Some women believe there are no good men online. I strongly disagree. Every day, I see my clients attracting good men into their lives even safely during Covid. Part of the reason is they have the tools for quickly being able to discern whether a man might be a jerk or a good guy.

In this blog, I’m going to share two clues that will help you spot a man who might NOT be the right one for you.

Clue #1: The ‘Must Have’ Quality

Have you ever heard of a “perceived high value quality”? This is a quality you believe a man must have for you to even consider dating him. Examples of Perceived High Value Qualities can be looks, fitness level, religion, occupation, or financial status.

Usually, when you go online looking for a good guy, you find one who has your Perceived High Value Quality and you think he might be the one for you. This is where it gets tricky. How? Let me explain.

He’s Perfect – or Is He?

A client of mine met a guy who lived a very lavish lifestyle. This was exactly what she had wanted in a guy. He reached out to her and they started dating. He took her on two dates where he wined and dined her at the most expensive restaurants in town. In her mind, she was thinking, “Yes, he’s perfect.” But was he?

When we started talking more about the man beyond his financial status, she said after two dates he began pushing for sex. She felt she wanted to get to know him better before she got involved with him in an intimate relationship. He told her he couldn’t believe she didn’t trust him. The second date ended with him storming off.

He called and apologized and asked if he could make it up to her by taking her to one of her favorite restaurants. She was once again swept off her feet by money as she accepted his invitation. This expensive dinner turned out to be a battle once again over sex she wasn’t ready for.

Examine Your Feelings

When we talked, I asked her to check in with how she was feeling about this man when she was with him. She said she loved the expensive meals, but she was feeling like her back was always against the wall as she constantly defended herself and her feelings about when to get intimate with him.

Being with that man had stopped feeling good. She wanted someone who cherished her and honored how she was feeling. She realized because he was wealthy, she had thought he was the whole package.

Always pay attention to what your body is telling you on a date. If you feel uncomfortable, this is a big warning sign, he might not be a good guy for you.

Clue #2: He’s Too Good to Be True

How many times have you gone online only to see men who remind you of your uncle or your grandfather? Right? Because we’re used to seeing ourselves every day, we aren’t always aware of our own aging process unless we go back and compare ourselves to older pictures.

Yet we have a feeling of youthfulness so seeing older faces online is a huge disconnect between how we feel inside and who is out there to date. By the way, this is a problem both sexes face when they see the opposite sex online.

A Field for Scammers

Scammers play right into this when they post pictures that show happy, healthy, handsome, well-dressed men. These ‘men’ pose for selfies in the bathroom, shirtless on motorcycles, or holding up pictures of the fish they caught. And they look really appealing.

So when they write to you, well it’s just like high school all over again where the handsome, fit captain of the football team picked you over everyone else.

And that’s how they hook you. They have scripts and they know by talking to you for hours that they can get you to reveal your biggest challenges in life. They’ll identify with them saying it happened to them too. You feel so understood – and that’s when they come in for the scam by asking you for money.

You might think you’d have to be stupid to give money to someone you never met. But it happens all the time to very intelligent, successful women who are lonely and fall in love with the voice of a man who for the first time in a long time is devoted to listening to them.

‘Hot’ Is Not the Best Deal

So how do you avoid falling in this trap? Don’t look for the hot guy. You want a man who lives near you. Someone you do a video date with or safely meet within two weeks of his initial contact. If he claims he’s out of the country and doesn’t have a wireless connection that allows him to Zoom, tell him to contact you when he’s back in your local area.

In the meantime, get back online and look for a man who seems to be a decent guy. He’s the one who shows you pictures of his life, not pictures of products he’s holding. (Another clue you’re dealing with a scammer.)

What is the ‘must have’ quality you look for in a man? How can you tell if an online profile reflects this quality? Have you encountered a scammer in your online dating pursuits? How did you spot them as a fake? Please share with the community!

Tiffany Moon’s Star Print Crop Top in Austin

Real Housewives of Dallas Season 5 Episode 8 Fashion

According to the previews for this week’s episode of RHOD the fun in Austin continues with some sort of hula hoop competition. And although we’ll have to wait and see who officially wins, I think we can agree that based on her super cute crop top Tiffany Moon was definitely the true star (especially since she told us where she got it on her Excel spreadsheet ). 

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Faryn

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Originally posted at: Tiffany Moon’s Star Print Crop Top

There are some beauty products that surprise you with results overnight and others that take some time to show a major change. But if you stick with it, it’s worth it. The latter includes vitamin C, retinol and many skincare devices. The NuFACE Facial Toning Devices have a cult following for a good reason. They help lift and sculpt the face over time and with patience, show some major results. Luckily, there’s a NuFACE sale to get in on now that will get you started now.

