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Getting what we want in life isn’t always easy. Each of us has experienced the heartbreak of disappointment when our efforts do not bring our desires into fulfillment.

Over time, these setbacks can establish a Fixed Mindset about what is possible to achieve. This is especially true when it comes to creating your ideal lifestyle after 60.

Rather than adopt a Growth Mindset and create the lifestyle of their dreams, many people over 60 find it easier to live an unfulfilling life through a Fixed Mindset.

If you are currently struggling to create the life you desire, it is time to reset your mindset.

Where do you begin? And what is involved in resetting your mindset after 60?

We will answer these questions in this article and accompanying video.

This is the second of a two-part journey into creating a mindset for your dream lifestyle. They will set the foundation for a new, 10-part exclusive series for Sixty and Me readers titled “Visualize a Vibrant New Lifestyle After 60”that will run from August to December.

Changing Your Mind Changes Your Reality

Resetting your mindset begins by letting go of disappointments from your past with love, compassion, and forgiveness. This will open your heart and help you reframe your perception of what is possible for you today and into the future.

After that, your next step is to develop a Growth Mindset.

Studies and research have proven the mind and body cannot distinguish the differences between what happens in physical reality or in the mind. According to Dr. Alia Crum, the principal investigator at the Stanford Mind and Body Lab, “Our minds aren’t passive observers, simply perceiving reality as it is. Our minds actually change reality.”

Your lifestyle can radically change for the better overnight when you live through a Growth Mindset. But to create a future that is better than what you once believed possible, you will want to reset your mindset. For when you change your mindset, you change your reality.

In my previous article and video, I shared with you how to identify the differences between a Fixed Mindset and Growth Mindset. I am now going to guide you through eight steps for resetting your mindset through a Growth Mindset.

8 Steps to Reset Your Mindset

Embrace the Power of “Yes”

Rather than saying no to new opportunities, get into the habit of saying YES! This will immediately free you from being stuck in a frustrating rut and thrust you into a new way of experiencing your dream lifestyle.

Embrace Challenges

Challenges are not indicators you are not deserving of your dream lifestyle. They are gifts. But to open that gift you will want to flip the script on your previous perceptions of a challenge or obstacle. Where there appears to be a breakdown in your efforts to create positive results, look closer and you are likely to see a breakthrough you can take advantage of and make huge strides.

Practice Self-Love

Having a Growth Mindset doesn’t mean you do not get frustrated, it means you have compassion for yourself and can celebrate who you are in each moment of your journey. Nothing does this better than self-love. In fact, self-love is like a magic potion that makes limiting beliefs disappear.

Cultivate Self-Awareness

The more you develop self-love the more self-aware you are. This translates into an open mind whereby you are less likely to be influenced by the limiting beliefs of your inner critic or negativity of other people.

Embrace New Learning

Without the curiosity to explore new ways of achieving your dream lifestyle, your life will become stagnant. Stagnation, just like anything, can change and that begins by embracing the new.

Get Over Perfection

The idea of perfection is a painful illusion. Rather than seek perfection in your life, focus on progress. Celebrate the incremental steps you take along the path to creating your ideal lifestyle.

Reframing Setbacks

A setback is not failure. By reframing a perceived setback through a Growth Mindset, you refocus the situation entirely. In doing so, you open yourself up to a whole new way of living.

Become Inspired

A Fixed Mindset criticizes those who are successful and shuns people who are living the lifestyle they want. When you reset your mindset through a Growth Mindset, you automatically seek inspiration and empowerment from a variety of people. Research who is writing about, making videos on, and launching online courses related to the lifestyle you desire.

Next Steps

Everyone’s idea of a dream lifestyle is different, and so is the approach to a Growth Mindset. Therefore, be sure to adapt and modify your approach to these eight steps to create a lifestyle that makes your heart sing.

In our next article and video, we will explore the heart and soul of visualizing a vibrant lifestyle after 60 and how to embody it for yourself. This will begin a new, 10-part exclusive series for Sixty and Me readers titled “Visualize a Vibrant New Lifestyle After 60” that will run from August to December.

