For the past few days, I’ve been getting compliments on my skin and I couldn’t figure out what I was doing differently. Is it that I finally got rid of an epic breakout? Is it my new moisturizer for cooler weather? Then it hit me. I had been wearing Tower 28’s SunnyDays Tinted Sunscreen Foundation for a few weeks. I was really liking the formula and the coverage but I didn’t realize others had noticed, too.

I started drilling my friends, asking them why I looked better in their eyes. (It’s both fun and annoying to be BFFs with a beauty editor.) What I heard most often was that my skin looked glowy and even but not too covered-up — you could still see my freckles. That’s how I knew I had found my new favorite foundation.

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Tower 28.

I was trying out the foundation before it launched and boy, am I glad I did. When it finally came out earlier this month, it had a 2,500+ person waitlist according to the brand. But why were folks so excited before they even tried it? Well, for a few reasons. First, it’s tough to find a mineral sunscreen that doesn’t leave a whitecast. And to find a tinted one with 14 shades with no whitecast? Almost impossible. But Tower 28 was able to do it.

SunnyDays is also sensitive skin-approved. So much so that it’s the first and only complexion makeup product with the National Eczema Association’s Seal of Acceptance. So, if you worry sunscreen will break you out, cause a rash or inflame a condition like eczema, you don’t have to worry about that here.

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The non-nano zinc formula is reef-safe, alcohol-free, fragrance-free, and contains skincare-like ingredients such as prickly pear extract, aloe vera and white sage sourced from California deserts. And let’s talk about that shade range! Fourteen flexible shades is a great amount for a tinted sunscreen. The brand worked with celebrity makeup artist Kirin Bhatty to nail the shades and undertones so everyone can find their unique hue. Plus, they have really cute names. They’re all named after places in Los Angeles (where Tower 28 is based), as a nod to some of the founder Amy Liu’s favorite local hang-outs. I’m wearing Larchmont.

Considering there was such a massive waitlist, Tower 28 did a good job continuing to stock SunnyDays. You can still pick it up now — at least until it goes viral on TikTok.

Tracy Tutor’s Tan Leather Blazer on MDLLA

Million Dollar Listing LA Season 13 Episode 8 Fashion

Tracy Tutor’s tan leather blazer (which is very similar to the one Kyle Richards wore on RHOBH!) on this week’s episode of Million Dollar Listing Los Angeles is a super chic layering piece for fall. And as you’ll be happy to learn we’ve linked some great Style Stealers for it down below so you too can have the perfect tan going on this season, even you aren’t lucky enough to live in sunny LA. 

Fashionably,

Faryn

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Originally posted at: Tracy Tutor’s Tan Leather Blazer

Back in the 1980s, when I was in my 20s, I decided to do a 2-day, 150-mile bike ride from Houston to Austin, Texas. I bought a bike (yes, I didn’t even have a bike at the time) and trained for months with a group of friends who were also embarking on this adventure.

I did the ride, and it went fine until about a mile from the state capital, where the ride ended. It had started raining, and I was then presented with my first flat tire of the trip. I could see the capital in the distance, so I decided to not change my tire and just push my bike, in the rain, the remaining distance.

This was not the glorious, triumphant finish I had imagined.

Here’s the relevant part of this story. After I got home from that adventure, I parked my bike in the garage, flat tire and all, and never rode it again. I moved the bike twice to new homes, but I never changed the flat tire or sat on the little painful seat again. I did not become a “bike rider” from setting, then pitifully achieving, this goal.

So, Exactly Why Are Goals A Problem?

The big problem with goals is that they create an END – an end to the effort. Gretchen Rubin discusses this issue in her book, Better Than Before:

“A finish line divides behavior that we want to follow indefinitely – to run, to write, to practice – into ‘start’ and ‘stop,’ and all too often, the ‘stop’ turns out to be permanent.”

Gretchen has seen this with women who stopped smoking during pregnancy, only to start again postpartum. “They drop the smoking habit for months, and they kick the chemical addiction out of their system, but when they cross the finish line, they start smoking again.”

Let’s Apply This to Weight Loss

Many of us know, all too well, the “stop/start” problem with dieting.

We make weight loss goals, do all the things necessary to reach the goal, then celebrate by returning to our old way of eating. Think about how crazy that loop is! I bet I am not the only one who has been in it, either.

To add to the problem, when we stop after a goal is achieved, starting again the next time may feel even harder! This can create a permanent stop.

Rubin also says that this start/stop system inhibits habit formation, which is never a good thing when you are trying to achieve permanent results.

