Tayshia Adams’ Pink Crystal Buckle Sandals at the Rose Ceremony

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Feet candy! Tayshia Adams’ pink crystal buckle sandals on last night’s episode of The Bachelorette were the perfect sparkly addition to her stunning rose ceremony lewk (thank you cameraman for that amazing zoom-in shot ). And while the real thing is unfortunately sold out, no worries because we’ve of course included some similar options down below — so buckle up.

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One of the loveliest lessons we have learned as we reach our 60s and beyond is that life is full of surprising twists and turns. What may have been a passing fancy becomes a life-long passion and major fork in the road.

I once had a yoga instructor who spoke of having a helicopter view of our lives. If we thought we were in a ‘traffic jam’ of life, our helicopter view would show us an unencumbered road ahead. And so the journey continues.

Our Activities Change

In my 20s, 30s, and 40s, I was active as a dancer, an athlete, and busy meeting the demands of a working mother, wife, and social being. In my 50s, the leaping and twirls of the dance seemed to be a bit harsh on my body.

A friend suggested a yoga class and I was interested in anything that wasn’t as boring as the step machine. She offered me movement, challenge, music, community, and more. I was instantly and deeply devoted to developing a yoga practice which continues to this day.

Then, just as I was beginning my yoga journey, my dearly beloved father passed away. In my grieving, I found a tiny piece of solace in my yoga practice where my wonderful teachers offered Buddhist and Yogic teachings along with breath and movement.

When my mother passed away five years later, I was able to find a source of comfort in my yoga study. As I practiced the asanas, the physical practice, I immersed also in the teachings and the meditation. I could spend time with my parents’ spirits in a new way that was certainly very sad, but also comforting.

I was introduced to the concept that in death the relationship doesn’t end, it just changes. Wow, that was an epiphany for me.

A Period of Profound Tribulation and Losses

Then in 2015, I experienced my most devastating losses. My husband had to undergo a scary and difficult second open heart surgery. He has since had a heart transplant and is doing really great now, whew.

My very best, soulful and magnificent friend of 40 years, Kaiya, passed on after a 17-month journey with glioblastoma. I was crushed by her death. Three years earlier, my fabulous, and wonderful big sister, Susie, was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. Susie succumbed a short four months after Kaiya.

My two best, intimate, confidants, mentors, and personal cheerleaders were gone from my physical life. The two strong, amazing women I had leaned on and learned from were gone. The emptiness was bottomless.

When Yoga Met Grief

My yoga practice held a space for me for grief, presence, solace, stillness, and movement. I immersed in yoga as the tears flowed during my teacher training and continued studies.

I found the study of the chakras, the seven main physical, emotional, and spiritual energy centers, met my mourning in a way that opened a passageway for me.

For example, when I felt ungrounded, unsafe, and untrusting I looked into my Root Chakra, my Mudlahara. I found I could put myself on the earth, breathe into my root, and practice gentle yoga that was focused on my feet, legs, and lower spine.

That space was where I could breathe, say affirmations that I was grounded, visualize the color red, hold my hands in a configuration, a mudra, that connected me to the earth, and I was present.

I learned to go through my grief to get to the other side, not around it. Through practicing yoga, I learned how to be still and present, and I felt a bit more comforted from it.

I went through my initial grief and my continued mourning studying and applying the practices of each of the seven main chakras, the rainbow bridge, as it is called.

Grief Writing Changed Everything

I joined a local hospice support group of grief writing, where I wrote letters to my beloveds. The others in my group were as deeply grieving as I was. They were also deeply bent over, stiffened by their grief, congested, and unmoving. I spontaneously encouraged the group to gently move in their chairs and breathe with consciousness. They felt better!

Much to my surprise, I was then asked to lead a class of yoga to ‘heal’ grieving. I said that there was no healing to our grief. We needed to learn how to live with our losses. I was then inspired to share what I have, and continue to learn, about the truly never-ending grieving process.

The synergy of my passion for the study and practice of yoga and the chakras, the journey of grief from the passing of my loved ones, life’s many transitions, and my desire (Divine intervention?) to help others led to my creating Yoga for Living with Loss as a style of practice.

Grief is such an emotional, intellectual, and spiritual roller coaster that it can easily become congested in our physical bodies.

