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Can NeuroDynamic Breathwork Help You Manage Chronic Pain?

Can NeuroDynamic Breathwork Help You Manage Chronic Pain

If you live with chronic pain, you may already know how deeply it can affect daily life. Pain doesn’t just live in the body – it can influence mood, energy, sleep, and even how safe or relaxed you feel in yourself.

Many women tell me they’ve tried a wide range of treatments. Some help a little. Some help for a while. But often, the pain returns – sometimes without a clear reason.

As a physician and NeuroDynamic Breathwork facilitator, I don’t see breathwork as a miracle solution. Instead, I see it as one supportive tool that can work alongside medical and non-medical treatments to help reduce pain, calm the nervous system, and support the body’s own ability to settle and regulate.

Let’s gently explore how breathwork may support chronic pain management – and why it can be especially helpful later in life.

Chronic Pain Is About More Than the Body

Chronic pain often begins with a physical cause – an injury, inflammation, or a medical condition. But over time, pain can become more complex.

Many people with long-term pain also notice:

  • Increased sensitivity to stress.
  • Muscle tension that returns easily.
  • Pain flares during emotionally demanding times.
  • Difficulty fully relaxing, even when resting.

This happens because the nervous system learns from experience. When pain repeats, the body may stay in a protective mode, always watching for danger. Muscles tighten. Sensations feel stronger. The body becomes guarded.

This doesn’t mean pain is imagined or “all in your head.” It means pain is experienced through the whole system – body, brain, and nervous system working together.

Where Breathwork Comes In

NeuroDynamic Breathwork is a guided practice that works with breathing, music, and body awareness to help the nervous system shift out of constant alertness.

Rather than forcing relaxation, breathwork allows the body to gradually feel safer. When the nervous system settles, the body may soften tension, improve circulation, and reduce pain signals.

Breathwork is not meant to replace medical care. Instead, it can be used alongside other pain-management approaches, including physiotherapy, medication, movement practices, and emotional support.

A Client Story: Dani’s Experience

One of my clients, Dani (shared with permission), came to breathwork hoping to build more resilience to stress. She often felt overwhelmed when thinking about upcoming responsibilities and wanted a way to feel calmer.

Dani also had a long history of myofascial pain syndrome. When her pain flared, it could significantly limit her daily activities for weeks. Over the years, she had tried injections, physiotherapy, and acupressure. These treatments helped – but relief was often slow and temporary.

The day before her second breathwork session, Dani noticed the familiar signs of a pain flare returning.

During the session, she became aware of warmth in the painful trigger-point areas. Instead of bracing against the sensation, her body seemed to soften naturally. By the end of the session, she felt deeply relaxed – and completely pain-free.

Two weeks later, she was still pain-free.

In addition to the physical changes, Dani noticed that she felt calmer overall and less overwhelmed by stress. She appreciated knowing what to expect at the start of each session and having space at the end to reflect and integrate what she experienced. Feeling supported helped her relax and trust her body.

Her story is not a promise or guarantee – but it shows what can be possible when the nervous system is given the chance to reset.

Why Calming the Nervous System Can Reduce Pain

When the nervous system stays in a protective state for too long, pain can persist even when the original injury has healed.

Breathwork helps by offering the body a direct experience of safety. When the body feels safer, muscles may release tension, and pain signals can quiet.

Many people notice during or after breathwork:

  • Warmth or flow in painful areas.
  • Reduced muscle tightness.
  • A sense of deep rest that feels different from sleep.
  • Less intensity or frequency of pain flares.

These changes often happen without effort or forcing. The body responds when it no longer feels it needs to stay on guard.

The Emotional Side of Chronic Pain

Chronic pain and emotional holding often go together. Stress, grief, fear, and long-term strain can all increase physical tension.

Breathwork doesn’t focus on “fixing” emotions. Instead, it allows emotions to move through the body safely, often without words. Some people experience tears, others insights, and others simply a sense of relief.

When emotional tension eases, the body often follows.

Breathwork Is Gentle – Not About Pushing Through

One important aspect of NeuroDynamic Breathwork is that it is self-regulated. Participants are encouraged to listen to their body and adjust their breathing if something feels too intense.

This isn’t about pushing through discomfort. It’s about allowing the body to guide the experience.

For women who have spent years pushing through pain, this can feel like a completely different way of relating to the body.

One Tool, Not the Only Answer

It’s important to be clear: breathwork is not the only solution for chronic pain.

