Month: March 2021

Are We Over-Estimating Our Alzheimer’s Risk? It Depends… 

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We seem to be inundated with stories of doom and gloom on the likelihood of our acquiring Alzheimer’s or any other form of dementia. In fact, if you listen to the varied and disparate reports we seem to be inundated with lately, none of us will escape the onslaught.

However, are we taking it all too much to heart and living our lives in fear of something we may never experience?

A lot of the fear around Alzheimer’s is based on the little knowledge supplied to us by the media, and we all know that’s a dangerous thing. So, let’s start by defining dementia.

Of course, none of the information in this article should be considered medical advice. And, you should definitely talk with your doctor if you have any questions about dementia, in general, or Alzheimer’s specifically. That said, I hope that you find this information useful as a starting point.

What Is Dementia?

Dementia is a chronic and persistent disorder of the mental processes. It’s caused by brain injury or disease, with patients displaying personality changes, impaired reasoning and memory lapses/loss.

It used to be associated with mental illness, insanity, lunacy – to the point that patients were often committed to a local mental hospital.

What Is Alzheimer’s Disease?

It’s important to understand that Alzheimer’s is a form of dementia, but the term is sometimes (incorrectly) used to describe all forms of dementia.

Many organisations use “Alzheimer’s” in their name, to indicate that they specialise in dementia, either as a charity or a research body or some other organisation.

It’s a little like vacuum cleaner and Hoover. In many parts of the world, we vacuum our floors (I know, not strictly the correct use of the word), but in the UK, they Hoover the floors. It’s the brand name of the product associated with the task rather than the function of the tool.

The Four Main Types of Dementia

Rather than go into all of the details here, I thought that it would be useful to link to resources on each of the main types of dementia.

The signs and symptoms of each of these branches of dementia are slightly different. It’s also possible to develop a combination of the different types of dementia. Naturally, diagnosis can prove to be difficult.

The Real Risk of Alzheimer’s

Alzheimer’s is a disease that represents between 60% and 80% of all dementia diagnoses. The WHO (World Health Organisation) predicts that by 2050 there will be 115 million cases worldwide, which represents 1.3% of the world’s population.

The majority of these cases will be women, who are more likely to have Alzheimer’s.

But, the percentage of people who have any form of dementia is much lower than we think. Are we creating stress and anxiety for ourselves by becoming fixated on the possibility that we may become demented?!

Can Anxiety Cause More Harm Than the Disease?

So, this provokes the question: Can our anxiety harm us more than the disease itself? The answer is no. Although, a recent study has shown that stress and anxiety can increase the risk of depression and dementia.

Additionally, chronic stress can cause the brain’s Hippocampus to atrophy. The Hippocampus is important for long-term memory and spatial awareness.

What We Should Not Believe

Here are a few things that we should not believe:

  • Being overweight protects you from dementia.
  • Aspartame causes dementia.
  • Grazoph Temuna, which is promoted online as a cure for Alzheimer’s, is NOT a cure – for anything.
  • Certain vitamins and nutrients can reverse Alzheimer’s.

What We Should Believe

Current research shows that Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia are caused by age, genetics, medical conditions and lifestyle choices.

Overall, the science leans more heavily toward genetics than any of the other supposed factors, although, there are types of dementia such as Korsakoff’s, which are directly attributable to excess alcohol.

It’s best to eat a healthy diet and live an overall healthy lifestyle to protect against heart disease, cancer and stroke. Your best diet is a healthy heart diet. After all, “What’s good for your heart is good for your head.”

When you start investigating all things dementia and Alzheimer’s, it’s easy to see why there is so much confusion. There is so much conflicting information and so many different types of dementia to consider. No wonder it is often so hard to diagnose.

Is there Alzheimer’s or some other form of dementia in your family? Have you had any experience with the different types of dementia? Does the thought of Alzheimer’s cause you anxiety? Does the thought make you feel depressed? Please share any thoughts or experiences you have had. You never know when your knowledge may help somebody else.

