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My favorite part about getting a haircut is by far the massage. I always thought my hairstylist kneaded and worked my scalp at the sink because it felt incredibly relaxing (it could literally put me to sleep). But I’ve since learned of its many other benefits, such as improving blood flow, hair growth and hair thickness. No matter how hard I try, my hands will never match those of my hairstylist, but I found an affordable scalp massager that does the trick.

HEETA’s Scalp Massager is about to waltz into your life and change everything about your hair—in a good way, of course. The scalp massager, which is on sale at Amazon for just $10, is suitable for all hair types, lengths and textures. Think of it as a gua sha for your scalp. It makes your strands healthier, stronger and cleaner, and it also calms itchiness and built-up stress (yes, your scalp can get stressed!).

Because the brush is made from silicone, the massage feels gentle rather than rough. The bristles work to remove dirt, residue and product build-up, leaving you with much cleaner hair than before.

The massager promotes blood flow, accelerates hair growth, reduces stress-induced hair loss and counteracts the loss of hair thickness that can be attributed to the natural process of aging. I never thought there were ways to keep your scalp youthful, but there are, and this massager is one of them.

Though this handy little tool might look a bit odd, there’s clearly a reason why over 101,000 shoppers gave the product a five-star rating. Increase hair growth, scalp blood flow and hair thickness with HEETA’s Scalp Massager. You’ll be giving your scalp some extra T.L.C. and much-needed time to de-stress.

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You can reach for your scalp massager regardless of whether your hair is wet or dry, though many prefer to use it with their shampoos, conditioners and masks to really rub in those formulas and remove excess product or dandruff.

Be sure to gently run the brush through your strands in small circular motions rather than in sweeping ones that’ll yank your hair out and tangle it. The brand suggests doing this five times a week to get the best results.

Over 101,000 shoppers have given this product a perfect five-star rating and have seen first-hand the magic it performs on your hair. 

“I’ve noticed my hair growing a lot faster and it also cleans my hair really [well]. I used to have an oily scalp where I had to wash it every day but this has helped me spread out my wash days,” wrote one five-star shopper.

The brush is lightweight, easy to hold and can hang on any faucet or hook in your tub.

“Holy God above I love this thing,” raved another reviewer. “The nubs are much firmer than expected and feel sooo goooddddd. I love using this thing, my scalp has never felt so clean and fresh. I use it before I shampoo, and then again during my second shampoo. Best part: no extra tangles!”

Another one with thin, fair hair wrote, “I bought this thing AND WHAT A DIFFERENCE!! I no longer have dandruff, no longer [have] an itchy scalp [and] my hair stays fluffy all day. This thing is a freakin miracle worker. Kid you not, my friends and hair stylist asked me what I was doing different—I still don’t think they believe me!”

Say goodbye to excess oil and dandruff and hello to longer, thicker, healthier hair. It’s about time you showed your locks some love!

Valentine’s Day! Causes the heart to flutter, doesn’t it? Champagne, chocolate, flowers… you know, go big or go home, right?

It is one of my favourite special days of the year. I love to celebrate love. But intimate relationships have an underside, and sometimes it is helpful to allow ourselves to see that, too.

The Underside Is Resentment

We are capable of feeling resentful in many different situations, but in honour of Valentine’s Day, let’s consider it in intimate relationships.

Yes, we have all felt it. Even if we love deeply, there are times when – well, you can fill in the blanks. Even the most perfect partner is just not thinking of you all the time. Or they intrude on your space. Or they do nothing at all, really, just breathe, but somehow they trigger that disappointment that can twist our hearts and minds.

The dilemma is that resentment is delicious at first. It lets us assume our rightful place as the wronged person. When you think of it, it is weird to want to be wronged, but we feel absolved of responsibility for our negative feelings. Beware! It is a slow drip of poison that tastes good at first, but soon turns sour. That’s how the famous saying goes: Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.

Resentment Can Damage the Closeness We Want

If resentment festers, it can lead to distance, the enemy of intimacy. To express our resentment without owning it, we avoid eye contact, avoid physical contact, or avoid sharing our thoughts and feelings, often in a vicious cycle.

Unfortunately, resentment is a normal part of two people trying to share a life. So, what is to be done about it? We are more likely to address resentment constructively if we are honest with ourselves and acknowledge it. And that is easier when we do not have to feel guilty or ashamed.

Start by Asking Yourself What the Problem Actually Is

Of course, the feeling itself is a problem, but what are you reacting to? Dig deeper. Have you figured out the underlying issue? And is there something that you can do to change it? Often, when we feel resentful, we have the sense that nothing can be different.

