Month: October 2023

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During this season of #RHONY Erin’s sweater looks have been Big Blonde Hair favorites. She levels up her casual sweater style by accessorizing with of the moment pieces like a fab bomber jacket, a Bottega bag, statement sunglasses and an on-trend shoe. Wear this out to lunch with friends or level it up for a casual dinner with a heel. 

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Lisa, a Salt Lake City style icon, nails her looks by pairing a thin sweater with novelty jeans, leather accents, a fab bomber jacket and a pair of oversized sunglasses. If you’re Lisa you’ll rock it to all day long, but it also can work for dinner or a cold weather night out. 

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Jessel’s bold style has us fawning over Fall in New York fashion. She styles stripes, bold (yet not bright) colors and the perfect accessories to create the most chic styles. This look is giving all the Fall feels and is the perfect Thanksgiving or Friendsgiving look. 

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Ubah’s model behavior always translates into her wardrobe. Her pleated mini skirts, over the knee boots and embellished accessories are the perfect inspiration for a Fall or Holiday night out. An added bonus? This sweater also pairs perfectly with denim or a leather pant to change up the look.

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One of Madison’s most noted Season 9 Southern Charm moments has come in the form of an embellished white cardigan. And while that piece is sold out, we’ve found an almost identical style to re-create the look. An embellished cardigan is a holiday must, so plan ahead and rest assured, if white isn’t your color this piece also comes in black.

Shop This Cozy Chic Look I Love via the Shop LTK App

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Originally posted at: Bravoleb-Inspired Cozy Chic Looks from Saks

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Originally posted at: Naomie Olindo’s Mascara

On the day Israel was attacked by Hamas terrorists, I was leisurely having the “free breakfast” at a hotel while accompanying my husband on a business trip. I seemed to be the only one in the room who was startled by the images on the communal television.

Most likely, I had more of a personal connection to that scenario than the others. My ethnic identity, after all, was closely related to the victims. I also share a neurodivergent profile with 20% of the population: Highly Sensitive Person(HSP).

The HSP Personality Type

According to Dr. Elizabeth Scott, writing on Verywell.com, HSPs share “an increased sensitivity to physical, emotional, and social stimuli.” We are often called “too sensitive” by others. Count us out for violent movies and a too-hectic schedule. Count us in for being deeply moved by beauty and having a rich internal life.

If you think you might be a member of our tribe, you can take The Highly Sensitive Person Test, created by Elaine Aron, the psychologist who pioneered this personality type in the mid-1990s.

I believe HSPs are more impacted by both global events and personal challenges. For instance, recently I’ve been disappointed by those around me who do not seem glued to their devices to follow every nuance of the events in the Middle East. I’ve been feeling the same way since the invasion of Ukraine, and have only recently, after 18 months, begun to ignore photos and lengthy descriptions of the horrors to preserve my sanity.

An HSP in Action

Recently, there was an escaped, young prisoner in my bucolic, semirural county in Pennsylvania. The incident captured national attention for two weeks. The fugitive was hiding out in the garden property where I volunteer weekly.

My favorite secret spots were exposed by the national press, including the dairy where the prisoner stole a van to escape. Oddly enough, my predominant emotion was not a fear for safety, but actual empathy for the fugitive, operating in blazing temperatures without food or water. Overwhelming empathy is another HSP quality.

Since I left the world of employment, I have been immensely grateful every day. HSPs do not thrive in the chaos of the workplace. For me, the workplace was the classroom and the education department of a local university: so many personalities to appease. Almost daily, I count my blessings that so much less is required of me.

Survival Strategies

Believing that I’ve never been happier in my life, I was astounded to look back and find that in my six years of retirement, I have lost both parents, supported my son through a serious medical condition, witnessed the divorce of my daughter from my beloved son-in-law, and assisted her move to the West coast into a new marriage. I also guided my husband through two unexpected and very serious surgeries.

Why do I think the quality of my life at this moment is so good? I believe I’ve hit on the perfect strategies of daily living for an HSP: I am a regular participant in life affirming activities. Every morning I make time for meditation and inspirational readings. My house is a model of orderliness, sometimes bordering on perfectionism.

On a weekly basis, there is the watering of plants in a magnificent conservatory, the care of sheep and goats at a local museum, and writing posts for my peers, which help me work through the issues of retirement and aging.

Through great fortune and effort, I am living close to nature with a loving partner, a fellow HSP. There is calming music playing most of the day, a morning routine of newspapers and puzzles, and our days together afford space for alone-time. Good food is a major priority, and we keep our small circle of friends and family as close as they will allow.

These personal strategies also lessen the impact of the perpetual shock of new world calamities. At least the home front is calm. Rick Hanson, writing in Greater Good Magazine, offers these strategies for coping with the pain of others (the techniques work well for global disasters):

• Let the pain in – don’t try to deny its existence.
• Do what you can. In terms of the Israeli/Palestinian situation, I felt some relief when I contacted two close friends who had long-term connections to Israel. I was able to have conversations about their feelings and inquire about the safety of their loved ones.
• Finally, see the big picture. Whether it is a global or personal issue, our powers of control are miniscule. Having a mental picture of our small place in the universe might relieve us of solving the unsolvable.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you think you might be a Highly Sensitive Person? When have you felt overwhelmed by personal or world issues. Have you developed your own coping skills?

