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Embrace the Dance at Any Age: Contemplating the Wonders of All Forms of Dance

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The great Bob Marley once said, “Forget your troubles and dance.” How simple yet so profound and true! When we immerse in music and dance, everything else seems to drift away and leave only the desire to sway to the rhythm.

The Desire to Move to Any Kind of Music

Several years ago, when I got married, my parents had my wedding reception at a Middle Eastern restaurant with a Middle Eastern band. My mother was Lebanese, and we were most familiar with the staples and music of that country.

Some of our guests were acquainted with the food but not so much the music and dance. Well, they were in for a surprise.

Most of the night was a celebration of line dancing to the Dabke, and each time a new song was played, guests of all ages rushed to the dance floor to revel in this enchanting and pleasurable dance.

At the end of the evening, people left quite sated and not just from eating the delicious food but from the enjoyment they had dancing to a new but very ancient ritual.

Since my reception, family members have dispersed, and many of these traditions have receded into the background. But then I received a pleasant surprise. An old high school acquaintance invited some of us to a Middle Eastern dance program.

She and her colleagues in the world of dance were putting on a show at a local senior facility. We had the opportunity to observe women of all ages and sizes dance gracefully to the mellifluous sounds of Middle Eastern music.

I was delighted and moved to the music, and as I looked around, I saw adults of all ages – especially those in their 70s, 80s and older – doing the same.

Some of the individuals were compromised physically and mentally, but their mind and body responded to the sounds of music. It was apparent that, in their own way, they were dancing even if it was with their hearts and minds only.

You Cannot Help but Move or Be Moved

People have the desire to move even if they are reluctant to dance. There are those people who refuse to get on the dance floor, but we do not know what goes on internally.

Is their heart dancing? Do they wish they could engage in this movement but feel foolish or fear losing control? Many will reluctantly tap their feet – if not finally get up and give it a whirl.

As we know, there are all kinds of music. Some create our desire to move at any age as demonstrated by those residents engaged in the Middle Eastern dance show. Over the years, as we have witnessed, music and dance have evolved.

Beginning in the 60s, a freer style of dance replaced the more learned and disciplined dance of decades before. There is something to be said about this. People feel like they can move in whatever manner works for them.

Yet, the majesty of the waltz and foxtrot, as well as the finesse and skill of the chacha, rumba and tango, continue to be quite appealing.

People still enjoy watching the dancers with their intricate but fluid steps as displayed with the popularity of the American shows “Dancing with the Stars” and “So You Think You Can Dance.”

How about just being moved by music where our heart and soul respond? Think about some of the beautiful classical pieces which evoke this internal movement. Chopin, Debussy, Wagner, Mozart and others have created masterpieces which can move us beyond words.

For those who have some affinity for opera, how about Puccini’s La Boheme? Whether or not you are an opera connoiseur, the operatic voices of La Boheme cannot help but touch you. Truly, such music can often sear our being and create the magic of dance within us.

Never Stop Dancing with Your Heart and Soul

As people get older, they often withdraw from the celebratory movement of dance. Returning to Mr. Marley’s quote – how right he was. Music and dance can take us away.

A few weeks ago, I was at an event where there was a DJ. Many of us were sexagenarians, but that did not stop us. We were on the dance floor with free form and line dances such as the Electric Slide. Fun is an understatement in describing the sheer pleasure we were experiencing.

Since returning from this event, I have increasingly reflected on the importance and healing aspects of music and dance. Not only can they be a healthy diversion from the challenging surprises of life, but they also offer a therapeutic component in helping people get ‘unstuck’.

Music and Expressive therapies exist for a reason.

How Memory Holds on to Precious Music

In the late 1990s, I was visiting my father who suffered from Alzheimer’s. Thankfully, he still remembered me. In addition, I was able to observe his recollection of other things.

On that particular day, a few months before he left this earth, my dad and I were sitting in the community room of the nursing home. All of a sudden, a woman began singing the beloved Irish ballad “Danny Boy,” and my father, who was second-generation Irish, lit up.

He joined her in song. I was so grateful for this occurrence. During those few minutes in time, I had the opportunity to witness my father experiencing a magical moment of clarity that was extremely poignant and is embedded in my mind forever.

Yes, music and dance are truly ethereal, and we must capture and hold tight onto these gifts to humanity as much as possible throughout our lifetime.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

How has music touched you? Do you still dance in whatever way works for you? What songs have stayed with you? Do you recognize the magic of music and how it can light up your life? I encourage you to think about it and leave a comment below.