Through a variety of breathing practices, gentle yoga movements, a deeper understanding of how our bodies react to grief, an examination of our specific chakras, meditation, and our need for connection to others, Yoga for Living with Loss helps us to navigate our losses without getting lost.

My off-handed agreement to join a friend at a yoga class, has provided me with a way to support whoever I can in their journey of grief, mourning, and resilience. And that has been a surprising life twist indeed!

For more information and to access the Yoga for Living with Loss Video Series, please visit www.GrowingYoungerGracefully.com. and contact me for any comments, questions, or discussion.

Have you heard about the power of yoga for the grieving? What yoga techniques have you tried to help you get through mourning? Who introduced you to gentle yoga? What effect does it have on you?

Many, perhaps most of us, are moved to sing. I know this from my numerous years of giving concerts. Often, I hear from audience members that they had “always wanted to sing.” “I don’t have a good voice, but I really want to sing anyway.” “I think it’s too late for me, but can I still take lessons?”

Perhaps it’s the primal drive to express ourselves in a heightened way. When speaking is simply not enough, we fall into, or perhaps more accurately, we feel the need to soar into singing.

When people who have not sung much begin to learn how to open their voices into song, the feeling of emotional (and physical) freedom is like a powerful drug – a rare uplifting of the spirit. I’ve seen it many times in my singing studio. And scientific studies have given us many reasons for this feeling of wellbeing.

Professor Graham Welch, Chair of Music Education at UCL Institute of Education, London, says: “There is currently a lot of interest in wellbeing and social inclusion and an increasing interest in how music in various forms can support a sense of being part of society and increase your self-esteem.”

To get to the point of singing joyously with others, often we need to go through the process of practicing alone and/or in a private lesson. In these days of Covid-19, that lesson would likely be taken on Zoom or Skype. And this is where the more unmeasured and perhaps greatest personal treasures are discovered.

Here are some of the benefits that can be found in private singing lessons.

Focus

In a private lesson, you can let go of the outside world. You can and will leave your worries behind you and focus on the glorious task at hand – opening your voice into singing sounds.

Lest you think this is a very serious task, I want to assure you that in a singing studio, we laugh almost as much as we sing. Learning to sing is joy – from the sublime to the ridiculous!

Posture

Many of us feel held down in life. We can feel voiceless. Often our bodies display this deep disappointment. We don’t stand tall but rather slump forward.

In lessons, sometimes I will say to the person in front to me, “Think of yourself as glamorous movie star. You look wonderful. You are confident and proud of your work. Try to stand like that.”

Much of who we are in life has to do with how we think. Changing how we think about ourselves (even as an exercise) can be very powerful. When posture shifts in this way, it comes from an imagined place of confidence and pleasure. That imagined place becomes reality in the body, and it lightens us up.

Breathing

With outside pressures and tensions relieved to some degree, you can already breathe a little more deeply, more freely. Standing tall, feeling proud, your lungs open up. You take a breath of inspiration and learn how to let it gradually escape into a singing sound.

Exercises

Some singing exercises are downright funny. We hoot and glide. Sigh and bark. It can be a real surprise to someone who has not made these kinds of sounds. We laugh a lot. And that too, is a singing exercise.

Songs

The choice of songs is a tricky part of learning to sing. Those who have watched American Idol will know how crucial it is for a singer to choose the right song for both their emotional abilities and for their current vocal state. You want to learn with a song that you love, as long as it is within your vocal means.

Lyrics and Memory

Learning how to memorize lyrics can be a study in itself. As we get older, it can become more of a challenge to keep all those words in your head! Each person will find their own way to keep lyrics flowing as they sing. And this improves your memory in day-to-day life.

Lyrics and Emotion

Here is where learning to sing can become a deep dive into exploring how we really feel about life. If a song has a strong message or it explores a very emotional story, we singers have the great opportunity to expand our emotional and expressive abilities.

Songs and Performance

Of course, getting in front of an audience is not what every singer craves. But if YOU do desire the chance to stand on stage in public and sing, there is nothing like doing it in order to learn how to do it. Every moment on stage is a learning occasion for most of your singing life.

And so, I encourage you to find a singing teacher and take a few lessons if you feel moved to express yourself through song!

