Month: February 2020

3 Fabulous Makeup Tips for Crepey (aka Crinkly) Eyelids

3 Fabulous Makeup Tips for Crinkly Eyelids

If there was ever
a makeup dilemma that can make us scream out loud it’s crepey eyelids. Having
had my share of meltdowns while applying eyeshadow to dry, crepey lids, I have
some valuable ideas to navigate this problem.

Applying
eyeshadow to a crepey lid can be frustrating; however, there are some easy
solutions that start by taking care of your inner and external health.

I also have some
tricks with makeup that will make it much easier to manage. That being said, here
are my top four suggestions to navigating crepey eyelids like a savvy senior.

Treat Dryness and Improve
Health

What causes
crepey skin? Our skin becomes more crepey with the collagen loss that comes
with age. It is also enhanced by dehydrated and nutrient deprived skin and poor
health. In order to improve crepey skin, I recommend taking care of both your
inner and outer health with hydration and nutrients.

For example,
taking essential fatty acids like Omega 3 and 6 makes a huge difference in the
smoothness and suppleness of your skin. So does drinking plenty of spring water
and taking supplements that strengthen your immune system and overall physical
health.

The more nutrient
dense foods, skin care, and vitamins that you take, the greater improvement in
skin elasticity and plumpness you will find. Having said that, each body is
unique in its needs, and it’s up to all of us to develop a self-care strategy
that benefits our well-being to the highest degree.

As far as skin
care goes, I’d recommend getting an excellent serum. Serum is like a powerful
multivitamin for the face! If you’re going to spend money on a single product,
then I suggest buying an effective serum and using it all over your face and
around your eyes if the product allows.

I use Transdermal C
Serum by Truth Treatments
, and it’s helped me enormously. Or, if you
like eye cream, try Bobbi Brown Extra
Repair Eye Cream
and tap it all around your eye one to two
times a day.

Very Little Makeup
on the Eyelid

As you work on
your health and use your serum, you’ll notice a definite change in your skin
texture. As your skin improves, you can use more makeup products on the lid,
but in general, keep products like concealer, foundation, eye base, and powder
off the lid area.

When you put
products on crepey eyelids, they tend to look garish and not settle into the
skin as they normally would. As your skin improves, though, you should be able
to use all of the above items without difficulty.

Speaking as a
professional makeup artist, I generally use foundation on the lid to even out
the skin, and I use an eye base on oily lids to keep the powder eye shadows from
creasing.

On my own lids, I
use concealer to help cover my hyperpigmentation, but I don’t have oily lids so
it doesn’t crease up. A word of advice: keep powder and powder foundation off
dry skin as much as possible as it tends to set in those fine lines.

Avoid Shimmer
Shadows

I love a little
shimmer in my life. I love it on my jewelry and in my eyeshadows! Trouble is,
when my skin, or anyone’s skin, is dry or dehydrated, shimmer can look gaudy
and flaky. My advice in this instance is to either forego using frosted and
shimmery shadows for the time being or to use them sparingly.

For a wonderful
matte eyeshadow palette try Jane Iredale’s
Daytime Eyeshadow Palette.
To apply shimmer strategically, using your
ring finger, dab a little iridescent shadow right in the center of your lid,
avoiding the crepey bits as much as possible. That way you get a little glamour
without looking overly made up.

Focus on Liner

If you have
crepey, hooded, or small lids, I suggest focusing on eye liner rather than
eyeshadow. It takes practice but learning how to apply eyeliner can change your
entire look and make you feel like a rock star. And who doesn’t want that?

For a detailed
tutorial on how to apply eye liner, click here. If you’re looking for guidance on
hooded lids, then watch my video on how to make hooded eyes pop.

In short, apply liner
mainly to the upper eye as opposed to under the eye, and blend well to remove
any sharp lines. Also, chose a complementary eyeliner shade that enhances your
eye color.

For example,
blue-eyes come alive with blue-gray, lavender, or warm browns. Do you have
green eyes? Try grape, bronze, or purple liner. For you brown-eyed beauties, go
for charcoal, green, navy, or black for darker skin tones.

Hopefully, you’re
not like me having meltdowns over crepey eyelids. As I’ve aged, self-care has
taken a higher priority, and I’ve noticed a definite improvement not only in my
skin, but in my love and acceptance of my body.