I invite you to join me in the video, where I will share with you two bonus steps to reset your mindset after 60. I will also guide you through three journal prompts to help you integrate what you are learning.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you think you’re open to new things or stuck in what you’ve always done? What would it take for you to reset your mindset and start living a different lifestyle?

I never used moisturizer. Then menopause passed me by, and my skin had other ideas. I always loved a good eyeliner. I had that cat eye down. And then my eyelids started to droop, and I might as well have been painting downward arrows on my face, alerting the world to how gravity works.

Gradually, through my 50s I started to realize that the makeup and skin care routines I used all the way through my 40s just weren’t going to cut it anymore.

That was a hard thing to accept for me, but accept it I did. And then I did the only thing I could. I made changes to my routine to celebrate the woman I am today – not to hide anything, but to highlight the strength, wisdom, and beauty of this chapter. Here’s how I changed it up after menopause, and how it helped me find confidence in my vanity mirror once again.

Skin Shifts After Menopause

I had oily skin most of my life. I mean oil slicks by lunchtime kind of oily. So, I never, and I mean never, would have thought of adding to that by using moisturizer. But after menopause, all that changed, and I have to admit, I wasn’t prepared for it. Now my skin drinks up anything I feed it like a thirsty animal.

Lack of estrogen causes a variety of issues after our 50s. One of them is changes in our skin. We all probably have experienced:

• Crepey skin and wrinkles
• Dry skin
• Sagging skin, especially around the eyes and jawline
• Sun damage becoming more obvious due to thinning skin
• More sensitivity

How to Change Your Skin Care Routine After Menopause

For me, it was all about finding the products that made me feel confident, healthy, and vibrant. I wasn’t looking for miracle creams to make me look 29 again. (Seriously, who wants that!) The changes I made? I went from…

• Washing my face with body wash to using a gentle face wash with antioxidants.
• No moisturizer to rich lotions with lots of antioxidants and emollients.
• From chemical sunscreen to physical sunscreens. (Chemical sunscreens can cause reactions.)
• Added an eye cream with hyaluronic acid. (It holds 1000 times its weight in water, so naturally plumps up skin tissue.)
• Added an antioxidant nighttime routine before bed, including serums and rich eye creams. I also use peptide products to help long-term with crepey skin. I tried retinol products but found them too harsh.

These changes helped me see skin that was replenished, protected, and felt more youthful.

How My Makeup Routine Changed After Menopause

My makeup routine in my 20s-40s seemed tried and true. I loved my look, and I felt it expressed my personality well. But when I started to see changes in my skin, my eyes, even the shape of my nose, I knew it was time to change some things up here, too. I went from…

• Using no primer, to using primer for smoothness and sunscreen religiously.
• Heavy full coverage foundation to tinted moisturizers that don’t cake and make pores more noticeable. You can check out my post Best Foundation for Mature Skin for what I use.
• Using harsh black eyeliner and a cat eye technique that visually drew down my eye and made it look smaller and droopy to creating a natural lash line with eyeshadow and a wet brush.
• Using no contour and highlighter to using a subtle contour under my cheekbones, around the edges of my face, and on the side of my nose, and a light highlighter just above my cheekbones for more radiance.
• Using thick lipstick that looked outdated, to lighter lip stains and gloss to add color and shine.
• From a full, made-up look every day, to a natural look that brought out the youthfulness in my face, and saving heavier makeup for special nighttime events.

How It Changed My Confidence

Let’s face it, ladies, none of us wants to be seen as the older woman with too much makeup, trying to hang on to the past. Sometimes it’s hard to see that changes need to be made when you’ve had the same routine for so long. But finding a way to roll with the changes aging offers us helps us to actually bring out the best of who we are right now. And that woman is pretty awesome.

Don’t let aging be a dirty word. Offer yourself some grace and kindness and look into that mirror with confidence and empowerment. And when you are done at the makeup table, jump into your closet and check out Flattering Summer Dresses for Women Over 50+. I mean, why stop the routine shake-up with just your face, right?

I Love to See Your Comments:

How has your skincare and makeup routine changed after menopause? What things did you keep from the old days?

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