Month: June 2020

The Great Kindness Challenge: What’s Yours?

The Great Kindness Challenge What’s Yours

We are an interconnected world, as we’ve discovered more powerfully than ever through the pandemic, and if that interconnectedness sometimes brings unwanted offerings, such as the virus, it also brings treasures, like that of kindness.

Because of the pandemic, we are, for the most part, kinder to each other. Neighbors check in on neighbors to make sure everyone is all right. People offer to do errands for those who can’t leave their homes. Others share whatever paper goods they have with those who are lacking.

Yes, we observe social distancing out of self-preservation, but also out of respect for one another, out of basic human kindness.

We are more conscious of others’ necessary personal space as well as our own, more considerate of letting people go first if they seemed more needy. We share information about how to make masks, how to deal with home-schooling, how to wash our vegetables.

Just as interconnected sing-alongs raise our happiness level higher than solo singing in the shower, kindness to each other breeds more kindness.

What if this mind-boggling global crisis leaves in its wake a kinder humanity? What if we continue to be more considerate of each other, mindful of one another’s well-being, sharing and caring more than ever before? What if we consciously make this a better world post-Covid?

The Great Kindness Challenge

Recently, I discovered The Great Kindness Challenge, started by Jill McManigal of Carlsbad, California. It encourages school kids to be kind to one another (and to themselves) by performing as many acts of kindness as possible every week, chosen from a list offered by the Challenge, free of charge.

Performing these acts helps the children be more conscious of how they are treating themselves and others. This has already proven beneficial in creating a more joyous and harmonious environment for the children and, in turn, is conducive to a better learning environment.

Now then, what if we – adults and children alike – took on a similar challenge, to help us continue the forward progression into greater kindness? All it takes is becoming more conscious of how we treat ourselves, and how we behave toward others.

Not just towards the significant others of our lives, like spouses, boy/girlfriends and family, but towards the people we encounter in our day-to-day lives.

Many of The Kindness Challenge items would work just as well for grown-ups as they do for children, anywhere, anytime, such as “Smile at 25 people,” “Compliment 5 people,” “Make a new friend,” “Hold the door open for someone, “Pat yourself on the back.”

Making the world a better place most often starts with each of us making our own world – the one we live in day after day – a better place.

Take, for example, Pat Taylor, who, at 80, is once again battling ovarian cancer, which she had beat several times since her first round in 2004.

Yet Pat continued volunteering five days a week with a local elementary school (until schools shut down because of Covid-19), doing whatever was needed in the cafeteria that always seemed to be a person short.

It didn’t matter whether she was peeling potatoes or chopping vegetables or cleaning up the kitchen, Pat refused to let her health challenge get her down. Her love of life is expressed in every act of kindness she performs to the great benefit of all she serves, as well as to herself.

Kindness Is Simple

Kindness doesn’t have to be complicated. You can tailor your kindness challenge to whatever fits best for you. My personal challenge (given my passion for appreciation) is to thank people who don’t expect to be thanked.

For example, the grocery-store employee who sanitizes the carts (“Thanks for helping us stay healthy!”), the police officer taking a Starbucks break (“Thanks for keeping us safe!”), the workers who remove the mudslides on our post-rain California roads (“Thanks for cleaning up our roads!”). I get an awful lot of surprised looks, almost always followed by a very pleased smile.

Different from performing random acts of kindness (as wonderful as those are), a Kindness Challenge targets specific people. There’s nothing random about it.

Above all, what it accomplishes is to increase our awareness of the impact we have on others, an impact we have grown so much more aware of during these Covid months.

Thank you, Kindness Challenge, for reminding us of the power of ordinary, everyday kindness.

Do you make a special effort to be kind to strangers? How? Any pleasing reactions from others when you showed them unexpected kindness? What acts of kindness have you found that generate the most positive response? Let’s have a conversation!