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5 Excellent Reasons Why We Should Volunteer in Our 60s (Consider #2)

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Do you want to make a positive difference somewhere? Do you want to do something special, something meaningful? Most of us do, but often, we think it’s too late. We’re ‘over the hill’ and our useful days are over.

I don’t know where to begin to tell you how wrong this is!

Sure, we’re older. Many of us are retired and possibly living on a restrictive budget, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do something to help others.

It actually means that we are in a perfect position to make a positive difference to something or someone. We have the time and the desire. A good number of us are reasonably healthy, full of life, and engaged in the world.

Regardless of our abilities, most of us do want to make a positive difference and do something special and meaningful. We can volunteer.

There are many worthy charities that desperately need help using the basic everyday skills we all have. From animal and child care, to gardening, renovating, painting, as well as coaching how to organize and manage groups of people. The needs are endless.

Here are 5 excellent reasons to volunteer:

Feels Good to Give Back

All the money in the world can’t compensate for the good feelings we get when we help those less fortunate.

Don’t you love how you feel when you see that big smile on the face of the child you helped, the mother you supported, or the man you helped rescue his cat. We all love to feel good, and giving back feels good.

Gives Us Purpose

Volunteering gives us something to do with a set of activities and a schedule for doing them. Most volunteering opportunities involve a routine which mitigates boredom and/or the onset of depression, that many of us fall into from the lack of purpose we feel post-retirement.

Lets Us Explore Our Passions

The majority of us didn’t have careers that let us explore our passions. We had to find jobs that paid the electricity, water, and rent due each month, and feeding cats just couldn’t do that.

Now we can indulge in the many opportunities with organizations involved in animal care, gardening, basic construction and athletic activities. We can explore our passions, while giving back.

Makes Us Feel Valuable

As we get older and our ‘work life’ ends, we can begin to feel useless, that we are no longer needed. Volunteering helps us find value in our lives. It improves both our self-value and self-esteem.

Through volunteering we feel we are positively contributing to society. We see value in our efforts and how our volunteering is important to something bigger than ourselves.

Provides a Positive Sense of Accomplishment

We are never too old to learn new things, but often it is a challenge to take a course. Volunteering allows us to learn new skills and techniques in the process of helping others.

Whether you are volunteering with children, animals, or another aspect of community life, you are always learning new things and new ways to do old things.

There is a positive sense of accomplishment that comes from time well spent with learning, especially when we see the benefits of our new skills.

Volunteering is something we should all consider and explore. There are many excellent charities that need people for a variety of tasks. They can be as physical or as passive as we want.

We can indulge our passions and interests, as we make a positive contribution to those in need and feel great doing it.

How good is that!

Let’s Have a Conversation:

How often do you volunteer? Where did you volunteer most recently? How do you feel after a day of helping others? What do you like to do most in your life as a volunteer? Please share your favorite activities and organizations and how they empower your post-retirement life.

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Jen Shah’s Gold Square Sunglasses and Black Zip Up Romper

Jen Shah’s Gold Square Sunglasses and Black Zip Up Romper in Scottsdale

Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Season 3 Episode 3 Fashion

Yes, we know we’re probably going to receive some flack for reporting on Jen Shah wearing this $3,800 black zip up romper on this week’s episode of RHOSLC in Scottsdale. But hey, we’re just here to do our civic duty in reporting on the fashion (and definitely do not condone drinks being thrown on it). 

 

Fashionably,

Faryn

 

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Writing a Mini-Memoir: Sharing Your Abundant Life with the Future Generation

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Do you want to write a memoir, but never find the time for such a big project? Or, are you not really used to writing? Do you grapple with the issue of not wanting to ruin any of your relationships, even after you are no longer alive?

What about writing a mini-memoir?

My Idea of a Mini-Memoir

A few years ago, I received a memoir written by a contemporary of my grandmother – a woman who grew up in the same town, Lueneburg, Germany.

This short piece was only 17 pages long. Yet, it carried me into the woman’s world and life. It described the people in her world, including my grandmother’s great Aunt Betty, and it totally captivated me. “Wow,” I thought. “This is a great idea.”

Why does a memoir have to be a huge undertaking or a long book? What about a mini-memoir that travels the pathways you traversed in your lifetime, meandering through your world, describing what it felt like at different moments in the context of the political winds and national events?

