Stephanie Hollman’s Grey Cold Shoulder Dress on Instagram

Real Housewives of Dallas Instagram Fashion 2021

Stephanie Hollman’s grey sweatshirt-style dress that she wore during a recent GNO with cast mates Kary Brittingham and Kameron Westcott is super cute. And as you’ll be happy to learn still in stock, so like Steph you too can give start giving some serious cold shoulder (in the nicest way possible ). 

Fashionably,

Faryn

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Photo: @StephHollman

Originally posted at: Stephanie Hollman’s Grey Cold Shoulder Dress

Every woman I know has a story about fear. Many of us have more than one.

My battle with fear started as a learned behavior. I was a pastor’s daughter, and our home was right next door to the church. In the 1960s, we didn’t lock our doors, even at night, and pastors and judges were the working psychologists.

Our Home Was Where People Came to Find Help

On a daily basis, people came to our door seeking help. Some of them were just down on their luck, some of them were abused, a few were downright dangerous, but all of them urgently needed help.

Our home was the battered women’s shelter, the drunk tank, the homeless shelter, the food pantry, and often the “guest” in our basement had endured a beating or was on the run.

I Had to Be Able to Discern WHO Was Ringing the Doorbell

My parents taught me to “size people up.” (Try as I might, I can’t stop doing it to this day.) This assessment of people as a possible threat soon became an ingrained behavior; the things we learn when we are very little often do.

After a visitor left, my parents often asked me to review their behavior and appearance. “What did their clothes look like? Was her dress ironed or dirty? See her face in your mind. Did she have bruises or cuts? Could you smell alcohol? Was he slurring his speech?”

The Skill of Assessing People Has Served Me Well

For a while, it was how I survived life in the big city. I taught our son to do it too, when we resided in a historic neighborhood, bordered by a ghetto, in the bowels of the American South. But putting your amygdala in charge of your life sets you up for insecurity and unhappiness.

Assessing Everyone and Everything as a Threat Isn’t Healthy

Fear doesn’t make you happy. In fact, it can make you sick. When you see everyone and everything as a threat, you keep your brain in an ancient fight or flight response. You’re trapped inside your own chemical and emotional reactions to life around you.

Chemists say we humans emit 2000 VOCs (volatile organic compounds) that are chemical messengers of both wellness and danger. (Have you ever reacted to someone’s smell? Or suddenly felt attracted to that bald guy in the restaurant and wondered why? VOCs. That’s why!)

Your Response to Fear Is Largely Subconscious

Like my childhood mind that was always assessing the threat behind the person ringing the doorbell, you may find yourself stressed out by isolation, becoming afraid of others for fear they carry the latest mutation of Covid-19.

It’s Easy to Become Locked Away from the World by Fear

Do you miss socializing with friends? Or would you love to be taking in a pint or a glass of wine at the pub? Do you find yourself glancing away from strangers because these encounters with other masked faces is so awkward?

Well, if so, you’re not alone.

Fear is always talking to you, and usually your responses are unconscious. But watch out! Fear will lock you away from encountering people and places that could bring you great joy!

It’s healthier to make an “appointment” with your fear.

I know that sounds silly but it’s really useful! When you set up a day and a time to work with your fear, you bring those unconscious, dark thoughts into the healing light of day.

Make a List of Things You’re Afraid of

I did this just last week, and it was enormously helpful. I’ll share a few items on my list: Being exposed to Covid (again), fear that my son wouldn’t get into graduate school, my sad finances, a needed car repair, and last but not least, my insane fears about growing old without a partner. (Widowhood and the single life is NOT for sissies!)

Shine a Flashlight on Your Fears

Here’s what I discovered when I looked at my list: The vaccine is now available. My son got into two graduate schools. Yes, I’m getting older but so are all the guys!

Give Your Psyche a Break from Fear

What day this week would be good for that appointment with your fear? Set an actual date and time and put it on your calendar. Then keep the appointment!

Get A-Writing!

It’s so easy to avoid thinking about this. But it’s worth the time to have a confrontation with the fear because that is what keeps you from joy! As you make your list, you may find that it’s longer than you thought. (One worry often leads to another.)

But once your fears are out in the open, you can actively work with them. You can circle the things that really need your attention and make a decision about how to deal with them. (Maybe you really do need a more reliable car?)

