We are all afraid of the unknown. And not knowing exactly what it is we want stops us in our tracks. So, we get stuck. We choose safety over fulfillment because of overwhelm!

I’m thinking about Jesse, who was stuck in a job that, over the years, had become toxic – for a variety of reasons. She had the financial pressures of maintaining a home and her high schoolers were about to go to college.

It was so overwhelming that she just shut down and kept slogging on in her current situation. After a few sessions with me, she became clear about what she wanted. But mostly, she developed the confidence and energy to get a job she loved.

It changed her life in so many ways. So, I’d like to share with you five easy steps to start you on the path to living the life you dream of. And deserve!

But First, Breathe!

First, let’s identify what it is that you want – and next, some steps of how to go about getting it. Don’t do these assignments all at once. Take your time.

Journal About Your Current Job

Make a cup of tea and sit down with a journal. Writing things down gives you clarity. Also, things on paper seem less scary than thoughts flying round and round in the air with no destination.

Write the following down about your current job: what you don’t like about it, and what you do like about it. Make two lists of the pros and cons. Be honest and get into the tiniest details. And I mean tiny. Write anything and everything that comes to mind.

Is it boring? Too demanding? Is the company cheap? You don’t like the industry you’re in? You have a toxic workplace? A boss you don’t like? Your values aren’t aligned with the company? You’ve outgrown the job? You’re not getting the promotions you want? You’re exhausted? You don’t like the commute? Everything is valid.

By clarifying what you don’t like or want, it will help you clarify what you do want. Even more important: it attunes your senses in your job search so that you stay away from similar situations.

What’s Your Dream Job Fantasy?

What does your ideal day look like? Write it down and read it back to yourself, aloud.

First, do you want to stay in your field? Do you want a higher-level job in a different company? Or do you want to change careers entirely? Now is the time to confront and indulge your dreams and desires.

Can you write a job description of a position you might want? Or an industry you’d like to be in? Do you want to work freelance? Do you want to start your own business? Do you want job security? Do you want to relocate?

Educate Yourself. Do the Homework

Given what you stated you’d like to do in your ideal job – do you need to expand your knowledge in the area of technology or certifications? You might need to level up your skillset. Now is a good time to explore in-person training or online options for further education.

Learning something new while on your current job gives tremendous satisfaction since you know you’re moving forward. It empowers you, big time.

Jesse wanted to leave her non satisfying corporate job and work in the medical field. She researched the job possibilities by studying hospital websites and learned what it would take for her to qualify for these jobs. She talked to people in the medical profession to get their input, advice, and connections. Best of all, she learned that what she wanted was possible.

Getting the new qualifications, you need increases your self-confidence. Employers like people who are self-starters and know what they want. Your energy and accomplishments are attractive to employers. Learning new things always puts you in the situation of meeting new people – always a good thing.

Exploring

Consider putting your toes in the water before taking the deep dive. Can you explore your new career interest part-time? Can you talk to people who are in the industry you want to be in? This is a great way to learn more about the job and industry before you commit to making a transition. View job hunting as job exploring. Create opportunities for yourself.

Save Up Some Cash

If you are considering a switch to something more in alignment with your passion and purpose, it may (or may not) require a reduction in salary. I know many people feel that is fine as long as they are doing something that they love each day.

Joseph Campbell famously said, “follow your bliss and the money will come.” The universe supports you. Review your budget and start saving or working towards living on a reduced income so you can make the job switch comfortably or fund your new career venture.

You can do this! I believe in you!

What challenges are you facing in your current job? What are your fears in the now and moving forward? Do you see yourself changing careers and doing something else? What might that be?

If you found these tips helpful, check out Deborah’s weekly podcast, “Calm the Chaos” that will support you as you transform your life. You can also contact her for a free online consultation.

Not long ago, my then six-year-old grandson took me aback. “Granny,” he asked innocently enough. “Would you do me a favour?” I assumed he wanted another biscuit (cookie) or to watch some more television.

“Granny,” he continued. “Would you and Grand-dad do your very, very best to stay healthy, because I want my children to know their great-grandparents?”

Well, that was a surprise! I promised to try. What else could I say?

Thinking About the Future

Like many in the Sixty and Me community, I have not thought much about becoming a great-grandmother. Many of us are not yet grandmothers and taking it to the next step, even for those of us who are, seems a bit far.

And yet, if you have a reflective nature, you have undoubtedly begun to think about the long-term future. It’s not something you think about all the time, but it comes on at odd moments of the day or when prompted by some event.

Of course, you know you are growing older inexorably day by day, but you also know that there are too many unknowns to create a very vivid picture.

The Maturing of the Generations

If you are a grandmother, you may think about the future more readily, because when you are with the grandchildren, it is right there in front of you.

You do wonder what will happen to them. You look at those little smiling childish faces and try to imagine what they will look like when they are older. What will they be like as adults? What will they want to become? And what will the world be like when they get there? Things around us seem to be changing so fast, it is hard to imagine.

You may also wonder about your own children as older adults – although any transformation will not be so great – compared to small children.

