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Hair growth is no one size fits all formula. There are a few things that can disrupt how long and thick your hair can get—even your scalp care can get in the way. It could even mean something in your genetic makeup is stopping or halting the process. If you’re looking to try a natural hair growth oil, Amazon has a multitude of options for you to check out, including the Life & Pursuits Organic Hair Growth Oil. Plus, it’s discounted to just $17.

This top-selling Amazon find has been reviewed over 4,000 times and consistently finds itself on the top of buyers’ lists. Preventing hair thinning and nourishing the scalp are just a few of the things this hair treatment does. It’s anti-dandruff and has no parabens, so you can expect no irritation and inflammation.

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Life & Pursuits Organic Hair Growth Oil

This organic hair growth oil uses pure ingredients that are cold-pressed so that you get full use of each and every nourishing ingredient. Bhringraj, Hibiscus, Methi, and Neem, the Bhringraj is free from harmful chemicals and stimulates hair growth. This ayurvedic oil can be used as a conditioner as well.

To use this product, you’ll want to gently massage your hair and scalp with the Bhringraj oil and leave it on overnight or before you wash. For best results, use a minimum of two to three times per week—you can expect results in three to four months if you continue to use.

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I combed through what some users said and the results are pretty shocking—in a good way! One reviewer boasted that results compare to those of Olaplex and even Rogaine, saying “This is the first serum and oil that has worked to stop my hair from falling out. I have tried other things including shampoos and conditioners, which did a nice job but never stop my hair from falling out, this is the first product which does.”

You can head to Amazon now to grab this hair growth oil on major discount.

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I know what you’re probably thinking right now—not another hair growth product promising “real results”—but would you believe me if I said this one’s actually worth a moment of your time? Beyond the fact that Bellisso’s Biotin Shampoo and Conditioner Set has over 16,000 five-stars and is the No. 1 bestseller in its category on Amazon, it’s packed full of nutrient-rich ingredients that only stand to benefit your hair’s strength and vitality both immediately and long-term. It’s also currently on sale for $27. It used to be marked down to $30, but seeing that its price keeps dropping, you’ll want to scoop up this deal while you can.

The 2-in-1 set cleanses your strands and treats your scalp for healthier growth and reduced shedding. It basically acts as both your daily shampoo and conditioner and as a hair loss treatment. Stunting DHT’s arrival (a common reason for slowed growth and increased loss in both men and women) paves the way for fresher, thicker strands to fill in bald patches across the scalp. It also leaves your locks shinier and softer with every use. 

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Bellisso’s Biotin Shampoo and Conditioner Set

Back to those thousands of glowing reviews. Amazon shoppers can’t stop raving about the results they’ve seen; even hair growth product skeptics are singing a different tune than before. From seeing differences within a week to claiming it leaves their hair “feeling like silk,” reviewers are more than happy to have “finally” found something that works. 

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“I noticed a difference in my hair softness immediately,” raved one who said their hair had grown 5 inches in just two months. “I noticed my hair isn’t falling out nearly as much as it was before, and my hair looks thicker and has grown longer! I’m very impressed! I wasn’t expecting to see these kinds of results!! Love it!!

“At age 65 my hair was thinning a bit and was not shiny. After one week [of] using Biotin shampoo and conditioner my hair has improved drastically and very few strands [are] in the shower drain,” praised another person.

Looking for something stronger to revive your thinning locks? Pick up the Bellisso’s Biotin Shampoo and Conditioner Set while it’s currently down to $27—for two products, it’s a hard deal to pass up.

It’s a new year, and a time when we naturally begin to review our lives. A new year can remind us to make positive changes.

However, change is a complicated and nuanced subject. We may say we want things to change, but at the same time we may also find ourselves thinking change is too hard. Or it may be unclear what it is that we even want to change even if we have a desire for something in our lives to be different. It can be surprisingly difficult to know what we truly want.

