Author: HairWeavings Editorial Team

It’s not what you expect.

Insights and understanding come from the places you least expect. Everyone needs to be reminded that they are never too old and it is never too late to lead a relevant, resilient, radiant, and remarkable life.

Though age bias are still very prevalent in our culture, anyone can cultivate a refreshed and courageous perspective on aging, work and life; even during times of uncertainty and fear. 

I would like to share with you my inspirations in the hopes they will help you find yours. As in the Wizard of Oz, sometimes you don’t have to go far to find out that all you need is right where you stand. 

There have been a few significant life events or realizations over the past eight years that have significantly changed my life and work. One was when I turned 55, the age my mother was when she died.

The second was when I turned 60. The third was during a session with a client several years ago. Now I am able to see how it all fits together perfectly.

My Business Relaunch

I relaunched my business in 2012, when I turned 55, the same age my mother was when she died. I do this work to honor her memory, and the legacy of all the strong women that came before her.

My work, each and every day, has meaning and purpose. Though it came upon me with an unexpected bang and without a safety net. Once I committed, there was no turning back. It took a few years to reeducate my clients and prospects, but I had to continue. It is part of my DNA.

On that birthday, I wrote my mom a letter and in it I said, “I’m not done yet.” Right then I had the revelation. Why not rebrand and rename my firm with focus on helping clients remain relevant, resilient, and remarkable? So I did. It was both hard and easy, and eight years and counting, it is still thriving.

With the relaunch, I began using alliterations with words that begin with the letter ‘R’. I didn’t at first know why. Later, I realized that this too is in homage to my mother, whose name was Racene.

My First Triathlon and Learning How to Swim

Then five years later I turned 60! After having a milestone birthday, I declared that this was the year I was going to do things that scare me and push me way out of my comfort zone.

So, I registered for my first triathlon. That was scary enough, but couple that with no ability to swim and a fear of the deep water, and you have a double header of uncomfortableness and fear!

After months (which at times felt like years) of training, and sometimes complaining that “it’s too hard,” I completed the triathlon and then did another last year. Both times it took my village to get me from fear to finish. Both were a success. The second time I was 8+ minutes faster. I counted it real success that I didn’t need to be visited by a medic. #IAmATriathlete

So if you tell me you can’t or you’re too old or you’re afraid, or whatever your excuse is, I can tell you that you can feel uncomfortable or embarrassed or fearful or less than, and still show up and accomplish.

A Single Conversation Can Have Lasting Impact

A few years back, while I was in session with a client, I had another insight. We were talking about hobbies and inspiration. I shared with her my love of photographing flowers ever since I was a girl. She reminded me that both my first and middle names are flowers – Rose of Sharon and Iris.

I was literally born with this passion. It is interesting that up until that moment, I had not put that notion together. Of course I would have this interest. It is my birthright.

Insights and Inspiration Often Times Come from the Places You Least Expect

Are you ready to reimagine a different future for yourself even during this global time of uncertainty? 

Did you know that Shakespeare made many of his masterpieces during a pandemic? He was personally affected as his son died during that time at the age of 11. He wrote Macbeth, and Antony and Cleopatra when he was at his worst, for example. 

Consider using each day as your professional or personal intermission. Learn ways to find opportunities to remain relevant, resilient, and remarkable. It is possible to find and create magical moments to continue to drive outcomes and results. 

Everyone needs to be reminded that they are never too old, and it is never too late! Anyone can cultivate a refreshed courageous perspective on aging, engagement, work, and life.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you consider yourself relevant, resilient, radiant, and remarkable? What’s stopping you from embracing this kind of mindset? What events in your life inspire you to never give up and always strive to succeed? Please share your stories with our community!

No pants, no problem.

The holiday season is a time of joy, connection, and celebration. However, it’s also a time that can bring added stress, endless to-do lists, indulgent meals, and less rest – all of which can affect health and well-being and add to extra belly fat and pounds, especially as we age.

But the good news?

There are ways to navigate the season gracefully and happily without compromising your health, gaining a ton of weight, or losing your sense of peace. Here are some secrets, from an experienced personal trainer who has helped hundreds of women over 55 to thrive and enjoy the holidays to the fullest, without weight gain, overwhelm, or fatigue.

