Month: September 2023

One of the more famous brand slogans in recent years is Southwest Airline’s “Wanna Get Away?” The essence of their hilarious commercials is that when life gets to be too much, Southwest Airlines will transport you to your desired destination.

What if you could transport yourself to where you wanted to be, and experience the joys of being there, without physically traveling – at least not right away?

If this sounds like a plot to a science fiction story, it isn’t. In fact, getting away from the stressors of life is a lot easier than you might think.

In this article and accompanying video, I am going to share what it means to “play with your desires”after 60. This is part of my recent series titled, “5 Simple Steps to Being What It Is We Seek.”

What Validates Our Desires?

Whether you were imagining yourself running outside or playing with your toys, daydreaming of ways to have fun was as natural as breathing when you were a child.

Now that you are 60 and over, how often do you daydream without feeling burdened by distressing thoughts and limiting beliefs that tell you this is a waste of time?

Growing up, we were told that to fit in and succeed in the adult world, we had to take life more seriously. We could no longer play with our desires through our imagination. As adults, our desires had to be experienced in the physical world or they were not valid.

I’m the first to admit, it doesn’t get much better than embracing someone you love, going on a dream vacation, having a healthy body, or enjoying the financial freedom to buy what you desire.

But it can take time for a desire to materialize. For example, due to logistics, turning your desires into a physical reality after 60 may not be immediately feasible.

What if there was an easier way to experience your desires, whenever you wanted?

There is.

It starts by playing with your desires.

Fast Track to Your Desires

Playing with your desires is imagining what you want is fulfilled before any outer physical action is taken. This not only increases the quality of your life after 60, but it fast tracks your desires into physical reality with the least amount of resistance.

Most of the resistance comes from dismissing your desires through limiting beliefs.

Some limiting beliefs convince you your desires are not possible. Others tell you that to have what you desire requires sacrificing your fun and working hard.

This takes us back to getting away.

In this case, what you are getting away from are limiting beliefs and outward distractions that keep you stuck in an uncomfortable rut.

When Fun Stopped Being Fun

Growing up, I don’t remember too many adults taking time to slow down and daydream their desires into reality. Not surprisingly, as an adult I did not do so either.

It wasn’t until my early to mid-60s that I rediscovered the power of daydreaming. At first, I put up resistance to slowing down and using my childhood imagination to get what I wanted.

I was relying on limiting beliefs that told me the only way to get my desires met and have fun was to set a lofty goal and work excessively hard to achieve it. This might have worked earlier in my life, but it was not producing the joy and fun I desired after 60.

What changed?

Through research for my second book, I began to reacclimate myself with what it means to be consciously connected with my inner child. Doing so opened me up to the benefits of slowing down and playing with my desires though my childhood imagination.

5 Steps to Play with Your Desires

To play with your desires through the use of your childhood imagination requires you to slow down from an overly busy lifestyle. To help with this, here are five simple steps.

Flow with Your Childhood Imagination

Sit down in a quite space and begin conscious breathing. To help, close your eyes and count backwards from 50 to 0 at a steady pace.

Choose One Desire That Lights You Up

With your mind quieted, the next step is to choose a desire that lights you up. Allow yourself to sit with this feeling for at least 30 to 60 seconds.

Journey with Your Desire

Get playful with your desires by unleashing your childhood imagination with zero limits. Allow yourself to explore what it is like to live through your desired experience.

Document the Experience

Anchor your experience by making it more tangible. Talk it out into your phone’s recorder, journal it, or both.

Go Live Your Desires

Not all desires are going to be quickly manifested. That should not stop you from living your desires in your daily reality. Take the experience and apply the emotional joy to other areas of your life.

These five steps radically changed my life for the better after 60. It is my intention that they will do the same for you.

For more insights on these steps, especially number five, join me in the video. To help you integrate what you are learning, I will also guide you through three journal prompts.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you given yourself permission to know what you desire after 60? Why? Which desires have you been able to manifest, and which have you yet to reach?

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Whether you believe in manifesting and need more self-confidence to attract positive outcomes, struggle with anxiety and self-doubt, or want to feel empowered and trust yourself, you can boost your courage and self-empowerment with the bold energy of crystals and gemstones.

Crystals can act as tools for amplifying your confidence and self-trust. Their gentle but powerful energies can keep away negative vibes, boost low energy, and support the energy flowing through your body.