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Note: Sunglasses spotted on Sai in black not red

Originally posted at: #RHONY Season 14 Still in Stock

One of the most powerful ways to communicate with one another is through non-verbal language.

Whether you’re at a networking event, meeting with a recruiter, or in a critically important interview, it’s important that your body language is as telling as the words you’re sharing.

By keeping both in sync, your chances of successfully messaging your audience increase tremendously. Here is what we mean by all of this.

Posture Makes Perfect

The language of your posture carries more impact than you might assume. Standing tall communicates health, confidence, and pride.

Conversely, a stooped position and sagging shoulders communicate either a lack of confidence or just a lack of effort. If you want others to see you as confident and capable, stand tall, keep your shoulders back, and your head up high.

You Talkin’ to Me?

The first thing you want to remember when building trust in a meeting is to keep eye contact. Eye contact is one of those things we subconsciously take note of every time we meet a person.

Have you ever tried to have a conversation with a person who was constantly shuffling around and looking in different directions? Sporadic eye contact communicates a lack of interest, distraction, and even dishonesty. Whenever you’re speaking, be sure to keep good, steady eye contact.

Didn’t Your Mother Ever Tell You to Sit Still?

Now that we know that standing posture is quite telling, let’s look at sitting posture. It’s important to portray the same confidence and interest level while sitting with someone, as it is to stand next to them.

Nearly every meeting with a recruiter, interviewer, or potential employer will find you sitting with him or her. Here are a few rules to follow to increase your confidence level toward a commanding presence:

Lean In

Refrain from sitting back like you’re watching TV. Lean into the conversation and engage with the other person. Don’t slouch or sit as if you’re at a bar.

Be Legs-Aware

Ladies are naturally adept at keep their legs in mind. We recently heard of a male job candidate who was on an interview for a position that he dearly wanted. The interview process was long, as he met with various company team members.

During the meeting, he found his comfortable sitting position by crossing his legs. As the meetings drew long, he noticed that one of his feet was “asleep.” We’ve all enjoyed this condition.

Finally, as the interview closed, he stood to shake the hands of those that just hired him, only to fall over on his face when his “asleep” foot didn’t support his weight. Needless to say, his credibility was shot, and the team passed on hiring him.

Stop Fidgeting

When we’re anxious, nervous or uncomfortable, many of us tend to fidget, squirm, and reposition while sitting. Practice finding a comfortable sitting position before the interview and stick to it.

Continuous movement may signal that you’re less than interested in the outcome or perhaps plagued by some attention deficit issue. Either will send off alarms of caution.

Where Are My Arms?

When it comes to your arms, remember to maintain an open posture. Crossing your arms at your chest level, or keeping them clasped behind your back, will come off as either disengaged or threatening.

Try to keep your posture loose and open. This will make you look more inviting and engaged in the meeting itself.

Give Yourself a Hand

Quite often, we just don’t know what to do with our hands. Where do I put them while talking to another? Is a hand in a pocket acceptable? I like to use my hands while I talk. Is this acceptable?

Nail-biting, thumb-twiddling, knuckle-cracking, and finger-fidgeting are all outward signs of nervousness and anxiety. Avoid doing all of these.

Keeping your hands in front of you, gesturing and holding your hands in a comfortable, casual way is best. Watch how politicians work with their hands. They’ve been schooled in learning not to point, where to put their hands while sitting, and how to position them while standing.

Another thing to keep in mind is your handshake. Your handshake should be firm, but not crushing. Make sure your hands are dry, not sweaty in any way. Dry them thoroughly after coming from the bathroom as well.

It’s best to keep them folded in front of you while sitting and at your sides while standing. That’s not to say that using them to convey a passionate point of discussion isn’t powerful.

Once done, simply return them to the upright position and store your tray tables in front of you. You know what to do.

Listen Up

One of the highest compliments we can pay one another is to listen to each other. Make no mistake; an interviewer is as much gauging whether you’re listening to him as he is measuring your response to him.

It’s about trust in engagement. Translation: are you a strong listener or just a good talker? When you engage with another (co-worker, client, customer, manager), will you hear what they have to say and value their confidence?

Probably, the single best way to build this trust is to let the other person know you understand what he or she is attempting to convey. When listening to another person, practice mirroring his emotions: nod to show interest, smile when he talks about good subjects, frown when he talks about bad news.

Make sure that you are empathetic and engaged when listening to anyone. Besides learning something from others and showing respect, you’ll be demonstrating that you’re both a genuine person and worthy of their trust.

Do Not Phone Home

We have become addicted to our devices. Cell phones, tablets, iWatches, and wearables. We’re never without them. Except during an interview. This is where you fight back the demons and leave the devices in the car.

What does it say about us when our phone rings during an interview? No, it doesn’t give us a chance to portray that we’re in demand. It says that we are insensitive to the other person’s time and too self-important to focus upon them and the ultra-important matter at hand – getting hired.

By leaving the device elsewhere, we aren’t tempted to cave in to our Pavlovian conditioning and check our device during the interview. The idea is to begin earning the monthly service for that device.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you think you are a good communicator? How do you say what you are feeling without saying a word? Please share your thoughts below.