You’re afraid of breaking a hip when you fall. You’re saying good-bye to dear friends, who’ve lost their battle with cancer. You worry if you’re forgetting words like you always have, or if it’s becoming a pattern.

You do what you can to stay optimistic. You look for what you can control. You exercise. You focus on staying connected with people and being active. You do Sudoku and read voraciously.

Then, someone in your community commits an act of terror, or you watch vicious violence occurring in the streets. Whether it seems due to religion, race, hatred, fear or lack of conscience, your view of the world can become frightening.

Trauma’s Reach via the Media

All you have to do is hear about it. Imagine it. Especially if you’ve had any psychological or emotional trauma or abuse in the past, your sensitivity to violence may be greater than normal.

After 9/11, I helped patients who couldn’t get the falling buildings, smoke, or people jumping to their deaths out of their minds. And they lived nowhere near New York City. They had only watched it on TV.

You can begin having nightmares or flashbacks, which are symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. You can become very anxious, and never go to movie theaters or malls. Your life can become smaller and smaller. When this becomes severe, it can develop into agoraphobia, literally a “fear of the marketplace,” which pragmatically means you don’t leave your home.

Coping with Trauma through Engagement

Many people will not develop these symptoms. Most find a way of coping. Yet even in the best cases, innocence may vanish, and trust in others become diminished.

What can you do? It’s important, because connection and engagement with others has been consistently shown to fend off not only depression, but a myriad of other problems as we age. Isolation is not your friend.

Reid Wilson, an American expert on anxiety, states, you have to change what you’re thinking in order to manage your fear. Although it may seem counterintuitive, you don’t wish the fear or anxiety away. You have to manage it. Work with it.

Other than medication, here are some ways to manage anxiety and not allow fears to govern your life.

Engaging in Mindfulness and/or Meditation Practice

Just a few minutes of meditation a day can make a huge difference in your ability to detach from your anxiety. There are guided meditation apps like Headspace or 10% Happier that can help you practice.

Seeking Therapy

There are many techniques to deal with anxiety. CBT, or cognitive behavioral therapy, or EMDR, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy, are two that immediately come to mind. Therapy offers a supportive relationship, where you can discuss your fears and gain more perspective on them. Whatever anxiety you have, you can practice slowly confronting it.

Exercising Away Stress

Decreasing anxiety is just one of the bountiful benefits of getting moving. Aerobic exercise, where you work up a good sweat, is a wonderful stress reliever.

Keeping your Perspective

What you focus on can become more real in your own mind. And if you only focus on painful things, then you can stay sad or overwhelmed. A vital skill to living well is “compartmentalizing,” meaning that you are able to put painful feelings or experiences away, to box them up so to speak, so that you can focus on other, more important or enjoyable things in the present moment. When you have the time to work through those feelings, you get that “box” down again.

Creating through Music, Art or Gardening

Creating your own beauty, being involved with building something or growing something can be a wonderful antidote to worry and fear. Whether it’s planting a garden, being in a play, or learning how to sculpt, there is something calming about creation. It can provide balance.

Talking with Others

We all have our own little bit of wisdom. Talking with friends about how they’re handling getting older, or any anxiety they may have about the state of the world can help you widen your own understanding, and gain a new attitude or idea.

Helping Others

If you’re involved with efforts in your church or your community to help those in need, it gives you a sense of purpose. And that very purpose can keep your thinking and attitude more positive. When you see and are involved in making positive change in your own world, it can counteract a sense of futility or despair.

What strategies do you use to face your fears and worries? How do you cope with viewing negative and traumatic events in the media? Have you been able to connect with others to share experiences? Please share and connect in the comments.

The question I hear most often when I’m
talking with people who are in the middle of a major downsizing or are getting
ready to downsize is, “How can I get rid of things that are very, very
important to me?”

For example, “How can I get rid of the chest that my mother spent months and months refinishing and making absolutely beautiful?” Or “How can I part with all those children’s books that I spent hours reading to my kids?”

And I totally agree; this can be so hard. Just
thinking about it can cause a pain deep inside.

When people ask me this question, I say that if
there will be space in the new place for all the “really treasured things,”
then by all means, keep them. But what if there won’t be enough space?

What if paying several hundred dollars a month to rent an external storage unit to hold the things just seems unwise? There may be better uses for that money right now.

Yes, It Can Be Hard

I went through a major downsizing several years ago, and it was accompanied by many difficult feelings, as I explain in my book The Upside of Downsizing: Getting to Enough. Like many of the people I talk to, I had several treasured things that really hurt to let go of.

