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Lea Michele is Taking Her Own Advice While Social Distancing—And It’s Good

Under normal circumstances, staying in the house every day could be described as monotonous or boring. Not so much when a global health crisis is imploding outside. “I feel like every day is different,” Lea Michele recently told STYLECASTER. “But it’s reassuring because a lot of people feel the same way, where one day it’s like, ‘Okay, we can do this. We’re home and we’re making this work.’ And then the next day it’s like, ‘This is so scary.’” Still, Lea Michele’s wellness expertisespecifically, tips from her “Wellness Wednesdays” Instagram highlightis a goldmine of ways to protect your sanity and make healthy decisions while adjusting to a new normal.

(And if you live for beauty product recommendations like me, it’s especially gratifying.)

“It was an opportunity for me a couple of years back…to slow down and really start taking care of myself. It was about connecting with myself on a deeper level and exploring new and holistic ways to not only look my best but to truly feel my best on the inside,” she said. Now, she’s quite literally taking her own advice and sharing it with others because let’s be real: self-care is more important than ever.

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“What I’m trying to do right now as much as possible is encourage as many people who can stay home to stay home. It’s what we have to do,” she said. “And I’m now relying on these self-care rituals I’ve used for over the years to help me get through, and sharing with people to help make their time at home maybe a little more peaceful.”

Like most of us, Lea takes social distancing very seriously and continues to follow stay at home orders with her mom and husband [Zandy Reich]. Spoiler alert: they aren’t sick of each other (yet), thanks to a sense of humor and steady routine. In fact, I’d say she’s got this whole “self-distancing” thing figured out. Ahead, and in her own words, here’s how she’s pulling it all off, including a steady transition to clean beauty products.

Stay Connected

It’s really hard right now because my father’s on the East coast, so me and my mom are making sure to FaceTime at least twice a day to check in with him. I think what we’re going through right now is absolutely horrific, but I have found that I’m connecting with friends more than I maybe ever have.

We spend so much time with very brief text messages that really don’t have a lot of depth, and I think being where we are right now is such an opportunity for us to connect on a deeper level by speaking over the phone, which I don’t think people have done in a very long time. Now, these conversations aren’t just gossiping or sort of surface level. It’s, ‘How’s your family? How are you feeling? How are your emotions? How’s your stress?’

It’s been great to find creative ways to move our bodies at home and not be stuck in the same routine.

Curb Your News Intake

Just now, my husband was sitting in the living room doing some work with the news on and I was like, ‘Let’s just turn it off ’til later.’ It’s incredibly important to stay informed, but the numbers are rising so rapidly right now that it is very scary, and I think it’s important to get the information and then make sure you also take the time to protect yourself and process.

I read The New York Times every morning and then I try to not look for the rest of the day. Maybe towards the evening, we’ll put on MSNBC or CNN to just check and see what’s going on. I still have my fun little girly things that I like to read every day, but to get my information, I make sure that I stick with credible sources because we can get overwhelmed with a lot of, ‘Well, their article says this’ or, ‘That article says that.’ I think we have to go straight to the source, especially the CDC or WHO, to make sure that we’re getting the correct information.

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Leave Space in Your Schedule

The most important thing for us as a family, my mom included, was that we came up with a really good schedule. So, my husband works for the first half of the day and then he’ll work out and I’ll work out as well. And then we’ll cook a nice dinner, all of us together, and then at the end of the evening, all watch a show together.

We’ve never really felt super on top of each other because we make sure that everyone has their own individual space. I could definitely find myself being someone to get very sad by all of this. And it’s very anxiety-provoking, but we’ve really supported one another and made sure that we’ve kept our spirits lifted as much as possible.

Liberate Your Skin

The only things that are important to me right now are shaving my legs and washing my hair. Those are the two things that I will do always no matter what, but other than that, I’m giving my nails an opportunity to breathe with no polish. I mean, I love a good pedicure but I’m just letting everything have the opportunity to breathe and grow; not having my hair blown out with different products and not wearing makeup. That has been a sort of nice, liberating thing in the midst of all of this.

I love every book from Hello Sunshine that Reese Witherspoon recommends.

Don’t Put Your Goals on Pause

My goal for 2020 was to transition to all-natural products; every single thing from deodorant to toothpaste to face moisturizer to face wash to shampoo. It was really hard because you don’t realize, ‘Oh, wait, my toothpaste has chemicals in it,’ and then I have to replace that, or that my deodorant has chemicals. But one of my favorite new products since doing this switch is Rahua shampoo. I can’t express enough how much I love this shampoo. I trust anything by Honest Company, especially their body wash and moisturizer. Those were the easiest, quickest swaps.