And I’m not saying that all the hard work you’re putting in for your mental health and self-esteem, all that self-reflection, journaling, and therapy sessions are nothing compared to crystals and their healing energies. That is not how crystals work, but they can be of great support and help you keep up with all the good choices you try to make for yourself and give you a little boost in achieving your goals.

So open your heart and get ready to offer these beautiful confidence-boosting crystals a chance to improve your overall self-esteem.

Gain More Confidence with Tiger’s Eye, Sunstone and Carnelian

Confidence makes it easier to pursue our goals, sustains our motivation, and helps us feel better about ourselves without so much overthinking. Being confident comes more naturally to others, and it is, of course, normal not to feel confident all the time.

But when we lack confidence, our life quality can decrease on many levels, and we might not even realize things could be better. At one time in my own life, I had concluded that I’d missed many opportunities. I didn’t behave like myself in certain situations because I thought I was not good enough, didn’t have what it takes to succeed, was scared, and so on. I was lacking self-confidence.

You might already feel pretty confident and know very well what you are capable of, but I still recommend the following crystals for times when a little self-doubt seeps into your heart:

• Tiger’s Eye – this crystal instills self-respect and confidence, giving its carrier the strength to believe in themselves.
• Sunstone – encourages independence and helps you overcome self-limiting beliefs.
• Carnelian – can stabilize energy and anchor its carrier to the present while stimulating motivation.

Feel Empowered with Hematite, Sodalite and Aquamarine

Self-empowerment that streams from a sense of calmness and composure is one of the best things we can experience. It lays the foundation for living authentically and achieving our goals, and it can help us overcome fear and set clear boundaries.

Some crystals can help us access this serene kind of empowerment without becoming dominating, rigid, self-absorbed, or aggressive. Crystals bring a kind energy into our lives even when we harness their power to feel empowered.

You can use these stones to enhance the power within yourself while maintaining balance and calmness:

• Hematite – a powerful grounding crystal that replaces negativity with vitality and strength. It promotes logical thinking and protects us from unwelcome drama in our lives.
• Sodalite is a crystal that helps us maintain calmness in chaotic times and deepens the connection with our higher self. It’s a powerful stone for feeling in charge of your life from a place of peacefulness and self-content.
• Aquamarine is known as the Sone of Empowerment. It gives us resilient power, calms anger and anxiety, and helps with emotional regulation.

Enhance Courage with Labradorite, Amazonite and Red Jasper

Who doesn’t need a little more courage in their life? After all, living life to the fullest sometimes requires us to be brave and take a leap out of our comfort zone. Whether we enjoy what we experience or have a difficult period, bravery can help us stay true to ourselves, enrich our development, and face reality as it is.

I invite you to enhance the courage within yourself by harnessing the healing energy of the following crystals:

• Labradorite – this crystal attracts luck and bravery while its energy is also protective and awakening. It boosts positivity, encourages experimentation, and gives you the perseverance you need, unhindered by fear.
• Amazonite – this beautiful blue crystal promotes self-discovery, respect, fearlessness, and strength. It is also known as the Stone of Truth and Courage.
• Red Jasper is a fiery stone that strengthens endurance and courage, encouraging the carrier to resolve challenging situations and settle disputes confidently. It is also a stone of self-defense and connectedness to nature.

Find Calmness within Yourself

I believe that our confidence, bravery, and empowerment come from a place of calmness and self-awareness; it streams from a deep place in ourselves when we have the necessary nurturing energies and self-connectedness.

It might sound easy, but it is not; finding calmness and balance within ourselves is not simple for many people. At least for me – being calm and serene helps me cope with whatever life throws at me – however, it can be challenging to find the necessary inner energy to feel deep calmness.

Tranquility and all the good things that come with it can feel fragile, easily disturbed by exterior factors, and so fleeting. That is why I like to shield my serenity and stillness as much as possible with the healing and supporting energy of crystals and gemstones.

I am curious and excited to hear about your experiences with finding inner resources for a more fulfilling life and feeling confident and assertive yet kind. I hope the questions below will make for a great discussion starting point and that you will get to share with me and other readers your own experiences, whether they involve crystals or not.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What does self-empowerment mean to you? How do you manage to find inner strength and calmness? Do you have any regrets about not being brave enough at some point?