It works best when used alongside:

  • Medical care
  • Physical therapies
  • Gentle movement
  • Emotional or psychological support
  • Lifestyle changes

Many people find that when their nervous system is calmer, other treatments work better. The body becomes more receptive, and healing feels less like a struggle.

Is Breathwork Right for You?

Breathwork isn’t suitable for everyone, and sessions should always be guided by a trained facilitator, especially for those with chronic conditions.

That said, many women find breathwork offers something they haven’t experienced before – a way to feel safe, supported, and connected to their body again.

A Gentle Invitation to Explore

If you live with chronic pain, you don’t need another promise of a miracle cure. What you may need is another supportive option.

NeuroDynamic Breathwork can be one part of a wider pain-management approach – helping calm the nervous system, reduce tension, and create space for the body to soften.

Sometimes, meaningful change begins not by doing more, but by allowing yourself to breathe.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

How often do you experience chronic pain? What has helped you and have you experienced real pain relief?

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Should You Buy a Home without Seeing It First?

Should You Buy a Home without Seeing It First

Buying a home is one of the largest purchases, if not the largest, you’ll make in your lifetime. And for women over 60, we want to be as careful as possible.

Traditionally, buying a home involved multiple visits and inspections. However, in the past few years since the beginning of the COVID-19 pandemic, buying homes sight-unseen has become more common.

Using advancements in technology and the support of a trustworthy real estate agent, buying a home without seeing it first can be a viable option for those over 60 who may not be able to travel, who see something they want and are afraid of losing it before they get there. It can be for any number of reasons.

To consider this option, you need to look at four important elements first:

  • Trusting your real estate agent
  • The role of virtual tours, Facetime and video calls
  • The importance of detailed inspections
  • Weighing the pros and cons

Here’s a closer look at each.

Trusting Your Real Estate Agent

One of the most critical factors in buying a home, with or without seeing it first, is having a trustworthy and experienced real estate agent.

Your REALTOR® can provide valuable insight and information about the property, the neighborhood, medical facilities, pet restrictions, and any potential issues.

They can also act as your eyes and ears on the ground, ensuring that you have all the necessary information to make an informed decision.

A knowledgeable real estate agent will be familiar with the local market and guide you through the entire process, from that first contact to closing. They can help you navigate any challenges that may arise and ensure that all your questions are answered.

If you trust your Realtor and feel confident in their expertise, buying a home sight-unseen can be a successful experience.

The Role of Virtual Tours and Video Calls

Technology has made it easier than ever to view homes from a distance. We can be connected within seconds today.

Facetime, Tango, WhatsApp or Skype are invaluable tools for buyers who cannot visit a property in person.

Many real estate listings now include 3D virtual tours that allow you to explore the home room by room, giving you a comprehensive view of the property, along with floor plans.

During a video tour, your agent will walk you through the home, explain what you are seeing, and point out any specific details. They will answer any questions you may have in real time. Does the community accept your pets? Are there medical facilities nearby? How about services for my pets? Questions that are important to you.

This interactive experience can help you get a better sense of the home’s layout, condition, and overall appeal to you.

The Importance of Inspections

Whenever you buy a home, it’s crucial to have an inspection.

A professional home inspection can identify any potential issues that may not be visible during a virtual tour. Your real estate agent will put you in touch with an inspector who will examine the property and provide a detailed report on its condition.

In addition to a general home inspection, you should also consider inspections for issues like pests, mold or more, depending on where you live. Talk to your agent and your inspector and see what they recommend.

These inspections can provide peace of mind and ensure that you are fully aware of any potential problems before finalizing the purchase.

Weighing the Pros and Cons

Buying a home without seeing it first has both advantages and disadvantages. Here’s a closer look at the pros and cons:

Pros:

  • Convenience: You can view and purchase a home without traveling, which is especially beneficial if you are relocating from a different city or state, if you’re not well enough to travel or need to make a quick decision.
  • Technology: Virtual tours and video calls provide detailed views of the property, making it easier to assess the home from a distance.

Cons:

  • Lack of Physical Presence: You miss out on the experience of physically walking through the home and getting a feel for the space.
  • Reliance on Others: You must rely heavily on your real estate agent and inspectors to provide accurate and comprehensive information.

What Should You Consider Before Buying Sight-Unseen?

Consider the reliability of your real estate agent, the availability of virtual tours, and the importance of detailed inspections. Weigh the pros and cons carefully.

How Can a Real Estate Agent Help with Buying Sight-Unseen?

A good real estate agent can provide valuable insight and guide you through the entire process, ensuring you make an informed decision.

