True wealth is
found no place else but in the joy of giving. Look past your fears and start
positioning for the opportunities that lie around the corner. Now is the time
to take the perspective of sufficiency
instead of deficiency.

As a society, we can
shelter in place – technology at our fingertips,
and food delivered at our doors. As we don a daily attitude of gratitude, we
can free ourselves to share with moxie and momentum.

What we do now to
utilize our character strengths as well as appropriate our financial assets
will usher in happier, fulfilled, and changed families, communities, and world.
YOU have the opportunity to co-create what is next.

Yes, our health
care providers are on the front line of this challenging time, but many others are
also stepping up to serve. Those with financial resources to share are being
called on in ways that may take them out of their comfort zones.

Everyone has a
vital part to play in unfolding solutions, and non-profit organizations are critical,
strategic partners. They need your continued, generous support.

ReFUND and QCD – What Are They?

As you look at how
to best share your financial resources right now, there continue to be
creative, strategic ways to do so. If you have not filed your taxes yet (you
now have an extension until July
15^th, 2020) consider ReFUND.

The SECURE act
changed the timeline to start taking your required minimum distributions (RMD).
For anyone turning 70 ½ in 2020, you do not need to take your RMD until age 72.
However, if you turned 70 ½ last year or before you need to continue to take it
annually.

The amount you need
to withdraw is based on the account value of your IRA on 12/31/2019. If you
have several IRAs, look at their overall total amount. With current market
volatility, you could take your entire RMD from the most conservatively
positioned portfolio.

As part of your
giving plan, you could utilize the Qualified Charitable Distribution (QCD). Contact
your advisor or custodian and request that they send your RMD to a qualified
501C3 organization directly.

This keeps the
income off your 1040. Since many people are using the standard deduction now
rather than itemizing, this will keep your taxable income lower.

Just Give

Write a check or
transfer funds from your Donor Advised Fund. It is simple – just do it. Many
times we hold back because of accountability, or desire to make sure it is
going where intended.

This is unchartered
territory, and we are banding together to help – all hands on deck, dollars on
the table. Yes, be wise about where you give and how you do it – but do it.

This pandemic has
created the great equalizer. It impacts every man, woman, and child, regardless
of color, creed, political affiliation, or economic standing. We have a moral
imperative to co-create a new and better world.

Giving generously
to causes and organizations as well as your neighbors is no longer a luxury of
abundance but an expression of sufficiency. Talk with your financial life
advisor to discern the best, tax efficient, and productive ways to give.

As a final note,
please make sure any organization you approach is trustworthy. Many scams
circulate in the world today, trying to take advantage of those who want to
help the most needy in our community. Be vigilant and take time to thoroughly
research an organization before opening your wallet.

How do you
manage donations in hard times? Do you have a mindset of sufficiency or deficiency?
Which organizations do you support by volunteering, and which ones do you
support financially? Please share with our community!

Lisa Rinna’s Blue Gucci Track Jacket

Watch What Happens Live Fashion March 30, 2020

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Fashion

Seeing Lisa Rinna in her blue Gucci track jacket “next to” a healthy Andy Cohen and Nene Leakes and Jerry O’Connell who needs to work on his Wifi connection was really a breath of fresh during this crazy time. It’s so funny how something as seemingly small as watching Watch What Happens Live for a half hour can be the total dose of normality I needed. And really, is there anything more promising for the economy than seeing the Real Housewives of Beverly Hill are still shopping at Gucci? See, the world is definitely still turning.

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Paige DeSorbo’s Cream Lounge Set on Instagram

Summer House Instagram Fashion 2020

Considering we have a lot of time to kill during this quarantine szn, Paige DeSorbo is seriously giving the people what they want by providing her full 127362635744 step skincare routine in a six minute video on Instagram. And not only that, but she did so in this super cute, affordable lounge set (which is just one in her apparently huge collection) that’s definitely the perfect non-embarrassing thing to wear as you self-care. 

Fashionably,

Faryn

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Kameron Westcott’s Grey Sequin Embellished Sweater on Instastories

Real Housewives of Dallas Instagram Fashion 2020

If there’s one thing that may just motivate us to get dressed one of these days it’s this super cute (and currently on sale) grey sequin embellished sweater that Kameron Westcott showed off to us yesterday on her Instastories. That is if we’re still able to fit into it once it arrives, because it’s also really motivating us to go ahead and bake a batch of colourful sprinkle cookies (sorry Teresa Giudice). 

Fashionably,

Faryn

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Are you worried about how prepared you are for retirement? According to a survey of hundreds of recent retirees that I conducted, you probably should be… but, not for the reasons that you think!

When we think about retirement planning, most of us have a big fat number in our minds – how much money have we saved? Or, not saved, as the situation may be.

In reality, while saving for retirement is important, it is far from the only (or most important) issue that we face in our 40s and 50s. Instead, recent retirees give a surprisingly diverse set of answers to the question “What do you wish someone had told you about retirement when you were still in your 50s?”

Below are some of the themes that I took from their answers. I’ve also included some of their stories, although I have changed their names to protect the innocent!

Here’s what recent retirees wish they could have told their 50-year-old selves about retirement planning.

