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5 Steps to Creating a Vision Board to Inspire Your Year

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What better time than the start of a new year to envision new possibilities! Most of us get ready by buying a planner or a calendar. Empty pages filled with promise. But there’s another way to prepare for the year ahead. You can ask the counterpart to your Intellectual Planner Self, your Right-brained Imagination, to help you create a Vision Board.

You’re right… this exercise isn’t a new concept. But it’s a trusty tool. And it’s especially fruitful if you’re longing for change and can’t seem to think or plan yourself any closer to making it happen.

A vision board opens channels to ideas you may not realize you had.

Visioning Coaxes Your Dreams into Reality

Planners and calendars are perfect for scheduling and staying organized. Vision boards are intended to give your wildest dreams some breathing room.

They’ve been called Creativity Collages, Image Banks… they’re a vivid reminder that too often we skip the dreaming and scheming phases of creating change in our lives.

We’re socialized to take ACTION, and we often jump into that too quickly. We’d rather make action plans, problem-solve, figure stuff out!

Vision boards give us the needed permission to wonder “What if…”

Breathe Life into Your Intentions by Paying Attention to Them

When you make a vision board your subconscious mind runs the show, your playful self cuts loose, and your inner critic takes a nap.

Selecting words and images representing what you want or who you want to become allows your outer life to fall in line accordingly and informs you about what you need to pay attention to.

Take 5 Simple Steps

Ready to start the fun?

STEP 1: Choose Your Format

You have some options. You can make cards to put on your desk or tuck away for your eyes only. Or use a bulletin board with push pins.

You may want a poster board to hang in your hallway. Then everyone can hold your vision for you. Or maybe a banner that hangs from your ceiling sounds about right.

You get the idea. There’s no wrong answer for Step 1. 

STEP 2: Ask Yourself What Your Heart Truly Desires

Take deep breaths into Step 2. Get to the feelings beneath what you want.

If you want a million dollars, for example, ask yourself WHY? Deep down, what will that bring you? Security? Peace of mind? Freedom?

Don’t rush this step. Get to the essence of what you want. Give your subconscious a chance to identify what’s truly at the heart of your desires.

Most importantly, don’t filter, judge, or criticize what you come up with.

STEP 3: Find Images That Speak to You

Do this leisurely. Magazines or the internet are great sources. So are photos, your original art, or doodles.

It’s very important in Step 3 not to try to figure out why you are drawn to an image or a phrase. Or to talk yourself out of it. Just use it. The feeling behind it came to you in Step 2.

Your creative self knows things your logical self doesn’t. And remember, that’s the side of you that’s doing this activity.

STEP 4: Place What You’ve Found or Created on Your Card or Board

Use glue, tape, pins, or whatever else works for the type of project you’re creating.

STEP 5: Put Your Board Where You’ll See It

You don’t have to build a shrine, stare at it for hours, or memorize it. It will still serve its purpose.

Your subconscious mind is amazingly effective.

Take note of when or how something from your board manifests. (Hint: It’s like getting a surprise that doesn’t feel that surprising.) Write these things down or make a Vision Card Journal or Log.

You can use your shiny new planner to make your lists and set your appointments. But playing with a vision board yields another level of information.

Watch what happens. Maybe this year you’ll create what your heart truly desires. I hope you do!

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you ever created a vision board or other tool? How do you feel about having some fun with one this year? Let’s have a conversation!

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Angie Katsanevas’ Season 4 Reunion Look

Angie Katsanevas’ Season 4 Reunion Look / Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Season 4 Fashion

Angie Katsanevas looked red hot in her Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Season 4 Reunion dress and sandals in the preview pics that dropped yesterday. And while I’m still wrapping my head around the theme execution (make it Bermuda with snow on the ground and no ones dresses tying together? 🤷‍♀️), when it comes to Angie’s look she nailed it regardless of whether they’re in Salt Lake City or by the sea.

The Realest Housewife,

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Angie Katsanevas' Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Season 4 Reunion Look

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hair: Julius Michael; makeup: Priscilla DiStasio; stylist: Katie Peare; nails: Nails by Jenny 

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Whitney Rose’s Season 4 Reunion Look

Whitney Rose’s Season 4 Reunion Look / Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Season 4 Fashion

Whitney Rose’s Bermuda inspired dress was bold and bright at the Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Season 4 Reunion based on the preview pictures released. Paired with dazzling gold strappy heels, her ensemble was definitely giving bad warm weather. And let’s not forget the Barbie inspired ponytail, the final touch on this youthful look. If you’re in search of a treasure or a work of art in fashion form then keep scrolling to ensure you don’t miss the boat! ⚓

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Whitney Rose's Season 4 Reunion Look

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Mary Cosby’s Season 4 Reunion Look

Mary Cosby’s Season 4 Reunion Look / Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Season 4 Fashion

Mary Cosby radiated elegance in a draped blue gown filming the Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Season 4 Reunion. Her unique style, complemented by her breathtaking hair, captured my full attention especially since her hair was curled for most of this season. The cobalt blue color paired with a fitted waistline and high slit make it an ideal choice for your next dress to impress occasion!

