I’m not trying to brag too much here, but I’m pretty certain that I have one of the coolest, most enviable jobs around. Reason being? I scour the internet for the best shopping deals and coolest trends every day, and get to test out so many amazing new clothing pieces, beauty products, and home goods. I’ve been a shopping writer and editor for a few years now, and have developed a knack for determining which products are worth every penny, and which ones are better left in the virtual cart. 

This month is all about stepping into the fall comfortably. Stores like Target are beginning to roll out their fall home lines and sites are seeing increased search interest in moisturizing and clarifying products (makes sense, given that temps are sadly going to plummet and the air is about to dry). Amazon’s Movers & Shakers page—a section that shows what items are rising in popularity—is filled to the brim with soothing lotions and oils. Google is being inundated with “fall fashion” inquiries and people on Pinterest are starting to search for pumpkin recipes and candles once more. 

My shopping carts fit the bill for these fall trends perfectly. I’m shopping for nourishing face masks, sleek platform loafers, and cozy throw blankets to start my cold weather months off the right way. Check out the eight essentials I’ll be buying this September below: 

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Courtesy: Neutrogena.

Neutrogena Anti-Residue Clarifying Shampoo

I don’t know what it is about spending so much time indoors, but ever since the pandemic began, my scalp has been a mess. I’ve experienced more dandruff and dryness these past two years than I have collectively my entire life. My one saving grace? This simple clarifying shampoo. It removes icky product build-up from dry shampoos and conditioners without stripping my hair of its natural oils. For best results, I swap this product with my typical purple shampoo once or twice a week. 

Courtesy: Sam Edelman.

Sam Edelman Laurs Platform Loafer 

I’m of the belief that if you have a good pair of loafers, you can wear them across every season. I love the androgynous vibe of the shoes. They’re punk and sexy at the same time. Unfortunately, most quality pairs are a few hundred dollars. That’s why, when I found these Sam Edelman ones, I squealed out loud with glee. The Olivia Rodrigo-esque shoes platforms come in black, tan, or green and pair them with practically every dress or pair of pants you’ve got hanging in your closet. 

Courtesy: Target.

Cable Knit Chenille Throw Blanket

There is no problem that curling into a cozy throw blanket can’t solve. This is why at the beginning of every fall season, I gift myself a new one. I love the look of all things cable knit. The sophisticated design makes tops and accessories like this blanket, which is just $25, look so much more expensive than they are. 

Courtesy: Nest New York.

Nest Pumpkin Chai Candle

It’s time for society to pass the point of calling everything pumpkin scented or flavored basic. Let’s all just agree that pumpkin anything is delicious and should be celebrated, not mocked. This September, I’m going all in on candles. Nest’s Pumpkin Chai candle is everything I want to cover my space. The spice scent is decadent without being overwhelming. Plus, the candle itself is a warm orange. You can’t find a better fall candle than this. 

Courtesy: Mr. Coffee.

Mr. Coffee Mug Warmer

I’m fairly certain that this clever coffee invention was made for me. It ensures that slow sippers (moi) won’t ever have to deal with lukewarm drinks ever again. To use it, all you have to do is flip the switch on, and the base will warm your cup’s bottom and keep the liquids inside nice and hot. I’ll be keeping this accessory on my WFH desk at all times. 

Courtesy: Free People.

Free People Picnic Sweater Romper

This fall, I don’t want to wear anything that requires more than a little effort to put on. Jeans? Absolutely not. A button-up shirt? You’ve got to be kidding. Heels? Please, don’t make me laugh. But this sweater romper? Sign me tf up. It’s like wearing a stylish and socially acceptable set of onesie pajamas. I plan to keep it on at home during work and lounge time, then dress it up when I go out with tights and combat boots. It’s such a simple look, but those are the best ones to style again and again.  

Courtesy: PÜR.

PÜR 4-in-1 Sculpting Concealer 

There are very few people I trust with makeup advice. One of them is Rachel Nussbaum, InStyle’s beauty writer. She knows everything there is to know about the ingredients that comprise popular foundations, hairsprays, etc. Her vast knowledge comes with a lot of heartbreak. She often tells me (and her readers) of the harmful irritants that are too-often included in name brand products, so when there’s a brand she approves of, I take note. Rachel told me that Pur is on her list of A-Okay concealers, so I’m hopping on this 4-in-1 color corrector faster than a kid on a trampoline. It comes in 16 shades, costs under $25, and is free from the nastiness of phthalates, aluminum, and talc.

Courtesy: Summer Fridays.

Summer Fridays Jet Lag Mask

I’m a writer living in New York. Translation: I don’t have an income that gives me the means to spend hefty amounts of cash on skincare (nor do I want to). Spending close to $50 on a face mask would physically and emotionally pain me if I didn’t already know and love this one so much. I’ve been using Summer Fridays’ Jet Lag Mask for years. It saved my skin when I was on Accutane, and continues to be my secret to non-greasy hydration. I’d say I have to stock up on it about every five months, and this September is one of them. I’ll be using it to prevent cracked winter skin, and before date nights or brunches to give me a Hailey Bieber-esque glow.

There is one thing we can come to expect from Miss Olivia Rodrigo and it’s for her to show up and show out in an absolute lewk. The singer-songwriter responsible for half of our emotional breakdowns (and break-throughs) this year can be photographed at the grocery store, and the whole world stops to take notes about what she’s wearing. So, as expected, the entire galaxy paused when she stepped onto the Met Gala steps this year wearing an iconic Saint Laurent number.

The edgy pop-punk look took us back to the ’90s in the best way possible. The all-black feathered ensemble paired with chainlink earrings and cuffs and sky-high heels made us grateful for our contact lenses, because without our 20/20 vision, we would not be able to see every fine detail—including her pristine hair.