Our skin can
bounce back from dryness and crepey-ness, and there are fabulous ways for a
savvy senior to apply makeup on crepey lids. I’d love to hear from you and any
thoughts, suggestions, or questions you might have.

What do you do
for your crepey lids? What has helped improve your skin? Please share in the
comments below!

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5 Ways Women Over 60 Can Maintain Healthy Joints and Overcome Arthritis

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Maintaining healthy joints is so important to getting the most from life after 60. Unfortunately, few people escape joint aches and pains, however gracefully they age. Over 100 different types of arthritis can cause symptoms of pain, swelling, stiffness and restricted movement. 

Arthritis literally means inflammation of the joints. Osteoarthritis (OA) is the most common, with one in two people over the age of 60 showing X-ray evidence of the condition. Often described as due to ‘wear and tear’, it is an active process in which cartilage protecting the bone ends weakens and flakes away.

This allows synovial fluid – the joint’s ‘oil’ – to leak into underlying bone causing mild inflammation. The bone responds by swelling so the joint space narrows. Eventually, the bone ends may rub together, causing increasing pain, stiffness and deformity.

Rheumatoid arthritis (RA) is the second most common form of arthritis. This is an autoimmune condition in which immune cells attack the synovial membrane lining certain joints, especially in the wrists, hands and feet. Inflammation gradually spreads to involve other tissues and can lead to eye problems, weight loss, fever and exhaustion. Here are some things you can do to minimize the impact of arthritis.

Watch Your Weight to Maintain Healthy Joints

Whatever type of arthritis you have, aim to lose any excess weight. For every extra pound of fat you carry, the overall force across your knees when walking or standing increases by two to three pounds. So, carrying an additional 10 pounds of excess fat increases the force on your knees by up to 30 pounds. Excess fat, especially around your middle, also secretes substances that increase inflammation and can make pain and stiffness worse.

Follow a Joint-Friendly Diet

Joints thrive on the same healthy diet as your heart and brain. So select plenty of fresh fruit, vegetables, nuts, seeds, wholegrains and oily fish. This includes salmon, fresh tuna, mackerel, herrings, sardines, and pilchards. It is also important to obtain adequate amounts of fluid to maintain joint hydration.

If you have RA, following a plant-based diet can reduce the number of tender and swollen joints, pain, duration of morning stiffness and grip strength. Good intakes of vitamin D appear to be important, too. You can get more information on following a joint-friendly diet here.

Exercise Regularly

Regular exercise strengthens muscles and maintains joint mobility. Non-weight bearing exercise such as cycling and swimming are easier than walking if joints are painful. Hydrotherapy, in which exercise is performed in a warm, deep pool, gives excellent results. Tai Chi can also improve pain and stiffness in older people with knee osteoarthritis. A physiotherapist can advise exercises to do at home. Hot or cold packs can help reduce pain associated with exercise, too.

Use Pain Relieving Creams and Gels

Topical treatments which sink through the skin to reduce pain in underlying joints are at least as effective as oral painkillers, and have less risk of producing side effects. The most effective, in my experience, are glucosamine gels, celedrin creams, comfrey ointments, green-lipped mussel gels and Voltarol gel. I’ve explained how these work in more detail here.

Take Supplements to Improve Joint Health

Different people respond to anti-inflammatory supplements in different ways. Best advice is to try them for two months before reassessing whether you need to try something else.

Omega-3 Fish Oils

Fish oils provide two long-chain, omega-3 fatty acids, EPA and DHA, which are converted in the body into substances that reduce inflammation, joint pain and swelling. A number of studies showing they can reduce the need for taking prescribed painkillers in OS and RA. If you eat fish regularly, a dose of 500mg to 1g per day is ideal. If you rarely eat fish, higher doses are needed for a good, anti-inflammatory effect. You can read more about how omega-3 fish oil, cod liver oil, and krill oil can help arthritis pain here.

