Month: October 2024
10 Steps to Influence Yourself from Within
Did you know the way you perceive relationships with people and how you see your own sense of worth and value in the world has been greatly influenced by the media since the time you were born?
If you are not consciously aware of where and how you have been influenced by the media, it is incredibly difficult to reclaim your power to make decisions based on your own terms and not those you’ve been conditioned to accept by outside influences.
When you consider the state of the world, there has never been a more important time than now to look within and begin empowering yourself in ways that are beneficial to your well-being and those around you.
But where and how do you begin doing this after 60, especially if you find yourself routinely distracted by outside influences? This article and accompanying video will answer this question and more.
This is part of a new series titled “The Invisible Customer with All the Money®”,where we will focus on how we, as women over 60, can begin telling ourselves a new and better story about what we can be, do, and experience through self-love.
To read the previous articles in this series, go here:
#1: 7 Steps to Reclaim Your Power from the Media
#2: Aging Stereotypes: Can You Be More Feeble?
Influence of the Media’s Narrative
To understand the relationship you have with yourself and others, it’s important to understand your relationship with the media.
The media is all about influence.
This is the kind of influence that moves the economic, political, and social needle in the direction that favors the narratives the media is selling to its audience.
What kind of narratives favor the media but is not in your best interest?
The kind that convinces you everything in life is scarce and the only power you have to combat this scarcity is outside of you. Hence why you are educated early on not to trust yourself but to trust authority figures who you were told know more than you and have your best interest in mind.
This may make sense to you now, but early on in life, when you did not know as much as you do today, it was very easy for the media to manipulate you into thinking in specific ways and doing things that did not serve your well-being.
Even if you have unplugged from the media, that early conditioning can still be unconsciously dictating how you make choices in life.
What can you do about undoing this influence now?
Influence Yourself from Within
For women over 60, the journey of reclaiming our power from external influences and trusting our inner, authentic self is both liberating and transformative.
With a wealth of experiences, insights, and wisdom gained over the years, you and I are uniquely positioned to reclaim our power in the now of nows. Best of all, we don’t require any approval from an outside authority figure or institution.
Here are 10 steps I have routinely taken over the years that can help you embark on an empowering journey to influence yourself from within:
#1: Introspection & Self-Awareness
Regular meditation can help you connect deeply with your inner self and recognize authentic desires and feelings.
#2: Limiting External Noise
This is about periodically detoxing from the media or any negative influence.
#3: Affirmations & Positive Self-Talk
Reiterate positive affirmations daily to instill confidence and self-belief.
#4: Remove Negative Self-Talk
Challenge and replace negative thoughts with constructive, loving and empowering words, beliefs, and behaviors.
#5: Journal Your Journey
Reflect on and celebrate your life, including things that have upset you. Write your accomplishments in a journal, no matter how big or small.
#6: Embrace Your Story
Every challenge and triumph in your life has contributed to your growth. Honor your story by embracing who you have become.
#7: Establish Boundaries
Prioritize your well-being by setting boundaries and declining things that don’t align with your values or comfort.
#8: Evaluate Relationships
Surround yourself with individuals who love, respect, support, and uplift you. Limit time with those who drain or belittle you.
#9: Lifelong Learning
Continuously learn and adapt through the power of self-love. An essential part of this is being curious; for exploring new things not only enriches life but also strengthens self-love and adaptability.
#10: Community Engagement
Find your 60-and-over tribe. The uplifting community on Sixty and Me is a great example. Connect with like-minded individuals or groups where you feel seen, valued, and heard.
A Continuous Journey
The path to influencing yourself from within is about trusting your authentic self.
That is why these 10 steps, and many more you can create and take, are essential for disentangling yourself from past and present influences that do not honor who you are or serve your best interests.
This is a process that doesn’t happen overnight, which is why reclaiming your power from outside influences is a continuous journey.
By consciously aligning your actions and choices with your true essence, celebrating your individuality, and valuing the wisdom that comes from within you, the path to loving more of yourself after 60 will become easier and a lot more fun.
I invite you to join me in the video above where I share six additional steps to help you integrate what you are learning.
