Month: July 2025

Thinking about dating again after divorce? Whether you’re ready to cannonball into the deep end or just dip a toe in, you’re not alone – and yes, it can feel terrifying. Especially if your last date involved pagers, Blockbuster, or dial-up internet.

If your marriage lasted decades or your divorce left you emotionally wiped out (or both), it’s totally normal to wonder:

“Am I really ready to date again?”

Let’s walk through the most common things I hear from newly divorced clients – and bust a few myths while we’re at it:

Myth #1: All the Good Men/Women Are Taken

Nope. Just… nope. It only feels that way. Fun fact: 38% of people over 50 have gone through a divorce. The dating pool didn’t dry up. It just looks different now (and no one’s doing cannonballs anymore, which honestly, thank goodness!).

Myth #2: There’s Still a Stigma Around Divorce

That disappeared with shoulder pads and fax machines. Divorce today just means you’re human. It happens. You’ve grown. You’ve learned. Now you get a second shot – wiser, stronger, and more interesting.

Myth #3: My Married Friends Say Dating Is Awful – and My Single Friends Agree

First off, your married friends have zero idea what the dating scene looks like. And second, your single friends who say it’s terrible? After 30+ years in this business, let’s just say… there’s often a reason they’re still single. And that reason has nothing to do with you.

Myth #4: Online Dating Is Scary. I Want to Meet Someone Organically

Look, “organic” is great – for blueberries. But for dating? Online is where it’s at. Modern platforms like Bumble and Match have stepped up their game with ID checks and smarter screening. Want to meet someone playing pickleball? Sure! But also: don’t hold your breath.

So, How Do You Know You’re Ready?

Step 1: Start with Your Mindset

In my bestselling book, 2nd Acts: Strategies for Dating Over 50, the first worksheet asks:

“Where’s your head at?”

It’s full of thoughtful questions like:

• Can you go on a date without ranting about your ex?
• Are you nervous – but also kind of excited?
• Do you feel like you’re “too old” or have “nothing to talk about”?
• If any of this hits home, you’re not alone. And that worksheet might just give you the clarity you need.

Step 2: Think of Dating Like a New Sport

You wouldn’t pick up golf without a few lessons, right? Same thing here. Start small:

• Pick one dating site.
• Write a short, friendly profile.
• Upload 5-6 real, happy, flattering photos.
• Send a few light messages (“Love your dog – what’s her name?” works way better than “So… what are you looking for?”)

Step 3: Boost Your Dating Confidence

The secret sauce? Go on 2-3 first dates in your first few weeks. You’ll be amazed:

You got dressed up.

You smiled.

You laughed.

You didn’t spontaneously combust.

Boom – you’re doing it.

Step 4: Get a Dating Coach

Your best friend or your cousin’s hairdresser is not your dating coach. I am. And I’ve helped thousands of women like you navigate the new dating jungle with clarity, confidence, and results. Why fumble around for months when you could have a pro in your corner?

Step 5: Don’t Give Up at the Two-Week Mark

Seriously. Most people quit after 14 days. But success comes to those who commit. I recommend a solid 90-day dating game plan – and I’ve got your back the whole way. Over 65% of my clients find a romantic partner. Not too shabby, right?

Dating after divorce might feel like a mountain climb. But with the right prep it can actually be fun. Really fun. So, stop staring at the dating pool – dangle those fabulous toes in and wade in with curiosity.

Check out my YouTube channel for more tips on how to get started.

Or grab your copy of 2nd Acts: Strategies for Dating Over 50 – worksheets, wisdom, and a whole lot of wit included.

You’ve got this.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you been through a divorce? How did you feel about dating again? What were you most scared about?

We know supporting brain health is necessary to prevent dementia and Alzheimer’s. But in addition to the often endorsed crossword puzzles and Sudoku, there are some ancient time-tested techniques to ensure robust cognitive fitness.

Enter Qigong

In this article I wanted to offer a couple of easy 2-3 minute exercises to protect the brain’s health by stimulating more energy flow.

