I’ve always thought of myself as quite independent. If I wanted to do something, I usually just did it.
Growing up in a household where I wasn’t really allowed out unless my mum lied for me, I became quite a rebellious teenager. I moved out at 16 and learned quickly, sometimes the hard way, why my dad was trying to protect me from the outside world.
That rebellious streak made me believe I didn’t care what anyone thought.
Well… that’s what I told myself.
I Cared More Than I Wanted to Admit
It wasn’t until years later, through various courses and studying the Unbreakable Mindset Methodology, that I realised I did care. More than I admitted.
When I first became a coach, I had moments where I thought, I’m not experienced enough to coach anyone. Who would want to be coached by me?
I ignored decades of lived experience. I softened myself. I introduced myself as someone who had “transitioned from marketing” instead of simply saying, “I’m a coach.”
Even with the tools, I held back.
So yes, even the coach had to coach herself.
And that’s the point.
We Worry We Will Be Judged by Others
No matter how independent we think we are, most of us hesitate at some point because we’re worried how it will look. Whether people will understand. Whether we’ll be judged.
But the truth is, most people are far too busy worrying about their own lives to dissect ours. And the small percentage who do judge? That usually says more about them than it does about us.
So the real question becomes: how long are we going to wait?
Living According to What’s Important to You Now
There comes a point where you stop needing everyone to understand your choices. You stop over-explaining and shrinking just to fit in, and you start living in alignment with what matters to you now.
Not who you were 10 years ago. Not who you were in your 20s, 30s, 40 or 50s. And not just the version of you everyone relied on.
One practical way I’ve seen this come to life recently is something called Vision Board Bingo. I loved the simplicity of it.
Vision Board Bingo
Instead of creating a vision board that sits on the wall, you create a bingo-style grid. Each square holds something you genuinely want to do this year – big or small. When you complete one, you mark it off. If you get a line, you choose a reward. If you get a full house, even better.
It’s just about actually doing the things that matter to you. Even if no one else really gets it.
We spend so much time waiting for approval that we forget we’re allowed to choose.
It’s easy to create your own, but if you’d like an already made simple Vision Board Bingo template to get started, you can download one here: Vision Board Bingo Template.
And if you’re in a season where you’re ready to make choices without over-explaining them, I offer free one-to-one discovery calls where we can explore what living in alignment might look like for you now.
Let’s Start a Conversation:
Do you think you don’t care what anyone thinks? Is that how you live or have lived your life? What’s most important to you now?