Let’s Have a Conversation:
How are you reclaiming your power from outside influences? In what ways has the media influenced your thinking in the past? Do you notice its power of influence today?
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Fans think Love Is Blind‘s Katie Bollinger and Nick Dorka would make a pretty good couple.
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The Best Affordable Fashion Jewelry for Older Women
Finding the perfect piece of jewelry can help boost any outfit, adding a touch of elegance and personal style. For older women, fashion jewelry can offer an affordable way to accessorize without breaking the bank.
- Classic Pearls – Kaitlin Double Side Pearl Flower Hinge Earrings $10.00
$20.95(52% OFF) - Statement necklaces – Black Rhinestone Zig Zag Statement Necklace £10.00
£20.00(50% OFF) - Hoop Earrings – Lauren High Shine Hoops $10.00
$16.95(41% OFF) - Stackable Rings – Silver-tone Zig Zag Midi Rings – 4 Pack £3.00
£6.00(50% Off) - Brooches – BLING JEWELRY Bridal Crystal White Imitation Pearl Large Leaf Flower Brooch $22.97
- Layered Bracelets – Natural Stone Layered Bracelet $39.20
$56.00(30% OFF)
Keep reading to discover more affordable fashion jewelry.
Whether you’re dressing up for a special occasion or adding a bit of sparkle to your everyday look, here’s a guide to the best affordable trending fashion jewelry options.
Fashion Jewelry Ideas for Older Women
Fashion jewelry offers endless possibilities for older women to express their style without spending a fortune. From classic pearls to personalized pieces, the key is to choose items that resonate with your personality and complement your wardrobe.
Classic Pearls – Timeless Elegance
Pearls (or pearl-like) have long been considered a symbol of elegance and sophistication. Their timeless appeal makes them a staple in every woman’s jewelry collection. For older women, pearls are a versatile option that can enhance both formal and casual outfits.
Versatile Styles
- Necklaces: Opt for a single strand for a classic look or a multi-strand for a more contemporary style. Pearl necklaces can be paired with everything from dresses to blouses, adding a touch of refinement to any ensemble.
- Earrings: Pearl studs are a timeless choice, while drop earrings offer a more modern twist. Their simplicity and elegance make them suitable for any occasion.
- Bracelets: A pearl bracelet can be worn alone for a subtle look or stacked with other pieces for a more dramatic effect.
Perfect for: Pearls are perfect for adding sophistication to any outfit, whether you’re attending a formal event or enjoying a casual day out.
Kaitlin Double Side Pearl Flower Hinge Earrings $10.00 $20.95 (52% OFF)
Sterling Silver Cubic Zirconia Pearl Drop Pendant $28.00 $70.00 (60% OFF)
Silver-tone Rhinestone & Pearl Triple Row Cuff Bracelet £4.00 £8.00 (50% OFF)
White Pearl Necklace £6.00 £12.00 (50% OFF)
Statement Necklaces – Bold and Eye-Catching
Statement necklaces are all about making an impact. These bold, eye-catching pieces can transform a simple outfit into something spectacular. They come in a variety of styles, from chunky beads to intricate metalwork, allowing you to express your personality through your jewelry.
Choosing the Right Piece
- Materials: Look for necklaces made from resin, beads, or metals. Each material offers a different aesthetic, from the vibrant and colorful to the sleek and metallic.
- Designs: Choose designs that resonate with your personal style. Whether you prefer geometric shapes, floral motifs, or abstract patterns, there’s a statement necklace for every taste.
Perfect for: Statement necklaces are ideal for events where you want to stand out or for adding flair to everyday wear.
Black Rhinestone Zig Zag Statement Necklace £10.00 £20.00 (50% OFF)
OLIVIA WELLES Clara Pendant Necklace $29.97 $135.00 (77% OFF)
Hoop Earrings – Versatile and Modern
Hoop earrings are a must-have for every jewelry collection. Their versatile design means they can be paired with almost any outfit, from casual jeans and a tee to a chic evening dress.
Finding the Right Hoops
- Sizes: Smaller hoops are understated and elegant, perfect for everyday wear, while larger hoops make a bolder statement.