But, quite naturally, you will also wonder about yourself. Will you be around in twenty or more years’ time? If so, what will you be up to doing? Will you have stayed healthy, as so eagerly urged by my grandson, or will you be struggling with some major illness? Will you still feel engaged and productive? Will you be happy?

The Satisfactions of Being a Great-Grandmother

This leads me back to that surprising issue of being a great-grandmother. I had never given it much thought. Indeed, I find it hard to imagine.

My older friends tell me it is somewhat like being a grandmother, but the distance in age, and sometimes your own frailty, makes it hard to feel quite so involved.

Of course, it is wonderful to hold a new and related baby in your arms. Indeed, as one friend put it, “To look into the eyes of the next generation.”

Multiple Generations Face-to-Face

If you and your children all started their families early, it will be much easier. You might be a great-grandmother in your sixties, with plenty of energy to take an active role. But for most of us, with children being born later and later, you may feel you need to take more of a back seat. This is not to say that, as the children grow and ask questions, you can’t impart the occasional wisdom. That could be very satisfying indeed.

And if you get there, you will be faced with amazing twin facts affecting your self-image. First, you will have reached the lofty stage of being a great-grandmother. Second, you will have to accept that your once little child is now a grandparent!

How often do you think about the long-term future? Do you look forward to being a great-grandmother? What are your thoughts about the “twin facts” and self-image? Please join the conversation.

Kathy Hilton’s Gold Fringe Jacket on Her Instastories

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills 2021 Instagram Fashion

It was quite the busy weekend for the Hilton clan. Paris got married and of course it was a star studded and very fashionable weekend long event. One of those fashionable people was mother-of-the-bride Kathy Hilton in her gold fringe jacket. And if there’s anything we love more than Kathy Hilton’s lines, it’s her bold fashion. Which is exactly why we can’t wait to have a gorilla Style Stealer of this jacket.

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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Photo Credit: @kathyhilton

Originally posted at: Kathy Hilton’s Gold Fringe Jacket

After getting home from a long day of work, the last thing you want to do is remove your makeup and wash your face. It can sometimes become a monotonous task that almost feels like a burden. But it doesn’t have to feel that way, especially when you can skip a few steps and use just one item to scrub off your makeup and double cleanse. Let us bring you in on a secret to saving time, energy, and money when you’re tired AF and can’t be bothered to walk through your entire skincare routine: Youth To The People’s new Superberry Dream Cleansing Balm.

This multifunctional formula quickly removes layers of makeup and sunscreen from your skin, without stripping it dry. Because while it is an effective makeup remover, it also functions as a cleansing balm and can remove excess oils and impurities. This is probably why shoppers call it a “game changer.”

“My skin has felt more vibrant, soft, and youthful in the mornings, and I cannot recommend this product enough!” wrote one reviewer.

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We’ll explain how it wields such powers, but just know that this velvety, whipped balm is here to help your skin in more than one way. It consists of only the best ingredients, as well as the most divine fruity aroma.

If you’ve ever wondered about what a cleansing balm might feel like and do for your complexion, the Superberry Dream Cleansing Balm is a great place to start (and stay). Keep reading for a breakdown of its ingredients and how to use it. 

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This cleansing balm works like magic by gently taking off all your makeup while still providing a bunch of skin benefits. A blend of moringa, jojoba, and sunflower seed oils melts away your makeup and sunscreen, but they’re also packed with omegas, antioxidants, and vitamins, so they won’t strip your skin of moisture. They also level your oil production and smooth your complexion. 

Another group of ingredients, superberry extracts, are enriched with lots of antioxidants to protect your skin from damage. These magical maqui, acai, and goji berries join forces with oil-soluble hyaluronic acid to deliver hydration deep into your skin. 

The formula has a ton of natural ingredients that cleanse and moisturize your complexion, without leaving it feeling greasy. It’s also gentle enough for those with sensitive skin and is safe to use around the eyes.

Using it is simple, too. With dry hands, rub the balm onto your dry skin. You’ll notice the texture will feel more like an oil. Then, splash some water onto your hands and keep massaging the product into your skin as it transforms into a milky cleanser. You can use this balm on its own or as part of your double cleanse.

Several reviewers, like this one, had never used a cleansing balm before, but said that this formula turned them into believers. “This is going to save me so much money on face wash, as I was double or triple cleansing to get all my makeup off,” they wrote. “I highly recommend, and will be purchasing again!” 

You’ve got nothing to lose and everything to gain from this multifunctional cleansing balm. So, why not give it a chance?

Mary Cosby’s Grey Suede Boots in Vail

Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Season 2 Episode 10 Fashion

While Mary Cosby may have a difficult time finding Meredith upon arriving to the gigantic house in Vail on this week’s episode of RHOSLC (spoiler alert: she’s just casually soaking in a bubble bath lol), we had a rather easy time finding her grey suede boots considering they’re a designer classic. And although it doesn’t look like they’re so readily available at the moment, we’ll of course be greeting you fully dressed with food on the table with some similar options to shop down below because that’s just proper etiquette.

Fashionably,

Faryn

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Originally posted at: Mary Cosby’s Grey Suede Boots