Although I devoured every season of Selling Sunset the second it hit Netflix, I feel like I don’t really know Christine Quinn. Much like Paris Hilton in her Simple Life days, It was obvious Quinn was playing a bit of a character, one people love to hate. Well, that “bad bitch” persona caught the attention of Ciaté London founder Charlotte Knight. Two years later and the Christine Quinn x Ciaté London collection is born.

“She watched the show and she was like, ‘I see something in you,’ Quinn says of her meeting with the Ciaté London founder. “‘I love the duality of your personality. I see the character that you play but I know that’s not you. I see this sassy vixen but I also know there’s this sweet girl there.’” This vibe went perfectly with Ciaté’s Glitter Flip lipstick, where there are two sides to every shade. The duo connected right away. “It was really organic and natural,” says Quinn. “She’s an amazing boss and businesswoman.”

Keep reading for my convo with Quinn while she was on a break from filming Selling Sunset to learn more about her first makeup collaboration, how she fell in love with the beauty world and that black wedding dress.

Our mission at STYLECASTER is to bring style to the people, and we only feature products we think you’ll love as much as we do. Please note that if you purchase something by clicking on a link within this story, we may receive a small commission of the sale.

Ciaté London.

How Her Texas Roots Inspired Her Love of Makeup

“Where I grew up in Texas, everyone was a debutante every day of their life,” says Quinn. “I went to school with a lot of pageant girls, I wasn’t one of them — I was a theater nerd — but they were always so beautiful with the hair and the makeup.” She was especially drawn to a bold red lip while watching old Hollywood movies and Marilyn Monroe films. That’s why her collection includes a plumping red gloss. “That’s one thing I always have a hard finding, a lip with pigment that has the plumping that I love,” she adds.

Source: Instagram

How She’s Learn to Love the Skin She’s In

When Quinn moved to Los Angeles, she was a bit intimidated by the more laid-back West Coast idea of beauty. “I was going to auditions looking at everyone else thinking they’re so naturally pretty!” she says. Quinn “equated makeup and glam to beauty” and it took a while for her to realize she was naturally beautiful, too. Now, there are days the new mom skips makeup entirely. “I never wear makeup if I’m not working,” she says. “I feel like I’m a catfish when I go out. I love to give my skin a break. If I’m not working, I’ll do mascara if I’m headed out but that’s really it.

Source: Instagram

How She Defines Her Personal Style

“It’s constantly evolving but I say I’m this dominatrix Barbie,” says Quinn. “I like to play with different colors.” She experiments with more feminine styles but adds her own edgy twist — just like her viral glam-meets-goth wedding and her black dress that had everyone talking.

“I don’t want to take the credit. My sister was the one who got married first in a black wedding dress,” says Quinn. “She inspired me. I really snowballed it — no pun intended — and figured if I’m wearing black, I really love the contrast of this winter wonderland.” As a nod to her theater roots, she added a “Wicked element” with her own twist.

Ciaté London.

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Her Favorite Product from the Collection

While filming the show, Quinn applies lotion to her body, and her makeup artist dusts on the No Filt-Her Universal Complexion Brightener. Although it’s technically for the face, she loves it head to toe. “I tried it without lotion and it stuck to my body really well so I was using it on my clavicle, my shoulders, all over my legs,” she says. “I was really surprised how well this worked not just on the face but all over the body, too.”

She’s also excited about the ultra-unique product packaging with drawings from her favorite New York street artist 1penemy. “He’s known for these famous portraits he does of celebrities like they’re in jail,” she says. “He actually painted me and it’s in my house. I just loved that picture. So we worked with him to create this bad girl vibe with a cute sweet side.”

This isn’t the last we’ll see of Quinn in the beauty space. But for now, you can shop all her Ciaté London products, below.

Ciaté London.

Christine Quinn Drama Queen Heat Transforming Lip Cream

This innovative Heat Flip Lip Cream shifts to another color and switches back as the temperature changes. Drama Queen is Quinn’s favorite soft matte nude that deepens in color.

”Drama

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Ciaté London.

Christine Quinn Ca$H Fetish Heat Transforming Lip Cream

On the flip side, Ca$h Fetish is a brighter — and then deeper — Bordeaux red.

”Ca$H

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Ciaté London.

Christine Quinn Villain Pump Plump Lip Gloss

This red-tinted gloss subtly plumps lips with hyaluronic filling spheres that the appearance of fine lines.

”Villain

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Ciaté London.

