Margaret Manning, this website’s founder, has noted recently that this is the 10th anniversary of Sixty and Me, but I don’t think enough fuss has been made of this wonderful fact.

We should be singing and celebrating loudly.

And congratulating her and the people behind the scenes who have kept us together for all these years.

And maybe feeding back a few thoughts in the process!

What Makes a Community?

By coincidence, I was thinking about the Sixty and Me community just one week ago.

I had been approached for an interview for a podcast to talk about my new book about how much I enjoy being old. We writers tend to welcome such opportunities, as it brings us to the attention of a new audience.

We did the interview and after the recording was finished, the podcaster (Deborah Voll) and I chatted. It turned out that she was also a writer for Sixty and Me! What a surprise. She had known this, it seems, but I didn’t. It immediately gave us something in common, like we were both part of something bigger.

Which we were.

And then I thought, Sixty and Me thinks of itself as a ‘community’, and I wondered how much readers had come to feel this to be the case.

Knowing People

I don’t know for certain what makes a community a community, but it must be something to do with feeling that you know and like the people involved.

This made me wonder how many of you have found friends through fellow readers of Sixty and Me. I see it sometimes in the comments, where two women find they have something unusual in common. There are discussions of contacting each other.

• Have you made online friends with people via Sixty and Me?
• Have you actually met these friends and continue to meet?
• Or do you feel you are in a community of like-minded people even though you haven’t met each other?

I then wondered whether you felt you knew the writers on Sixty and Me. When I read a newspaper, there are particular columnists I read on a regular basis and others I read from time to time. But sometimes, I just read an article for its subject matter no matter who is writing.

• Do you watch out for particular writers at Sixty and Me?

Common Interests

Being a community might also mean that there is a sense of communality between us, of shared experiences and interests.

We write about everything to do with life (makeup, travel, the joys of grandchildren and much, much more) and sometimes death (of our friends or thinking about our own).

We hope that these issues interest you, of course,

• Do you feel that Sixty and Me is a special place to find discussions of issues that concern you?
• If so, which topics do you keep an eagle eye out for?

Time

I suspect time helps to build a community. Time to feel part of something bigger than you. Ten years is a long time in our lives.

• Have you belonged to Sixty and Me for a long time?
• Does anyone go back a full 10 years?

And time brings changes. Some months ago, I wrote an article about turning 80 and was surprised to find others of that age responding.

• How many of us 80-year-olds are out there?
• Is there anyone in their 90s?

Comments, Likes, Shares

And finally, a community is a matter of sharing with others. The site is well set up for comments, likes and shares.

You may not know this, but we writers give our time freely, for the pleasure of thinking it might help someone out there.

And we LOVE it when you comment. It makes us feel that you are really reading. I am equally happy when someone says how much they agree with what I write or when they want to argue. It’s always interesting to hear what you have to say.

• Do you contribute your own thoughts with a comment or like or share when you are taken by a particular idea?

The Future

If you are minded to answer any or all my questions, I would be happy to write an article pulling together your responses. It would be exceedingly interesting, but I need your input in order to do so.

Sixty and Me would certainly love to hear from you.

So, do you feel 60 & Me is your community? For how long have you belonged to it? Do you follow particular writers, or do you go by topics of interest? What else would you like to share?

Margaret Manning, this website’s founder, has noted recently that this is the 10th anniversary of Sixty and Me, but I don’t think enough fuss has been made of this wonderful fact.

We should be singing and celebrating loudly.

And congratulating her and the people behind the scenes who have kept us together for all these years.

And maybe feeding back a few thoughts in the process!

What Makes a Community?

By coincidence, I was thinking about the Sixty and Me community just one week ago.

I had been approached for an interview for a podcast to talk about my new book about how much I enjoy being old. We writers tend to welcome such opportunities, as it brings us to the attention of a new audience.

We did the interview and after the recording was finished, the podcaster (Deborah Voll) and I chatted. It turned out that she was also a writer for Sixty and Me! What a surprise. She had known this, it seems, but I didn’t. It immediately gave us something in common, like we were both part of something bigger.

Which we were.

And then I thought, Sixty and Me thinks of itself as a ‘community’, and I wondered how much readers had come to feel this to be the case.

Knowing People

I don’t know for certain what makes a community a community, but it must be something to do with feeling that you know and like the people involved.

This made me wonder how many of you have found friends through fellow readers of Sixty and Me. I see it sometimes in the comments, where two women find they have something unusual in common. There are discussions of contacting each other.

• Have you made online friends with people via Sixty and Me?
• Have you actually met these friends and continue to meet?
• Or do you feel you are in a community of like-minded people even though you haven’t met each other?

I then wondered whether you felt you knew the writers on Sixty and Me. When I read a newspaper, there are particular columnists I read on a regular basis and others I read from time to time. But sometimes, I just read an article for its subject matter no matter who is writing.

• Do you watch out for particular writers at Sixty and Me?

Common Interests

Being a community might also mean that there is a sense of communality between us, of shared experiences and interests.

We write about everything to do with life (makeup, travel, the joys of grandchildren and much, much more) and sometimes death (of our friends or thinking about our own).

We hope that these issues interest you, of course,

• Do you feel that Sixty and Me is a special place to find discussions of issues that concern you?
• If so, which topics do you keep an eagle eye out for?

Time

I suspect time helps to build a community. Time to feel part of something bigger than you. Ten years is a long time in our lives.