Editor’s note: None of the information in this article should be considered medical advice. Please talk to your doctor if you have any questions about dementia, in general, or Alzheimer’s, specifically.

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Kenya Moore’s Pink Gucci Blouse

Kenya Moore’s Pink Gucci Blouse

Real Housewives of Atlanta Season 13 Episode 11 Fashion

While I can see why many of the women have problems with Kenya Moore in the wake of Cynthia Bailey’s bachelorette party, I couldn’t help but feel bad during last night’s episode in the scene where she meets with her lawyer. Call him Jason Hoppy 2.0 because Marc Daly seems to be determined to possibly even take the pink Gucci blouse off Kenya’s back based on last night’s conversation with her legal counsel. And while I’m interested to see how it all unfolds, I’m equally interested in seeing how her blouse unfolds in my closet.

 

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Drew Sidora’s Leopard Cold Shoulder Sweatsuit

Drew Sidora’s Leopard Cold Shoulder Sweatsuit

Real Housewives of Atlanta Season 13 Episode 11 Fashion

Drew Sidora’s leopard cold shoulder sweatsuit talking to her husband Ralph on last night’s Real Housewives of Atlanta was wild. But not quite as wild as Drew was at Cynthia Bailey bachelorette party (which, btw, good for her because of the whole Ralph takes Tampa scenario). And since I love it so much I had to back the episode on up, take a screenshot and find it, kinda like Drew backed it on up on Bolo.

 

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Cynthia Bailey’s Green Satin Ruffle Dress

Cynthia Bailey’s Green Satin Ruffle Dress

Real Housewives of Atlanta Season 13 Episode 11 Fashion

I can’t get enough of Real Housewives of Atlanta right now, just like I can’t get enough of Cynthia Bailey’s green satin ruffle dress with Mike on last night’s episode. She looks ah-may-zing in this dress! Unfortunately it’s sold out. But I’m totally okay with not having to compare myself to 50 Cynt in it, because I already know she wore it better.

 

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4 Things I Learned About Relationships from My Characters

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When I started guest blogging for Sixty and Me, I had no clue two of my main characters would beg to join me. But Sunny Chanel (Middle Ageish) and Dana Narvana (Eat Your Heart Out) insisted.

Besides, I have a secret.

Too often, my inner voice is my characters from my novels arguing with me while I’m writing. This past week they schooled me about what makes relationships work.

“Dating in your fifties or sixties isn’t easy,” said Sunny.

“It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done,” said Dana.

“If you mess up in life, you’ll mess up in your books,” Sunny said, wagging a finger at me.

Sunny, Dana, and I have a little relationship wisdom to share.

Give a Guy a Chance

“How soon do you know he’s the guy for you?” they challenged. “Or not?”

“You know right away,” I said. “All it takes is a meet.”

“It’s not that simple,” Sunny and Dana, together, yelled at me.

Such know-it-alls.

“Dismissing a man because he’s balding or talks too much or doesn’t talk enough because he’s nervous? You could miss out on someone worth knowing,” they moaned. “Give a guy a chance.”

“You could disregard your best buddy,” Dana said.

I get it. Beta guys get overlooked. Guys who’ve made a mistake deserve a second change. Good relationships take time to grow. Don’t ignore a pal because you’re too close to him. Instead open up to the possibilities.

Twisted Ideas About Online Dating

My characters pop up even when I’m having serious conversations with my friends.

“I don’t have the nerve to start online dating,” a friend complained while we were having lunch on Zoom the other day.

“We’ll help,” my characters said inside my head, jumping on their toes eagerly.

“I’ll help,” I said. I must have had a smirk on my face because my friend asked what credentials I carried for giving dating advice.

“Together, we have about 300 years of dating experience,” Sunny and Dana boasted.

“Oh, once I met six guys in one week.” I blinked, daring my friend to challenge this statement. (It was true.)