And you’ll quickly see other fears melt away because they’re just not real. (Or, they’re not fixable! Like Covid.)

What fears are on your list? And how will you deal with the fears that are holding you back from enjoying a happy, healthy life even in the midst of a pandemic? 

The ’70s fashion hair accessory is back—with a modern update. If you often find yourself falling into a rabbit hole on Instagram watching wig videos, you’ve probably seen so-called headband wigs exploding all over your timeline. This type of unit, sometimes referred to as a headband half wig, is made with a piece of material at the wig’s base that mimics a headband.

Headband wigs offer an easy-to-wear option that requires nothing more than your natural hair being slicked back or braided down under. If you’re not a pro at applying wigs, headband wigs are a great option. Not only does it not require any combs, clips or glue, but it also tends to look more natural than lace wigs.

While headband wigs may have seemed to appear out of thin air, making it even harder to decide which type of wig is suited for your needs, it was, in fact, a response to lace production shortages during the beginning of the pandemic. Wig-wearers were having trouble finding quality lace wigs early during the pandemic. Plus, spending more time indoors is all the more reason to find lower maintenance alternatives to help you slay at home.

Headband wigs may have been a response to a temporary hiccup in the wig industry, but the ease of application has won over wig-wearers ranging from novice to expert. It’s safe to say that headband wigs aren’t going anywhere anytime soon. In case you need some help venturing off into the wonderful world, we’ve rounded up some of our favorite wig units to guide you through the process.

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Her Given Hair Coily Headband Wig

The company has created a few gorgeous textured headband wigs to channel your natural texture in a matter of minutes. If your wash-and-go typically requires a large chunk of time, having this headband wig at your disposal may come in handy.

UNice Body Wave Headband Human Hair Wig

The glam goddess in you deserves this full-bodied wig available in lengths from 12-28 inches.

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RPG Show Brown Highlights Yaki Textured Headband Wig

This pink headband wig is just about the easiest way to get trendy highlights.

My First Wig Leo – Zodiac Collection Human Hair Ombre Curly

There’s no doubt in our minds that the Leo-themed headband wig will be a conversation starter, even if it’s just on your weekly Target run.

Clione Kinky Curly Headband Wig

Full is not even the word to describe the volume on this affordable synthetic kinky-curly afro wig. If you’re on the hunt for a statement wig, this is it.

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Recifeya Hair Headband Wig

You may not be spending much time poolside or at the beach this year, but that doesn’t mean you wear this water wave textured headbang wig. We recommend keeping keep a spray bottle with water handy to keep this hair texture moisturized and defined.

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Ali Pearl Headband Wig

Don’t sleep on short curly wigs. Compared to their longer counterparts, the ringlets are just as beautiful but much more manageable. This particular curly headband wig comes with three headbands and one scarf for you to switch up your look.

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Luvme Kinky Straight Headband Wig

If you have type 4 hair, kinky straight wigs are a must for your arsenal. The best thing about kinky straight textured wigs (besides the fact that they mimic straightened natural hair perfectly) is that they’re versatile. You can wear it in its natural kinky/crimped state, straighten it or even pump up the volume by adding curls.

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K’ryssma Headband Wig

This affordable synthetic wig comes with multiple different headband prints so there are endless possibilities.

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Bethenny Frankel’s Pink Heart Print Sweater on Instastories

Bethenny Frankel Instagram Fashion 2021

While Bethenny Frankel seems to have found love with Paul (again) just in time for Valentine’s Day, we’ve found love with her super cute pink heart print sweater on Instastories. Which with it’s pretty pearl-detailing and super affordable price tag, is definitely the perfect way to show a little love to ourselves.

Fashionably,

Faryn

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Photo: @BethennyFrankel

Originally posted at: Bethenny Frankel’s Pink Heart Print Sweater

A majority of us have seen our routines and daily movement patterns uprooted over this last year by the global pandemic. Like it or not, we are spending a significant amount of time within the cozy confines of our own homes. Those of us working from home are commuting to a chair in the next room.

Instead of walking across the office to ask a colleague a question, we are interacting on a screen. As we’ve all seen from mail and shipping delays, more of us are now doing our shopping and errands online.

And let’s not forget all the happy hours or book group meetings moved to a Zoom format. What does this all add up to? We are moving our bodies less and sitting a lot more.

