The one thing you can control is how you treat yourself. And that one thing can change everything.

— Leeana Tankersley

Sometimes we get so caught up with our day-to-day routines that we lose sight of what is really important to us. We stay in a job that is no longer giving us satisfaction. We devote ourselves to relationships that we know are not good for us. We put others’ needs and wants before our own.

What if we could just step back and reevaluate what is going on in our lives and to create something different as we go forward? What if we decided to take care of ourselves first? Imagine learning how to be happy with yourself.

If you are looking to start something new in your life, here are a few things that you should stop doing to yourself starting today.

Stop Looking for Your Happiness Outside of Yourself

Happiness is a choice. It is an inner way of relating to the world around you, no matter what. It is a declaration and an internal commitment to a certain way of thinking and being.

Many women would say something like, “How can I be happy when _____?” They would then fill in the blank with “my husband and I are having problems” or “I just lost my job.”

The truth is that inner happiness has nothing to do with outside circumstances. When you choose happiness, you leave room for other possibilities. You are at peace with yourself and your life. Your happiness is not contingent upon other people’s behavior or external events.

So what if something awful happens that has an overwhelming impact on your life? You have to grieve. You have to process it and deal with it. Just know that while you are going through it, you will be happy again, that your life will go on and you are going to be OK.

Stop Living in the Past

We all know that the past is gone. Both the good and the bad events are behind us. Yet, we spend a great deal of time and energy reliving the past. We go over past hurtful experiences and past grievances in our mind. By doing this we are keeping it alive and hurting ourselves.

We relive past events and we give them too much importance. By doing this we are keeping ourselves in a victim mentality. We don’t move on. This prevents us from moving forward and being able to find new meaning and a new purpose in our lives.

The moment we let it go and forgive others and ourselves, we will begin to find joy and meaning in the present. We will be able to create something new for ourselves.

Stop Doubting Yourself

Self-doubt is based in fear of not being good enough. It will stop you in your tracks from doing those things in life that you really want to do. So decide to stop criticizing yourself and stop listening to the disapproval of others.

At some point we all question our decisions. However, the more you doubt your abilities and your choices, the more you give power to negative thinking. That will hold you back.

Have some self-compassion and stop telling yourself that you are not worthy.

Stop Scattering Your Energy

How often do we do things that we really don’t want to do? How often do we say yes when we really want to say no? If we orient our lives around things that have purpose and meaning to us, life changes dramatically.

Take time to find what those things are and identify what is no longer important. Create space for yourself to do this. You deserve it.

I believe in living your life by deliberate intention. Your design should be based around your values, passions and interests. It should center on those things that you think are meaningful and give your life purpose

This means surrounding yourself with people and experiences that have a positive impact on your life. Choose relationships that pull you forward and minimize the interactions that you have that are bringing you down.

Not everything is important. So don’t spend the majority of time doing those things that zap your energy. Stop putting yourself last and stop overloading your schedule with busyness and obligations.

Stop Trying to Control Everything

The need to control is the result of being attached to a certain outcome we feel would serve us best. We have preconceived ideas of how things should be in our lives or of those we care about. So we manipulate circumstances. We worry about possible problems that will occur and we do what we can to keep things on an even keel.

We try to control the world around us to limit our risks and to keep ourselves safe. Wanting to control is rooted in fear and worry and our need for security and certainty.

So what do we do about it? How do we release the need to control what is going on around us? Just let it go the best you can. The truth is we really don’t have control over anything or anyone but ourselves.

Just remain receptive and allow things to happen and unfold. Relinquishing control will feel like personal freedom. The sooner we learn this, the easier life will be and the more we allow the unexpected to occur in our lives.

What is one thing that you can stop doing to yourself today? Are there any things in your life that you have to let go today? Please share in the comments below.

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You know those beauty filters on Instagram stories or Snapchat where they give your cheeks an overly blushed hue and your lips so much pout, you look like you received injections? Somehow, they always make lashes look perfect. They have a body, length and richer color to them that seems unobtainable. Given that it’s a filter that portrays unrealistic beauty standards, you’d think everything it does is impossible, but I think I found a mascara that actually outshines the false appearance.