“Overbooking isn’t a good idea,” said Sunny.

“I agree.” Dana nudged Sunny with her elbow. “She forced you to meet four guys one weekend, didn’t she?”

I ignored the bickering in my head and told my friend about the dating contest between two of my characters in Middle Ageish. How they encouraged each other to never give up.

“Contest? Your characters?” She took a bite of her sandwich and chewed with her mouth open, sprouts landing on her desk like fairy dust. “Like that’s real life?”

“You forced us to do all that dating,” Sunny and Dana piped up in their own defense.

“That’s insulting,” said Sunny.

“She has her nerve, your friend,” said Dana.

“Yes, a contest to encourage each other,” I explained with my sister voice. “See who dated twenty-five guys first.”

“What were the rules?” My friend was curious.

“We had to spend forty minutes with the guy for it to count,” Sunny reminded me. I repeated this out loud so my friend would understand this was not a fly by night competition.

“That’s it?” She leaned closer to the camera and her eyes brightened. “So it’s a numbers game. I get it.”

“Yes,” I said. “Unfortunately, it is.”

“Tell her the loser takes the winner to Pepe’s for pizza,” prompted Sunny.

“Yeah.” I had a feeling my friend was getting into this contest thing. Inside my head Sunny and Dana were arguing, and I almost missed what my friend said next.

“My profile could use a spiffing up.”

Was this a hint?

My friend stood and adjusted the camera. “I’ll email my profile and you’ll pass it on to your characters? I need some clever, pithy remarks. To get hot guys to write me back.”

“Oh, I think your friend is winning this one. And we’re coming to Pepe’s with you,” Sunny and Dana whispered in my ear.

That Old Chemistry Thing

“Mistaking chemistry for the real thing is always a mistake,” chided Dana one day when I was walking on the treadmill minding my own business and listening to Diana Krall on my iPod.

“Yeah,” said Dana. “I kept filling in the blanks, hoping Freddy was into me.”

Freddy was based on a man I nicknamed Toxic Man. We dated sporadically, and when I say sporadically, I mean there were months-long gaps between dates. But Freddy was a back-burner man, meaning he kept me on the back burner, with phone calls and texts to boost his ego. Lucky for me, I gradually weaned myself off Freddy.

Since Dana didn’t want to make the same mistakes I made, she outfatuated herself and stopped answering her phone.

“My birthday is important,” she whispered to me, her eyes bright with a hurt defiance. “He didn’t want to do anything special on my birthday. Because I wasn’t special to him.”

Sunny gave Dana a hug, and so did I. In my head.

Know What You Want in a Man

“That dating contest with Dana helped me figure out what I wanted in a man,” said Sunny.

“You mean like if a man doesn’t go out of his way for you early in the relationship?” I said.

“Sure,” said Dana. “He’s showing his real self and that rarely changes.”

“It takes a lot of time to get to know someone,” said Sunny. “I pay attention to the little things.”

This conversation reminded me of my two dates with a real estate lawyer who loved opera. The second date was dinner at an upscale restaurant. Obviously, the guy was trying to impress me.

On the drive home, he had the opera station going on Sirius radio, and I, being one who loves a little after dinner rock and roll, asked if he could find the Elvis station. But Lawyer Man said he preferred opera and wouldn’t change it.

Sometimes it’s the smallest thing that makes you realize the man you’re trying on for the evening is not for you.

What Everyone Wants

As a writer, I read books from a different angle than most non-writers. I’m analyzing and overthinking as I read.

In the end, though, when it comes to relationships, I’m like everyone else. I want to spend my time with my special person, the guy who thinks – and shows – I’m special.

For more dating tips and stories, you can check out Shirley’s new book, Eat Your Heart Out.

Do you give a guy a chance if he isn’t your usual type? What does it take for a guy to ruin a relationship? Do you know what you want in a man? Are you looking for chemistry in your relationships, or is there something you find more important?

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