Melissa Gorga’s Striped Skirt at the Jersey Shore

Real Housewives of New Jersey Season 11 Episode 8 Fashion

At this point we all know that Melissa Gorga would look good in a paper bag. So sometimes the outfits that she wears aren’t options for all of us to wear and feel comfortable in, even if we are obsessed with them. That’s why her cute, casual blue and white striped skirt at the Shore is really a great find. It’s under $100, can be worn with a variety of different types of tops or even with a bathing suit to the beach. So if you’re a major Melissa fan I’d get to scrolling before these seaside stripes are totally sold out.

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Jackie Goldschneider’s White Mini Dress at Nono’s Memorial

Real Housewives of New Jersey Season 11 Episode 8 Fashion

Based on the fact that is looks like Jackie Goldschneider is at Nono’s memorial on tonight’s Real Housewives of New Jersey, reason would stand to believe that things are a bit better between her and Teresa Giudice. After all, if there’s anything that could get this crew to look like a bunch on angels, it would have to be dressing them all in white. But if you want them all to act that way, you’re probably going to have to remove all glassware, red wine and tables from the equation.

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Summer House Fashion: Season 5 Episode 10

Sets and sunnies and swimsuits, oh my! Although Summer House episode 10 hasn’t even aired at the time I’m writing this, I think it’s safe to say that it’s my favourite episode of the season so far. Well, based on the cute fashion at least, because according to the previews there’s definitely some cringe moments that are less than Des-irable. 

*Additional looks will be added after the show airs*

Fashionably,

Faryn

Paige DeSorbo’s Pink Tie Set

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Hannah Berner’s Blue Gingham Set

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Amanda Batula’s Gold Aviator Sunglasses

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Your health is just that – your health. Comparing your laboratory results with your spouse or partner will only lead to confusion and distress.

Of course, there are lots of things we can do to optimize our health stats and lead healthier, longer lives. But I always say that the best thing a person can do for their health is to choose their parents. So much of our health and risk factors are simply genetically determined.

With that in mind, what will you accomplish by comparing your results with your spouse? I would say, either discouragement or a false sense of security.

I am not saying to hide your lab results from each other, and I am not saying to not participate in encouraging your spouse to be healthier. I am simply saying that lab results cannot be compared evenly across the board. Everyone’s journey is different.

Suppose your cholesterol is high and you work very hard at keeping to a low cholesterol diet while your spouse has been less than enthusiastic. Then you see your spouse’s numbers have improved much more significantly than yours. How can this be? It just is. So many factors are involved, many of them genetic.

Find joy in your personal improvements, no matter how small. Improvement or even status quo is much better than worsening.

Also, it certainly is not all about the numbers. People that aerobically exercise at least twice a week have significantly lower rates of coronary artery disease, and this is a completely different risk factor than the measurable risk factors, such as BMI and cholesterol level.

Do not miss a chance to celebrate your personal success.

Stress

Here is the thing. Stress in and of itself, is a risk factor for many medical disorders. So, this is another reason to not play the comparison game with your spouse or anyone else when it comes to health stats.

Mindset is important to health. I know. This is a difficult task. How do you consciously stop yourself from comparing? It is difficult but by simply focusing on your own health more, you may find you are thinking less about everyone else’s numbers.

Achievement Is Measured in Action

This is probably the best attitude to keep when trying to get or stay healthy. Measure your accomplishments in health by your actions and not your numbers. The numbers are what your physician will examine to design a personal wellness plan for you.

If you are a diabetic, and despite your best efforts, your numbers, such as hemoglobin A1C, remain high or are actually climbing, do not feel ashamed. Your achievement is the actions you took to better your health.

Your physician will look at that number and increase, change or start medication because that is what your specific body needs to be healthy. Feel proud of your success in doing what you needed to do so your physician could best evaluate and treat you.

Of course, this means the converse is also true. If you are not following your physician’s guidelines and your numbers are improving or just not getting any worse, don’t take that as a go ahead to let yourself go. The achievement is in the actions and these positive actions alone very often improve your health despite what the numbers read.

Setbacks Are Part of the Journey

Very rarely is success linear. This is something everyone needs to remember with any type of goal-setting. Your numbers will bounce up and down, and the healthy actions you take may go from enthusiastic compliance to neglect to compliance again.

Sometimes you’ll fall. Well, get up and keep going. This isn’t a race. In fact, aren’t we trying to postpone as much as possible getting to that “finish line”?

Life isn’t fair. Health isn’t fair. But they are both beautiful gifts to be cherished. So, take your health into your own hands. Your spouse is not there to compare health stats, but they are there to share in life’s joy. So, enjoy your personal health journeys and hope for long, happy lives filled with love.

