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Breathe Your Way to Better Health

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It is undisputed how important it is for our health that we ensure we are getting enough oxygen. In an earlier blog, I discussed the “Rule of Threes” which says that the average person can go three weeks without food, three days without water, and only three minutes without oxygen.

Now there is evidence that it is not only important to get enough oxygen but it is also important to be aware of how we breathe to supply our bodies with this essential gas. I’m not necessarily talking here about shallow breaths or deep breaths, but rather that we should be more aware or “mindful” of how we are breathing. The idea is that by being mindful, we can work on controlling how we breathe which, in turn, can result in a variety of physical and emotional health benefits.

There are some easy breath control practices (also known as breath work) that you may want to try and experiment with. It may only take 10 to 20 minutes a day of breath-control practices to reap the benefits. I like to think of it as part of my health and wellness regimen, like exercising and eating healthily. You can also combine your breathing exercises with your other exercises, such as walking, and get double benefit!

Basic Breathing Techniques

These basic breath work techniques include:

  • Deep abdominal breathing to encourage full oxygen exchange – that is, the beneficial trade of incoming oxygen for outgoing carbon dioxide.
  • Pursed lip breathing where you breathe slowly and deliberately through your mouth with your lips positioned like when you are going to whistle.
  • Pattern breathing, such as the popular 4-7-8 breathing – you inhale for four seconds, hold your breath for seven seconds, and then slowly exhale for eight seconds.
  • Diaphragmatic breathing, like deep abdominal breathing – you take deep breaths while concentrating on, and engaging, your diaphragm.
  • Box breathing, another type of pattern breathing – you inhale for four seconds, hold your breath for four seconds, exhale for four seconds, and then hold your breath again for four seconds.

There are other techniques that you may want to explore and experiment with, but these five are a great place to start. It’s also good to know that there are a variety of apps that you can download to your smartphone to help you with breath work. Some are free, such as one offered by UCLA in California, while others are subscription based. Many also include guided meditations that you can follow as you practice your breath work allowing you to do two beneficial activities at the same time.

Keep in mind that mindful breathing and breath work requires some practice, so don’t be discouraged. Also, try to do them with a minimal number of distractions. I find that doing them when I first get up in the morning, before the day’s activities take over and when it’s still quiet outside, works well for me. Try different times and environments until you find the best combination for you. And if you find your mind wandering, don’t worry. Just refocus on your breathing.

A Long List of Possible Benefits of Mindful Breathing

Proponents of mindful breathing and/or breath work point to the variety of potential health benefits, some of which may be especially attractive to those of us over 60. These may include:

  • Lowering heart rate and blood pressure
  • Improving focus and attention
  • Reducing inflammation
  • Decreasing anxiety
  • Reducing stress
  • Improving memory
  • Boosting your immune system
  • Managing pain
  • Contributing to brain health
  • Reducing the risk of Alzheimer’s disease
  • Increasing energy
  • Improving digestion/gastro function
  • Removing toxins from your body
  • Enhancing mood
  • Improving sleep

Always Consider Risk Factors First

It’s important that you talk with your healthcare provider before embarking on mindful breathing or breath work, since these practices may not be right for everyone. This is especially true if you have any contraindicated medical conditions that could make them risky. These risks include:

  • Dizziness
  • Cognitive changes
  • Irregular heartbeat
  • Ringing in your ears
  • Vision changes
  • Tingling in your extremities
  • Muscle spasms

Pay Attention to Diet and Hydration

You can greatly enhance the effectiveness and benefits of your mindful breathing and breath work by making sure that your body is getting all the nutrients it needs. Start with making sure you are drinking enough water. This will help your lungs better absorb oxygen from the air you inhale and expel carbon dioxide and other toxins as you exhale.

Be sure to include iron-rich foods in your diet. Some are meat, beef liver, chicken, chickpeas, kidney beans, oysters, fortified grains like cereals and breads, tofu, dark chocolate, spinach, tomatoes, lentils, , cashews, tuna, turkey, broccoli, raisins, and potatoes.

You should also talk with your health care provider about taking a nutrient test to make sure you are getting enough vitamins B12 and D. The former plays a key role in the production of red blood cells (these cells carry oxygen throughout your body). And the latter may help reduce any inflammation you may have in your airways.