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We know that Hailey Bieber has put in work popularizing the sleek bun style, but Olivia put to bed any doubt that the look isn’t fabulous and worth your time and tutorial training. To make it easier for you, we got the low-down from the expert who styled the songstress, hairstylist Clayton Hawkins.

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Olivia’s look was crafted to ensure that “her beauty speak for itself,” according to an email from Hawkins’ team. To do this, he used the Ferrari and Bugatti of hot tools, the Dyson Supersonic hair dryer and Dyson Corrale hair straightener to smooth out her locks. But the real secret to the slicked-back look is a more affordable hair essential—Oribe’s Gold Lust Nourishing Hair Oil.

The high-end hair product is a favorite among shoppers and stylists alike. Close to 1,000 Amazon reviewers have given it a perfect rating, many of them noting its ability to diffuse dryness and frizziness.

“I suffered from severe damage and breakage for a long time after years of heat styling my hair and bleaching it light,” wrote one five-star reviewer. “I’ve tried every popular product you can think of, some in the hundreds of dollars. So believe me when I say that this oil is worth the money and should be purchased by anybody with damaged, frizz-prone, unruly hair that needs a pick-me-up!”

Courtesy: Oribe.

Hawkins relied on this fan-favorite oil not once but twice throughout the styling process to ensure that it kept tangle-free and looked glossy.  The first time around, he used it after straightening out Olivia’s locks. Then, after twisting her hair into a few edgy knots and securing those down, he used the smoothing oil again to touch up her hairline and ensure even more sheen.

All of these intricate steps certainly didn’t go to waste—Olivia looked absolutely stunning. Good 4 Her.

Think about the person who frustrates you the most. Perhaps it’s a family member, colleague, neighbor, or friend. Maybe you find yourself thinking, They just don’t seem to get it, or their behavior is completely unacceptable.

Wouldn’t it be nice if they would change? Life would be simpler, easier and more peaceful if they would just correct their behavior, right?

Inaccurate Expectations Create Disappointment

Any time we are frustrated by another person, it’s because they are failing to meet our expectations of them.

We have expectations for all the people in our lives, in fact. It is a rule book for how we expect a person to behave. Why do we have such rule books? It is so that we can feel how we want to feel: understood, supported, cared for, and loved, to name just a few.

If only they would realize that I’m not “over it.”

I can’t believe it. She told me that it’s time to “move on.”

He should have never asked me out so soon after my husband’s passing.

She should call me back when I call her.

She should realize that all she does is complain.

They should have invited me to the party.

She should be supporting me.

They should know what I need.

Most often, we don’t tell people what’s in our rule book for them; we just expect that they should know, and act accordingly. While it seems like having expectations of other people is normal, it is actually the source of great pain because it makes our happiness dependent on the actions of another person.

It robs us of our power. It gives other people power over us. It prompts us to try to control others so that we can feel better.

We Have No Control Over Others

The truth is that adults have the freedom to behave however they choose. It happens all the time: people behave exactly how they behave. If you think about the people who frustrate you the most, you can probably accurately predict exactly how they will behave. Their words and actions are not a surprise to you, but they still violate your rule book, so you feel frustrated.

Feelings Are an Inside Job

We think that the behavior of other people makes us feel frustrated, or angry, or any other difficult emotion. But here is the truth: our thoughts create our feelings. Which is good news because it means that we have complete control over our feelings. All feelings are dependent only on your own thoughts, not the actions of another.

When someone behaves in a way that violates your rule book for them, you have a thought about it, and that thought is what directly creates your feelings. So, if you’re tired of feeling annoyed or disappointed or irritated, “try on” other true thoughts and see how they make you feel. For example:

This is the part when the neighbors throw a loud party.

That is exactly what she often says.

Their behavior is predictable.

She can’t possibly support me because she’s never walked in my shoes.

He loves me in exactly the ways he knows how.

Thoughts like these probably generate more neutral feelings. These thoughts are a form of acceptance that indeed, adults behave exactly however they behave. This is not the same as condoning or approving of their behavior. It’s merely relinquishing the reigns of attempted control, because we are never able to control another person, anyway.

If we throw away our rule books for other people, they can no longer disappoint us with their behavior. We can let people act exactly how they act. We can stop holding them accountable for how we feel. And from that place, we can decide on next steps.

We can choose whether a boundary is necessary, or whether it’s time to complete the relationship. Or perhaps we continue the relationship as is, while simply redirecting our thoughts – on purpose.

How have you dealt with difficult relationships in your life? Do you notice that you have rule books for how people in your life should behave? Have you thrown away your rule book for someone, and if so, how did that benefit you?

Heather Gay’s Black Aviator Sunglasses at Lunch

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While Heather Gay showed us her amazing ordering skills with lunch in this scene on last night’s season premiere of RHOLSC, it’s now your turn to show us your amazing ordering skills with her black aviator sunglasses. And once that’s done, we highly recommend ordering some truffle fries, a fried brussel sprout caesar, 5 panko-fried risotto balls, 2 reubens and bottomless prosecco to celebrate. 

Fashionably,

Faryn

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Jen Shah’s Green and Purple Printed Dress at Her House

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While it’s ultimately up to the courts to decide if the only thing Jen Shah is guilty of is being “Shah-mazing,” we at Big Blonde Hair definitely find her guilty of tempting us to spend some big bucks on her Spensive (not expensive…“Spensive”) green and purple printed dress. However thankfully we managed to find some more affordable options to shop that will still allow us to (legally of course) steal her style. 

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Faryn

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