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We all have a set of core values we live our life by. They are the very foundation of who we are and what we stand for.

As important as they are, how clear are you on your core values?

And what is the vital role that your core values and life story play in your estate planning and crafting your legacy?

We are going to answer these questions in the final piece of an exclusive article and video series for Sixty and Me readers titled, Planning Your Legacy and Guiding Your Heirs.

If you missed the previous instalments in this series, please find them here:

Part 1: A Practical Guide to Giving Your Life Away to Heirs.

Part 2: 10 Steps to Define Your Core Values After 60.

It’s Your Legacy That Matters

Whether you choose to sit down and consciously craft your legacy, one thing remains certain. When you are no longer physically here, your life will have left a lasting impression on many people.

The question is what is the essence of your life’s impact on family, friends, and your community?

People will have their opinions of you, and they are entitled to them. And yes, you will need trusted legal and financial experts to help you with your will and estate.

But when it comes to crafting your legacy and clearly outlining your core values, no one will have a better understanding of what matters most to you than yourself.

You may agree but the big question for many is, when it comes to a will and your overall estate planning, where and how do you weave in your legacy? And how can you communicate your core values to those who are in your will?

You’re Passing on a Part of Yourself

Beyond the legal and financial jargon involved in a will, the true essence of it is founded on your core values.

You can craft a meaningful legacy for your heirs by thoughtfully incorporating your core values into your will and other important documents you leave behind. This process involves more than just the distribution of assets.

It’s about passing on a part of yourself.

From your values, beliefs, experiences, wisdom, and the essence of what you hold dear, your legacy cannot be left up to someone else to determine what is or what is not valuable to you.

Core values influence not just the allocation of assets, but also guide decisions about philanthropic giving, the care of dependents, and the overall legacy you wish to leave behind. Behind all of these are the stories associated with everything.

Your Legacy Told Through Your Life Story

Integrating the story behind your core values into estate planning can create a sense of peace and fulfillment. A well-thought story can ensure your life’s work and beliefs will continue to resonate and make a positive, lasting impact for generations to come.

Let’s look at five important ways of understanding your core values and how they come together in your will to tell your life story and shape a lasting legacy:

Ensuring Alignment with Beliefs

By understanding your core values, and the stories that shaped them, you can ensure that your will and estate plans align with your deeply held beliefs, values, and principles.

Facilitating Decision Making

Core values act as a guide in making tough decisions about asset distribution and end-of-life care. How you communicate this to your legal team, family, and heirs through the stories that frame your legacy is what leaves a lasting impact and ensures your wishes are fulfilled.

Reducing Family Conflict

Clearly communicated values and wishes can help minimize misunderstandings and conflicts among family members after one’s passing. But it is the story you weave into what you are leaving your heirs that elevates an object into the rarified realm of being priceless. You can write and/or record the story behind the items you are bequeathing to your heirs. You can include this story with what they are inheriting.

Leaving a Meaningful Legacy

A will that also includes key aspects of your life story can clearly communicate your core values while also extending your legacy far beyond your lifetime. Again, you can write or record this story.

Personal Peace and Closure

Understanding your core values and aligning them with key points in your will can bring a sense of peace and closure to you and your loved ones.

A Legacy of Love, Respect and Care

Integrating core values and personal stories into the estate planning process, you can ensure your legacy is not just about what you leave behind in material terms.

This is also about the values, beliefs, and love that continue to influence future generations.

Ultimately, the way you craft and communicate your will can itself be a legacy of love, respect, and care. Ensuring that the process is as much about respect and dignity as it is about asset distribution can be a significant part of your legacy.

I invite you to join me in the video where I will share additional insights on how to weave your stories into your will. I will also guide you through a series of journal prompts to help you integrate what you’re learning.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

How are you passing down your life story? What legacy have you created for yourself? What decisions that you made in the past have helped you to leave a lasting legacy in family, friends and your community?

It’s more somber than what the movie portrays.

As women navigate menopause and beyond, many find themselves confronting an unexpected challenge – dryness. From parched skin to dry eyes, vaginal dryness, and even dry mouth, this all-too-common symptom affects countless women in their 50s and beyond. If you’ve found yourself asking, “Why am I drying up everywhere?” – you’re not alone. More importantly, there are solutions.

Why Does This Happen?

The primary culprit behind increased dryness after menopause is the significant drop in estrogen levels. Estrogen plays a crucial role in maintaining moisture in tissues throughout the body by:

• Stimulating natural oil and mucus production.
• Supporting the skin’s moisture barrier.
• Maintaining adequate tear production.
• Ensuring proper vaginal lubrication.
• Supporting salivary gland function for oral moisture.

When estrogen levels plummet, these moisture-retaining mechanisms become less effective, leading to multiple forms of dryness that can affect comfort and quality of life.

Additionally, as we age, our thirst mechanism becomes less reliable. Your body may not signal thirst as effectively as it once did, leading to chronic mild dehydration that exacerbates dryness symptoms.

What Are the Consequences?

Ignoring these symptoms can lead to more than just discomfort:

• Dry eyes can progress to irritation, blurred vision, and increased risk of infections.
• Dry skin becomes more prone to itching, cracking, and dermatological issues.
• Vaginal dryness can lead to painful intercourse, increased UTI risk, and even relationship strain.
• Dry mouth can result in difficulty swallowing, bad breath, increased cavities, and a higher risk of oral infections.

