Month: May 2021

Memorable Women in My Life: Evita Peron

Evita Peron

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Whenever I am introduced to someone and they ask me “Where are you from?” and I respond that I was born in Argentina, one of the first things that springs out of their mouths is “Do you dance the tango?” to which I hate to reply, “Well, not really, but I can fake it quite well!” Cute answer which only reminds me of the shameful lapse in my education and national identity.

What the World Knows About Argentina

Then they go through their own personal knowledge of what or who else comes from Argentina, and the next question is usually regarding soccer legend Diego Maradona or star player Lionel Messi who they are familiar with if they’re fans of the sport.

Nobody is aware of our five Nobel Laureates – they’re not as colorful – and instead ask about our fame in the gastronomic department including that of our famous steaks which come from grass fed cows and are said to be superior to most in the world.

They do ask about our famous capital which can certainly not be forgotten by people who have visited Buenos Aires and is on the bucket list of so many people who would love to visit the country.

One name that never escapes their attention is Evita Peron’s which still holds the fascination of people far and wide who are familiar with her through not only the history of Argentina but because of Lloyd Weber’s immortalization of her name in the famous musical he wrote about her.

Remembering Evita’s Death

She died of cervical cancer in 1952. She was 33 years old. While I was quite young then, I remember her well.

“At 8:25PM, Eva Duarte de Peron, spiritual leader of our nation, has passed into immortality.”

Evita had died the night before, and I hadn’t even found out. I boarded the school bus as I straightened my tie with one hand and held on to my book bag with the other. A wisp of a girl, I was trying to get myself together in time to avoid being scolded by the bus monitor who was adamant about proper attire.

Like any other morning, I sat next to my friend who was quietly finishing her homework. When we arrived at school that morning there were teachers and other school personnel on the street frantically waving their arms in the air and instructing the drivers to take the children back home. The traffic was chaotic as everyone turned right back to leave the school in a hurry.

The news of Evita’s demise had not travelled fast enough to cancel school the next morning. School officials were afraid that her death would bring the political unrest that was brewing and was evident in the city. Children needed to be returned to their safe homes.

The ride back was somber, and we all felt impending danger although there was no visible sign of violence. But then, it was my first taste of how events unfold in my country. The most mysterious (and often gruesome) things can happen in a cloak of civility.

Argentina Mourned, and Still Mourns, Their Santa Evita

The exact time of her death was broadcast by radio for years after the event, and I believe that there is not one Argentinian alive who does not know that seemingly trivial detail. Every broadcasting station interrupted normal programming at that hour with the somber announcement.

In the weeks and months that followed, Argentinian schoolchildren in public schools wore black armbands on their white school uniforms and had to draw a black stripe on each one of the pages of their workbooks in her memory. At precisely 8:25 pm the country remembered, and it was paralyzed. Nobody could escape it.

The Preservation of Evita

Eva’s worst fear was being forgotten, but she should not have worried. President Peron summoned Dr. Ara, a Spanish pathologist, who was commissioned to preserve his wife’s lifeless body forever. After the funeral, the good doctor was able to continue perfecting his still life creation and it took two additional years to fine-tune his macabre work.

Evita was his masterpiece and there were malicious rumors that he had fallen deeply in love with her. He demanded to be left alone with Evita – his duties were performed in splendid isolation surrounded by strict security.

She lay in state at the Ministry of Labor while four soldiers guarded her coffin. My brother-in-law was doing his military service at the time and was one of them. The young men kept fainting and being replaced because of the intensity of the atmosphere and the strong smell of the funeral flowers, calla lilies and gardenias, which covered every inch of the room.

People were devastated by her death. They did not want to let go of everything that she had represented. There was the saintly Evita, sweet and pious who worked tirelessly for the poor and the destitute.

They remembered the glamorous Evita who blew into their lives like a cool breeze, wearing strapless silk gowns, mink wraps and sparkling jewels. She had a strong fascination with public life and almost became vice president, only prevented by her declining health.

Some viewed her as the earnest union leader who called herself a true “trabajadora,” worker for the people, and made heartfelt speeches wearing military tailored suits with broad shoulder pads counteracting her tiny waist and ethereal persona.

Then, of course, there was Evita the faithful wife, standing beside her man through thick and thin and the barren Evita, who was viewed as the mother of all Argentinian children. In their eyes, she was a saint, and many demanded that the Vatican acknowledge her and wanted above all else to have their own Santa Evita, which the Vatican declined.

Evita’s Friends and Foes

She was not considered a saint by everyone. My family, like most Argentinians, was and is divided into the Peron admirers and the Peron haters. Peron was criticized in whispers and murmurs. People were in fear of the consequences of speaking their minds and my family was no exception.

I must confess that Evita captured my fantasies as well. I never tired of looking at the photographs in her book La Razon de Mi Vida, literally translated “My Mission in Life,” where she appears resplendent in sumptuous gowns and dazzling diamond jewelry.