- Finishes: Choose from gold, silver, or embellished designs. The finish can completely change the look of the hoops, allowing you to tailor them to your outfit.
Perfect for: Hoop earrings are perfect for bringing attention to your face and adding a modern touch to your look.
Lauren High Shine Hoops $10.00 $16.95 (41% OFF)
Argento Vivo Sterling Silver Hoop Earrings $16.97 $48.00 (64% OFF)
Stackable Rings – Playful and Sophisticated
Stackable rings offer the opportunity to mix and match, creating a personalized look that reflects your style. These rings can be worn individually for a minimalist look or stacked together for a more dramatic effect.
Mixing and Matching
- Designs: From simple bands to gemstone-encrusted styles, the options are endless. Choose rings that complement each other or contrast for a more eclectic mix.
- Materials: Experiment with different metals and stones to create a stack that’s uniquely yours.
Perfect for: Stackable rings are ideal for adding a playful yet sophisticated edge to your look.
Silver-tone Zig Zag Midi Rings – 4 Pack £3.00 £6.00 (50% Off)
Set of 5, Heart with Crystals and Coordinating Gold Rings $26.60 $38.00 (30% OFF)
Brooches – Vintage Charm
Brooches are making a comeback as a fashionable accessory. These vintage-inspired pieces add character and charm to any outfit, offering a touch of individuality.
Versatile Accessories
- Designs: Available in a range of designs, from floral motifs to abstract shapes, brooches can be tailored to suit your style.
- Styling Tips: Pin a brooch to your jacket lapel, scarf, or hat for an instant style upgrade. They’re an easy way to add a hint of elegance to any outfit.
Perfect for: Brooches are perfect for enhancing jackets, scarves, and hats with a touch of individuality.
BLING JEWELRY Bridal Crystal White Imitation Pearl Large Leaf Flower Brooch $22.97
BLING JEWELRY Sterling Silver CZ Statement Pin $22.97
Layered Bracelets – Stylish and Trendy
Layered bracelets are a simple way to add depth to your outfit. These pieces offer a textured and stylish appearance, making them a popular choice for fashion-forward women.
Creating Your Look
- Types: Choose from bangles, cuffs, and beaded designs. Mix and match different types to create a look that’s uniquely yours.
- Materials: Experiment with materials like metals, leather, and beads to find combinations that complement your style.
Perfect for: Layered bracelets are perfect for creating a fun look that’s both trendy and timeless.
Natural Stone Layered Bracelet $39.20 $56.00 (30% OFF)
SAACHI Gunmetal Layered Bracelet $29.97 $72.00 (58% OFF)
Personalized Jewelry – Meaningful and Unique
Personalized jewelry offers a way to add a personal touch to your collection. These pieces can be customized with initials, names, or birthstones, making them a meaningful gift for yourself or a loved one.
Customization Options
- Necklaces: Choose a pendant with your initials or a nameplate necklace for a personalized look.
- Rings: Opt for a ring with a birthstone or engraved message for something special.
- Bracelets: Personalize a charm bracelet with meaningful symbols or names.
Perfect for: Personalized jewelry is perfect for adding a personal touch to your collection and makes a thoughtful gift for special occasions.
Personalized Initial Name Gold Necklace
Where to Shop for Affordable Fashion Jewelry
Here are some popular places where you can shop for affordable fashion jewelry.
Charming Charlie
Offers a wide variety of affordable jewelry in various styles and colors. Stores are organized by color, making it easy to find the perfect piece to match your outfit.
Forever 21
Known for trendy and budget-friendly fashion, Forever 21 has a large selection of stylish jewelry pieces that are perfect for any occasion.
H&M
Offers a range of affordable and trendy jewelry items, from minimalist pieces to statement accessories, that cater to different styles and preferences.
BaubleBar
An online retailer specializing in fashion jewelry, BaubleBar offers a variety of affordable pieces, including statement necklaces, earrings, and personalized options.
Target
Provides a diverse selection of jewelry at affordable prices. With frequent collaborations and new collections, you can find a variety of styles to suit any taste.