Obviously, Goop is on the higher end, price-wise, but it has a really great body wash as well. Another brand that I love is OSEAgreat body oils, face oils and body scrub. Necessaire Body Wash is also amazing. And then there’s a really wonderful natural feminine line called Rael. They have everything from tampons to face masks to feminine wash and it’s so great because we don’t think about how we’re really putting a lot of chemicals into our body too.

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Spice Up Your Workouts

We really want to respect this stay at home policy. I know it’s important to go out for walks and we are doing that sporadically, but we have a lovely backyard. So I’ll do a little light yoga in the backyard. We also have a Peloton in the house, which turned out to be one of the greatest purchases.

We’ve also been FaceTiming with our trainer, so it’s been great to kind of find creative ways to move our bodies at home and not be stuck in the same routine every day.

Eat Your Veggies, But Treat Yourself Too

We’re not going out to dinner, obviously. Being at home and stocking the fridge has sort of forced us to eat on the healthier side. We’re cooking our own foods and making sure that all of our meals are balanced. But outside of that, having some really good comfort food is also important. For me right now, it’ll be the occasional grilled cheese or my favorite Annie’s Macaroni and Cheese, which I had two nights in a row the other day and have no shame about. I also love Amy’s pizza.

Join a (Virtual) Book Club

I love every book from Hello Sunshine [Book Club] that Reese Witherspoon recommends. I’ve read almost all of them. I just started digging into Whisper Network by Chandler Baker.

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Stick to Soothing Sounds

Keeping our minds healthy during this time is so important. We can get incredibly overwhelmed, possibly even sad or down because it’s a tragedy and it’s a huge challenge and it’s terrifying. The Calm app has been such a saving grace for me. I was never really into meditating and I still don’t even know if I’m actually meditating. But it’s just a little quiet time for me to have every single day, even if I just do a 10-minute meditation.

I’ve also just been going on Spotify and putting on relax, chill mixes. Anything that is sort of light and easy, like JOHNNYSWIM or Kacey Musgraves, is amazing.

Keep Your Netflix Queue Uplifting

We aren’t watching as much as you would think we would be right now. Our days are actually filled with working out or meditating or reading or calling friends, so that’s a really positive thing. But with that being said, of course, I’m still watching my shows. We’re trying to keep it positive and light. My mom and I watched Emma the other day, and it was so sweet and amazing.

We loved Captain Fantasticit’s about a father and his children who live in the woods and survive in nature. There’s another great documentary called Expedition Happiness and it’s about a boyfriend and girlfriend who pack up in their bus to travel across the country. It’s really just about stripping down and focusing on each other and the world. And we got to look at some beautiful scenery while being at home. The Goop Lab is also a great thing to watch right now to focus on self-care.

Our mission at STYLECASTER is to bring style to the people, and we only feature products we think you’ll love as much as we do. Please note that if you purchase something by clicking on a link within this story, we may receive a small commission of the sale and the retailer may receive certain auditable data for accounting purposes.

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Benefit’s Family & Friends Sale Is OTW and Nothing is Off the Table

Even while we’re all working from home and only going out for the very essential, there’s something nice about at least having your brows and skin looking groomed and put together. If you’re starting to run out of your everyday beauty products, Benefit’s Friends and Family sale for 2020 is almost here to save the day. Stock up on every eyebrow pencil you could ever want, plus natural-looking foundation, mascara, lip tints, bronzer and more at 20 percent off.

From April 13 to April 16, use code BENEBABE on anything on the Benefit site. Seriously, there are no exclusions here, which is really rare. The discount even applies to value sets, tools and cute Benefit merch. Plus, you get free shipping on orders of more than $50. It’s hard to pick favorites when it comes to a brand like Benefit but we chose some must-haves below to get you started on shopping. Come back here on April 13 to shop and fill your cart with what you need while physical distancing and what you’ll need when you finally get out and about again.

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Benefit Cosmetics.

Hoola Matte Bronzer

This shimmer-free bronzer comes in four skin-flattering shades, including the new Caramel (medium–deep) and Toasted (deep).

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Image: Benefit.

Badgal Bang! Volumizing Mascara

You’re not getting lash extensions anytime soon but this mascara is the next best thing.

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Benefit Cosmetics.

Brow Styler Eyebrow Pencil & Powder Duo

In 12 waterproof shades, the dual-ended pencil and powder fakes naturally full brows.

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Image: Benefit.

Love, Lips & Tints Full-Size Lip Stain Trio

Benefit’s iconic lip and cheek tint now comes in three pretty shades and you can try them all in this affordable set.

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Image: Benefit.