Maybe we are looking for change in the wrong place. For example, we can get stuck and resentful waiting for the other person to be different. But if we dig deeper, we question whether there is anything we ourselves can do differently.

We may discover that there may not actually be a problem outside of ourselves to solve. We can find ourselves stuck in a negative mindset, in which resentment becomes a habit and the default way of looking at the world.

Yur Assumptions Are Only Your Own

We may also be dragged down by a strong sense that things should be different. But a brilliant therapist would certainly challenge our assumptions of ‘should’. He or she would ask, “Where is it written that your husband should want to move … or take out the garbage … or remember your birthday?”

The therapist’s work reminds us that of course we all have our ‘shoulds’. But if we challenge our own assumptions, uncomfortable as that may be, can we find an opening for changing our mindset?

Whether our resentment comes from a problem that can be solved, or from a deep attitude of disappointment, that question, of what can be different, is key. As long as we believe the answer is nothing, we are stuck. Sometimes this job is a tall order for us to work on independently and the best approach is to seek support.

Changing One Thing May Have a Domino Effect

Making a difference with one thing in our lives can make it easier to change another. It’s surprising how the action of making change makes our feelings follow suit too. We act so that our feelings will follow, rather than wait for our feelings to change so that we act.

If we develop options, options give choice, and choice gives… It is almost as if choice releases a different chemical in our brain – a more desirable, positive one. We want to be able to forgive others and also ourselves. We want to be able to find better solutions to the ordinary problems of living together and to feel more in control of our own lives.

Maybe we can’t avoid resentment, but if we accept it and confront it, we are more likely to have a Happy Valentine’s Day.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you felt resentment toward your partner? Was it about an assumption you had? What changed in the relationship? How have you confronted your resentment?

Melissa Gorga’s Turquoise Cutout Strapless Confessional Look

Real Housewives of New Jersey Season 13 Fashion

Wearing a cutout in a confessional look can be tricky, but not when you’re Melissa Gorga. Her turquoise, strapless, cutout dress fits her like a glove—just like everything else. The color and the cut are ah-may-zing on her, so I must confess, I’m totally looking forward to what else she’ll rock in season 13.

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Burt’s Bees has been a drugstore staple for as long as I can remember (I used its acne-prone line during the majority of my teenage years and swore by it.) Since then, I’ve associated the brand with being transformative yet always gentle on the skin; its affordable formulas boast simple yet effective ingredients that you don’t have to pay an arm and a leg for. Burt’s Bees Facial Oil is a prime example—it has earned glowing remarks from shoppers for its wide range of healing abilities, primarily when it comes to anti-aging. 

“I was skeptical. Don’t wear makeup except for mascara. Regularly moisturize, but as I’m aging I was looking for something a little more caring for my face,” raved one reviewer who loves the product. “I use it in the morning and evening, then moisturize after allowing it a few minutes to absorb and no more crows feet or dry lines below my lip. Can’t say enough about this product.”

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The ‘miracle elixir’ contains a special blend of rosehip seed extract, jojoba oil and evening primrose oil which makes your skin look and feel its best. Together, they protect your complexion from premature aging after regular contact with environmental aggressors while also offering intense hydration that keeps your face soft and supple.

Back to how Burt’s Bees keeps its ingredient list pristine: The facial oil is dermatologist-tested and made without the use of parabens, phthalates, SLS or petrolatum, so even those with ultra-sensitive skin can incorporate it into their regimens. 

In fact, reviewers with fickle skin highly recommend it. Just take it from this diehard fan: “My skin is very sensitive to change and this product caused no reaction…From the very first day of use, I noticed a big change in my skin. The small wrinkles around my eyes were almost completely gone! I have used lots of different eye products, some very expensive, and none have worked like this,” they raved, going on to say that their skin “radiates all day” and has received “lots of compliments,” so much so that people cannot believe their age. 

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While you could easily take a trip to your local CVS or Walgreens to scoop up the facial oil in person, Amazon is currently offering the hot seller at discount; score a bottle of your own for less than $15 right now. Make sure to sign up for subscribe and save deliveries so you can always keep your stash stocked (and for less, at that.)

Margaret Josephs’ Red Printed Fringe Cardigan

Real Housewives of New Jersey Season 13 Episode 1 Fashion

The Real Housewives of New Jersey Season 13 premiere includes a scene with Margaret Josephs—wearing a fun, red, printed, fringe cardigan—and Teresa Giudice having a sit down to talk about events that ensued during Season 12. And while I fully expected that someone would end up seeing red in this clip, I had no idea it would be quite as cute.

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