Christine Quinn No Filt-Her Universal Complexion Brightener

Here’s that sheer complexion brightener and setting powder Quinn loves so much!

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Ciaté London.

Christine Quinn Bo$$ B*Tch Eyeshadow Palette

This warm neutral palette features nine pigment-rich shadows for a natural-looking glam. Add the diamond-bright shimmer to your inner corners for a Christine Quinn-inspired glow.

”Bo$$

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Although I devoured every season of Selling Sunset the second it hit Netflix, I feel like I don’t really know Christine Quinn. Much like Paris Hilton in her Simple Life days, It was obvious Quinn was playing a bit of a character, one people love to hate. Well, that “bad bitch” persona caught the attention of Ciaté London founder Charlotte Knight. Two years later and the Christine Quinn x Ciaté London collection is born.

“She watched the show and she was like, ‘I see something in you,’ Quinn says of her meeting with the Ciaté London founder. “‘I love the duality of your personality. I see the character that you play but I know that’s not you. I see this sassy vixen but I also know there’s this sweet girl there.’” This vibe went perfectly with Ciaté’s Glitter Flip lipstick, where there are two sides to every shade. The duo connected right away. “It was really organic and natural,” says Quinn. “She’s an amazing boss and businesswoman.”

Keep reading for my convo with Quinn while she was on a break from filming Selling Sunset to learn more about her first makeup collaboration, how she fell in love with the beauty world and that black wedding dress.

Our mission at STYLECASTER is to bring style to the people, and we only feature products we think you’ll love as much as we do. Please note that if you purchase something by clicking on a link within this story, we may receive a small commission of the sale.

Ciaté London.

How Her Texas Roots Inspired Her Love of Makeup

“Where I grew up in Texas, everyone was a debutante every day of their life,” says Quinn. “I went to school with a lot of pageant girls, I wasn’t one of them — I was a theater nerd — but they were always so beautiful with the hair and the makeup.” She was especially drawn to a bold red lip while watching old Hollywood movies and Marilyn Monroe films. That’s why her collection includes a plumping red gloss. “That’s one thing I always have a hard finding, a lip with pigment that has the plumping that I love,” she adds.

Source: Instagram

How She’s Learn to Love the Skin She’s In

When Quinn moved to Los Angeles, she was a bit intimidated by the more laid-back West Coast idea of beauty. “I was going to auditions looking at everyone else thinking they’re so naturally pretty!” she says. Quinn “equated makeup and glam to beauty” and it took a while for her to realize she was naturally beautiful, too. Now, there are days the new mom skips makeup entirely. “I never wear makeup if I’m not working,” she says. “I feel like I’m a catfish when I go out. I love to give my skin a break. If I’m not working, I’ll do mascara if I’m headed out but that’s really it.

Source: Instagram

How She Defines Her Personal Style

“It’s constantly evolving but I say I’m this dominatrix Barbie,” says Quinn. “I like to play with different colors.” She experiments with more feminine styles but adds her own edgy twist — just like her viral glam-meets-goth wedding and her black dress that had everyone talking.

“I don’t want to take the credit. My sister was the one who got married first in a black wedding dress,” says Quinn. “She inspired me. I really snowballed it — no pun intended — and figured if I’m wearing black, I really love the contrast of this winter wonderland.” As a nod to her theater roots, she added a “Wicked element” with her own twist.

Ciaté London.

”Christine

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Her Favorite Product from the Collection

While filming the show, Quinn applies lotion to her body, and her makeup artist dusts on the No Filt-Her Universal Complexion Brightener. Although it’s technically for the face, she loves it head to toe. “I tried it without lotion and it stuck to my body really well so I was using it on my clavicle, my shoulders, all over my legs,” she says. “I was really surprised how well this worked not just on the face but all over the body, too.”

She’s also excited about the ultra-unique product packaging with drawings from her favorite New York street artist 1penemy. “He’s known for these famous portraits he does of celebrities like they’re in jail,” she says. “He actually painted me and it’s in my house. I just loved that picture. So we worked with him to create this bad girl vibe with a cute sweet side.”

This isn’t the last we’ll see of Quinn in the beauty space. But for now, you can shop all her Ciaté London products, below.

Ciaté London.

Christine Quinn Drama Queen Heat Transforming Lip Cream

This innovative Heat Flip Lip Cream shifts to another color and switches back as the temperature changes. Drama Queen is Quinn’s favorite soft matte nude that deepens in color.

”Drama

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Ciaté London.