I had several pieces of
furniture that my mother had lovingly restored, and they were gorgeous. I had
braided wool rugs that she had made, and when I looked carefully, I could see
traces of skirts I had worn in high school. And on and on.

And I knew I would not have
space for any of those things. So, all of them went out. Was it painful? Very. Have
I come to a place of peace when I think about it? Yes. How can we get there?

What Can Help?

A friend of mine recently told
me that the mutual love she had shared with her mother had helped her to come
to peace with selling some of her late mother’s treasured belongings.

When that deep love really
seeped into her core, she was able to let go of many treasured things. I’ve
thought about that a lot, and I believe that peace comes when we realize what’s
important are the deep feelings of love, not the place settings, or whatever. A
plate, after all, is just a plate.

I think it also helps to be
thoughtful about where the items go. Going back to the children’s books, it
might be easier to part with them if you give them to a local grade school or
kindergarten that probably doesn’t have the funding to buy many books.

Just imagine the delight on the
faces of the children who may never have held such a colorful, shiny book!

When I was able to sell some of
the beautiful pieces my mother had restored to neighbors who were delighted to buy
them, I felt happy that they knew the history of the pieces and would lovingly
take care of them.

The same has been true for
several items that I gave to friends. I love seeing these things in their homes
where they are being well used.

For the Kids

It’s also important to look
through all the things you may be “saving for the kids.” In my conversations
with people who have downsized, one very common theme emerges: “the kids don’t
want anything.”

If you’re in the situation of
“saving things for the kids,” it’s probably worth checking with them to make
sure they want those items. If they do, they need to take them as soon as
possible. And if they don’t, then it’s time to find a new home for treasured
things that you don’t have a room for.

In those scenarios you need to
protect yourself from being “doubly hurt.” Once, you suffer from parting with
your loved possessions, and once you suffer because your kids don’t cherish or
want those things that have been so important to you.

But keep in mind they live “their
life,” and you need to let it go.

Some Support Can Help

The whole process of letting go
of treasured things can be very painful. I know. I’ve been through it. It may
help to ask a good, caring friend to sit with you as you think about the things
you’re going to need to part with. You may also consider talking with a
downsizing coach.

Finally, knowing that you have a
choice will ease the parting. It’s often helpful to say to yourself, “I have a
choice here. I can find a way to lovingly let go of this item or I can live
with the consequences of holding on to it.”

When we really focus on what it will
mean to hold onto whatever it is, we may realize that things once valued will
not serve us anymore. And we can find a good, new home for them. This is not
easy, but it is our choice.

What is your greatest fear when
it comes to downsizing? Do you have special items you’d like to keep but have
no room for? Have you considered parting with them? Please share your
downsizing stories with our community.

As we age, it becomes increasingly important to keep a close eye on our bodies and health. Utilizing Medicare preventive services can help you stay healthy by discovering and treating medical issues before they become unmanageable.

Preventive services help prevent major health concerns before it is too late. In addition to discovering health issues of which you may be unaware, utilizing Medicare preventive services also drastically helps reduce the amount you spend on healthcare each year.

The earlier the discovery, the earlier treatment can begin. Thus, in most cases, you can return to your regular day-to-day routine sooner.

If you’re on Medicare but haven’t been utilizing Medicare preventive services, what are you waiting for? Below, we help you understand which Medicare preventive services may benefit you and how to get started today!

Your First Step to a Healthy Future: The Annual Wellness Exam

Each calendar year, Medicare pays for one annual wellness exam from the physician of your choice. This visit is to ensure that you are up-to-date on your screenings, ensure that no pre-existing health conditions have progressed and that no new health conditions have arisen.

When you attend your annual wellness exam, you should bring the following:

• Insurance cards
• Medical record
• Family history
• A list of all your health care providers
• A list of all medications/supplements you take
• Any questions/concerns you have

Attending your Medicare annual wellness visit is the most effective way to alleviate future health concerns while under Medicare. By attending this yearly visit, you are being proactive with your health and utilizing Medicare benefits to rule out any concerns that may become a major issue in the future.

During your Medicare annual wellness exam, you can expect to receive appropriate screenings, vaccines, a routine checkup, review your family medical history, and more. The purpose of this visit is to examine your health in its entirety and rule out any future health concerns.

What Major Health Concerns Can Medicare Help Prevent?

Utilizing Medicare’s preventive services program during your annual wellness visit can help reduce your risk for several health conditions. These include:

• Abdominal aortic aneurysm
• Breast cancer
• Cardiovascular disease
• Cervical cancer
• Colon cancer
• Diabetes
• Glaucoma
• Lung cancer
• Obesity
• Prostate cancer
• Other types of cancer
• And more!