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Amanda


Mary Cosby's Season 4 Reunion Look

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Lonely and Married? Try These 5 Tips for Navigating Marital Challenges in Retirement

navigating marital challenges in retirement

Embarking on the journey of marriage in retirement requires a nuanced approach to address the unique dynamics that emerge during this phase of life. I see marital challenges come up all the time in my life coaching practice.

For couples who have spent decades together, the abrupt transition from the structured routine of separate working hours to a newfound, extended togetherness can strain even the most enduring relationships.

While common retirement advice mainly centers around financial planning, the intricacies of maintaining a fulfilling and purpose-filled retirement during this period are often overlooked. Which makes the marriage and relationship dynamics on top of that hefty transition even more challenging.

Needless to say, this contributes to the increasing prevalence of gray divorces among individuals over 50. So much so that the gray divorce rate was 8.7% in 1990, 27% in 2010, and an astounding 36% by 2019.

If you find yourself grappling with feelings of disconnection, boredom, or loneliness in retirement, you’re not alone. Many retired adults struggle to discover new activities and sustain connection as a couple during this life stage.

To reignite the flame and navigate these challenges, consider these five tips, carefully tailored to the unique dynamics of marriage in retirement.

1. Rediscover Your Foundation

Embarking on the path to marital rejuvenation craves a reflective journey down memory lane. Take the time to reminisce about the moments that led to falling in love and what has kept you together through the years. Beyond the initial attraction, marriage is a profound commitment that encompasses sharing a life, raising a family, and committing both financially and emotionally.

This introspective exercise aims to evaluate whether your partner aligns with your current expectations and encourages transparent communication about your needs and desires during this important phase of life.

2. Examine the Root Cause

Unraveling the intricate dynamic behind marital challenges post-retirement is a pivotal step. Reflect on the broader picture, and meticulously document your thoughts on what led to the strain in your relationship.

Writing serves as a therapeutic tool for introspection, and it helps you recognize patterns and hidden sentiments. While common reasons for divorce, such as lack of commitment, infidelity, and conflicts, are worth exploring, maintaining a gratitude journal, specifically focused on your spouse, can have transformative effects over time. Delve into details about your appreciation for your partner – from the initial stages of your relationship to the present. It’ll add depth to this practice.

3. Foster Effective Communication

Effective communication stands as the linchpin of any successful marriage, particularly in the uncharted territory of retirement. Be mindful of the time you spend expressing yourself, listen actively without immediate reactions, avoid interruptions, empathize, and validate your partner’s emotions. Much easier said than done, of course.

If there’s any one takeaway to glean it’s to simply hone your skill of listening. It’ll curb tendencies to fly into defensive mode.

Either way, establishing ground rules for open sharing your thoughts and feelings is crucial, especially when you recognize and even expect your partner’s perspectives and preferences to be totally different from yours. This intentional approach not only fosters a sense of being valued and heard, but also acts as a proactive measure to address potential issues before they escalate.

4. Cultivate Shared Interests

The concept of dating should not fade with marriage but should evolve into a continual process, especially in retirement. Engage in shared activities, especially those that are new and challenging.

Research shows that participating in shared activities enhances marital satisfaction. Learning new things together strengthens your bond, creating opportunities for teamwork and vulnerability. So, as much as you can, actively seek out novel hobbies for retired couples to inject new life into your marriage – and may it foster a sense of excitement and shared accomplishment.

5. Embrace Swift Forgiveness

Acknowledging that conflicts are inevitable, the practice of swift forgiveness becomes the antidote to lingering resentment. The success of a marriage hinges on how mistakes are handled.

Of course, forgiveness is a personal journey, primarily for one’s personal peace of mind. If you’re looking for a good relevant read, Katherine Schwarzenegger Pratt’s The Gift of Forgiveness shares valuable insights into overcoming resentment through forgiveness.

Conclusion

Rekindling passion is a worthwhile endeavor, and with focused effort, it’s never too late to recapture the excitement of your early days together – just expect it to look different. After all, you’re built for growth at every life stage, and retirement is no different.

All in all, the key to a successful marriage in retirement lies in proactive efforts to understand, communicate, and adapt to the evolving versions of you, your spouse, and the marriage in this unique life stage.

Even the sturdiest marriages demand effort, and if retirement has strained your relationship, please consider working on yourself as an individual as well. No matter how you slice it, showing up as a better version of you has to shift the dynamic of the relationship to a better place.

By the way, if you want help working on your own growth to show up as a better partner in your marriage, it’s worth looking into your own sense of fulfillment as an individual – take this fun 10-question Retirement Purpose Quiz to explore more about your own passions and purpose in retirement.

May you prioritize shared experiences, effective communication, and mutual understanding – to navigate the marriage challenges and rediscover the joy of togetherness again.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

How do you separate your own growth priorities from your partner’s? And how do each of you prioritize the couple’s goals and needs?

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