Buying a home without seeing it first can be a practical option, especially with the advancements in technology and the support of a knowledgeable real estate agent.

If you have any questions or need assistance, consulting a good experienced real estate agent can provide you with the guidance needed to make the right decision.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Are you a baby boomer looking to buy a home virtually? Are you planning a move in the near future? Do you have any questions that might help make your home purchase easier? Let’s talk about it!

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Real Housewives of Potomac Season 10 Episode 14 Fashion

Real Housewives of Potomac Season 10 Episode 14 Fashion

The Potomac girls packed the cutest styles for their trip to Colorado on last night’s episode of #RHOP. They headed west with plunging necklines, shimmering sequins and fabulous fringe. Since some of these pretty pieces are still in stock to snag, it’s time to say howdy to a chic new look. 🤠

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Keiarna Stewart’s Purple Baroque Confessional Look

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What Are You Transitioning to in 2026?

What Are You Transitioning to in 2026

For many of us, 2025 was a bittersweet year. Perhaps this is true of most years as we look back. For me personally, there were challenging moments, including health challenges and family challenges. As Thich Nhat Hanh says, “When there is no mud, then there’s no lotus.” There is usually light at the end of the tunnel as we garner wisdom from the difficult times in our lives. Sometimes it’s hard to find the light in the midst of darkness, but if we wait, or look hard enough, it is always there.

I am grateful that from my father, I learned to see the glass as half full instead of half empty. He taught me the habit of waking up in the morning and thinking two things that I’m grateful for, a practice that has the potential to set the tone for our day.

Leaving the Year of the Snake Behind

In general, I don’t live my life according to the messages of the Zodiac calendar; however, I do find some information both informative and entertaining. At this moment, and until the start of the Chinese New Year on February 17th, we are transitioning from the Year of the Snake to the Year of the Fire Horse.

The Year of the Snake was marked by a shedding and letting go, compounded by inner growth, renewal, transformation and subconscious healing. As a writer, this suited me and my tendency to go inward or sit in front of my computer creating poems and essays.

Embracing the Chinese Year of the Fire Horse

I am excited about coming into the Year of the Fire Horse, primarily because I was born in the Year of the Horse. According to the Chinese Zodiac, this new year is supposed to be a good year for me! The Year of the Horse is typically characterized by dynamic energy, clarity, freedom, courage, breakthroughs and perhaps a sense of independence.

It’s also a year of action and embracing the momentum, like we see in the forward motion of a horse. For me, this brings to mind the image of watching my mother ride her horse in the corral near her stable on Long Island, New York. She used to take me there every Sunday, and I would watch her until I developed an allergy to horses and refused to go.

Why New Year Resolutions Don’t Work for Me

Unlike when I was younger, I no longer create New Year’s resolutions. Historically, they have never worked for me. I’d give them a try for a few weeks after the start of the year, and then before long, I’d forget them to the point where I’d need to be reminded what I’d committed to – and, of course, by that time, they were broken.

More often than not, people who create resolutions want to lose weight or follow a new exercise regimen. Certainly, resolutions make for good New Year’s Eve conversations.

Trying Something New

These days I’m more inclined to set New Year intentions. My intention for 2026 is to work on creating more of a sense of community. Ever since the pandemic, most of the world has been dealing with a loneliness epidemic. People are not reaching out as much. Many have resigned themselves to being alone. They have taken up solo activities and decided that this is okay.

Last January, there was an article in The Atlantic entitled, “Americans Need to Party More.” The article claimed that one in eight Americans do not have any friends, and “only 4.1 percent of Americans actually attended or hosted a social event on an average weekend or holiday in 2023.” I found this astounding, given that humans are social creatures.

So that I am not a part of any upcoming statistics, I kicked off the year with a New Year’s Day Party! After sending out the invitations, I was amazed at the enthusiasm; almost everyone said that they would come. This response confirmed that there is a dire need to come together.

Another important coming-together experience in 2025 was the release of my anthology, Women in a Golden State: California Poets 60 and Over. Not only were my co-editor Chryss Yost and I overwhelmed with the response to the Call for Submissions, but when it came time to organize book readings, the interest and enthusiasm were remarkable.

Women even talked about arranging a bus tour around the state for readings. While the book is a collection of wonderful poetry, the real enthusiasm came from a sort of coming together as kindred spirits – in a way many of us had not felt since the hippie era of the 1960s. It shows just how much community is needed.

