Madison LeCroy’s Beige Floral Cardigan on Her Instastories

Southern Charm 2021 Instagram Fashion

Madison LeCroy looked sooo cute in her beige floral cardigan on her Instastories. Yes, for all you The Devil Wears Prada fans, florals are usually for Spring. But when they come on a cozy cardigan like this, why not rock them in the Winter? Thankfully you easily can because her cardigan is fully stocked and ready to help your floral collection grow.

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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Originally posted at: Madison LeCroy’s Beige Floral Cardigan

Are you over 50, divorced and – despite all your professional success and beautiful home you’ve created for yourself – afraid to step on anybody’s toes? 

Are you the kind of woman who, despite wanting to take Friday afternoon for yourself to run errands and get ready for the week ahead, regretfully says “yes” when your grown daughter asks you to watch your grandson at the last minute? 

Or how about when you’re enjoying your vacation, a margarita in your hand as you sun yourself by the hotel pool, and a text comes in from that one friend who complains all the time but never bothers to ask how you’re doing. Even though you’ve been friends for decades.

If this sounds like you, you’re not alone. Many divorced women over 50 struggle with people-pleasing.

In my work as a divorce recovery coach for women over 50, the most common struggle women deal with is the need to people-please, even at the expense of their own health and happiness. 

But that ends today. In these 3 steps, you can learn to let go of people-pleasing with 100% confidence and 0% guilt. 

Step 1: Understand the Source of Your People-Pleasing 

None of us were born people-pleasers. 

But as we started to grow up, we most likely learned that keeping our room clean, not getting into fights with our siblings, making sure we didn’t tear or stain our clothes, and getting straight A’s would get positive attention from our parents. So even at a young age, we started to associate making other people happy with being recognized and praised. 

As part of your marriage, you probably attached a lot of your self-esteem onto how healthy your marriage was, and what your husband thought of you. 

It’s no surprise that even after the divorce, you were a people-pleaser, turning your attention to not wanting to let anybody at work down or your family down or your family group down. 

But it’s not your fault. Women are conditioned at an early age to not rock the boat, to be the perfect daughter, the perfect sister and friend and wife and co-worker and mother and aunt, so much that we aren’t even aware of the fact that we can say no and not feel guilty. 

Your need to people-please was a survival mechanism that helped you navigate your life until this point. But it’s no longer serving you. It’s time to let go. 

Step 2: Recognize the Danger of People-Pleasing

Like most women over 50, you may be kicking yourself, using negative self-talk such as “Agggggh why do I do this?” 

You get mad. 

You know you need to stop. 

But then you take no serious action to change the behavior. 

So what happens is you acknowledge that people-pleasing helped you up until this point, but you then stay stuck, unable to move on after your divorce. 

That’s a dangerous position to put yourself in after 50. Because the more you sacrifice your own happiness, your own convenience, and your own boundaries, the more you tell yourself: 

• That your needs aren’t a priority.
• That you don’t deserve to be happy.

You would *never* tell somebody you cared about those terrible things. But every time you people-please, that is exactly what you’re telling yourself. 

It’s no wonder that you feel stuck right now. It’s not a surprise that you still feel frustrated and lonely and unable to move on after divorce. It’s because you’ve let people run all over you without taking into consideration what you need. 

And if you continue down this path, the following will happen:

• You won’t build the self-esteem and internal value you absolutely need and deserve.
• You’ll continue to let people intrude on your boundaries and put their needs above your own. 
• You’ll remain stuck, missing out on the incredible post-divorce life of your dreams that you deserve. 

I don’t want that for you. You deserve better. 

Step 3: Start Putting Yourself First. Even If You’re Divorced. Even If You’re Over 50

It’s time for you to: 

Say “No” to Things That No Longer Give You Joy, Even If…

• You’ve said yes before
• You’re afraid people will be “mad” at you if you do
• You feel guilty for doing so. 

Remember – it no longer matters if somebody doesn’t like you saying no. And every time you say no, remember that you are deriving a whisper of internal value and worth, because you put yourself first.

Those whispers will one day become the roar that you use to resonate your own self-love, boundaries, and worth – things that nobody can take away from you because you built them internally and didn’t rely on others to give to you.

Say “Yes” to Things That…

• Fill your cup and make you feel energized
• Let you see your internal value and worth, instead of causing you to question it
• Make you feel confident, beautiful, and powerful.