• Have you belonged to Sixty and Me for a long time?
• Does anyone go back a full 10 years?

And time brings changes. Some months ago, I wrote an article about turning 80 and was surprised to find others of that age responding.

• How many of us 80-year-olds are out there?
• Is there anyone in their 90s?

Comments, Likes, Shares

And finally, a community is a matter of sharing with others. The site is well set up for comments, likes and shares.

You may not know this, but we writers give our time freely, for the pleasure of thinking it might help someone out there.

And we LOVE it when you comment. It makes us feel that you are really reading. I am equally happy when someone says how much they agree with what I write or when they want to argue. It’s always interesting to hear what you have to say.

• Do you contribute your own thoughts with a comment or like or share when you are taken by a particular idea?

The Future

If you are minded to answer any or all my questions, I would be happy to write an article pulling together your responses. It would be exceedingly interesting, but I need your input in order to do so.

Sixty and Me would certainly love to hear from you.

So, do you feel 60 & Me is your community? For how long have you belonged to it? Do you follow particular writers, or do you go by topics of interest? What else would you like to share?

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TikTok is easily the hottest spot for discovering the crème de la crème of beauty products; from hydrating hair masks that provide “instant results” to face masks that will leave a glazed donut glow on your skin, you’ll find the best recommendations with just the lift of a finger. That includes one Internet-viral pore-refining mask that took the app by storm: Sand & Sky’s Australian Pink Clay Mask, which happens to be on sale with code FLASH25.

This isn’t your typical green clay mask—described by the brand as a “magnet for toxins,” the formula instead leans on gentle yet effective Australian-sourced pink clay (a combination of red and white clay) to remove impurities, dirt, grime and pollutants from deep within your pores. You’ll experience little to no dryness, redness or irritation from use, which is a major bonus for those of us with sensitive, fickle complexions. 

Sand & Sky

Sand & Sky’s Australian Pink Clay Mask

Not only does the mask tighten and minimize the look of large, congested pores with each 10 minute application, but the inclusion of kelp and witch hazel (a natural astringent), mangosteen and kakadu plum (a rich source of vitamin C) brighten dullness, even out skin tone and pigmentation and keep acne from rising to the surface. 

Beyond being featured in countless TikTok videos, the clay mask has earned the approval of plenty of shoppers, one of which referred to the product as the “ultimate skincare secret” since it “battles breakouts in a whole new way and resolves blemishes within a couple of days.”

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Bonus: It’s completely free of sulfates, silicones, parabens, phthalates, PEGs, gluten, and is cruelty-free and PETA-approved. 

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Even if you are not super competitive, we all like to be correct/win – especially when it comes to people closest to us like our family/partners. Wanting to be right can extend to almost any aspect of our lives – some significant, but many times trivial. It is important to distinguish when you need to insist something is right – for instance, for safety reasons – and when you can just let go.

My late husband and I got into some heated arguments about who was right and who was wrong about things – primarily insignificant things. As a result, we both kept a mental tally sheet of how often the other was wrong and how often each of us was right.

I must admit that on my tally sheet, my “right” score was much higher than his – except when it came to technology; he was always right about that! I genuinely thought I was wiser. But was I necessarily wiser? And was being right truly important?

Who Really Cares About “Who Let the Dogs Out?”

What I wish I had been wiser about was realizing earlier in our relationship how many things we tangled over that were so trivial. For example, did it matter who was correct about the better route to take or the faster lane? Why argue over who left a light on or forgot to turn up the AC? What’s the big deal if someone bought green grapes instead of red grapes?

When my husband became ill with pancreatic cancer, the keeping score/being correct arguments became almost nonexistent. We did not want to waste what little time we had left. What was truly significant in our lives became excruciatingly clear.

A Clean Slate

After my husband died, I was given a chance to change my ways. After two years of missing the daily companionship of a partner, I finally did the online dating thing. I was lucky to find someone I was very compatible with and who had similar wants for his next relationship. Several things we discussed almost from the get-go were honesty, no scorekeeping, and keeping drama to a minimum.

Keeping to these commitments has been easier since we don’t have some areas of contention married couples have – finances, children, etc. However, as I stated above, there are so many trivial topics to tangle over that come up in day-to-day living, and we have chosen not to. So, you can make a choice now and start with a clean slate. It is not always easy to do but try to catch yourself.

Better Left Unsaid

A good rule of thumb is to heed this quote from Bernard Meltzer, who hosted a radio call-in advice show (1967-1995): “Before you speak ask yourself if what you are going to say is true, is kind, is necessary, is helpful. If the answer is no, maybe what you are about to say should be left unsaid.”

You may know that what you are about to say is true, but sometimes being kind, necessary, and helpful are more important in order to maintain a solid relationship. If it is not critical who is right and who is wrong (even if you know you are correct), take a breath and let it go. Trust me; it keeps relationships healthier and feels so much better!

What trivial things do you find yourself fighting over with your significant other or those you love the most? Do you keep score? Are you able to let things go? What do you do to avoid these entanglements? How do you resolve them?

Erika Jayne’s Ivory Drawstring Blazer Dress With Garcelle

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 12 Episode 12 Fashion

While Erika Jayne originally planned on just ordering chamomile tea with honey during this scene with Garcelle on last night’s episode of RHOBH she instead ended up with cognac. And while you may have originally planned on just ordering some online groceries today, don’t be surprised if you instead end up with a cute drawstring blazer dress (yes we’re a bad influence, we know).

Fashionably,

Faryn

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