TJ Maxx
Offers a range of designer and name-brand jewelry at discounted prices. The selection includes everything from classic pieces to trendy designs.
Kohl’s
Features a wide selection of affordable jewelry, including classic and contemporary styles. Kohl’s frequently offers sales and discounts, making it a great place to find deals.
Francesca’s
Known for its unique and stylish accessories, Francesca’s offers a curated collection of fashion jewelry at reasonable prices.
Claire’s
A popular destination for trendy and fun jewelry, Claire’s offers affordable pieces suitable for all ages, with a focus on playful and colorful designs.
Nordstrom Rack
Offers discounted prices on high-quality jewelry from top brands. You can find a variety of styles, from elegant to edgy, at more affordable prices than at the main Nordstrom stores.
These retailers provide a diverse range of fashion jewelry options, ensuring that you can find pieces that fit your personal style and budget.
Also read, Fall/Winter 2024/25 Accessories Trends.
Let’s Have a Conversation:
Do you enjoy accessorizing with affordable fashion jewelry? What are your favorite pieces? Where do you like to shop for fashion jewelry that won’t break the bank? Tell us about it in the comments below.
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From Bickering (Or Worse) to Bonding – How to Repair Sibling Relationships in Your Golden Years
- She used to steal your clothes.
- He always wanted to beat you in arm wrestling.
- She was your best friend – and your biggest rival.
- He was your protector – when you weren’t protecting him.
Who am I talking about?
Your sibling, of course.
Whether or not you feel close, brothers and sisters have a life-long connection. They’re part of you, your history, and they’re family. But that doesn’t always mean you like them.
Sibling conflict isn’t uncommon. In fact, most siblings go through many ups and downs over the years. By the time you’ve reached your 60s you’d hope the waters would have smoothed and your connection strengthened.
Unfortunately, that’s not always the case.
Sibling relationships are often the longest we experience, but they’re not always the easiest.
Sometimes these bonds, forged in the shared chaos of childhood, become strained or even broken as the years go by.
If you’re in your 60s and estranged from your sibling/s, you’re certainly not alone. But why does this happen, and more importantly, what can you do about it?
Love/Hate You – How’d We Get Here?
Estrangement from your sibling(s) can happen for a variety of reasons, most of which are deeply personal and complex.
The most common causes include the following categories:
#1: Family Dynamics and Childhood Rivalries
Let’s face it, childhood can be a battlefield, especially when it comes to sibling relationships.
Rivalries, competition for parental attention, and differing personalities can sow the seeds of discord early on. As adults, these issues can manifest as lingering resentment or a lack of connection, leading to estrangement.
#2: Different Values and Lifestyles
As we grow older, our lives often take different paths.
One sibling might be a world-traveling free spirit, while another could be rooted in a traditional, suburban life. Or, on the darker side, one sibling might make poor choices and struggle with addiction, finances, or other vices, while the other lives a more stable life.
These differences in values, lifestyles, and choices can create physical and emotional distance. If one sibling’s lifestyle is toxic to the other’s family and life, hard decisions can be necessary.
#3: Unresolved Conflict
Sometimes, there’s that one argument that just never got resolved – the one where someone said something they didn’t mean (or did mean but maybe shouldn’t have said). Or maybe it’s something that goes deeper than poorly chosen words.
These unresolved conflicts can fester over the years, creating a rift that seems too wide to bridge.
#4: Parents
Parents almost always mean well, but they can sometimes be a source of division between siblings.
Whether it’s due to perceived favoritism, monetary disputes, or differing opinions on caregiving responsibilities, parental influence can drive a wedge between siblings that’s hard to remove.
#5: Life Events and Partners
Major life events, such as marriages, divorces, deaths, or even the birth of children, can trigger estrangement.
These events can bring underlying issues to the surface or create new conflicts that weren’t there before.
These aren’t the only things that can cause distance between siblings, but they are the most common. Sometimes lack of connection with your sibling/s can be as simple as incompatible personalities.
Bridging the Gap Even After Years of Estrangement
If you’re in your 60s and it’s been years since you last spoke to your sibling, it can seem like the rift between you has become insurmountable. Or maybe the challenges are more recent and stem from problems in your adult lives.