Even describing the technology as it evolved is fascinating. You know that already if you’ve ever described life before cell phones, YouTube, and navigators to the younger generation. The mini-memoir can be a perfect vehicle.

Wanting to Know More

I am lucky as I have videotaped interviews of both my parents about their lives. My father even wrote his autobiography. But that only makes me hunger for stories from previous generations.

I would just love to read the story of my German Jewish grandmother who we called Oma. What did the world look like for Oma and her sisters? What was it like to attend Oxford University as a woman in the 20s of a past century and yet become a housewife while her sisters became professionals?

Gertrude, who was the head nurse in a Jewish hospital in Hamburg, babysat for me. Aunt Lottie was our doctor. But they seemed very ancient to me, and I was too young to ask questions. Now I’d like to know: How did it feel for them to come to the US, fleeing Nazi Germany in their 50s?

I don’t know their stories, I have only a few black and white photos of the three sisters traveling to Yellowstone and other National Parks dressed in skirts hanging below their knees and laced ‘grandma’ shoes that Oma always wore.

What Is a Mini-Memoir?

I looked up mini-memoirs on Google and found a slightly different concept than the one I present here. According to the resource I read, to write a mini-memoir you can either take one episode of your life and tell the story, or take a picture from the past and see what memories it sparks for you.

Both are very good ideas – but mine is a bit different. According to my concept, writing a mini-memoir goes as follows:

Step 1:

Make a short sweep over your whole life. Tell about your childhood, teenage years, young adult years, and the next stages of your life as you go from your 30s up through your current age.

Step 2:

Highlight your experiences during those different stages of your life. If you can, tell stories along the way. How were you feeling? What did you learn during that time in your life?

Step 3:

Describe your world, the people you knew along the way, what it looked like in the places you lived. Don’t forget to include the technology.

Step 4:

Give the context in terms of what was going on in the world. How did it affect you?

Step 5:

Share your values, describe what mattered in your life, and speak through the window of your identity as you experience the world now.

My Tips to Writing a Mini-Memoir

To begin, you can:

  • Look at a photograph from a time in your life that serves as a memory for you. Describe the moment, the feelings that come up, and even words that were spoken.
  • Get together with a friend or family member and share some stories, jotting down notes and ideas.

Then:

  • Do an outline or map of your life and place the stories inside it.
  • Good writing includes showing rather than telling. Describe, describe, describe.
  • Share your beliefs in ways that are not preachy.
  • Try not to throw anyone under the bus including yourself (through self-deprecating remarks).

If you are working on a longer memoir, kudos to you. That is a wonderful undertaking and I recommend it. The mini-memoir idea is for the person who feels that they are not ready to take that leap. Or at least, not yet.

Take a minute to consider trying to do the mini-memoir. It may just turn into a longer project, but even if it doesn’t, a mini-memoir has value in its own right – standing for future generations as a way to share your life with people who come after you in its simple 17- to 20-page glory.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What do you think about memoirs? Do you think you could write your own? Does a mini-memoir sound like a good idea? Please share your thoughts in the comments below.

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Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 12 Reunion Looks

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 12 Reunion Looks

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 12 Fashion

It’s of course sad to see this season of RHOBH come to an end. But having that spicy reunion trailer drop made me kinda stoked for it. I mean we already knew all the lewks were hot, but the alleged drama is piping. The fact that they couldn’t even withstand a group photo at the end 👀. I can’t wait to see what all goes down on it, but for now the only thing going down should be your eyes considering we have all their outfit deets below.

 

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

 

 

Erika Jayne’s Season 12 Reunion Dress

Erika Jayne's Season 12 Reunion Dress

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Dorit Kemsley’s Season 12 Reunion Dress

Dorit Kemsley's Season 12 Reunion Dress

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Kyle Richards’ Season 12 Reunion Dress

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Crystal Kung Minkoff’s Season 12 Reunion Dress

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Lisa Rinna’s Season 12 Reunion Dress

Lisa Rinna's Season 12 Reunion Dress

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Sutton Stracke’s Season 12 Reunion Dress

Sutton Stracke's Season 12 Reunion Dress

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Garcelle Beauvais’ Season 12 Reunion Dress

Garcelle Beauvais' Season 12 Reunion Dress

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Diana Jenkins’ Season 12 Reunion Dress

Diana Jenkins' Season 12 Reunion Dress

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Kathy Hilton’s Season 12 Reunion Dress

Kathy Hilton's Season 12 Reunion Dress

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