Christine Quinn Ca$H Fetish Heat Transforming Lip Cream

On the flip side, Ca$h Fetish is a brighter — and then deeper — Bordeaux red.

”Ca$H

ucts%2Fchristine-quinn-cash-fetish-heat-transforming-lip-cream” price=”$19″ target=”_blank” narrativ=”include” button_type=”default”/]

Ciaté London.

Christine Quinn Villain Pump Plump Lip Gloss

This red-tinted gloss subtly plumps lips with hyaluronic filling spheres that the appearance of fine lines.

”Villain

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Ciaté London.

Christine Quinn No Filt-Her Universal Complexion Brightener

Here’s that sheer complexion brightener and setting powder Quinn loves so much!

”No

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Ciaté London.

Christine Quinn Bo$$ B*Tch Eyeshadow Palette

This warm neutral palette features nine pigment-rich shadows for a natural-looking glam. Add the diamond-bright shimmer to your inner corners for a Christine Quinn-inspired glow.

”Bo$$

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When I think of detachment, I think of a husband unlovingly detached from his wife, or a depressed mother who is detached and uninvolved with her child.

In these contexts, detachment occurs in unhealthy relationships. Indeed, the ‘problem’ in each of these situations is the detachment itself. But are there times when detachment can be a healthy thing?

I initially bristled at this idea. I approach my relationships and pursuits with passion. The ability to invest my energy totally or give my heart fully is such a part of who I am that functioning with detachment was unthinkable.

But there is another way to look at detachment.

The Attachment of Mothers

When I became a mom, I studied the ‘attachment theory’ as I was trying to decide how I would mother my family. While balancing career and motherhood, I wondered if being available, especially to young children, would be of value to them.

The research suggested that there are enormous benefits to the child. I read about a British researcher named John Bowlby who studied maternal deprivation. He looked at how separation from mothers affected children in the 1950s.

Bowlby warned against separating children from their mothers, even less-than-perfect mothers. His reasons were that such deprivation put the children at increased risk for physical and mental illness.

He thought that such separations thwarted the child’s instinctual need to keep mom close by. This was demonstrated by such behaviors as sucking, clinging and following mom.

In a landmark work on the subject, Bowlby outlined his underlying belief that a child needs a reliable, ongoing attachment to a primary caregiver and that she suffers, perhaps irreparably, if that attachment is interrupted or lost.

Bowlby believed that the young child’s hunger for his mother’s love and presence is as great as his hunger for food, and that her absence inevitably generates a powerful sense of loss and anger.

Bowlby was the first in a long line of experts whose research substantiates what mother wisdom has told us all along. Our babies need us. In fact, her emotional attachment to you is crucial to her emotional development. The effect of parental absence on children can be devastating.

It was obvious to me that children need the consistent, available love of their mothers. Without it, they feel unloved and may experience difficulty in intimate relationships for the rest of their lives.

Based on research, as well as the longings of my own heart, I left my career to be a full-time mother to my children.

Too Much Attachment

Having raised four young souls to adulthood, I am now asking if there can be such a thing as being too attached.

Sometimes, this attachment to our children can become problematic. As the child grows and their universe expands, moms can have trouble letting go. With mom remaining too strongly attached, the bond can become unhealthy.

For some of us, that attachment functions almost like an addiction, serving to make us dependent and unhappy. What happens when we are overly attached to our child, and that person rejects us, or becomes estranged from us? We can begin to feel anxious and depressed, frustrated, irritated or angry.

When we feel less than whole without the love of our child, we can feel fearful, jealous, hopeless, and disconnected. So, is there a way to care, yet not care? To love, but be detached in a healthy way? If you have suffered the loss of love or the estrangement of a child, what can we learn from this?

Black and White Thinking

As we process our feelings about our children, we can grow in our thinking as well.

In his book, therapist Ryan Elliott, MSW says, “It’s not an either/or dilemma. This is preoperational thinking – in other words, thinking characterized by children under the age of 7.

“Black and white thinking, right vs. wrong thinking, either or thinking, once something is one way it can’t be changed kind of thinking, the law is the law type of thinking. Mature thinking is mediated by mercy and understanding.”

The choice is not just to love, or not love. In other words, thinking our only choice is to love or not love is immature thinking. It is not a black or white issue.

As a goal of detaching from an estranged child, we can learn to love, but not have the behavior or estrangement make us crazy. It requires maturity on our part. And maybe some therapy.