Qigong, a four-thousand-year-old practice, is a wonderful moving meditation increasingly practiced for its ability to improve brain function. Numerous studies have found that meditation promotes brain elasticity in the hippocampus, which in turn improves both memory, concentration, and learning.

Also, the slow, rhythmic movements of Qigong, along with mindful breathing, help to balance the left and right hemispheres of the brain, allowing for greater mental efficiency. And, since the movements are repetitive, they help establish new neural connections, creating pathways in the brain that promote better focus and enhanced balance.

Results are realized when the exercises are practiced as little as three times a week and sustained over several months.

Having Excess Energy in the Brain

Stress can result when too much energy is settled in the brain and just as a standing pool of water can become brackish, so energy that isn’t circulated becomes stagnant, leading to brain fog, lack of focus, and forgetfulness.

Excess energy in the brain can accumulate from worry, overthinking, or replaying loops of thoughts over and over. The good news is that it’s easy and quick to rid the body of the old qi and reinvigorate it with fresh energy, promoting greater mental acuity.

Qigong Exercises for the Brain

Here are a few simple exercises which are easy to learn and can be practiced in under 10 minutes. The first dispels stagnant qi and the following three exercises energize the brain.

Shake the Tree

Stand with feet hip length apart and gently shake the whole body for several minutes. Chronic stress creates cortisol which kills brain cells and contributes to memory loss. So, shake off stress while smiling slightly to signal your brain to relax and release feel good hormones. Do this for 2-3 minutes. Just shake everything lightly – arms, legs, hands, shoulders and head. Do it to music to make it more fun!

Energize Your Brain

Now that you’ve let go of old tension, you can energize your brain with fresh qi. Tap your forehead with your fingertips. This temporal tap brings fresh blood to the forebrain. Press in with your fingertips on the prominent bones of the forehead while taking a deep breath in through the nose and breathing out through the mouth.

This exercise improves the ability to think clearly. Now tap briskly all over the head. A variation is to knock with your knuckles all over the head to ‘awaken’ the brain. When you stop, feel and note the sensations in your brain. Any tingling or electricity is the new energy moving in your brain.

Rub Your Palms Together

Rub the palms of your hands together briskly until you feel warmth and/or tingling. Move your hands apart slightly and feel the subtle tug of energy between the palms. By energetically activating the hands you create a ‘qi ball’. Bring the energy you’ve developed up to the brain by bringing the palms up to the forehead.

You can place your palms directly on the forehead, or just in front of it. Doing this charges the front of the brain, responsible for concentration, with fresh energy. Now bring the hands to either side of the head and hold a minute or so and then to the back of the head, hold here briefly, again and finally charge the top of the head by holding your charged palms above the head an inch or so. The point is to feel the energy as a slight tingling or buzzing to know you’ve actually activated some movement.

The back of the brain is responsible for balance and the top of the brain is best with analyzing information and decision making. In addition, energizing the crown of the head has the effect of letting the qi flow down the body, much like water flowing downhill, which energizes the whole body. Regularly supplying new energy to the brain stimulates mental faculties which can have positive effects throughout the body. 

Massage Your Scalp

Finally, comb your fingers through your hair running from the hairline to the base of the neck covering every part of the scalp. Do this about 10 times. It’s both relaxing and invigorating.

Pay Attention to Your Body

When you’ve completed any or all of these exercises stop and become aware of the sensations in your head and body. Do you feel tingling, warmth, or pins and needles sensations? That’s the new energy circulating in your brain bringing fresh qi for greater health.

These exercises can be done in under 10 minutes, but when practiced regularly can pay huge dividends in overall brain health, better balance, improved cognition, focus, as well as greater relaxation and happiness. They’re fun and a great way to meet people!

Also read, Why Tai Chi is Amazing for the Health and Happiness of Older Women.

Please Join the Conversation:

Have you practiced Tai Chi or Qigong before? Please let us know if you had success with any of these exercises.

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