I was eight at the time and would sneak into the library at home and sit occupying an eighth of my father’s Chesterfield chair with my spaghetti legs not yet long enough to reach the floor and furtively leafed through the book to find the photographs which showed her in her splendor.

I knew that my parents hated the Perons, and I rarely shared my incursions into her book with anyone but a friend who also found the pictures fascinating. Years later, sitting in a Broadway theater, I remember the murmur and my own goosebumps when Lloyd Webber’s Evita came out to greet her people from the balcony in the same white strapless dress captured in that book from so long ago. For me it was a heart stopping moment. I remember it so well.

Two years after her death, and in what were times of unrest and unhappiness in my country, my father decided to move our family to New York. It was while walking to school in Forest Hills that I heard that there had been a coup d’etat in Argentina and Peron was on his way to his first stop of exile in Panama.

He later traveled to Spain, a country which owed him much and whose own dictator granted him asylum. There he was visited daily by union leaders and politicians from Argentina eager to make nice with a man who could support their causes and help them to get elected back home with his endorsement.

Every president since then, including the present one, has called himself a “Peronista” in the hope of furthering their political careers. Peron’s power had not gone into exile with him.

Evita’s Glamour and Charisma Continues to Be Unmatched in Argentina

During her husband’s exile, Evita’s beautiful corpse had no place to rest in Argentina. She was still such a strong symbol to so many people that she had to be banished and was taken to an undisclosed location in Italy and then transferred to many other mystery sites.

Her body had to be kept away from Argentina until she was returned to her homeland when her husband made a comeback and was given her rightful place in history. The folklore that surrounds the years the coffin was missing has filled many pages and imaginations.

In 1973, Peron was voted back into office with Isabel Martinez (his new wife) as his vice president, and she assumed his place as president when he died. The new first lady tried hard to emulate Evita, even in her appearance. But the nation could not be fooled. With her presidency a joke and the country in shambles, Isabel followed her husband’s footsteps and returned to Madrid and has not been a significant part of Argentinian politics since.

A Posthumous Visit to Evita

I recently visited Evita at Recoleta Cemetery, the Arlington of Argentina’s aristocracy. The cemetery is located in a very privileged neighborhood and houses a city of the dead within the bustling city of Buenos Aires where only the very rich and very powerful can bury their dead.

There are no ground burials there. The mausoleums resemble a very quiet city of elegant, if somewhat garish, structures where coffins are placed in marble slabs covered with fine old Belgian lace and can be seen through the glass or iron doors.

Eva Peron’s grave in Recoleta Cemetery (Cementerio de la Recoleta) in Buenos Aires, Argentina.

As soon as I entered the gates, the guard at the door pointed me and other visitors towards where he knew we wanted to go before we even asked. Evita’s mausoleum was overflowing with the fresh flowers that visitors leave daily. She was buried 20 feet underground to prevent anyone from taking her body.

Cameras clicked away as everyone posed next to her likeness in bronze to show the folks back home.

I could not help feeling sorry for Evita as I made my way out of the cemetery. A woman who prided herself to come from the people and worked for the people, a supporter of unions and the poor, now sleeps forever among the aristocracy who shunned her and whom she despised. I cannot imagine that she’s resting in peace, but she has definitely met her objective. She has not been forgotten.

I never had the nerve to ask my parents how her book made its way into their library. Could it be, perhaps, that I was not the only one in my family who was more than a little seduced by Evita’s beauty, power and charisma?

Are there any special women who changed your life? How did they do it? What were they like? What impression did they leave on you? How do you remember them today? What do you know about Evita Peron? Has her life affected yours in some way? Please share below!

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How to Find Acceptance in Friends and Family When Deciding to Downsize

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As someone working with people in transition, I meet a lot of interesting women. Amanda is one of them. A wonderful, professional woman approaching 60, Amanda had her mind made up. After spending several months carefully considering her heart and what she wanted for her life, she knew that she desired travel, adventure, and new experiences.

She wanted to downsize her possessions, her home, and almost every other aspect of her life to afford her new adventure. When she asked her friends and family to embrace the change, expecting them to give a hearty “heck ya!” in support of her life change, she was met with shock and awe.

Why would she want to separate from the things she had seemingly worked her whole life for? Why would she want to live in a space smaller than others’ guest suites?

Choosing a Life of Purpose

Despite the many attempts to dissuade her and in the face of the overall guffaw that came her way, she remained prepared to embrace significant change, make intentional choices for herself, and live a life on purpose. It was an exciting time for her!

Amanda wanted to shout from the rooftops about her new direction and charge full steam ahead, receiving smiles and encouragement all around. Unfortunately, her family was slow to adopt the idea that living tiny was the right choice for her and many of her friends also thought the decision was “unique.” (I think that’s a nice way of saying nuts!)

While she started out wanting everyone to celebrate her choice to downsize, Amanda realized she would first have to work on helping them simply understand it.