1. Prioritize “You Time” Daily

The Holidays can be full of obligations but remember that taking time for yourself is essential. Just 10-20 minutes each morning for deep breathing, stretching, meditation, or a quick walk can set a positive tone for the day. This simple habit can help reduce stress, improve focus, and increase energy. Plus, if you suffer from arthritis, like so many women over 55, getting in some gentle movement in the morning can be so helpful to reduce aches and pains. 

Quick Tip: Consider journaling each morning. Reflecting on what you’re grateful for and setting intentions for the day can create a mindset shift and help you feel grounded amidst the holiday rush.

2. Follow the 80/20 Rule for Food Choices

Enjoying holiday treats is one of the joys of the season, and you shouldn’t feel the need to deprive yourself. Following the 80/20 rule can help you enjoy without going overboard. Aim to make nutritious choices 80% of the time and let yourself indulge in the other 20%. If you are going to a party, try to have a healthy snack ahead of time, it can help you make better choices than if you arrive hangry. 

Mindful Eating Tip: When eating holiday meals, take time to enjoy each bite. Focus on flavors and textures. This simple act of mindfulness can lead to feeling satisfied sooner and help prevent overeating.

Guess what? I’m hosting my Free Holiday Bust Your Belly Fat Workshop for Women 55+ on Tuesday, Dec. 10th at 11:30am EST (it’s best if you come live, but there will be a replay if you absolutely can’t make it) where I’ll be sharing all of my best tips!

3. Keep Moving – But in Ways You Enjoy

Exercise doesn’t have to be rigorous to be effective, especially when things are hectic. Short walks, stretching, dancing, quick workouts, or gentle yoga can help boost energy, relieve stress, and aid digestion without taking much time.

Holiday Movement Ideas: Park farther from stores when holiday shopping, turn on music and dance while cooking, create a new active family tradition strolling to look at lights, participating in a 5K walk, or playing a game outside, or invite a friend for a brisk walk instead of sitting over coffee.

4. Hydrate Wisely

It’s easy to overlook water during colder months, but dehydration can lead to fatigue, headaches, and even increased cravings. Warm water with lemon or herbal teas can be comforting and hydrating options in the winter months or sip on bone broth for added nutrients and improved gut health. 

Bonus Tip: Try drinking a glass of water before going to an outing and in between alcoholic drinks if you are participating. 

5. Set Boundaries for a Less-Stressful Season

It’s common to feel obligated to do it all during the Holidays, but saying “no” to certain commitments can be one of the best ways to protect your energy. It’s okay to attend fewer events or simplify gift-giving. The people who care about you will understand, and you’ll feel more relaxed and present for the activities you do choose.

Simplify Your Holidays: Choose one or two holiday traditions that bring you true joy, and feel free to skip or modify others. Streamlining can reduce fatigue and help you feel more in control of your holiday experience.

6. Prioritize Rest and Quality Sleep

Good sleep is key to managing weight, stress, and overall health. Aim for 7-8 hours of quality sleep each night to keep your immune system strong and avoid feeling rundown.

Sleep-Friendly Tips: Avoid screens at least an hour before bed and create a calming evening routine. Reading, light stretching, or listening to soft music can help signal your body that it’s time to wind down, add a lavender pillow spray to your wish list and set the calm mood for sleep. 

7. Use Visualization to Plan Your Ideal Holiday Season

Take a few minutes to imagine how you want to feel when the season ends. Visualizing a balanced, joyful holiday can help you make choices that align with your goals. This practice can reduce stress and help you focus on the memories you’d like to make rather than the “should-do” activities that don’t truly bring happiness.

Visualize Success: Picture yourself feeling healthy, happy, and energized after the holidays. Let this image guide your decisions on food, activities, and self-care throughout the season.

8. Focus on Connection, Not Perfection

The magic of the holiday season is in the connections you make and the memories you create. Focusing on spending meaningful time with loved ones rather than trying to make everything perfect can ease stress and bring more joy to the season.

Tip for Meaningful Moments: Take a break from your phone or camera during family gatherings. Being fully present can deepen connections and create memories that feel more special.

Embrace the Holidays with Confidence

The Holidays don’t have to mean extra stress, fatigue, or weight gain. By prioritizing balance, boundaries, and self-care, you can make this season your best yet – full of warmth, joy, and vitality. Enjoy each moment, treat yourself kindly, and remember: the most beautiful part of the holidays is how you feel, not just what you accomplish.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What’s the most difficult habit for you to keep around the Holidays? Have you managed in years past to not gain weight?

He’s bringing peak big brother energy with this present.