Ideas to Help with Loneliness in Your Community

If you are inspired to come together with your community to combat loneliness, here are some ideas:

  • Join interest-based groups (book groups, walking groups, gardening, crafting).
  • Take classes at your local adult-learning center.
  • Volunteer at places of need (homeless shelters, museums, animal shelters, hospitals).
  • Host a dinner party of kindred spirits or people you have not seen in a while.
  • Join a game group (canasta, bridge, Mahjongg, Scrabble, etc.).
  • Join or create an intergenerational group (mentoring, tutoring, gardening, book clubs).

Wishing you all a happy and healthy New Year!

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I’m Defining the Next Chapter in Life as Retirement

I’m Defining the Next Chapter in Life as Retirement

You may be very near or have entered your retirement years. Is that good or bad? Did you float to this time in your life without acknowledging that it is near? Did you see it coming and embrace it with gusto? How you feel now falls in one of two categories: I have planned for this moment, or I haven’t planned for this moment.

I Planned My Next Chapter 

We should be embracing this time in our life where we see the end of one chapter and the start of a new chapter. A new chapter that allows moments of freedom. 

I look forward to beginning that chapter in my life. I have planned for that blessed event – retirement. Or better yet, the Lord helped me plan for the blessed event. The steps in my life lead up to the moment when that retirement day arrives. 

Does that mean retirement planning starts late in life or early in life? I believe retirement planning should start early in life. But does it? Are we too young to think about the latter years? Or, does it mean we are focused on other things in our life? 

Retirement planning for me was something I thought about in my early years, as I had parents that focused on retirement, and I always wanted to be like them.

However, my plans just didn’t work out. Let me share with you how the direction in my life changed.

I was headed in a different direction in my 30s. I wanted to do what I wanted to do. I wanted to start my business as a Life Coach full time while raising two sons as a single mother. This was my thought after I completed my Doctorate.

What Did I Do?

I quit my job and started my Life Coaching business (Life Strategies Coaching Firm) full time. My sister, an attorney, told me not to sign a two-year lease for office space. I did anyway. How did this work out for me? Not the best. I managed to hold out for almost two years.

What was I thinking? That’s it – I wasn’t thinking, I wanted what I wanted. There is nothing wrong with having ambition. But as a Christian, we need to be in concert with the Lord on our journey in this difficult world. We are to walk with the Lord and not in front of him. I was in front, and nothing went as planned, regardless of how well I thought I had it figured out.  

The Lord put a wrench in my plan by slowing my momentum. I could no longer support my business and my family, financially. I was back to searching for full-time employment. Lots of doors were closed to me as a Registered Nurse. No one would give me a job and not even easy jobs that should have been a coup. I was getting desperate. 

Finally, the Lord Opened the Door! 

The Lord opened the door, and I went through it. The income was poor and many of my family/friends said to find another job. But I held on, and I rocked that job. I knew I was where I was supposed to be, and I was at peace. I kept walking along that path with the Lord; he kept showing me the way. He showed me how to live a life trusting him to provide for me and my sons. Remember, I said the income was way below my usual pay grade. 

He gave me good gifts. Somehow the money was always there to pay bills and fix things in the house. 

That job led to many wonderful things, including longevity at one employer, excellent retirement benefits, and eventually, a good salary. Also, I gained expert knowledge to help me in my role as a Wellness Coach for my future business. 

I Started Jumping Ahead, Again!

When I finally decided I was ready to retire and I needed to come up with a date, it never came to be. It kept changing from one date to the next. My eldest son would say, “Mom, you said four years, now it is six years.” The truth is, I did not bring the Lord into my retirement planning. I was running wild, again! 

One day, I stopped and prayed and asked the Lord to help me. I stopped thinking about retirement, and I focused on the here and now. We are not promised one day to the next. When I finally settled into walking with him on this issue – one day, the Lord told me that I can plan for retirement. I had peace and a clear action plan with the Lord’s blessing.

What Does That Look Like

Make sure you have reduced your debt or plan to pay off your debt before you retire. Why go into retirement with mortgage, personal loans, and car loan payments?

  • Plan to pay these off. 
  • Have a savings plan, 401k, 403B, or Pension. You should have been paying into these plans long before you reach retirement age 61-up. If you have not done this, reach out to a financial planner. 
  • Include Social Security and Medicare benefits. 
  • Make sure you include taxes and financial planning. 
  • Plan for keeping active during retirement. That could look like spending time with family, traveling, starting your own business, starting a hobby that you have always enjoyed, engaging in activities that you had always wanted to do, volunteering or many other things that you could do. 

So, think about how you will accomplish these goals. And if you need help getting started, reach out to me and I will help you navigate this journey.

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