Sometimes, we get in a rut when it comes to meeting men. We think Online Dating is the only way to go, but it’s not. It is one way but there are three others I want to share with you today so you can get out there and start meeting the types of men you’d enjoy having in your life.

#1: Meeting Men in Real Life

You and your friend walk into a restaurant, and you see a nice looking man sitting by himself at the bar. You tell your friend he looks like your type, and she suggests you go up and say hi.

You think, “I can’t do that. He might reject me, and I would feel so silly having approached him.” You’re not alone if you get this feeling. The reason it happens is because we put value on a man who is good looking and is nicely dressed.

But here’s a big secret about that. Just because he looks good, it doesn’t mean he’s a quality man. Finding that out, means flirting and talking with him to see if he is worthy of you. Read that sentence again because it’s really important. Most of the time we turn ourselves inside out to prove we’re worthy of him.

Once you realize your true value, you’ll need places to meet men. Here are a couple of ideas to get you started.

Meetup.com

Meetup is still a great way to meet new people who share the same interests as you. It’s totally free and a great way to meet men or make new girlfriends (who, by the way, may know a good man for you).

Outdoor Places

Outdoor bars and restaurants can get pretty lively filled with people who want to have fun. Take a friend so you don’t have to go alone. Great conversation starters are things like “What are you drinking that looks so amazing” or “What is that appetizer that smells so good?”

Sports Events

Major or minor league sporting events. Talk about a lot of men! Whew, you can just feel the testosterone in those stadiums.

#2: Call on Your Dating Fairy Godmothers to Help You Out

Your Dating Fairy Godmothers are anyone and everyone you might know. Make a list and include friends, family, your hairdresser, your manicurist, a receptionist, a doctor you see or your colleagues at work.

Then put a monthly date on your calendar to ask if they know anyone single. The reason you want to ask over and over again is because people are involved in their own lives and need reminders about what’s happening in yours.

#3: Hire a Matchmaker

The good thing about a matchmaker is they will vet men before you meet them so you know you’ll be physically safe. The biggest complaint about matchmakers is that women feel the respective professional doesn’t have enough men in their data base who are over 60.

I’ve heard over and over again from women that they feel matchmakers just fix them up with a body. If you’d like to use a matchmaker, I’d Google them or ask friends if they’ve had success with one.

#4: Online Dating Is Still the Best Way to Meet the Most Single Men Over 60

And there are lots of men younger and older online who want what you want, a companion to play, have fun and grow old with. Someone who has your back as you have theirs.

Now the problem with online dating. You have to vet them, and you can end up feeling like no one you’d like to meet even exists.

When I work with clients, we do a deep dive into the type of man they’ve always been attracted to in the past. Why? Because this is who you are most attracted to but if this type worked, you’d be with him.

Then we identify what it is they most want in a man from where they are today in their life. Most women actually subconsciously date for the same reasons they did in their 20s which was finding a baby daddy.

Today, your reasons for dating are totally different than they were back then so you want to identify why you want a relationship before you decide who you want it with. When I ask clients what tool got them the guy, I always hear – “My clear vision of the right man for me. I’d have never seen him without this vision, and I’d have gone back and dated my old type.”

When you’re looking for a man, get clear on the values you want to share, know your deal breakers (not honoring them is settling) and how you want to feel around a man. These will help you tremendously for finding the right man for you after 60.

And have a good profile and really great pictures. They make all the difference in who you’ll attract into your life.

Now that you have four ways to meet men, which one excites you the most? Choose at least two then take action to make this dream of finding love after 60 come true.

Venita Aspen’s Black and White Leopard Coat at Her House

Southern Charm Season 8 Episode 5 Fashion

I think we can all agree after last night’s episode of Southern Charm that Venita Aspen is the hostess with the mostess. I mean, not only does she serve you up beautifully displayed cookies and tea upon arrival, but also a chic lewk from her dining room closet like this black and white leopard coat. 

Fashionably,

Faryn

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Taylor Ann Green’s Pink One Shoulder Top and Maxi Skirt at Venita and Madison’s Birthday Party

Southern Charm Season 8 Episode 5 Fashion

Taylor Ann Green looked very pretty in pink at Venita and Madison’s birthday party on Southern Charm in her pink one shoulder top and maxi skirt. And while she may no longer be part of a set IRL, at least she still has this one that’s the perfect match.