Change can be particularly complicated with our partners. It can be all too easy to wish for a relationship with more romance and better communication, and to place the onus of changing on our partners instead of ourselves.

If you want to improve something in your relationship this year, how can you get started?

Look at an Area Where Change Is within Your Control – Yourself

Simply wanting your partner to be more responsive won’t work. We can’t stay the same and hope someone else will be different. If we want to change our relationship, we need to begin by looking at an area where change is within our control – ourselves.

It’s easy to point the finger at your partner and to tell them what they are doing wrong and what they need to change. Resist this temptation – it is exhausting, and it doesn’t work. On the other hand, any changes you make within yourself will invariably have an effect on your relationship.

And it works best if you do it for yourself, regardless of how you want the change you’re making to influence your partner.

Start by Changing Something – Anything

You can begin by changing anything, even something that has nothing to do with your goals. You want to feel your own agency. Call a person you haven’t talked to in a while. Take action on something you’ve been procrastinating about.

Feeling a sense of your own personal agency is a powerful starting point for initiating larger changes that may feel daunting. Building confidence is a key ingredient for initiating change, especially when the change is challenging to our most important relationships.

Make Your Goal Clear and Tangible

The best goals are those that are clearly defined so that it is easy to tell when you succeed. For instance, “I want to be more patient with my partner” is well intentioned, but hard to measure.

You can improve this goal by including a concrete action, which if taken, will mean that you accomplished your goal: “The next time I feel overwhelmed, I will tell my partner that I need to go for a walk to clear my head and then I will calmly respond to him when I am ready.”

Once you have a concrete goal, write it down. Research has shown that writing down a goal is effective for success. Set a timeline that is reasonable and decide how often you will look at your goal. You may even want to consider finding an image that represents you achieving your goal and make it your phone or laptop background so you see it several times a day.

Think Positively

When thinking about change, it’s also helpful to frame your goal positively rather than negatively. Rather than, “I don’t want to get angry when my partner demands a response right away,” try something like, “I want to take my time and answer calmly.” We can choose a positive option, such as taking a walk.

Visualize: Imagine Yourself in Action

It is well documented that athletes who mentally rehearse their performance perform far better than athletes who do not engage in visualization.

We can apply the same visualization technique to the change we want to make real in our relationships.

For instance, can you imagine yourself feeling overwhelmed, and then stopping, taking a deep breath and calmly telling your partner that you need to go for a walk? Go over it in your mind as if you were watching a movie on a large screen with you as the star actor. Focus on the end result and how that feels.

That’s visualization: What does it feel like to be you when you achieve your goal? What do you see, hear, think, experience in your new changed reality? If you feel the change deeply through visualization beforehand, you are more likely to make it happen. Use your imagination to your advantage!

Work with a Trusted Therapist or Coach

Another strategy for creating a meaningful change to your relationship is to have a trusted person in your corner. A relationship coach or therapist can enable a better conversation with yourself. They help you to see patterns in your thinking that are not readily apparent to you as well as help you reframe your perspective on how to make change happen.

A therapist can also help you gain more self-control. If a deeper change is needed, a therapist or coach can help you get to the core of what really matters so that you can identify what will have the most impact.

Change Starts Within

To create a positive change in your relationship, whether big or small, you need to choose a good starting point. Think about all of the areas that are within your control, create one measurable goal, visualize the end result, and achieve it.

If you are struggling to understand what you really want, or you don’t believe change is possible, or you simply need encouragement, work with a coach or therapist who can support you in your journey.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

How do you feel about your relationship with your partner? Do you think change is necessary? How do you think that change can be implemented in your relationship? Are you ready to start with yourself?

I’m always in a rush to get things done. Run the errands, finish a project, clean up after a meal. Rushing has not served me well.

I have accidents. I miss information. I am still not settled, nor at peace.