Glucosamine and Chondroitin

While glucosamine and chondroitin were originally thought to just act as building blocks to synthesis new cartilage and to make synovial fluid more cushioning, they are now known to reduce inflammation, suppress enzymes that breakdown cartilage, and act as biological signals to stimulate joint repair in osteoarthritis. Start with a dose of 1500mg glucosamine per day and add 1200mg chondroitin if glucosamine alone does not produce the relief you need. You can read my review of glucosamine supplements for aching joints.

Turmeric

Turmeric is an Ayurvedic medicine for treating arthritis. A recent study, involving over 360 people, confirms that turmeric is as effective in reducing knee pain and stiffness as prescribed anti-inflammatory drugs, but with significantly fewer side effects. I’ve written about the many health benefits of turmeric here.

Other supplements are available, such as Devil’s claw, MSM and rose hip extracts, but most people will notice significant improvement from using a topical cream/gel and taking a fish oil supplement, together with glucosamine (with or without chondroitin) and/or turmeric. I have to say, since starting turmeric, my knee twinges have disappeared!

Do you take any supplements to maintain healthy joints? Which have you found most effective? Please leave your comments and join the conversation.

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How Often Do You Get to Sit Comfortably on Public Transportation?

How Often Do You Get to Sit Comfortably on Public Transportation

People
who go everywhere by car may have many complaints – traffic, the price of
petrol (gas), or finding a parking space. But at least they can expect to
travel in comfort.

Many
of us, however, are dependent on buses, trains, and subways (known as the ‘underground’
or ‘tube’ in London and the ‘metro’ in some other places) to get around. We do
not always travel in comfort, despite such trips being part of our daily
routine.

Getting a Seat

I well
remember the first time it happened. I was in my early 60s and standing in the underground
train, thinking about nothing in particular.

A young
man in a seat was waving, trying to get someone’s attention, I assumed behind
me. But I looked behind and no one was there. My brain re-jigged the situation,
and I realised he was trying to get my
attention. Why?

Of
course, he was trying to offer me a seat. Me! Of all odd things to do. I was
young and able and waved him away to indicate I was fine.

This
was the very first time I was ever aware of being labelled as ‘old’ and it came
as a shock.

Seats Galore

And
then it started to happen more often. Someone would prod me and point to a
person getting up, indicating that the vacated seat was available.

Or
they would stand up very visibly and offer the seat there and then. On tube
trains, on buses. More and more frequently.

There
was one period when I had a bad back and sitting down was very painful. I
turned down the frequent offers. But once someone decides you need their seat,
it is very hard to dissuade them.

Once
or twice, I even took a seat, which I didn’t want, because it was too
complicated to explain to the eager helper.

Who Offers Seats?

In
my experience, women are more likely to offer a seat than men and older people
more than younger ones. They seem, more often than not, to be foreigners,
brought up in an etiquette that no longer applies here.

But
I think it is happening more often. Perhaps there are more foreigners using
public transport in London. Or perhaps Londoners generally are becoming more
aware of the issue. Even young men, lost in their own worlds, do occasionally
offer.

Who Gets Seats?

Most
often, it seems to be older women who are offered seats. And anyone with a cane
or otherwise visibly disabled. I know that when I have a cold or am generally
under the weather, I get offered one more readily. I assume it is because I am looking
older.

Older
men sometimes get one. My husband actually needs one more than I do, because of
a bad knee. If we are together, I will try to ensure he gets one, although it
is difficult to persuade him.

And
sometimes women with children or pregnant women get offered a seat, but the
latter are complicated as they might just be overweight.

I
know that nearly 40 years ago, I wasn’t offered a seat when I was nine months
pregnant and there was no mistaking it.

Last
week, I watched a woman with a guide dog get on a bus and two people vacated a
double seat to allow her to sit with the dog next to her. I wondered how the
dog knew what was going on. But even more, I wondered how the dog knew which
bus to get on.

In
any case, the older I get, the more I welcome an offered seat. It is no longer
a surprise, but a wonderful relief to get off my feet.

How
do you travel around town? Do you get offered seats on public transportation? Do
you welcome them? Or do you still offer seats to others? Please share your
stories!

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How to Pay Off Debt FAST in Your 60s… from a Woman Who Paid Off $150,000 in 10 Years

How to Pay Off Debt FAST in Your 50s and 60s… from a Woman Who Paid Off $150,000 in 10 Years

When it comes to financial security, Baby Boomers are somewhat of a mystery. On the one hand, we are often called “The richest generation of all time.” On the other hand, even after decades in the workforce, we still carry the second highest level of debt of any generation ($95,095 per person), second only to Gen X ($134,323.)