Regardless, it’s never too late (or too early) to work on mending your relationship.
While every situation is different, there are some things that may help bring you back together and have you singing, “We are family,” again. Okay, that’s probably a bit too optimistic, so maybe start with the goal of just getting along and relearning how to like each other.
Reflect on the Past – But Don’t Dwell on the Negatives
Start by reflecting on what caused the estrangement in the first place. Was it a specific event, or did you simply drift apart over time? Understanding the root cause can help you approach the situation with more understanding and empathy.
However, don’t get bogged down in the past, especially the negatives.
If there are happy times and joy to reflect upon, also give those areas some attention. Reflecting on the happiness you shared, funny moments, or just good memories in general will reinforce the drive to repair your relationship.
Reach Out with a Genuinely Open Mind
If it’s been years, reaching out can be daunting. How will you be received? Will they be interested in repairing the relationship? Will they blow you off?
You won’t know until you try. Even if you’ve tried before, this could be the time that’s different.
Your approach is crucial in this case. Approach your brother or sister with an open mind and heart, acknowledging any part you may have played in the estrangement, and saying, “I’m sorry,” can set a crucial reconciliatory tone. Be willing to listen to their side of the story, even if it’s uncomfortable.
Set Realistic Expectations – For Both of You
Reconciliation doesn’t happen overnight. Depending on the reasons and how long it’s been going on, reconnecting and rebuilding the familial bonds may take time.
It’s also possible that your sibling might not be ready to reconcile, so you must be patient and ready to accept their feelings. This may not be a permanent situation – they may just need time to think through how to move forward with you.
If the estrangement involves bad behavior or poor choices, you’ll need to determine how you want to interact with them and where you need to set and hold boundaries.
Look Forward
While it’s essential to address past grievances, the goal of reconciliation is to rebuild a relationship for the future. Focus on creating new, positive memories together, and be intentional not to have the past define your relationship moving forward.
If needed, ease into the process through small actions and events. Meet for coffee, see a movie, or start a regular phone or Zoom call if you’re at a distance. As those things progress, you can move to larger visits and events.
Seek Professional Help If Needed
Sometimes, the wounds are too deep to heal on your own.
In these cases, consider seeking the help of a family counselor. A neutral third party can help facilitate difficult conversations and guide you through the reconciliation process.
Don’t Give Up! Why It’s Important to Try and Fix Relationships with Your Siblings
It’s true that not every relationship can be repaired, but when it comes to family, it’s important to try everything you can.
“Why bother?” you might say. “We’ve made it this far without each other.”
Maybe, but the truth is, there are several reasons it’s worth making an effort to mend the relationship with your brother or sister – especially in your later years.
You Have a History Together
No one else shares your childhood memories like your siblings do. They were there for the family road trips, the awkward teenage years, and the shared experiences that shaped who you are today. Reconnecting with them can provide a sense of continuity and shared identity that’s hard to find elsewhere.
Emotional Support
As we age, our social circles can shrink. Having a sibling to lean on can be invaluable.
They can provide emotional support, companionship, and a sense of belonging that’s especially important later in life.
Family
You may have each created your own individual families. If that’s the case, and there are children, then they deserve to know all they can about their extended family members.
Repairing relationships with siblings can also help preserve the family legacy. Whether it’s passing down family traditions, keeping family stories alive, or simply being there for each other, a strong sibling bond can contribute to a lasting family legacy that benefits future generations.
And the biggest reason?
Avoiding Regrets
One of the biggest reasons to try and reconcile with a sibling is to avoid future regret.
Life is unpredictable, and none of us know how much time we have left. Mending fences now can prevent the pain of regret later, when it might be too late to say the things you wish you’d said.
So, take the time and risk to reach out to your brother or sister. Even if you don’t become as close as you may hope, you’ll feel much better knowing you tried.
Let’s Have a Conversation:
Do you have an estranged sibling? Are you hoping to reconcile with a brother or sister? Or have you successfully reconnected with a sibling after years of being estranged? Please share your story and join the conversation.
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