do, and have your desires fulfilled.
But how do you do this if you are unknowingly living your life through a disempowered mindset?
In this article and accompanying video, I am going to answer that question as I share with you how to embody your worthiness by becoming aware of a disempowered mindset.
This is the third of a six-part series titled, “5 Simple Steps to Being What It Is We Seek.”
What Is a Disempowered Mindset?
A disempowered mindset keeps you stuck in a repetitive cycle of permission-driven self-worth. It is where your worthiness is directly tied to other people’s permission and approval for you to feel loved, happy, and fulfilled.
A disempowered mindset comes from focusing on being the person others want you to be, rather than embracing who you are and confidently embodying that.
When you try to live up to other people’s expectations or you privately demean yourself based on people’s negative opinions of you, you are disempowering yourself.
In these instances, your sense of worthiness and value are diminished. As a result, you place more stock in the negative stories of your inner critic than you do in believing the loving and nurturing voice of your true, authentic self.
How or where did so many people from our generation unknowingly adopt a disempowered mindset?
Mirroring and Projecting
From the time we were children, and well into our adulthood, we observed the beliefs, traits and behaviors of everyone from highly successful people to those who were routinely depressed and angry.
Along the way, each of us unconsciously processed, adapted, and merged the beliefs, behaviors, and traits we picked up into what would become our go-to behaviors for getting our desires met.
Unfortunately, for many of our generation, even when our desires were met, being fulfilled remained frustratingly elusive.
The reason is that most of the people you observed from childhood to adulthood were likely operating under a disempowered mindset. This meant you were unknowingly attempting to get your desires met through limiting beliefs.
Since few of us were ever taught to understand what a disempowered mindset consisted of, how could any of us have known?
Therefore, without realizing how your desires may have been unconsciously sabotaged at earlier stages of your life by a disempowered mindset, you could easily believe your innermost desires after 60 are not feasible.
Easier Than You Think
To replace a disempowered mindset with an empowered mindset begins with accepting your value and worthiness is no longer dependent on other people or outside gratification.
Nor is your well-being and fulfillment today defined by how you used to get your desires met in the past.
Acknowledgment and embodiment of unconditional worthiness of your innermost desires after 60 comes down to being responsible for how you feel.
Sounds easy enough, right?
You may think you take responsibility for how you feel. But consider how often you look to blame other people, world affairs, or even past experiences for the state of your emotional being.
This brings us to one of the keys to unlocking an empowered mindset after 60. It is doing away with the limiting belief that being constantly busy and sacrificing your fun is the sure-fire path to fulfillment.
This may have seemed to work early on in life. But not so much today.
Achieving your desires now has less to do with a flurry of activity and more to do with being responsible for how you feel. This means reclaiming your power to choose the life you desire by accepting that your emotional state of well-being is 100% your responsibility.
To arrive at that point may require a slight re-adjustment of your daily activities. Taking quiet time to meditate, journal, and contemplate your desires and what specific beliefs, traits, and behaviors will be required to fulfill them is incredibly important.
With that in mind, I’m here to remind you that not only are your innermost desires after 60 feasible but having them fulfilled is easier and more enjoyable than you may think.
To further help you with that, in the next article and video of this series for Sixty and Me, we will focus on step four of being what it is you seek, “Be Responsible for How You Feel.”
In the meantime, join me in the video where I will share additional insights on getting rid of a disempowered mindset. To help you integrate what you are learning, I will guide you through an empowering three-part action item.
Let’s Have a Conversation:
Are you feeling disempowered and unfulfilled in your 60s? Why do you think that is? What is the root cause, in your opinion?