To make matters worse, unlike members of the Millennial and Gen X generations, we don’t have long to correct the situation before retirement hits us like a ton of bricks.

Simply put, if we want to get the most from retirement, we need to get series about paying our debt off fast.  

I Paid Off $150,000 in Debt in 10-Years… and You Can Too!

So, what makes
me qualified to tell my fellow Baby Boomers how to pay off debt fast in the years
leading up to retirement? I’m not a financial expert. I don’t have a bunch of
3-letter acronyms in front of my name. And, therefore, nothing in this article
should be considered financial advice.

On the other hand, unlike many of the talking heads that you see on TV, I have actually paid off $150,000 in debt. I refused to declare bankruptcy and took the hard steps necessary to rebuild my financial life. I also started several successful businesses in my 60s.

So, first, I’ll share why your 50s and 60s may actually be the easiest time to pay down your debt. Then, I’ll talk walk through the exact steps that I used to pay off my own mountain of debt.

It wasn’t easy, but, I hope that I can make your path a bit smoother than mine was.

Still Deeply in Debt in Your 50s or 60s? Don’t Panic… You
Have a Lot on Your Side

Many of us are surprised to find that we still have debt by the time we reach our 50s and 60s. And, it’s not just credit card debt that haunts us.

According to the Guardian life insurance company, student debt among Baby Boomers grew 72% over the last 5 years. That’s more than any other generation due, in part, to our willingness to co-sign on our children (and grandchildren’s) loans.

There is one
silver lining to being in debt in your 50s and 60s, however. For several
reasons, this may actually be the easiest time in your life to pay down debt. Here
are a few reasons.

First, our 50s and 60s tend to be our peak earning years. And, with our kids (for the most part) out of the house, many of us have more cash left over at the end of the month than at other times in our lives.

Whether to put this money into our retirement accounts depends on many factors – such as the expected return of our investments vs the interest rate that we are paying to service our debt.

But, the main point here remains. Now is a great time to pay off your debt.

Second, as an
older adult, you actually have more leverage than at other points of your life
when it comes to negotiating your debt. Why? Because, the banks know that once
you reach retirement age and have to start living on a fixed income their
chances of getting their money back decrease significantly. Getting less now,
may be better than risking getting nothing tomorrow.  

So, if you are
ready to deal with your debt in your 50s or 60s, stay positive! You are in a
stronger position than you think!

Here’s the
approach that I used to pay off my debt.

Step 1: Just the Facts Ma’am

The most
important (and hardest) step in paying off your debt simply involved gathering
all of the necessary data. Why is this so hard? Because, writing down how much
you owe will force you to face your problems head on.

Trust me when
I say that I know how hard it is to be honest with yourself about your
financial situation. I ignored my own debts for years… and ended up paying $1,000s
more than I should have.

For as long as you are just blindly paying the monthly minimums on your credit cards and other sources of debt, you can pretend that everything is ok.

Don’t allow the little pain-avoiding magician in your head to say, “Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain!” Take control today.

There are
plenty of fancy tools (some free and some paid) that can help you to organize
and track your debts – Undebt.it, Unbury.me and Mint spring to mind. But, the truth
is that, unless your situation is especially complicated, you can usually
create a plan in Excel… or even on a good old fashioned piece of paper.

Before you
call your lenders, create a table like the following to keep track of the
amounts that you owe, the APR (interest rate) and minimum monthly payment:

Then, when you
are ready, it’s time to get on the phone with your banks, credit card companies
and other lenders. Ask them how much you owe, the APR and the monthly minimum.
It’s that simple.

Step 2: Choose a Plan: Snowball of Avalanche

Once you have
a good understanding of how much you owe and to whom, it’s time to pick a strategy
to start paying off your debt. And, at the end of the day, there are two main
approaches to choose from – the “Snowball” and the “Avalanche.”

With the “Snowball”
strategy, you would choose to pay off the debt source with the lowest total
amount due first. The goal here is to start creating psychological momentum… to
get some “wins” so that you are motivated to keep going with your debt-reduction
plan.