Hello Happy Flawless Brightening Foundation

This medium-coverage foundation contains SPF 15.

Our mission at STYLECASTER is to bring style to the people, and we only feature products we think you’ll love as much as we do. Please note that if you purchase something by clicking on a link within this story, we may receive a small commission of the sale and the retailer may receive certain auditable data for accounting purposes.

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Confessions of a Lonely Woman: Overcoming Loneliness Starts with Yourself

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A lonely woman. Aren’t these powerful, dare I say, almost ugly words? Conjuring up someone pathetic, perhaps? Someone you probably don’t want to know?

I’m writing this piece because of all the recent press about how loneliness is now considered not only dangerous for your health but even a fatal condition. Loneliness, it seems, has become a matter of life and death.

British Prime Minister Teresa May appointed a Minister of Loneliness because of the magnitude of loneliness in the U.K. Sixty and Me features articles and videos on loneliness and how to meet people.

Who’s Lonely Now?

If you were to meet me, you’d never think I could be lonely. But I am. You’d think I’m a vibrant, fun loving woman, brimming with energy and panache. I’m not sad sack lonely, I’m deeply lonely.

I’m not depressed enough to stop caring for myself, be a hermit, dress in drab clothes and stop caring kind of lonely. I’m fashionably dressed and coiffed, makeup artfully applied lonely.

That’s why loneliness is so insidious. It’s a silent killer. Women who suffer from loneliness die a little each day, unseen.

It’s embarrassing to admit I’m lonely. First, it seems ‘silly’ when there are ‘real’ problems in the world, like hunger, disease, political unrest ravaging millions of lives.

Second, admitting to loneliness is like I’m announcing that I’m the unpopular girl in school. I use girl instead of woman, because being lonely brings out the girl in me.

Loneliness Breeds Depression

Loneliness is more than just about feeling lonely – it breeds depression. And that’s a tough thing to crack.

Another unfortunate issue about loneliness is we blame the victim. We think loneliness is the lonely woman’s fault. And so, we pepper the lonely with advice: you should go for a walk, go to the library, join an adult education class, go to a meetup group, do volunteer work.

And it’s true, the ‘cure’ for loneliness is not dependent on other people springing into action. No, it requires you, the lonely person, to spring into action.

But know this: just being an active person doesn’t mean you’ve conquered loneliness. I am very busy all day, and still am lonely, whether I’m out in the world or home alone.

I Never Thought I Would Be So Lonely

Even I’m surprised that my life has reached such lonely proportions. It has largely to do with time and circumstances of life in our modern world. I grew up in a loving family and had a small town, active childhood filled with connection.

As an adult, I adored the full, energetic family years of raising my children and being active in my community. Then came a divorce. The children grew and flew. Parents die. People move. Career ends.

Loneliness is so much more complicated than people care to consider. For instance, I’m not shy, but rather outgoing in my own way. I find it easy and pleasurable to chat with strangers if I’m in a waiting room or in the supermarket standing at the deli counter.

But living alone has begun to make me feel very vulnerable in the many ways that have been written about: being sick, traveling, cooking alone, having no one to pick you up from the hospital, navigating holidays. It all adds up. You know what I’m talking about.

Loneliness has many different faces and styles. It’s not what you’d necessarily expect it to be, or look like.

Lonely Insights

I’m an introvert, meaning, I get my energy from time spent alone. I’m also a writer (check out my book!) and writing doesn’t happen at events, activities and parties. Writing happens sitting alone in a room for hours, every day. So, the essence of my life is solitary and requires hours of solitude.

I’m not a social butterfly like some people I know who go to most every event they can, but I do have meaningful and deep relationships with wonderful friends, mostly women. My soul tribe, however, doesn’t live in my city.

Because of work and love, my tribe lives around the world – in Vancouver, Vietnam, Berlin, Kolkata, London and France. I have acquaintances where I live, but when you are an expat, as I am, you often befriend people you wouldn’t necessarily want to know simply because they’re from back home.

I thrive on meaningful conversation, not cocktail party chatter. I’m not often invited to coupled dinner parties in the socially conservative part of Mexico where I live. Hard to believe in 2018, but I’m viewed as a threat – imagine, me, a threat? – and my presence upsets the balance at the table.

I’d like to think that in a cosmopolitan city this would not be the case. I feel like a decades older Bridget Jones, spirited and trying hard. Then there’s our ‘lovely’ patriarchal society where a single older woman is not at all in demand or valued, much less desired.

Coming Out of the Loneliness Closet

Admitting and accepting that I’m lonely makes it less scary somehow. As a result, whilst existential loneliness is not so easily banished, I have noticed a subtle shift in me. I’ve started making more of an effort to get out and connect with people.