I get that it can be easier said than done, especially if you grew up with the mindset that you should be happy just with what you have. But that messaging was created to make you doubt yourself and pull you into the people-pleasing mindset that takes and takes but never gives back. 

It’s time for you to kick that old messaging to the curb. 

Now is the time for you to let go of people-pleasing. It no longer serves you and is keeping you stuck. 

The time to put yourself first after divorce is now. 

Here is your golden opportunity to cast aside those old mindsets. 

You are a new woman with boundaries and strength. 

It’s your turn. 

Do you struggle with people-pleasing, even in your 50s and beyond? What one small step will you take today to let go of this self-destructing behavior? 

The holidays tend to be an incredibly busy time. Many people seem to be moving at an accelerated pace with an increased sense of urgency, and this time of year can be demanding and stressful as people run around checking off items on their to-do list.

When you get caught up in the frenzy, it’s easy to lose sight of the real meaning of the holiday season. Focus on the simple things – make time for others, do good deeds, express love and promote peace.

If you discover that your joy and peace are slipping away, slow down and slip into self-care mode. Your health depends on it. Finding joy and peace in the midst of the frantic rush does not have to be challenging.

Let me share my 12 ways to pamper yourself and boost your mood this season.

Watch a Funny Movie or a Holiday Classic

Humor can lift your mood in a snap. And a heartwarming seasonal video can positively influence your day. Noelle and Elf are two delightful movies to add to your list. Sit back, relax and enjoy the therapeutic pleasures of laughter.

Listen to Soft Music by the Fireplace

Nothing beats sitting in a comfy chair with a hot cup of herbal tea and deliciously soothing tunes playing in the background. Ahh! Include music on your list of restorative practices. For starters, check out harpist Georgia Kelly’s Garden of the Sun album.

Invite a Friend to Lunch

During these challenging times, connecting with those we hold near and dear is essential to our overall wellbeing. Catching up over coffee or a lovely meal will supply you with heaping portions of goodness. Consider scheduling your we-time often.

Treat Yourself to a Personal Service

What type of personal indulgence do you enjoy? Manicure? Facial? Massage? One of my favorite stress-busters is Swedish massage, and I’m way overdue for my one-hour, full-body treatment. Of course, making an appointment for any personal service of your choice will make you feel wonderful and brighten your day.

Savor a Book on Your Reading List

Sometimes we get so busy with our to-do list that we forget the simple pleasures of immersing ourselves in a great book. Many people prefer the convenience of e-books, but since my business requires a lot of screen time, I like to give my eyes a break from electronics.

And there’s nothing like holding a book in hand, savoring the text and making notations in the margins. Plus, I like to see the physical copy on my coffee table with my beautiful bookmark, as I anticipate the next chapter.

Close Your Eyes and Follow a Guided Meditation

Quiet me-time is a daily practice that benefits the body, mind and spirit. Add your favorite conscious deep-breathing technique, and you now have a simple, healthy habit that can be practiced anywhere, anytime. Try diaphragmatic breathing. It’s one of the most practical methods to support your body’s organs and immune system.

Enjoy a Live Concert

As venues begin to reopen, consider treating yourself and a bestie to a show. My cousin invited me to see the live Johnny Mathis Christmas Show this weekend. It will be my first performance since the pandemic started, and I am looking forward to celebrating this magical season with her. Treating yourself to a live event can feel exhilarating.

Take a Warm Herbal Bath by Candlelight

Taking a long, luxurious soak in your bathtub is the ultimate relaxation ritual that will have you floating peacefully into the evening. Bathing is not only great for the immune system, it soothes your soul. Add a few drops of your favorite essential oils to your diffuser, pour in a half-cup of Epsom salt to your warm tub of water, dim the lights, and light a candle. Sounds marvelous, doesn’t it?

Spend Time in Nature

I always say nature is my spiritual supplement. I savor my time in the great outdoors because there’s nothing like it anywhere else. Each season offers a delightful landscape in which to engage. Natural settings can ease your burden, provide renewed energy and reward you with fresh perspectives.

Take a Yoga Class

The health benefits of exercise have been well documented. Experts say that a regular fitness protocol can help lower risks of disease, improve circulation, elevate mood, reduce stress, improve strength, support brain health, and more. Yoga is particularly appealing because it bolsters mindfulness and promotes relaxation.

Listen to Motivational Audios

Inspirational audios are plentiful online. Powerful lessons of hope and triumph can be uplifting and encourage you to take action. What type of message do you require today? Your thought-provoking selections are just a click away. Begin by typing “inspirational audios” and “motivational audios” in your search bar.