Vitamin B12 can be found in animal foods such as eggs, poultry, fish, milk, and red meat. Since many of us who are over 60 often have problems absorbing vitamin B12 from food, we may need to take a supplement. Vitamin D can be found in fortified milk, salmon, orange juice and eggs.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you ever tried any type mindful breathing or breath work? If so, what where they? Did you did you find them helpful? If so, in what way? Did you talk with your doctor or others before doing mindful breathing or breath work? If it didn’t help, will you try again and what would you do differently? Please join the conversation.

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Madison LeCroy’s Gold Strapless Gown

Madison LeCroy’s Gold Strapless Gown / Southern Charm Instagram Fashion November 2023

LA looks very good on Madison LeCroy, and so does this gold velvet gown she is rocking. I’m so glad her stylist @modestoo shared this pic of her and also the deets on the look. Because a dress like this is the perfect thing to wear to any upcoming events or holiday parties you may have on your calendar. The stock of it is kind of all over the place and pretty limited. But we rounded up some similar styles below that are pretty golden.

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A Powerful Reason to Give Gratitude During the Holidays and into the New Year

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How many times a day do you give gratitude for your gifts, for your family and for the blessings of your life?

I’ll admit it. Some days I forget to make my gratitude intentional, and then when I realize I haven’t done so, I understand why my day is off balance. “Oh, that’s why I’m not fully present!” “Oh, that’s why everything I do seems to be slightly off!”

Giving gratitude throughout the year is crucial for good mental health. Gratitude stimulates your neurotransmitters, the hormones that bring energy and happiness into your living experience.

Also, during periods that build up the stress, like the holidays, there is the anticipation of entering a new year with all the new resolutions you hope to keep longer than the month of January. At those times, a gratitude routine keeps struggle to a minimum and raises our happiness quotient.

Making a Gratitude List

There is never a lack of things to be grateful for. If you look hard enough, you will find them. If you have any questions about how to create a gratitude list or increase the band-width of your gratitude, you might focus on 5 areas that will grow your gratitude.

Reflect on the People for Whom You Are Grateful

There are many people in our lives for whom we should be grateful: family, friends, people from our past and present. There are also the mentors or people who have impacted your life in a positive way.

Don’t forget to be grateful also for the random people that you meet at the supermarket or at an event that connects you with interesting or fascinating individuals.

Reflect on Your Talents

Be grateful for your background, education, your motivation, where you live, your environment, a few important possessions, or even your animals.

Reflect on the Moments

Think about the times in your life that have shaped you into the person you are today. These can include ways in which your parents influenced you, connections with mentors, your partner(s), travel and academic experiences.

Reflect on the Places

Consider the places you wish to visit in the future, or your favorite retreat, favorite passion, what you do with your spare time or retirement time that has been more important or useful to you. Where do you see yourself going in the next decades?

Reflect on Your Passions

Look for ways to express your gratitude for what excites you and brings you joy. Consider giving your time or money to causes in which you believe. Help those less fortunate than you. Make sure you thank those who show you kindness or support.

Overlooking the Obvious and Digging Deeper

There is so much going on in our environment and in our lives that it is easy to forget or overlook what’s obvious – the things that are directly in front of us.

Every day you learn valuable lessons and encounter people who touch your life and your spirit. Do you let these incidences fly by? Or do you reflect on these important moments and assess their impact?

The following are 3 questions to deepen your awareness of the obvious:

  • How are you being tested daily? Even if these tests feel annoying, what value can you obtain from the experience? Can you find the positive in what might feel negative?
  • Who is your biggest supporter, your most cherished counselor? What differences have they made in your life?
  • Who do you admire? What giving experiences and contributions do you want to recognize?

Gratitude Accentuates the Positive

Gratitude can be a huge source of positive energy for you. And, while you are infusing yourself with daily gratitude, you will affect others. Other people feel your positive energy, and they can emulate it and pay it forward to the next person.

Gratitude inspires you to embrace your best self. Or better yet, gratitude inspires you to embrace your greatest self – your most fulfilling self – by helping you push through doubts, resistance, stress, self-criticism and self-sabotaging impulses.