Is Sitting the New Smoking?

There’s plenty of research out there to tell us that the cumulative effects of sitting, either at a desk all day or because of a sedentary lifestyle, can have a negative impact on our health.

A 2014 study by Dr. James Levine, director of the Mayo Clinic – Arizona State University Obesity Solutions Initiative, went so far as to declare that “sitting is the new smoking.” This extreme and attention grabbing statement is meant to drive home a point about time spent on our sofa.

Ongoing research has shown that sitting too much is not in fact worse than smoking – but it is a real and serious health concern worthy of our consideration and behavior modification.

What happens to our bodies when we spend too much time sitting? Sitting at a desk job all day can cause eye strain, tight shoulders, lower back pain, tight hips, and repetitive back strain. And it’s not just sitting at work.

When we give in to couch potato temptations, we are in danger of a shortened life expectancy, deformed vertebral disks, a sluggish metabolism, and potential weight gain. Studies have shown that we are also increasing our risk of serious diseases such as:

• Colon, Breast, and Ovarian Cancer
• Type 2 Diabetes
• Heart Disease
• Obesity
• Depression
• Specific Postural Changes
• Muscle Degeneration
• Leg Circulation Disorders

Solutions for Sitters

The answer is to get up, stretch, and move more. The best way to avoid health problems caused by sitting and keep your posture from becoming permanently chair shaped is to incorporate a stretching and strengthening routine into your day.

Take Regular Breaks

Because we know that the duration of sitting is part of the problem, the number one way to make immediate improvement is to set an alarm as a reminder to get up and move around. We love the idea of making “movement deposits” as suggested in this Sixty and Me blog last year.

Some breaks can be done walking (in fresh air is a bonus) and some breaks can be simple stretches standing or even sitting at your desk if necessary. Taking a 10-minute break every hour will go a long way to help you increase movement in your day.

How You Sit Is Important

Making sure that you are sitting with your feet flat on the floor with your spine upright in a neutral forward facing position is key. Ideally, try to have a chair that supports your back when you need it, but also allows you to sit upright using your postural muscles to lengthen your spine.

The height of your chair should be so that your knees are at or just below your hips. Your hands should be aligned so your wrists don’t have to flex to type. You should not have to extend your neck to see your computer or overly flex to see your book.

Try to introduce variety in what you sit on by having different chairs for different purposes (i.e., computer vs. reading) and changing positions.

One of my clients recently started complaining of lateral hip pain. She knows that how she sits is important, so she has a good chair, takes long breaks, and changes her position throughout the day.

Interestingly, she googled strategies to decrease her pain and found advice to stretch and roll out her IT band (the band of fascia that connects your tensor fascia lata muscle on the outside of your hip, to your knee).

I knew from my long history with this client that her body already has a long connection between these two points because of natural alignment of her leg bones, and I was concerned that bringing stretching into an area that was already quite long may not be the right solution.

In the end, we discovered that she was sitting in her different chairs with her feet dangling off the floor. The fix was a simple prop placed under her feet and lowering her chair so that her feet were resting properly.

Now with the weight of her legs supported, they are no longer pulling on that IT band and making it sore. It’s so important to simply pay close attention to good ergonomics.

Train Your Body for Your Sitting

If you have to sit a lot, prepare your body. Strengthen and balance your muscles to keep the compressive forces at bay and minimize the impact of stillness. Having your own movement practice in place, such as participating in Pilates or Yoga classes regularly, will help keep your body balanced and strong.

I invite you to try this simple, 10-minute routine designed to counteract the effects of too much sitting. The 9 exercises in the above video are perfect for maintaining movement throughout your spine and can be done all at once, or one or two throughout the day. Take this 10-minute break for your mind, your body, and your health.

Healthy Habits for a Healthy Body

Whether you’re working from home or just hanging out at home, taking time to move during the day will create positive effects over a lifetime. These healthy habits will help you continue to be active in ways that you love by keeping your body strong and mobile.

When you’re ready for more, MOVE Wellness offers over 45 weekly interactive livestream classes with expert instructors, many perfect for beginners. But above all, just keep moving!

How often do you catch yourself sitting for more than an hour at a time? Do you get up and move a bit or do some stretches throughout the day? Which types of exercises do you find easiest to do in your daily sit time? Please share with the community!