I’m not a complainer. Life’s too short to complain. I’ve got a lot of living to do. So I’ll powder my nose, put on my lipstick and get out there. I’ll let you know how it goes.

Do you ever feel lonely? What positive things do you do when you feel like you need more social contact? Please share your thoughts below!

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2 Exercises to Cope with Challenges in Our Lives

2 Exercises to Cope with Challenges in Our Lives

Living in New York
and watching all these pop-up hospitals open up, I feel the vibes of wartime. And
it’s terrifying, feeling like a target and wondering who will be hit next.

I would like to offer
two exercises I find to be great self-care tools. Right now, we need all the
help we can give ourselves for our daily lives at home during this extreme time
of difficulties.

Belly or Diaphragm Breathing

Humans have what’s
called the parasympathetic nervous system which is in charge of keeping us
calm. It helps slow our heart rate and helps with digestion by relaxing the
sphincter muscles in our gastro (digestive) tract.

This is in contrast
to our sympathetic nervous system, which is our fight-or-flight response. We
need this to enable us to respond quickly when there’s danger.

In times of stress,
danger, fear, and all of our arousal emotions, our sympathetic nervous system
is on high alert. Therefore, to help us get to a place or state of greater
calm, our parasympathetic system needs to be stimulated to bring us down from
our heightened level of arousal.

One of the best ways to accomplish this is by slowing down our breathing. Taking slow deep breaths helps activate the parasympathetic system to begin to relax and restore our body to some calmness.

Breathing Exercise

Place your hand on
your stomach as you do this breathing practice so you can feel it rise and
fall.

Now, as you inhale
through your nose, push/puff out your stomach like you’re blowing up a balloon.
As you exhale through your mouth, pull in your belly and slowly breathe
out.

Make your exhale
longer than your inhale. Do 3–5 of these
slow breaths at a time and repeat later in the day or as needed. This exercise
provides a quick feeling of restored bodily calm as there is an immediate physiological
response.

Right now, during
this pandemic, we are all on
high alert, and our sympathetic nervous system is running high, keeping in
constant arousal mode.

We need to practice
calming techniques to stimulate the opposing system (parasympathetic) and
provide some restorative relaxation. And, this also helps keep our immune
system strong.

The Three Blessings

There is much
research documenting the psychological and physical health benefits to practicing gratitude
in our lives. It boosts our positive emotions, reduces depressive symptoms,
enhances our relationships, and many more. It is a major contributor to our
overall wellbeing and makes for a great coping tool.

Gratitude Exercise

Every night before bed, write down three things you’re grateful for. I also refer to this as WWW (and it’s not a website!)…

What’s Working Well

Even in the midst
of great challenge, we can find many things to be grateful for. It can be as
simple as a good conversation with a friend, a healthy home-cooked meal, time
to read… This helps shift our focus and realize that along with the bad there
is good.

As my positive
psychology teacher says, “When you appreciate the good, the good appreciates.”

Start doing these
two easy exercises every day, and you will see a shift. Small things can make a
BIG difference. We need all the help we can give to ourselves right now to keep
going as well as possible.

What’s Working Well for you now? What
tools/strategies are helping you manage this difficult time?
Let’s have a conversation!

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B.O. Banishing Antiperspirants For Women Who Actually Sweat

Since I can remember, I’ve dealt with excessive sweating (a.k.a. hyperhidrosis). While research regarding the cause is inconclusive for this condition, there seems to be a genetic component. Thanks, Dad. Anyway, not only does the excess sweat impact my underarms, but it also takes its form on my palms and feet—embarrassing, I know. Anyway, my sad sob story aside, as you can imagine, I’ve experienced with a huge assortment of antiperspirants and deodorants over the course of my life, and through trial and error (along with a lot of stained white t-shirts and humiliating sweat rings) I’ve definitely found a few formulas that actually work to keep my sweating under control (…most of the time, that is) and block odors.

When I was younger, I’d often apply my antiperspirant twice (sometimes three) times a day to keep the moisture at bay. While the jury is still out on the health risks antiperspirant may have, applying it three times a day certainly doesn’t seem like a good idea to me. This concern, however, did ultimately lead me to bask on my journey of finding a solid, clinical-strength product that actually helps to keep my underarms nice and dry for longer than just an hour or so. Scroll along to see my favorite, top-performing products that actually deliver what they promise.

Our mission at STYLECASTER is to bring style to the people, and we only feature products we think you’ll love as much as we do. Please note that if you purchase something by clicking on a link within this story, we may receive a small commission of the sale and the retailer may receive certain auditable data for accounting purposes.

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