Gratitude creates a positive mental state that leads to a shift in attitude and mood. This, in turn, produces a conscious daily process that will highlight all the wonderful possibilities and opportunities waiting for you just around the corner.

Gratitude will inspire you to take action to carry out your daily intentions and to achieve your goals.

Follow Your Gratitude During the Holidays

Life is an action, not a thought, so practice a full routine of gratitude during the holidays with planned action. Make some time every day to think about and list your accomplishments and everything you have to be grateful for in your life.

It would be a great idea to also make a resolution to invest in future gratitude. Practice awareness of everything you are grateful for during your day, so that you will discover and broaden your investment in all aspects of a fulfilling life in the future.

Further reading, LIFE BEGINS WHEN WE LEARN THE MEANING OF GRATITUDE.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you make time every day to be thankful for your life? What are you most grateful for in your life today? Please share your points of gratitude below.

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Navigating the Holidays with Grace When Dealing with Estrangement

Navigating the Holidays with Grace When Dealing with Estrangement

As we embrace the holiday season, filled with its customary warmth and family festivities, it’s essential to recognize that this time can present unique challenges for parents and adult children navigating estrangement. If you are in this situation, please know you’re not walking this path alone.

This holiday season will be the fifth year of my being estranged from an adult child and his family. My husband and I have come a long way since our first missed holiday. As you know, if you are reading this, the grief comes in waves. Some days, I am on the acceptance train, and others – tumbling once again, but for only enough time to get back up. My heart goes out to everyone who hurts and is cut off.

I often hear a spectrum of closeness and coldness, guilt, anger, regret, remorse, and lots of pain. The good news is, if we work at moving forward, one foot in front of the other, we feel less distressed. We learn much about ourselves and others and gain insight into self-compassion and empathy. Wherever you are on the spectrum, I hope you find joy despite the condition of your family.

Here are some heartfelt suggestions to help parents and adult children gracefully navigate the holidays with self-compassion. Remember, support is available every step of the way.

Give Yourself Permission to Feel

Embrace the ebb and flow of emotions during the holidays. Allow yourself the space to feel and process emotions – sadness, grief, or a hint of anger – without judgment.

Share Your Emotions

Contact your trusted circle – friends, family, or therapists. Engaging in an open conversation about your feelings can be like lifting a weight off your shoulders and providing valuable support.

Reevaluate and Modify Traditions

Some traditions may feel burdensome. Please take a moment to reconsider and adjust them to better align with your emotional well-being.

Introduce New Joyful Traditions

Inject joy into the season by creating new traditions. Whether volunteering, exploring your creative side, or spending time with supportive friends, make sure these activities bring a sense of fulfillment.

Surround Yourself with Support

Seek the comforting company of friends or family who understand. Share your feelings with those you trust, allowing them to be a source of warmth and understanding during the holidays. Be sure to arrange holiday plans with those who love and value you. You can tell a friend you would like to join their family celebration.

Join Supportive Communities

Consider connecting with online communities or support groups for parents and adult children facing similar experiences. Sharing with others who understand can offer insights and a sense of solidarity.

Prioritize Your Well-Being

Put yourself first. Whether immersing yourself in a good book, taking serene nature walks, or enjoying quiet moments, dedicate time to activities that bring you peace and relaxation.

Set Clear Boundaries

Establish boundaries to safeguard your emotional well-being. Communicate your needs – whether it’s avoiding specific topics or deciding on your desired level of social engagement.

Practice Mindfulness

Incorporate mindfulness techniques to stay grounded. Activities like meditation or mindful breathing can be your anchor, helping you savor the present moment.

Celebrate Your Resilience

Acknowledge your strength. While the holidays may accentuate what’s missing, they also allow you to celebrate your resilience and find joy despite the challenges.

Consider Therapeutic Guidance

Reach out to a therapist or counselor if needed. Their professional guidance can offer tailored coping strategies and a safe space to explore your emotions.

Reflect and Plan for the Future

Take this moment to reflect on your personal growth. Set intentions for the upcoming year, align your goals with your well-being and focus on positive steps forward.

Embrace this time, as the holidays are uniquely yours, and there’s no universal way to navigate them. Extend warmth and compassion to yourself, recognizing that this season holds the potential for healing and personal growth.