Many women suffer in silence, believing these symptoms are simply “part of aging.” But addressing dryness proactively can dramatically improve comfort and well-being.

How Can You Address Dryness?

Proper Hydration: More Than Just Drinking Water

While drinking an adequate amount of water is essential, it’s important to recognize that as you get older your thirst mechanism may no longer be reliable. Don’t wait until you feel thirsty – by then, you’re already dehydrated. Instead:

• Set a schedule for water intake throughout the day.
• Keep water accessible at all times.
• Enhance hydration with moisture-rich foods like cucumber, watermelon, and oranges.
• Be aware that caffeinated beverages may have a mild diuretic effect and shouldn’t be relied upon for hydration.

The Critical Role of Electrolytes

Water alone isn’t enough. As we age, our body’s electrolyte balance becomes increasingly important for proper hydration and cellular function. Electrolytes help direct water to where it’s needed most in your body, including tissues experiencing dryness.

Key electrolytes to focus on include:

• Sodium and potassium: Essential for fluid balance and cellular hydration.
• Magnesium: Supports over 300 biochemical reactions and helps with moisture retention.
• Calcium: Works with magnesium for proper cellular function.

Rather than reaching for sugary sports drinks, consider these natural electrolyte sources:

• Coconut water
• Bone broth
• Sea salt or pink Himalayan salt (just a pinch in water)
• Leafy greens and avocados for potassium and magnesium

Beyond Hydration: Targeted Solutions

My Personal Struggle with Dry Eyes

While I’ve experienced each one of these dryness issues, my most profound and difficult-to-address problem has been, and continues to be, dry eyes. Managing this problem has been an ongoing process, but I’ve found several strategies that help significantly:

• Using over-the-counter eye drops with hyaluronic acid throughout the day.
• Sleeping with an eye mask since I’ve been told I occasionally sleep with my eyes open. This has the added benefit of improving my sleep quality.
• Taking omega-3 supplements, which can improve eye moisture.
• Using a heated eye mask at night before bed, which stimulates the production and flow of meibum – the oily substance in your tears that prevents evaporation.
• Applying gel eye drops at night to provide overnight relief.
• Washing my eyes and eyelids thoroughly with a mild, hydrating soap.
• Using a humidifier to maintain humidity.
• Taking regular breaks from screen time using the 20-20-20 rule (every 20 minutes, look at something 20 feet away for 20 seconds).

While these steps haven’t eliminated my dry eye problem, they’ve made a world of difference, especially when I stay consistent with my protocol. If you struggle with dry eyes, I highly recommend experimenting with these methods to find what works best for you.

For Dry Skin:

• Switch to mild, fragrance-free cleansers.
• Apply moisturizer immediately after bathing while skin is still damp.
• Use products containing hyaluronic acid, glycerin, or ceramides.
• Use a humidifier in your bedroom.
• Opt for shorter, lukewarm showers instead of hot baths.

For Vaginal Dryness:

• Use over-the-counter vaginal moisturizers.
• Apply lubricants during intimacy (water-based products are gentle and less likely to cause irritation).
• Talk to your healthcare provider about prescription options, including low-dose estrogen treatments.
• Maintain sexual activity, which improves blood flow to the area.

Lubricants: Not Just for Sex

A common misconception is that lubricants are only necessary during intimacy. However, vaginal moisturizers can be used regularly as maintenance care, just like you’d use face cream. These products help maintain moisture levels and tissue health, whether you’re sexually active or not.

For Dry Mouth:

• Stay well-hydrated and sip water frequently throughout the day.
• Chew sugar-free gum or suck on sugar-free lozenges to stimulate saliva production.
• Avoid alcohol-based mouthwashes, which can exacerbate dryness.
• Try using a humidifier at night to maintain oral moisture.
• Ask your dentist about dry mouth rinses or prescription saliva substitutes.
• Focus on breathing through your nose instead of your mouth. If you wake up with a parched mouth and throat, you’re probably breathing through your mouth at night. I’ve found mouth taping, which I wrote about in my blog post entitled MouthTaping for Better Sleep: The Surprising Fix for Snoring and Health,eliminates my morning mouth dryness, eliminates snoring, and improves my sleep quality.

What If You Don’t Address These Issues?

Ignoring dryness symptoms can lead to a cascade of consequences:

• Chronic discomfort that affects daily activities.
• Increased risk of infections and tissue damage.
• Withdrawal from intimate relationships.
• Reduced quality of life and self-confidence.
• Avoidance of physical examinations due to discomfort, potentially missing important health screenings.

What If You Could Thrive, Not Just Survive?

Imagine confidently navigating this phase of life without the constant irritation of dryness. With proper attention to hydration and targeted care, many women find they can:

• Enjoy comfortable intimacy well into their later years.
• Maintain healthy, supple skin that belies their age.
• Experience relief from eye irritation and improved vision.
• Keep their mouth and throat feeling comfortable and fresh.
• Feel more energetic and well overall.

Dryness, while common, is not an inevitable part of aging that must be endured. By understanding the causes and implementing tailored solutions, you can address these symptoms effectively and enjoy greater comfort and confidence in your 50s and beyond.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What types of dryness issues have you experienced? What solutions have you tried? How have they worked for you? Please share your experiences in the comments below to help other women in our community!