Are you too attached to your grown children? Has that attachment caused problems for you? How does the idea of detaching from your child make you feel? Please share your thoughts below.

“I don’t need it. I don’t want it. I’m not gonna buy it.” Say it three times and walk away. Say it and feel fabulous. You’re a part of a new anti-consumerism movement that will help you feel like a millionaire.

The anti-consumerism movement began as a reaction to the ‘haul’ videos prevalent on YouTube. If you’ve never seen one, here is the basic concept: A young woman (usually) sits in front of a camera with shopping bags filled with her ‘haul’ from a particular store.

She pulls out each item, describes it, says why she bought it, why it is so fabulous, and why you should have it, too. This huge trend has resulted in haul video channels and even videos on how to make haul videos.

Viral Consumerism

Haul videos are but one example of today’s viral consumerism. Viral as in virus, like a disease. Viral as in infection; consumerism has gotten to the viral point. A haul is not just one item but an overdose of purchase. A ‘spree,’ a ‘splurge.’

What’s the purpose of a haul video? To create envy, to demean the viewer and make them feel jealous, and to inspire purchasing. Brands love social media haul videos.

It’s free advertising by young people who have so many followers they are called ‘influencers.’ Often these influencers get their haul products free or are paid in some way so that they keep making more videos. It’s how they earn their living – by shopping for things they don’t need.

Meet Kimberly Clark, the Anti-Haul Queen

Say hello to Kimberly Clark. Not the paper company, but the drag queen. My millennial daughter turned me onto Kimberly Clark, an intelligent, eloquent individual with her own YouTube channel. She posts contemplative, insightful videos on a range of pertinent topics.

Kimberly says, “I want help to build a world in which we are not beholden to blind consumerism, unrealistic beauty standards and the patriarchy. Makeup can be radical as it represents the ability to progress and self-transform.”

The Anti-Haul: Why You Shouldn’t Buy Something

Kimberly began reviewing makeup products that she bought for her drag performances, and then gave it a second thought. She started an ‘anti-haul movement.’

In her anti-haul videos, she presents the marketing world’s top, ‘must have’ products and tells you why “I don’t want it. I don’t need it. I’m not gonna buy it.” She saves you lots of money and freedom from the clutter of products that will go unused and ultimately, tossed.

Anti-haul videos give you a good reason NOT to buy. And, they open your eyes to the power of marketing.

Desire Is Endless

Kimberly says, “Desire is endless, and marketing is made to create desire after desire. You want more, more, more.” Haul videos create envy. Wow, she has the money, she has every color, she must be better than me.

The Power of Marketing

“Consumerism is trying to part you with your money,” she says in her insightful Listen Up series on consumerism. “Haul videos urge you to buy; anti-haul videos give you good reasons not to buy.”

Three Gimmicks That Create Desire

‘Limited Editions’ are just bait. You think if you don’t buy a ‘special,’ limited edition that you’re missing out on something cool. Limited editions are created to jump start a fresh new desire and to create urgency. You’re missing out on nothing.

Beware of sales. Sales are where consumers make their biggest purchasing mistakes and why marketers are so keen on sales. Bottom line: don’t buy something just because it’s on sale. If it’s something you’ve been looking for, buy it. If it’s not something you’d pay full price for, don’t buy it on sale.

Do you really need that set? I wanted a tube of Elizabeth Arden Eight Hour Cream. Then I saw a set with the cream, a lipstick and a body oil for a few dollars more. “Wow, that’s a great value,” I thought.

When faced with sets, ask yourself, are you really going to use the whole set? Guess what, the answer is no. Don’t buy the eye shadow set with 30 colors. Are you really going to use it? No. Buy what you need and nothing more.

Shopping as Entertainment

In the old days, people shopped when they needed something. Today, shopping has become entertainment. You’re bored, you buy a lipstick. You’re depressed, you buy a dress.

Save your money and deal with your emotions in a healthier way: read a book, talk to a friend, cook a beautiful meal, write in your journal, make a phone call.

Bottom line: Buy what you need. Enjoy what you have. Feel good about not spending money needlessly and then having to KonMari your house. Save your money for something else, like a well-deserved vacation. Learn a language. Send your kids to college.

I hope you enjoyed this discussion of how to feel like a millionaire by not spending money needlessly! Do look at the video links I posted in the article. Check out some ‘haul’ videos and see what you think. I’d love to read your thoughts below.

Have you stopped spending money casually? What tricks of the trade have you learned to live more consciously when it comes to spending? Please join the conversation!