It’s Maybelline New York’s Lash Sensational Mascara, a drugstore product that’s garnered more than 71,000 perfect ratings on Amazon. Reviewers credit it for transforming the appearance of their lashes thanks to a unique spoolie head that has a curved design to it. The semi-circle shape allows the mascara to act as an eyelash curler and makeup product all at once. It shapes and elongates lashes in just a few strokes, while the washable black coat defines them.

“This mascara checks ALL the boxes!” wrote one five-star reviewer. “Best on the market! Trust me! You will love it as much as I do! I can’t say enough just try it!  Don’t get lash extensions before you try this!”

Dozens of shoppers have compared the effects of this mascara to that of eyelash extensions. Regardless of if their natural lashes are thin, straight, unruly or fragile, each reviewer seems to agree that this mascara is “magic.” Usually, it retails for $11, but you can get it on sale for just $7 this Amazon Prime Day. Just remember that Prime Day deals are only available to Prime members. No worries if you don’t have a subscription, you can get a completely free trial and all of the benefits today at this page here. It’s that easy! 

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“If you are reading this, you have just stumbled upon the BEST MASCARA in the entire universe!” exclaimed another reviewer. “I hardly ever write reviews but this mascara deserves it. It lasts all day long! I never have to touch it up! I never find annoying black flakes under my eye since using this! AND this is a waterproof mascara that is actually waterproof!”

There’s nothing better than a fan-favorite buy, especially when it costs just $7 a pop. Think about all of the other pricier mascaras that you’ve tried only to be disappointed by. This one and its 4.5-star average rating basically comes with a guarantee that it’s worth the minimal purchase.

The spoolie head clings onto each individual lash to layer over them with jusssst enough product so that the hairs are highlighted and heightened, but not clumpy. Each brush head has ten layers of bristles that fan out lashes in an incredibly dramatic and impressive way. Those who often get eye irritation or tears when they use a mascara can rest assured knowing that reviewers with similar experiences dub this product A-OK to use.

“I have SUPER sensitive eyes and a love for mascara. I’ve tried so many mascaras over the years (drug store, high-end brands at Sephora, natural brands) and all of them have either underperformed, started really bothering my eyes or often both,” wrote one reviewer. “This mascara has a surprisingly clean ingredient list on EWG cosmetic database (more so the $25 tube of mascara I had been using for 5+ years before it started bothering my eyes). For such a cheap mascara, it has really surprised me on how clean it is, good it feels on my eyes so far and how amazing the look is.”

For best results, layer the product on a few times for a noticeable change. This mascara is so effective that a single swipe will make a difference, so if you’re into more of a natural look, consider this your one-stop solution.

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When it comes to makeup and skincare, few do it as well as the French. I mean, just look at how life-changing every CeraVe product is (BTW, did you know they have a new chemical exfoliator that’s already getting rave reviews?). So, when I stumbled upon a moisturizer that shoppers call “magic,” I wasn’t surprised at all.

According to shoppers, Avène’s Hydrance Aqua-Gel Cream is a true do-it-all product. It can act as a daily moisturizer, overnight mask and under-eye gel. The lightweight cream is jam-packed with anti-aging ingredients that even out the look and smooth the feel of skin. It’s so effective that one shopper said it’s “the best [moisturizer] I have ever used. 56 and I look 36.”

The reason this anti-aging cream is so versatile is because of its heavy-lifting ingredients. It’s packed with hyaluronic acid to plump and hydrate skin, and it also is made with cohederm, a trio of skin-savers that is known to restore your skin’s barrier while also preventing water loss. Also worth mentioning: the vegan formula is designed without parabens, soy and other prominent allergens.

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Photo: Avène.

This is the kind of technology that we expect from a brand that’s nearly three centuries old. Shopper after shopper has heralded this moisturizer for its repairing and rejuvenating capabilities.

“They’re not lying,” one reviewer wrote. “This stuff is magic (and it smells amazing). I even saw results after one day of using this. My skin is glowy and hydrated without being greasy or tacky after use. AND my extremely sensitive skin has had zero problems with this. It’s a life-saver for everyone, especially those with very sensitive skin.”

So, basically, we’re adding this to our list of anti-aging hero products and adding it into our carts ASAP.

Have you
stopped to ask yourself, “Why am I still dealing with skin concerns at my age?
I’m not a teenager, but I still have a tough time when it comes to my skin.”

Well, mature
skin is delicate and must be treated with proper care.

Herbal Teas – A Possible Skin Care Solution?