Do you have a desire to sing? Does singing bring you joy? Would you consider taking online lessons? Or are you eager to join a choir, when it becomes possible again after the pandemic?

Tayshia Adams’ Red Floral Bikini and Crochet Fringe Cover Up on The Bachelorette

The Bachelorette Season 16 Episode 10 Fashion

On tonight’s episode of The Bachelorette Tayshia Adams apparently takes Blake to a crystal guru to have their crystals and chakras read. And although we unfortunately can’t claim to provide the same kind of services here (astrology, maybe), as shopping gurus we can however tell you where to get her red floral bikini and crochet fringe cover up asap.

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What is a favorite memory you have of holiday time as a child? Maybe it was related to an event or activity rather than a gift. Or perhaps you have smells or sounds that come to mind when you think of the holidays.

I remember getting a large tricycle, a shiny red one that was big enough for me to ride my little sister standing on the step on the back. Or how much fun we had with a huge box that must have been an appliance or furniture box, and we transformed it into many things and spent many hours playing in and on it.

The “Nice” List

Fast forward to today, and I have a gift idea to suggest for women now. How would you like to sleep better at night, reduce confusion and stress, and know that you have taken care of yourself and your family? Sounds like an ad for a new drug, silver bullet pill, or miracle supplement, doesn’t it?

I should clarify that it also requires time and effort on your part, but it’s worth it. I am talking about giving yourself the gift of getting organized… financially organized. After all, it is gift giving season so we should add our own names to the list too!

Unwrapping Your Gift

What exactly does it mean anyway to be financially organized? Let’s unwrap your gift and see how it works.

Make Those Lists!

First, it means knowing what you have for financial resources because you have compiled a list (often called a net worth statement or personal financial statement). It doesn’t do any good if you know your list, and it’s in your head, but it’s never written down.

Someone else will eventually need to know what’s on that list because they will either need to help you or will need to take care of things later. Think of it like taking an inventory of your money tools. Unfortunately, most people do not have this part done.

A list can truly give you peace of mind to see and remember what all you have access to in your financial toolbox. It’s a great foundation for making wise financial decisions now, but not having a list of assets is one of the most common estate planning mistakes.

Check Your Lists Twice!

Being financially organized should also mean that you have looked at and updated (as necessary) the titles and beneficiaries on all of the listed assets you own. This paperwork process of telling your assets where to go after you are gone is too often overlooked. I call that estate planning homework.

Don’t Be Naughty (Be Organized)!

Lastly, getting financially organized means that your financial records (original documents, account statements, contracts/policies, etc.) are findable and logically organized. There are too many true stories out there about families that can’t find financial records at a time they are needed.

One of the most common stories I hear has to do with finding the will. One family couldn’t find it until months later when the house was being sold. It was found in a box labelled “Christmas Decorations” in the back of one of the closets. Another family found it in with the vacuum cleaner bags.

A fireproof safe, locked filing cabinet, or sealed letter stating where to find critical information/items might have been a better alternative in those cases.

So now answer the question, “Am I financially organized?” (1. you have an asset list written 2. your records are findable/organized logically 3. you have your estate planning homework of titling/beneficiary updates done).

All I Want for Christmas Is for You…to Get Financially Organized!

If you answered “no” to the question above, or you know someone else who could use some help/motivation in that area, give yourself (or your friend) the gift of getting financially organized.

It Really Is the Gift That Keeps on Giving

The old saying that “opportunity” is often dressed in overalls and looks like work is also true when it comes to getting financially organized. It is not a quick, one-hour project.

So, save yourself some time, don’t reinvent the wheel, and use resources that are designed to be comprehensive, fill-in-the-blank tools.

As women, we often have done a wonderful job of taking care of our family. Yet we often put ourselves on the back burner. This is one gift you can give yourself this year – the gift of organization.

You will enjoy financial peace of mind now and also find that it’s the gift that keeps on giving. This is the perfect way to continue to love your family later even after you’re gone.

Check out the many free downloadable checklists, videos, podcasts and blogs found under Resources on my website. Also, there is a checklist book series, a great stocking stuffer idea.

Is your financial information organized? Have you created your ‘nice’ list? Are you keeping it in a safe, but logical place? Please share the best financial resources you have used to date.