It wasn’t immediately clear to Amanda how to do this. She was hesitant to get on a soapbox about the benefits of living tiny because she didn’t want to give the impression that she considered tiny living the only right way.

At the same time, she wanted nothing more than to have the support of those she loved, and what better way is there to garner support than by showing that your choices make you happy, stress free, and full of new experiences?

Even to this day, Amanda says she doesn’t have all the answers. Over the past few years, she’s had disagreements with those who still think bigger is better and life lived in a small cottage home community is a bit absurd.

After learning about her experience, I picked up a few tips I believe are worth passing along if you are faced with the challenge of getting your friends and family to accept your tiny house choice (or any other choice!)

Don’t Lose Sight of the Fact That It Is Your Voyage, Not Theirs

Everyone is on a journey. But we are all at different points. Sometimes we walk alone and other times we get to go in groups. It is easy when we can already see the benefits, to want everyone to walk alongside us. People need to find their own way, though.

Instead of focusing on the flaws or merits of others’ journeys, choose to focus your attention on your own journey and talk only about what you’ve learned through personal experiences. For Amanda, this meant staying away from the territory of how downsizing could benefit everyone else in an effort to sway naysayers to her side.

You only have absolute influence over one thing: your personal choices. So, while having the support of your closest circle, colleagues, and even strangers would be nice, realize that you have plenty of reinforcement from within for your choices.

Don’t Just Tell It – Show It

No one likes to be told what to do. I don’t and chances are, you don’t either. People like to come to their own conclusions. Amanda found that instead of spending time explaining and preaching, her days were better spent living and showing the merit of her decision with results. Plus, the results are the fun part so focusing on them makes her feel good!

She recalls a conversation at a Christmas party in which several ladies were discussing what a shame it was that the holiday had become so materialistic. While it would have been incredibly easy in that moment to espouse the joys of getting rid of stuff in order to embrace life, Amanda chose to talk about how experiential gifts were making a comeback and didn’t require any material purchasing or gifting.

She explained that she and her sister had bought each other a trip for Christmas and showed some photos of the adventure. She was able to demonstrate the results of her intentional lifestyle choices without actually bringing up the choices themselves.

Find a Support Network in Your New Surroundings

One thing in life is certain. Everyone desires a support network; a place to share our frustrations, celebrate our victories, and even vent when we need to! It is not always best to lay this on the same family and friends that may not understand, especially if you’ve recently made some major changes.

Amanda looked to her new community for groups and activities filled with like-minded people. She even turned to social media this past year to maintain social distancing but not feel disconnected. She describes sharing the neighborhood gossip on Nextdoor, enjoying happy hour over Zoom, and even getting a daily workout via a local app.

Amanda taught me that there are always like-minded people experiencing the same things as we are. The task is to find them. Being able to share life experiences with a new network keeps sensitive relationships with family and old friends intact while keeping unnecessary anxiety off your plate.

Amanda admits her ways of dealing with the reactions of others have not always been perfect. Sometimes there have been heated conversations and a bit of friction. But she has embraced the difference and come to realize that there is no one size fits all.

The same way she wants others to accept her life in a tiny cottage home in an exciting community, she knows others want to be appreciated for their lifestyle choices also.

The biggest takeaway? Amanda realized that eventually people accepted her move to a tiny home not because of the size of the house or the savings on expenses but because Amanda accepted it and they accept her. She aims to return the favor.

Do you tend to accept or criticize your friends’/family’s lifestyle choices? If you were to downsize your home, how small would you go? Would you prefer to downsize to a stand-alone home or a house in an established community? Why? Please share your thoughts!

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Elisabeth Moss has shed her Handmaid’s Tale hair for a 1992-inspired ‘do. Moss’ brown pixie is blowing up on Instagram right now and for good reason. She looks so different from how we’re used to seeing her. She’s been brunette before but not this short and dark at the same time—that we can remember. Of course, she pulls it off flawlessly.

Yes, the drastic new look is for a role. She’s starring in Apple’s Shining Girls, a thriller based on Lauren Beukes’ 2013 best-selling novel The Shining Girls. Not only is she starring in the series, but she’s also an executive producer as well as Leonardo DiCaprio’s production company. According to Deadline, Moss is playing a Chicago reporter who survived an assault and ends up hunting her attacker. It sounds like a type of gritty role we’re now used to seeing from Moss. (Handmaid’s Tale giving anyone else nightmares?)

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Although the story follows a Depression-era killer, it jumps to 1989 to follow the victim (played by Moss). This seems like why Moss went with a ’90s Winona Ryder-inspired cut. It was done by Tommy Buckett, a hairstylist at Serge Normant Salon. “New hair for a new project. #winonaforever cut and color done by me,” he wrote on Instagram.

Moss’ light glam was done by Daniel Martin. “The band’s back together,” he wrote on Instagram, tagging Moss and Buckett.

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We’ll have to wait until later this year to see Moss’ new look in action but we’re hoping to get more behind-the-scenes pictures from this talented trio.

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