Did you
know that drinking herbal teas could improve your skin health? Maybe you have,
maybe you haven’t, but many underlying skin concerns can be addressed by
drinking herbal teas.

The
benefits include restoring skin hydration, reducing skin inflammation, and
focusing on providing your body with antioxidants to shield the skin from the
inside out.

You are probably asking yourself, “Herbal teas? Really?” But why not? Herbal teas have been around dating back to ancient Egypt and ancient China. They have been used for hundreds of years for their health and beauty benefits in addition to their great taste.

Many
herbal teas contain vital compounds that aid in the function of the
digestive system and create beautiful healthy skin.

They are a great addition to your morning routine as they provide, at a cellular level, many nutrients, minerals, vitamins, and proteins. Below is a list of the top herbal teas that can help boost your skin beauty.

Cinnamon

Cinnamon is known for a variety of medical properties including,
analgesic, anthelmintic, antiarthritic, anticancer, antidiabetic, antifungal,
anti-inflammatory, antiseptic, antispasmodic, antiviral, astringent,
bactericidal, sedative.

Cinnamon Tea

To make tasty cinnamon tea, use ground bark and chips. Infuse in hot
water and add a spoonful of honey for even more benefits. Cinnamon tea is
fragrant, sweet, spicy and warm.

Cinnamon Bark and Home Cosmetics

Cinnamon bark has anti-inflammatory properties and can be used to
eliminate the acne-causing bacteria from the surface of the skin.

A cinnamon
facial masque will help reduce skin redness and restore skin moisture, though
before application, you should first test the masque on a small area of the
skin for symptoms of irritation and skin sensitivity.

Mix ground
cinnamon with three tablespoons of honey and apply to your face but avoid using
around the eyes. Leave the mixture on the skin for about 3-5 minutes, then remove
with a cool cloth.

Calendula

The calendula flower possesses anti-inflammatory, antiviral, and antimicrobial properties, heals ulcers, wounds, and hemorrhoids, and improves oral health.

Calendula Tea

To make calendula tea, infuse fresh or dry flowers picked at just the right time. Calendula tea is sweetly aromatic and slightly bitter. It has an exotic floral scent.

Calendula in Home Cosmetics

The
calendula oil is naturally extracted from the marigold flower (Calendula
officinalis). its antifungal, anti-inflammatory, and antibacterial properties are
useful in healing surface wounds and redness, soothing eczema, and relieving sun
rash.

Jasmine

Did you know that jasmine, the aromatic plant, has a variety of health benefits? It’s used as an analgesic and antidepressant. Jasmine has antifungal, anti-inflammatory, and antiviral properties, and is known to relieve flatulence.

Jasmine Tea

To make fragrant jasmine tea infuse the flowers in hot water. This brew
is sweet and may affect more than your sense of taste.

Jasmine and Home Cosmetics

As a natural antiseptic, jasmine provides powerful anti-aging benefits. It promotes healing and helps to even out the skin tone by reducing the appearance of age spots and sunspots.

Can’t Do Without Honey

Although
not an herb, honey is a plant byproduct and is used medicinally around the
world. It is an integral part of herbal teas and is just as healing. No cup of
herbal tea would be complete without adding a spoonful of honey for sweetness
and flavor.

Herbal Remedies Contraindications and Precautions

When properly
used, herbs have a natural balancing effect on the body. Always follow the instructions for
preparation and consumption.

Individual
sensitivity can also vary significantly, so if you are generally sensitive,
start with a low dose and build up slowly once you have determined your level
of tolerance.

What
herbal teas do you drink regularly? What benefits do they bring to your body?
How did you decide they would be a good addition to your routine? Please share
in the comments below.

Disclaimer: This article is not intended to provide medical advice. Please consult with your doctor to get specific medical advice for your situation.

Kyle Richards’ Striped Sweater and Pom Pom Hat

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 12 Episode 10 Fashion

The high temperature in Austin, TX today was 104 degrees. So I should really be looking into Kyle Richards’ snow machine rather than her striped sweater, pom pom hat and boots. However, since I own her faux fur pom pom hat already that piece of the puzzle was solved. And thanks to BBH’s Jessica we have the id on her sweater. Thankfully, both are from affordable places I love to shop, because to buy her boots you’ll need to have saved on something.

The Realest Housewife,

Big Blonde Hair

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