Estrangement can be a decision you made for your well-being, or you may be cut off not of your choice. You can choose to create a nurturing narrative moving forward during the holidays. Some may desire a departure from the usual holiday traditions.

Participating with others during the holidays might bring you comfort.

Whether it is your first holiday or it’s been years of being estranged, you can navigate towards moving forward by honoring your strength and resilience.

Many adult children and parents who grieve over the loss of the relationship status hope for the repair of the relationship. Unfortunately, this outcome is rarely possible due to the history of abusive behavior of their family members. In other cases, hope remains that someday, as others have reconciled, so could they. Whatever the history and details of the family breakdown, we can enjoy the company of others and holiday traditions.

Likewise, we gain insight by moving towards simultaneously grieving or longing for someone and embracing joy in ordinary moments.

Remember, you’re not alone in this journey; warmth and support surround you.

Cheers to a cozy and supportive holiday season!

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What will you do differently this holiday season? What new holiday traditions can you engage in this year?

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Who Should Chase Whom in Dating?

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There seems to be some confusion surrounding who should be the pursuer when you’re dating at this stage of life. Men love women who make the first move, and many women love the feeling of being pursued. So how do you meld these two concepts?

Make the First Move

One of the main reasons men love women to make the first move is that they are deathly afraid of rejection. This is something that men have been dealing with since puberty, and they want to avoid at all costs. So much that in some cases it keeps them from taking any type of action at all.

Women always set the pace of the relationship and once you understand men’s fear, you can create an experience that will be a win-win for both of you, and it’s not that difficult to do.

So many of my female clients tell me they are tired of driving the bus by themselves. They are looking for a man with a plan so they can lean back and have more fun. They did all the planning when they were younger, and they want someone with whom to share this responsibility now.

I totally get it and feel the same way. It’s a good rule of thumb too, because once you take control of a relationship, it’s almost impossible to give it back. If you start managing your dates at the beginning, you’ll be managing your dates throughout your entire relationship should one develop.

The Choice Is Yours

So how can you lean back, which is feminine energy, by the way, and still be the first one to reach out? It’s not as complicated as you may think.

It doesn’t matter if you’re dating online or meeting men in real life, you can still make the first move without taking control of the relationship by simply creating an opportunity for the man to step up. Now that you know how serious men feel about rejection, you know you could be waiting a long time if you wait for him to approach you. I almost always reach out first when I’m dating online.

I empower my clients so they feel comfortable doing the ‘picking’ rather than wait around to be ‘picked’ by a man who may or may not be a good fit for them. When you do the picking, you get to choose who you invite into your world, and it saves you time and frustration.

But Let Him Plan

The way I teach my clients to do this is simply to show their interest, and then lean back and let the man plan the date. This is what it sounds like when you’re texting or talking on the phone.

“Bob, it’s been great texting with you, and I feel like you’re someone I’d like to talk to. I’m happy to send you my number, what do you think?”

“I’ve really enjoyed chatting with you tonight and love that we have so many things in common. I’d be interested in learning more about you over a cup of coffee. How does that sound to you?”

These simple statements show him you’re interested and eliminate his fear of rejection while they volley the next steps back to him. Once he says, “Sure,” then you can simply tell him what days you’re available and ask him to pick a time and place to meet.

If he has trouble coming up with a location, some women offer a couple of options while other women simply tell them nicely to figure it out. If you give him options, you still want to want to leave the final decisions and planning up to him.

“I like ____, ____ or _____ and I’ll leave in your hands to pick the best place.”

Again, you’re creating the opportunity for him to take the lead. If you like being responsible for everything, you would probably simply give him a time and place to meet. This may be a little off-putting for him if he’s a masculine energy man. This type of man likes having a job to do and may feel a little out-of-sync as a result.

This Is Our Time

This is a beautiful chapter of life. We’re old enough to know what we want, and confident enough to ask for it. This is an empowering time, but it does come with some responsibility. We do need to be considerate of the men we invite in our lives. They are much more romantic and sensitive than we’ve been led to believe and words do matter.

If you want more step-by-step coaching so you can date with clarity and confidence, check out
The Perfect Dating Guide for Women or 50.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you approach men first, or do you prefer to be chased? If you make the first move, what do you say? How has this strategy worked for you?

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