What Should We Do Instead?

Just like I did not become a “bike rider” while preparing for the 150-mile event, you don’t become a “healthy eater” by going on a diet. You don’t become fit by doing a 4-week fitness challenge. You become fit and healthy by making small permanent changes, at a sustainable pace.

We are not successful when we just do the action. We are successful when we become the type of person that does the action. Consistently doing small changes which become part of your life, will eventually shape you as a person.

If you still feel compelled to set a goal, maybe your goal could be to become a new type of person. Like “a bike rider,” “a healthy eater,” “a fitness enthusiast”… You get the idea.

Still haven’t changed your mind about short-term goals? If you love to set them and they work for you, pay close attention to what happens after you reach your goal. This is the crucial time for maintaining your new habit. This awareness might help keep you on track.

What has been your experience with goal setting? Have you been on the stop/start goal train before? What kind of person would you like to become – as a goal? What small steps would get you moving toward being that person?

Paige DeSorbo and Gabrielle Kniery’s Silver Metallic Ski Jacket on Winter House

Winter House Season 1 Episode 2 Fashion

Forget the communal sharing of men (Austen ladies? Really?), there appears to be some type of communal sharing of this silver metallic ski jacket going on in the Winter House between Paige DeSorbo and Gabrielle Kniery. And whether you want it all to yourself this winter or are willing to make it some sort of eskimo-sisterhood-of-the-traveling-jacket situation, we’re sharing the deets of where you can still score it down below. 

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Faryn

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Originally posted at: Paige DeSorbo and Gabrielle Kniery’s Silver Metallic Ski Jacket

Did you know that 73% of women who experience menopause in the United States do not treat their symptoms? While over in the United Kingdom, surveys show that 1 in 4 women actually consider resigning during menopause. Sadly, that means there are huge numbers of women around the globe suffering the debilitating effects of anxiety, sleeplessness and hot flashes alone and in silence.

For most women, menopause simply hasn’t been an accessible topic. It wasn’t discussed at home, at school or growing up and this may explain the reluctance to acknowledge and treat symptoms.

Menopause Ignorance

The lack of information surrounding menopause means it is often clouded by fear and shame. I didn’t realise what menopause meant for women until my wife Alka experienced the whole gamut of menopausal symptoms.

For my wife, like most other women, the symptoms of menopause were often irrational and unexplainable. Seeing my wife going through the severity of symptoms from anxiety to sleeplessness and hot flashes was a turning point.

It was then that I realised, even though I have spent years studying and practicing health, there was so much more I needed to understand about the impact of menopause. As a health professional, I have often asked myself why menopause became the stage of life that we chose to ignore?

Just a Normal Stage of Life

Isn’t it time we recognised that menopause is a very normal part of life that every woman will experience? It’s only when we, as a community, recognise and acknowledge menopause as a stage of life that we will be able to give the support, care and understanding to the women in our lives who are living through it.

The good news is that attitudes towards menopause are slowly changing. Today, we know so much more about menopause and how it affects women; we know that treatments are not a one-size-fits all, but that it will be an incredibly different experience for every single woman.

Women Experience Menopause Differently

Some women report perimenopause as the start of feelings of distress – for others the menopause can be extremely traumatic. There also cases where women believed they were suffering from early on-set dementia until a medical diagnosis proved they were actually suffering from menopause.

Other women have felt little or no change in their disposition throughout menopause. For my wife, whose symptoms were distressingly on-going, a range of all natural menopause treatments and organic herbals teas really did help to ease her symptoms; especially the night sweats, hot flashes and anxiety.

Seek Help

For many women it can be an anxious and relentless time. That’s why it’s important to talk about it – to your friends, to your partner and your family. Reach out for support and most importantly seek the help and advice of your health care practitioner to find out the best treatment options for you.

While menopause may have passed you by (or you may be going through it now), it’s up to us as parents and grandparents to start the menopause conversation with the women in our life.

Our generation can take the lead and normalise this conversation, and as we do that, we will encourage schools to open up the dialogue and talk openly about menopause. When we encourage the conversation at school, in our community and across our society we will create a platform for women to openly share their menopause journey.

By doing this we will create an opportunity for the young women of the future to access accurate information about menopause and encourage further studies into the menopause stage of life. In the end, don’t we all want to see a world that celebrates women in all the stages of their life?

Which menopause symptom is/was hardest on you? How did you get through it? Where did you look for support? Do you think there is a lot more to be said about menopause?