Retirement Planning Truth #1: Retirement Isn’t a Destination

The idea that retirement is a destination isn’t just unrealistic, it’s downright dangerous. Several generations ago, the idea that people should spend their retirement years relaxing might have made sense. After all, most people weren’t expected to live more than a few years after reaching retirement age.

Now, at age 65, most of us can expect to live another 20-30 years. That’s a loooooong time to make your money stretch. And, it will feel even longer if we fall victim to social isolation or poor health.

Many recent retirees told me that they wish someone had told them to see their 50s as a preparation time for a new phase of active life rather than an arrival to “retirement city.”

Want to have an active retirement? Start getting in shape now. Want to be financially secure in retirement? Start focusing just on the size of your retirement account and start planning for how you will continue to make money in retirement. Want to stay social in retirement? Invest in your hobbies, friendships and family relationships today.

As Joyce said, “Retirement is a misnomer. If you want to be happy and healthy in this season of life you will continue to do the things you’ve always done and more.”

Save, but, Don’t Worry So Much About Money

With all of the negative headlines about how much our generation has saved for retirement, you might think that retirement is a financial nightmare for most of us.

While it is true that saving is an important aspect of preparing for retirement, several recent retirees said that they would tell their 50-year-old selves to have a little more faith and a little less worry when it comes to money.

Irene said, “I overestimated how much money I needed for retirement. The way that I travel in retirement, my saving won’t usually take a hit. I also ask myself, when I shop, whether I really need something. I usually do not.”

Joyce reminded us that, while saving for retirement is important, you can also make extra money after you leave your corporate career behind. She recommended, “If you aren’t making ends meet, you can take on extra work like dog sitting, house sitting or renting rooms in your home.”

Get Your Paperwork in Order

For most of us, 50 is still young. We certainly don’t think of ourselves as “seniors.” Heck, most 70-year-olds that I know don’t think of themselves as seniors!

At the same time, there is no denying that age-related health shocks become more likely as we approach retirement age. Many women in our community said that they wished they had gotten their paperwork (a Will, Power of Attorney and Advance Directive) for both themselves and their spouse ready earlier.

No-one likes to think about getting sick or losing someone that they love, but, your 50s are actually the perfect time to prepare for these eventualities.

It’s Never Too Late to Start Saving for Retirement (Or to Save More!)

By now, you have probably heard that half of baby boomers have less than $100,000 saved for retirement. In fact, 37% of us have saved $50,000 or less!

If you are in your 40s or 50s, you may look at your retirement accounts (assuming that you even have them) and think “It’s too late.” According to the recent retirees that I surveyed, this kind of “the damage has been done” thinking is dangerous and counterproductive.

As Sarah put it, “I reached my 50s with almost nothing in my retirement account. At first, I felt like giving up, but, my son convinced me to double-down on saving. I took a part-time job on the weekends and was able to save an extra $500 per month. It was nice to have an extra $30,000 in my pocket by the time I actually retired. But, more importantly, it gave me the confidence that I could earn extra income once my career ended.”

In fact, there are many reasons that your 50s are the perfect time to start a side hustle. This article has all the details.

Don’t Wait Until Retirement to Get in Shape

Most of us reach our 50s wondering what the heck happened to our bodies. Actually, if we are honest with ourselves, we know *exactly* what happened to our bodies; we had kids, ate too much convenience food and convinced ourselves that we were too busy to go to the gym.

Many of the recent retirees that I talked to told me that they had started to invest in their health again since retiring. They said that they were concerned about losing their mobility, independence and energy in their 70s and 80s. So, they wanted to start working out now.

At the same time, many people told me that they wished that they had started getting in shape before they retired. Why? Because as hard as it is to get in shape as an overweight, out-of-practice 55-year-old, it’s a heck of a lot harder to get in shape as an overweight, out-of-practice 65-year-old!

As James told me, “I feel like an idiot for not getting in shape in my 50s. For goodness sake, my company even sponsored my gym membership. When I had kids, I really didn’t have much time. But, once they left, I should have got my butt in gear!”

Don’t Be in a Rush to Take Social Security

We are trained by society to see retirement as an event that happens to us when we turn 65. As a result, among other things, many of us rush to start taking Social Security payments right around our 65th birthday.

Actually, “full retirement age” in the United States is 66 or 67 in most cases, but, that’s another story!

What many of us don’t realize (or don’t internalize) is that we would be much better off financially if we waited until age 68, 69 or even 70 to retire.

One person told me that, even though they were still working part-time, they decided to start taking Social Security at age 63. As a result, they only receive 80% ($1,600) of their full retirement age benefit of $2,000. Had they just hung in there until age 70, they would have received $2,640 per month!

Trust me when I say that most retirees would love to have an extra $1,000 in their pocket every month!

Retirement Planning is About Way More than Saving Money

Don’t get me wrong. Saving as much money as possible for retirement is important.

It’s just that, according to recent retirees, our singular focus on saving money tends to take our attention from the other aspects of our lives that we should invest in today so that they are there for us tomorrow.

Having a happy retirement means staying healthy and social. It means having passions and a sense of purpose. And, more than anything, it means becoming more yourself, rather than reinventing yourself.

I hope that you listen to the retirement planning advice of these recent retirees. If you do, your future “retirement” will be bright indeed!

What does retirement planning mean to you? Do you agree that retirement planning should be about more than saving money? Why or why not? Let’s have a conversation!