Do you have trouble comparing your health stats with your spouse? What kind of problems and feelings have you had with this? Do you find any of these tips helpful? Could you possibly make your spouse a health partner as you each traverse your separate wellness journeys?

Wouldn’t it be lovely to have a human survival kit in your possession?

The kit would answer the most important questions about your life: How will your life end? Will you find love? Will you be fulfilled emotionally and psychologically? Will you have enough money to live until 90, or even 100? Will your children be happy and successful?

You would probably want at least 50 more answers to your important questions in your survival kit. Who wouldn’t want to immediately have access to already vetted and processed answers to your most important questions? Dig in the kit, pull out an answer and voilà, problem solved.

Life Isn’t Simple

Life simply isn’t that simple. The state of your world is often messy, co-dependent, complicated, constrained, aspirational, inconspicuous, monotonous, unhappy, manic, uncertain or certain depending on the day.

You grapple with connection, love, growth, contribution, significance and surprise. Because it’s challenging to be improvisational, routine feels more secure. It’s easier. Who wants to watch other people dance when you are not invited on the dance floor?

To fill your human survival kit with the best of your life, it may be important to stretch your mind and create a new way of thinking by increasing the connection between the right and left brain. This practice will increase your ability to process issues and identify emotions. Stretching the mind enhances personal as well as professional innovation and productivity, and alleviates mental blocks.

Life Is Conventional

When you stretch your mind, you may entertain the idea that you can start a mini-revolution when deciding the course of your life. This is a revolution against the conventions you’ve laid out for your life or others have decided for you.

Instead of a prescribed conventional life, consider that life can be richer in flux, more improvisational and freer. It is then you are designing your life to fit your real needs, instead of the other way around. The alternative is to stay frozen in time, slipping slowly into quicksand.

It Takes Practice

It takes daily practice to think about your life as bigger, wider, deeper and freer. It takes practice to survive life by entertaining limitless experiences. You naturally gravitate toward the past and confine your thoughts to the present so you are certain to live only in your comfort zone.

That’s when resistance gets hold of you. That’s when you program yourself not to stretch. Don’t get stuck! Practice getting rid of the old mindsets, rigid ideas and limited perceptions that have dominated your thinking. That old mindset leads you to dead ends.

A closed mind is dangerous because it allows you to compartmentalize and ignore uncomfortable thought and feelings. That’s a prescription for mindless repetition and repetition can be a real brain killer.

Here are a few ideas to put in your survival kit:

Reduce Resistance

It’s human nature to resist. And what’s really interesting is that most of the time you don’t know you’re resisting. Resistance is a psychological state that causes you to deny, reject or otherwise oppose an action.

Resisting is truly an unfortunate state of being because it stops personal growth and creativity. It often defies logic, takes away your potential for happiness, and crushes your spirit. Survival necessitates getting conscious about what you are thinking and doing in life.

Get Conscious, Stay Present

Practicing mindfulness is a way of staying conscious about what you are thinking and doing in life. A large part of your human survival kit is to stay in the present.

Ask: What do I need? When do I need it? How do I get it?

Wake up every morning and make an intention to do the most important thing – something that brings you joy, gives you positive energy, fulfills a need and lights your fire. Be aware and be clear about naming your needs every day so you can pursue your passions and your dreams.

Eliminate Negative Self-Talk

Negative self-talk is a completely mindless mental activity, mostly defensive and always toxic. It causes stress and anxiety and perpetuates past and future thinking. Catch yourself in the moment of the negative thought and turn it into a positive. That takes practice, but you can do it. Remember that most thoughts are negative so being aware of your words and the effects of your words can add to a more positive state of mind.

Learn to Adapt

My mother taught me the way to learn to adapt is to understand that the only opinion worth anything comes from the truth inside of yourself. You know the truth inside of you by stepping outside yourself, getting distance from who you are and turning to alternative mindsets for survival.

When you understand that premise, change will come from a strong conviction for action, coupled with confidence in your abilities and a willingness to cultivate curiosity. Learning to adapt also means getting in touch with your own emotional palette, which allows you to realize a more creative and fulfilling life.

In your human survival kit, there is a special section that will enhance your life’s journey. It’s called passion. Passion gives you the courage to stretch your mind by taking some risks, plenty of leaps of faith and having a willingness to make glorious mistakes.

Passion exemplifies your personal truth. Passion is the special ingredient that makes your human survival kit function with positive energy for the ideas and interests that make a difference in your life. Passion tucked inside your human survival kit will direct you to your destiny.

What techniques do you use to stretch and improve your mind? How do deal with the normal ups and downs in your life? What small things do you do every day to enhance your life journey? How do you focus on the moment and avoid negative self-talk? Please share in the comments.