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Kyle Richards’ White Ruffle Off The Shoulder Dress

Kyle Richards’ White Ruffle Off The Shoulder Dress

Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 10 Fashion

Kyle Richards’ white ruffle off the shoulder dress is perfect for any housewife. It’s also perfect for any soon-to-be wife. Summer is coming up which means summer/fall weddings are arriving (fingers crossed some of you can still have them). This dress is seriously so cute for any of the festivities leading up to it, like a bridal shower or a rehearsal dinner and even a second, easier-to-dance in dress for the reception. When I first saw it I really thought to myself “aw this would be cute for my wedding events”. No I’m not getting married, but it’s always good to start planning early. Very verrrry early in my case.

It’s a bummer this particular dress is sold out, but that’s the amazing thing about our Style Stealers. Per usual they are here to save your big day.

 

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

Kyle Richards' White Ruffle Off The Shoulder Dress

House of CB Selena Dress is Sold Out

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Jackie Goldschneider’s Black and White Crochet Top

Jackie Goldschneider’s Black and White Crochet Top on Instastories

Real Housewives of New Jersey Instagram Fashion 2020

Considering rumour has it that The Real Housewives of New Jersey isn’t set to resume filming until the end of July, we’re super grateful to Jackie Goldschneider for providing some self-shot footage for us on Instastories of her going for a run with her family in this super cute black and white crochet top. Which needless to say is totally inspiring us right now get fit or just sit in knit.

Fashionably,

Faryn

Jackie Goldschneider’s Black and White Crochet Top

Click Here to Shop Her Alice + Olivia Top on Sale

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Caroline Stanbury’s Yellow Set

Caroline Stanbury’s Yellow Set on Instagram

Caroline Stanbury 2020 Instagram Fashion

Life outside of our 4 walls is slowly starting to emerge which means it’s finally time for “real” clothes. But for Caroline Stanbury life inside of her 4 walls has seen many “real” clothes moments. That includes this head-to-toe yellow number. I have to say I admire her commitment to keep the lewks coming and I can’t wait to see what she will deliver post-quarantine. I’m sure it’ll be gorg, like this yellow set, and I’ll probably just want it all delivered to my door ASAP.

 

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

Caroline Stanbury's Yellow Set

Click Here To Shop Her Ronny Kobo Yellow Sala Skirt

Click Here To See Her Sold Out Ronny Kobo Yellow Umeka Crop Top

Click Here To See Her Sold Out Ronny Kobo Yellow Yuka Cardigan

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Writing More Than Ever Before? Here’s Help to Keep from Mixing Up Words

Writing More Than Ever Before Here’s Help to Keep from Mixing Up Words

A recent post on a Facebook group page devoted to the Coronavirus launched a discussion about the frustrating way a person who is “asymptotic” can still spread the virus. That misnomer caught my eye, but normally I would let it go.

This time I decided to point out the error in honor of a friend who was recovering from Covid-19 and, coincidentally, earlier that week on her own Facebook page had shared that her torment was worsened by all of the references to “asymptotic” when people meant “asymptomatic.”

My comment was not received well. I was told that I was quite petty to make a big deal out of a small typo when thousands of people were dying of this disease. Valid enough, so I backed off.

We grammar pedants are accustomed to criticism and resentment. I still hope the person remembers next time that “asymptotic” is a somewhat esoteric math term having nothing to do with symptoms and disease.

They may be new to the list, but asymptotic and asymptomatic are far from the only word duos that regularly get confused. This problem has even reached meme status.

One meme shows a woman receiving a text saying, “your beautiful” and then rejecting the suitor by texting back, “you’re” – with a satisfied-to-smug look on her face.

Homophones Can Be a Problem

Homophones are words that sound alike but are spelled differently. Many people found them difficult in high school, and things haven’t changed since. Here are some of the most common pairs:

capital/Capitol

It was a capital idea to spend capital to build the Capitol building in the U.S. capital city of Washington, DC.

cache/cash

I have a small cache of money, so I keep that cash in a safe cache in a drawer.

cite/sight/site

When you cite a passage in a book, keep that book at a site right at the front of the classroom so it’s in plain sight.

complement/compliment

During a meal that was free because it was compliments of the hotel, we complimented the waiter by saying that the wine nicely complemented the main course.

coarse/course

The coarse gravel was replaced by grass for the new golf course.