Fashionably,

Faryn

Click Here to Shop Her SWF Top on Sale

Click Here to See Her SWF Skirt (She removed the drawstring)

Originally posted at: Taylor Ann Green’s Pink One Shoulder Top and Maxi Skirt

Venita Aspen’s Pink Ruffle Confessional Dress on Southern Charm

Southern Charm Season 8 Fashion

Venita Aspen totally understood the assignment with the pink ruffle dress she wears in her Southern Charm confessionals this season. And while we unfortunately only get to see her in half of the lewk, fortunately we did manage to find it for you guys for almost half off. 

Fashionably,

Faryn

Also Seen on Emily Simpson in Turquoise:

Click Here to Shop Her PatBo Dress on Sale

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Originally posted at: Venita Aspen’s Pink Ruffle Confessional Dress

It all starts with a baby. A sweet helpless and very loved bundle of not-yet-known-but-absolutely-expected joy. You held that baby and felt the excitement of a new human presence in your life. A grandchild!

Perhaps this feels not that long ago.

And then that baby began to develop. He or she began to crawl and then stand up and toddle (if that is the word for what a toddler does).

And talk. And become a person with a personality, interests, a strength of will – and all the time bringing even more love into your life.

That adorable child grew some more, and, with luck, you had a lot of fun in the park or just talking and teaching him or her all sorts of things about the world.

It was delightful. You re-lived the pleasures of having small children in the house. Each week – or even each day – you heard about what they were doing, their ups and downs, their development.

I found this stage so interesting that I wrote a whole book about it.

Well, you know the rest.

There was more growing – and before you could say “sweet-sixteen-and-never-been-kissed,” you found yourself with a teenager.

Perhaps more than one.

The Teenage Years

Teenagers can be adorable. They can be easy-going, cooperative, easy to please and always polite.

But they aren’t usually any of these things.

It happens slowly. You first learn about the problems from one of their parents ­– your son or daughter.

They tell you about the grumpiness, the talking back, the contrariness, the confusions. Ah yes, you think, I remember it well. Only the last time, it was your own child, perhaps the very person telling you about it all. Or a sibling.

You are much more sympathetic now. You reassure them that it is just a stage – an annoying one, of course, but it won’t last.

And then the grandchild in question visits you. That eager nine- or 10-year-old is suddenly taller than you, scruffily dressed and altogether awkward.

If it is a boy, there are signs of a growing moustache. If it is a girl, there is probably some make-up.

It feels like another person altogether, albeit with some familiarity. You know this person, but you don’t know him or her so well. There are definitely changes.

You need to find new ways of relating to them.

The Good News

Well, you may remember dealing with teenage offspring with less than positive thoughts, but in fact it is entirely different with grandchildren.

Their need to expand, to argue, to find themselves through a constant contrariness does not extend to you. These attitudes are primarily directed to their parents – and sometimes their teachers.

You are the good guy, the port in the storm – and they have no wish to lose your favour. They come to you to display their new achievements with pride, while being cossetted at the same time.

In other words, your home is the place to relax from all the pressures elsewhere.

And, therefore, relating to them is not so hard at all. You may not like their hair. Or the nose stud or worse.

Or the sloppy way of talking – perhaps too quiet, perhaps too loud. Or the words you don’t have a clue what they mean.

But if you can overlook these matters as a temporary aberration, you will find the same loving children underneath. They may even become more polite to you.

And Even Better News

And unless you are very unlucky, you may see the growing signs of the adults they are to become. Their personalities are becoming clearer, emerging from the slightly blurry images from their childhood into much more delineated pictures.

Such personalities may be of any type, of course. Perhaps he or she is funny. Perhaps they are athletic. Or musical. Or academic. Or withdrawn, which is always difficult.

They may be becoming interested in some issues, and you can talk about them. Perhaps they like movies and you can talk about that. Or politics. Or something else altogether.

It can be really interesting to see these different personalities and interests at their formative stage. You may even be able to help them somehow.

Perhaps he likes to cook – you could show him a new recipe. Or she likes to sew – you can show her a new stitch. Or they have some fascination or other. You might know someone who could talk to them about it.

That is the beginning of a long-term friendship with a growing adult. And it is that adult that they have been building up to all the time.

A real pleasure.

Do you have teenage grandchildren? Do you talk to them? What interests them the most? What do you find fascinating about them?