Bake or Donate to a Cause

Small acts of kindness not only benefit the receiver but also the giver. You know the saying, “The more you do for others, the more you do for yourself?” That’s because expressions of gratitude and thanksgiving are examples of self-care.

Create joy during this festive season. Consider making yummy treats for your local fire and police departments, letting them know you appreciate their service. Maybe you’d like to give a gift to a local charity or donate to an organization’s holiday wish list.

Take time to pamper yourself! Jean Shinoda Bolen said, “When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.” While the holiday season can seem overwhelming, we must not lose sight of the reason for the season. You will be more available to share your love and light when you practice self-care.

What self-care rituals do you practice during the holidays? How do they help your mood?

You know those moments in life where you think to yourself, “I just peaked.” Well, I had one of those the other day when an email from none other than Selena Gomez herself came through to my inbox. Did I jump? A little. Did I tear up? That’s for me to know and you to also know because the answer is yes. Did I call my mom and celebrate the historic moment? 100 percent. But, the email wasn’t so much for me as it was for you, my dear StyleCaster readers, because it was filled with gift ideas from the Grammy nominee herself.

See, we love Gomez and her vegan beauty line here, and clearly you all do, too (we’ve got the stats to prove it, people). So, we teamed up with her to come up with a gift guide curated of her seven top favorite Rare Beauty picks that make for the best presents.

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These include everything from lip creams to concealers. They’re things that your best friend would fawn over, and that your mom would probably Google after one use. Mine can’t be the only one who does a deep dive on a new product she loves…

Below, check out Selena’s holiday gift guide and see what she had to say about each of these goodies. She might have to add salesperson to her ever-growing resume, because she had me adding everything to cart in under five minutes—and I have the feeling you may do the same.

Courtesy of Rare Beauty.

Selena’s Faves 4 Piece Mini Set

In one four-piece set, you get everything you need in a makeup routine, including blush, mascara, highlighter and lip cream. They’re also the perfect size to bring with you for retouching your look at work, on a date, or in the midst of a night out.

“These are my absolute must-haves for creating a full, fresh-faced look in a flash,” Gomez said.

Courtesy of Rare Beauty.

Lip Soufflé Matte Lip Cream Duo

Why yes, we will be taking any and all tips Selena has to achieve the perfect pout, especially if they’re as simple as snagging a wear-anywhere on any occasion lip duo.

“This kit has two wearable neutrals that can be worn day or night,” she said. “They also look gorgeous mixed together!”

Courtesy of Rare Beauty.

Perfect Strokes Universal Volumizing Mascara

“While I was creating this product, I learned that finding a mascara that works for you is just as personal as finding your go-to foundation,” Gomez explained. “This is truly a universal mascara that works for everyone.”

Hey, if it works for her, it works for us.

Courtesy of Rare Beauty.

Perfect Strokes Matte Liquid Liner

“I LOVE a bold winged liner look, and this liner makes it so easy to get it precise,” she said.

It’s made with 1,00 vegan bristles that are shaped so that your stroke looks professionally made each time—a relief for us and anyone else who’s gone through way too many cotton balls and makeup remover over the years.

Courtesy of Rare Beauty.

Soft Pinch Liquid Blush

“There’s nothing like a soft hint of blush to add dimension and color to your look and I LOVE this new shade,” she wrote.

So true, bestie of our dreams.

Courtesy of Rare Beauty.

Liquid Touch Weightless Foundation

This isn’t your mother’s cakey foundation. According to Gomez, this weightless medium coverage option “just melts onto your skin, so you forget you’re wearing anything.”

Courtesy of Rare Beauty.

Liquid Touch Brightening Concealer

Is there a greater gift than a new go-to makeup product? We don’t think so. This brightening concealer is “a quick and easy way to brighten dark areas or hide blemishes,” Gomez says. Truly, nothing is better than efficiency and minimal effort.

Heather Dubrow’s Black Leather Tie Waist Pants on Instagram

Real Housewives of Orange County 2021 Instagram Fashion

Heather Dubrow looked lovely in her black leather tie waist pants on Instagram. We all know she certainly knows how to throw a party and how to throw a lewk together to do so. So if you are as obsessed with her leather pants as we are then Cupid’s shuffle down to the links below to get a pair for yourself!

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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Originally posted at: Heather Dubrow’s Black Leather Tie Waist Pants