council/counsel

A financial advisor counseled the City Council members.

formally/formerly

We wear jeans now, but formerly we all dressed formally.

forth/fourth

Go forth and find the fourth clue to this mystery.

its/it’s

It’s been a long time since the tree shed its first leaf, and now it’s going to be a long winter.

miner/minor

It’s a minor point that an underage minor could not be certified to become a coal miner.

passed/past

This past Wednesday afternoon, I passed an old Chevy that reminded me of years past.

peak/peek/pique

When I reached the top of the mountain peak, I looked down to take a peek at the trail because the topography piqued my interest.

principal/principle

It is against my principles to assign a principal role to anyone but the school principal.

rain/reign/rein

The king’s reign lasted during a season of hard rain that finally was reined in by the sun.

raise/raze/rise

Before we raise the flag and rise to salute it, we must raze the old building and construct a new one.

their/there/they’re

My friends who brought their own music are over there, and they’re listening to it right now.

to/too/two

If you two want to go to the concert, too, you’d both better hurry and join us or we’ll be too late.

waist/waste

It’s a waste to have a shapely waist in a baggy dress.

waive/wave

Let’s waive the rule that says you can’t wave your hand to the Queen.

who’s/whose

I can guess who’s going to be the person whose grades have earned top honors.

you’re/your

You’re right if you think I’m going to accept your offer.

More Words That Get Confused

Some words have only slightly different spellings, pronunciations, and/or meanings, so the mix-up is just as understandable as with homophones.

accept/except

I can accept rudeness from everyone except you, so I will except you from my gift list.

advice/advise

I always give good advice, and now I advise you to remain calm.

affect/effect/infect

It takes time to effect change radically enough to affect infection rates so that the effect is widely felt.

allusion/illusion/delusion

Your vague allusion to the incident shows that you are under the delusion that my encounter with the celebrity was not real but just an illusion.

are/our

We are going to take our children to the zoo.

assure/ensure/insure

I assure you that we can ensure that your jewelry will be insured for its full amount.

beside/besides

She had a cold, and besides that problem, she was sitting beside me.

breath/breathe

After I took a deep breath, I could breathe more easily.

conscience/conscious

I am conscious of the fact that I did not listen to my conscience and do the right thing.

core/corps/corpse

The core of the problem is that the Marine Corps is not responsible for handling the late soldier’s corpse.

decent/descent/dissent

A decent history book will explain the descent of public opinion from acceptance to outright dissent.

desert/dessert

Out in the dry desert, an ice cream dessert would taste good.

device/devise

We should devise a device that works better than this one.

discreet/discrete

We were discreet and did not mention the discrete tumor found in his abdomen.

dominant/dominate

The business items dominated the meeting, with little time left for what was supposed to have been the dominant theme.

home/hone

We honed our detective skills so that we could home in on the suspect.

lay/lie

Present tense: I normally lay the book on the table while I lie down to take a nap.

Past tense: Yesterday I laid the book on the table while I lay down to take a nap.

Present perfect tense: I have laid the book on the table often while I’ve lain down to take a nap.

lead/led

Although these days I lead a quiet life, last year I led an active life in my activism to guard against lead poisoning.

lightening/lightning

The thunder roared, and the lightning was lightening up the sky all night long.

loose/lose

If you lose weight, your clothes will be loose on you.

medal/metal/mettle

The medal we received for our service and our sheer mettle was made of bronze metal.

pedal/peddle/petal

When I pressed down on the gas pedal, I crushed the rose petal that I’d planned to peddle at the market.

personal/personnel

It’s personal to me that the store’s personnel may experience hardship during the furlough.

precede/proceed

One step preceded the next until we’d proceeded through the entire agenda.

stationary/stationery

A stationary display held the pretty stationery.

than/then

If then you discover that you have more time than money, then you should volunteer rather than donate.

ware/wear/were/where

We were able to wear the clothing, but where would we use the other wares we bought?

Certainly, this is not the total list of words that people use with good intentions but in error. Have you noticed others? Do you have a pet peeve about one or more of these mix-ups? Please share with our community!

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