With the “Avalanche”
strategy, you would choose to pay down the debt source with the highest APR
first. The goal here is to focus on the highest-interest debt source in order
to free up cash as quickly as possible to further reduce your debt.

For example,
let’s assume that you had the following debt profile:

With the “Snowball”
approach, you would start paying down the loan from ABC Bank first since the
amount owed ($2,000) is less than the other two debt sources. Note that the
interest rate for ABC Bank (7%) is less than that of XYZ Credit Card (14%)

With the “Avalanche”
approach, you would start paying down the loan from XYZ Credit Card first since
the interest rate (14%) is higher than the next highest with ABC Bank (7%).

There are
benefits and costs to both approaches and, since everyone’s situation is
different, it makes sense to discuss which strategy is best for you with a
financial advisor. But, at the end of the day, both approaches can work, if
followed closely.

Step 3: Negotiate Your Way to a Debt Free Live

What follows is definitely not financial advice. These techniques worked for me, but, this doesn’t mean that they are appropriate for your situation. That said, here’s are a few of the strategies that I used.

Offering a
Lump Sum Payment

When I received a scary letter from a debt collection agency, my son stepped in to help. The amount that I owed was $8,000 and my son offered to loan me $5,000 towards the total. I decided that I would go a step further and simply offer the collection agency $5,000.

I was honest
with them. I told them that I simply couldn’t afford to pay back the full
amount, but, that a family member had offered to help. I asked them if they
would accept $5,000 to close the account completely… and, to my surprise, they
said yes.

Will this work
in all situations? Of course not. But, if you do end up with a little extra
cash, what’s the harm in asking?

Simply Asking for a Reduction (Especially for Credit Card Interest Rates)

As I wrote in
a previous article, the number one reason that people fail in a negotiation is
that they fail to negotiate. When you reach this step in the process, I highly
encourage you to check out my article, “How
to Negotiate in Everyday Life
So That You Save More and Retire Richer.”

Sometimes, all
it takes is the threat to pay off your balance with a new credit card that has
a lower interest rate to get your bank to change their tune.

Step 4: How to Stay Out of Debt (for Good!)

Once you have
a plan in place to pay off your loans, how do you stop your debt pile from
growing?

Well, if the main
source of your debt is credit cards, then the answer is simple… cut them up (or
freeze them if you need them for emergencies). But, you already knew that!

In my
experience, however, it’s not consumerism that gets older adults into (new)
debt. It’s the desire to help other people.

Once again, I’m
not judging. I have helped both of my sons when they fell on tough times. I
paid for my kids’ education. And, I still put money aside for my grandkids.

All I am
saying is that each and every one of us has the right to be financially free.
Just like the emergency video on an airplane will tell you to “Put your own
mask on before helping others,” we need to apply this same approach to our
financial lives.

The key here
is to be honest with yourself and your family… honest about your debt triggers,
financial resources and goals for the future. Otherwise, you risk playing the role
of “grandma piggybank” until you have nothing more to give.

Don’t Give Up!

No matter were
you are on your financial journey, don’t give up! I am living proof that it is
possible to pay off almost any amount of debt… at any age!

The most
important thing is to take action. Don’t wait another day. You are strong! You can
do this!

Why do you
think so many older adults are still in debt? What advice would you give to the
other people in our community who are trying to get debt free? Let’s have a
conversation!

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Is Our Fear of Financial Risk Killing Our Retirement Dreams? You Bet!

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If there is one thing that financial advisors, the media and seniors agree on it is that “the older you get, the less risk you should take with your money.” On the surface, this advice makes perfect sense. After all, having 100% of your money in stocks, one year before retirement could have disastrous consequences… especially if the market dips right before you start to cash out your savings.

I can’t help but wonder though whether the advice that you all accept regarding how to manage risk in the years leading up to retirement isn’t having unintended consequences in other parts of our financial lives.

In other words, as older adults, are we applying the concept of risk reduction too broadly and, as a result, missing out on financial (and other life) opportunities.

Are Anti-Risk Words and Images Coloring Your Financial Future?