Many major health issues may lay dormant in your body and can only be detected by screenings and exams. Without utilizing your preventive services benefit, you could be unknowingly living with a pre-existing condition. While this may not cause a major issue now, it could become a more significant health concern due to a lack of proper care.

A major benefit to utilizing Medicare preventive services comes from the various cancer screenings at your annual wellness visit. While many cancers are undetectable until they become more significant, your physician will utilize all channels to rule out cancer whenever possible.

How Early Indication Through Medicare Can Lead to Successful Recovery

If you seek treatment at the early signs of a medical issue or even before it becomes a problem, you are more likely to receive a favorable outcome than if you wait. Utilizing Medicare preventive services is one of the many benefits of being on Medicare.

Don’t live through your retirement in fear of a medical concern. Live confidently, knowing you can use Medicare preventive services to care for your health.

Have you utilized your Medicare Annual Wellness Exam? Did you know that this exam was included in your Medicare coverage? Do you plan on utilizing this benefit each year?

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We told you back in December 2021 how good K18 is. The Leave-In Molecular Repair Hair Mask works to repair strands and protect them from chemicals (like bleach) and heat (like all those hot tools). Since then, it’s gone viral on TikTok and Kim Kardashian and Pete Davidson became fans. That’s why we’ve been waiting for the perfect complimentary shampoo. And we just got two. K18 shampoo just launched in both and everyday and detoxifying options.

First, let us explain what K18 does. Although K18 calls its hero product a mask, you don’t wash out the Leave-In Molecular Repair Hair Mask. It’s not like a typical conditioning mask but you do use it in place of your conditioner. The patented bioactive peptide treatment strengthens and improves the elasticity of the hair, as well as works to actually reverse damage. It’s lightweight so you don’t have to worry about it weighing down your hair. In fact, you’ll probably still need a leave-in conditioner. The formula repairs strands over time, but you’ll still see a difference in the look and feel of the hair in just one use.

Photo: K18.

To prep your hair to make this repairing mask work as well as possible, you can now use either the Peptide Prep pH Maintenance Shampoo ($36 at Sephora) or the Peptide Prep Clarifying Detox Shampoo ($38 at Sephora). It depends on what your hair needs that day.

K18.

Use Detox Shampoo when you need more of an intense clean. Get rid of all that dry shampoo, oil and sebum with activated charcoal and salicylic acid. The brand recommends using this one 1-2 times per week.

K18.

On the flip side, use pH Maintenance Shampoo any time you wash your hair. It will still deeply cleanse but also protect hair’s natural moisture levels.

Here’s how you use both products. First, shampoo with either option. Then, towel dry your hair. Apply the mask to your hair and wait four minutes. Then, style as usual with whatever leave-in products you’d like, such as styling creams and heat protectants. It’s a bit of a process but it’s worth the effort — trust us.

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Whether she’s slaying the red carpet or acting on Euphoria, Sydney Sweeney’s hair is usually long, blonde and voluminous. She generally parts her hair in the middle and favors sleek straight strands or a bouncy blowout. But she’s officially switching it up. Earlier this week, Sweeney showed off a new haircut on Instagram, a shorter, more lob-like style parted on the side. Is the star bringing back the side part?!

In a series of stunning photos, Sweeney poses in a white robe with her new hair and full glam. We’re not sure exactly what the look is for, though it’s likely prep for a photo shoot for one of her many brand partnerships. Sweeney credited hairstylists Glen Coco and Guy Cory for the new ‘do and Melissa Hernandez for the makeup. We wish we knew what products the makeup artist used because — WOW. Girl is glowing.

Source: Instagram

It’s been an interesting week for Sweeney in the news. In an interview with The Hollywood Reporter, she revealed how her packed work schedule last June led to panic attacks. “I was losing my shit,” she said. “I still can’t get my mind to shut up and I don’t sleep.” She went on to explain how all these brand partnerships — such as Miu Miu and Laneige — are essential because actors don’t make the same money these days as they did when shows were syndicated and Netflix and Hulu weren’t a thing.

“If I wanted to take a six-month break, I don’t have income to cover that,” she said. “I don’t have someone supporting me, I don’t have anyone I can turn to, to pay my bills or call for help…They don’t pay actors like they used to, and with streamers, you no longer get residuals. The established stars still get paid, but I have to give 5 percent to my lawyer, 10 percent to my agents, 3 percent or something like that to my business manager. I have to pay my publicist every month, and that’s more than my mortgage.”