Not only is the NuFACE Mini Facial Toning Device included in the sale, but the bundle also comes with five Prep-N-Glow Cloths to remove makeup and impurities and gently exfoliate, as well as two Hydrating Leave-On Gel Primers. This gel is the first step in your treatment, though you can also use a similar serum already in your beauty arsenal. This bundle just makes it easier.

So, how does NuFACE work? The FDA-cleared mini facial toning device uses microcurrent technology to gently stimulate the face. You just need five minutes a day to glide the device over your jowls, jawline, cheeks, eyebrows and forehead. You’ll see smoother skin and a lift right away but results become more permanent over time.

Here’s why you need to pick it up from this sale. If bought separately, this bundle would retail for $233. The QVC price is $200 and it’s on sale for 22 percent off of that price. This doesn’t happen all the time. There are three colors to choose from—just for fun. It makes a great gift, too. Mother’s Day isn’t too far away.

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The Ordinary’s affordable line of clinical-forward skincare products has amassed quite the cult following since it launched a few years back, and thanks to platforms like TikTok and Reddit, its popularity continues to grow. While TO’s expansive range of skincare and beauty (they do offer a few cosmetics now) was founded with the intention to “to celebrate integrity in its most humble and true form,” if you’re not an expert in decoding fancy skincare jargon, it can tricky to figure out what exactly you need based on your specific skin concern(s). With the help of Reddit and some brand research however, we’ve rounded up a few of the best The Ordinary products for fading acne scars and dark spots left over from previous breakouts and sun damage.

While scouring through customer reviews and best-sellers on any e-tailers is always a good way to figure out which beauty products to spend your hard-earned cash on, we knows you don’t have time to scroll through endless threads and message boards, so we’ve gone ahead and done the work for you (you’re welcome!). And TBH, for me this very activity is actually fun (and a part of my job, of course). Besides, I’ve been using The Ordinary products since the brand first made its debut, and I most certainly have the holy grail favorites that I’ve repurchased multiple times— especially when it comes to erasing hyperpigmentation and pesky spots.

With that being said, I wasn’t all that surprised that many fellow Redditors and TO fans also named a few of my favorite products from line (including the Niacinamide 10% + Zinc 1% serum and the AHA 30% + BHA 2% Peeling Solution (an excellent dupe for the cult-favorite Triple Berry Smoothing peel by Renee Rouleau) as their hero products too. Oh, and while it’s always important to apply SPF on the daily, you want to be extra diligent about applying your sunscreen when using the products below.

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Azelaic Acid Suspension 10%

This lightweight cream-gel hybrid feels nourishing like your favorite moisturizer, but according to Redditors, it does much more than just hydrate. “TO’s Azelaic Acid 10% is doing wonders for my skin, pretty much overnight! It’s a skin brightener that targets acne and acne scarring well,” says one fan of the gel-cream treatment.

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Glycolic Acid 7% Toning Solution

This popular exfoliating toner kept popping up during my research process, and I totally understand why it’s such a go-to for nixing acne scars given the Glycolic Acid content. ” I use [the] Glycolic 7% toner daily, and alpha arbutin a couple times a week. The aha is pretty strong for me, so I use it maybe 2x a month. It’s a process but worth it,” says one Reddit user.

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AHA 30% + BHA 2% Peeling Solution

This is probably my absolute favorite product from the brand—and it appears that I’m not alone. One Redditor gushed “Really noticeable improvements after one use! It’s also less than $8 you’re not going to find anything for such a good price!” I totally agree, and good point about the jaw-dropping cheap price.

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Niacinamide 10% + Zinc 1%

As one of my favorite brightening serums of all time (regardless of the budget-friendly price point), I wasn’t surprised by this product’s popularity. One loyal fan commented that “The niacinamide [serum] has faded my scars significantly! By far my favorite TO product so far.” I also find that it is a great brightening solution for sensitive skin types who don’t tolerate vitamin C skincare.

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Alpha Arbutin 2% + HA

Arbutin works to reduce the look of dark spots and acne scarring because it helps to limit the production of excess melanin without causing further damage (and scarring, ironically enough) as popular anti-scarring ingredient, hydroquinone. “I have PIH around my mouth from cystic acne and using the niacinamide with the alpha arbutin has given me great results,” raves one acne-scar-sufferer.

Kyle Richards’ Hollywood Tee on Instastories

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Everybody comes to Hollywood, they wanna make it on The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and BigBlondeHair.com in the neighbourhood. Kyle Richards’ “Hollywood” tee that we saw her wearing during her 5-minute makeup tutorial on Instastories (post on that to come) is a super cute tribute to Tinseltown. And as it turns out still in stock, which we’re definitely taking as a big, bold Hollywood sign that we should buy. 

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Faryn

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Originally posted at: Kyle Richards’ Hollywood Tee