If there is one thing that I have learned in my 40+ years in marketing, it is that words matter. The way that we talk about concepts – both individually and as a society – has a powerful impact on our thoughts and beliefs.

Think for a second about how retirement is portrayed in the movies and on TV. Culturally speaking, retirement is a time for slowing down and hoarding our assets. It is a time for shutting yourself off from the world and looking back wistfully at the “good old days.” It is a time for rejecting risks and accepting reality.

On a practical level, the financial advice that we receive is equally risk-averse. The older we get, the more of our money we are supposed to shift out of stocks and into bonds. Now, I’ll leave the discussion of whether bonds are really as safe as we think they are for another article. For now, I just want to focus on the multiplier effect that our risk aversion may be having on other aspects of our lives.

The question is this: As older adults, have we taken risk aversion and financial pessimism too far? Has our desire to avoid portfolio risk made us less likely to start businesses, move to cheaper cities (or abroad), accurately estimate our life expectancy and take social risks?

There Are Good Risks and Bad Risks at Every Stage of Our Lives

By now, we know that not all risks are created equal. Smoking a pack of cigarettes a day is a risky behavior with almost no upside. Starting a business could be considered risky, but, it also has the potential to change your life for the better.

Likewise, when it comes to how we think about risk in retirement, it pays to evaluate each opportunity separately.

Leaving all of your money in stocks may be genuinely risky for someone who needs to live off of their retirement savings. At the same time, moving all of your money into government bonds when you are in good health and, as a result, will probably live for 20-30 years could also be considered risky. It’s all about finding balance.

But, being too conservative with your portfolio is not the worst consequence of accepting the risk avoidance mentality of aging. The worst consequences of risk aversion are that they can prevent us from reaching our potential in other areas of our lives.

Starting a Business is Not as Risky as it Feels

There is a (false) belief that younger adults make better entrepreneurs than their older counterparts. Part of the reason that we believe the myth that younger entrepreneurs are more successful has to do with our perceptions of risk; on some level, we instinctually see young adults as being willing to take more risks.

The truth is that older adults are consistently more successful with our business ventures. In fact, statistically speaking, the older you are, the more likely you are to be able to turn your idea into a profitable venture.

After interviewing 100s of pre-retirees and retirees, I can tell you that our risk aversion is one of the biggest factors holding us back from starting businesses.

Ironically, starting a business could help you to avoid one of the biggest risks that we all face as we get a little older – running out of money in retirement. By accepting small financial risks now, you may be able to avoid large money problems in the future.

To be clear, starting a business doesn’t have to involve a large upfront financial investment. I’m certainly not saying that you should cash out your 401K to work on that idea for a walking kettle that you have always had in the back of your mind.

There are plenty of businesses that can be started for almost nothing – consulting, writing, dog walking, babysitting, teaching, soap making, marketing, PR, chocolate making, etc. And, once you see some success, you can always reinvest your profits in more complex ventures, if you so desire.

Be Cautious with Your Money But Bold with Your Life After Retirement

Accepting the idea that old people should be risk averse is one of the fastest ways to kill your dreams in retirement. Life is inherently risky and we can’t hide from this simple fact.

I know so many people who would love to retire abroad. These soon-to-be-retirees see how much further their Social Security checks could stretch in another country. They may also love the idea of living in a warmer climate or experiencing a new culture.

The majority of these older adults will never find the courage to leave their comfort zone. Why? Because they have hundreds of little perceived risks rattling around in their heads.

What if I can’t make friends?

What if I get sick?

What if I can’t speak the language?

What if I miss my family?

To be clear, these are valid concerns. But, for most people, they are also completely solvable problems.

By the way, it is not just our financial lives that suffer when we accept risk aversion in retirement.

Dating is risky. Sports are risky. Riding a bike is risky. Traveling by yourself is risky. But, doing nothing in retirement is the riskiest choice of all!

The bottom line is that, if we want to get the most from life after retirement, we need to separate portfolio risk from other perceived risks. We should absolutely listen to our financial advisors when it comes to our money, but, we should listen to our hearts and heads when it comes to everything else.

Do you think that, as older adults, we tend to be too risk-averse when it comes to our money, businesses and lives? Why or why not? What impact, if any, do you think the media has on our perceptions of risk? Let’s have a conversation.

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