I Don’t Beat Myself Up Anymore

If you have been reading along with my Knowing Myself Series, Part 1 – Love What I Have, this follows the core message: Toss what doesn’t serve me. That includes behaviors and thoughts as well as tangible items, clothes, dishes, various types of spices, and whatever you are holding onto and don’t use. Toss and make room for what makes you smile and happy, and love yourself.

Next, Part 2 – Falling in Love with Myself, touts shifting your perspective and changing thoughts. So, I am kind to myself, I learn and try to make slight course corrections toward the person I want to live with, the best Me, I can be.

Now when I rush and things happen, because they always do, I try to look at the lesson the universe is sending me. I’m lucky, the universe sends me consistent signs. And that message is to slow down.

Physically, move more deliberately, and take time to get a handle on my surroundings. Emotionally, let the feelings settle, sit where they are supposed to sit and feel them so I can incorporate them into my baseline functioning, or at the very least my emotional toolbox.

My emotional toolbox are the feelings I know and acknowledge and have some clue why they come up and how to manage them. (A little teaser, this is actually my new favorite topic, Managing Me – so stay tuned for part 4 of Knowing Myself Series.)

My baseline is just learning to love and accept myself. Unfortunately, that took 62 years, so when I rushed into a relationship with the right person, that made it the wrong time. I wasn’t ready.

These three words were never in my vocabulary. I wasn’t ready. I thought of myself as a go-to person, ready for any challenge, up to the task. I am smart and quick, and I can learn along the way. I am here to tell the tale. Some things you need to practice before you can have them. Hence the appropriately named title for this part.

Time Takes Time

I don’t like waiting, hence the vicious cycle of rushing. Patience is one of those behaviors that was not in my emotional toolbox. Me – wait? I had a long laundry list of valid reasons why I can’t wait. Why I should already know things. Why I should have already been ready before I actually was.

It’s true, I was born for the challenge. However, I had to build my endurance. I had to build on lesson after lesson and the challenges I faced. I had to incorporate them into my core operating system. This meant I had to feel. I had to add new emotions to my repertoire.

I had to take time with my feelings. I handled my feelings like they were my errands, always in a big rush to be done and to get to the other side.

Time takes time has taught me that the only way out is through. I cannot outrun or skirt my emotions. Those “pesky” feelings keep resurfacing until I address them. Even as a world-class quack-a-mole player, I can whack those little heads in a very rapid response time, and those emotions are persistent. Feelings and emotions must be dealt with directly.

I decided to start by feeling everything from food shopping to taking the garbage out. Rediscover which parts of each task I like. Notice what puts me in a good mood, a head space that gets me revved up to find new ways to celebrate all the things I do to celebrate myself, even the dishes and the laundry.

This is not a one-and-done situation. This is a practice for the rest of my life. To slow down and take in what’s happening around me. This allows me to show up more authentic, more honest, truer, and more loving. So far, the results are fantastic. When I do that, the universe complies.

Why Am I So Slow to Do What Feels Right and Good?

I had to find a way to weather the hard emotions, and how to touch them without spiralling out of control. Not reverting right to my learned behaviors of numbing and avoiding. Here is what I have learned:

Loneliness Is Qualitatively Different When You Love Yourself

When I found myself soulmate-less, after the breakup, I knew the answer was to lean in. I have been running from my feelings since I could talk, write, and think. So, this time I was patient with myself. Talked like I would talk to a friend.

Since I had slowed down to who I was, I liked myself. The people and activities in my life add value. My friends, family, co-workers, and interests, hobbies are all things I chose because of getting to know myself better. Loneliness is qualitatively different, as in if I was a bone density test, clinically significant.

What caused this shift?

I built endurance to lean into the uncomfortableness. I had a few lessons under my belt and practiced and deepened them. I worked on stocking my house with even more things I loved and used and tossed the rest. I surrounded myself with activities and people I value and enjoy.

I continue to try new things and I go back to old hobbies that somehow got left behind when I didn’t have time. Voila.

Little by little my sense of self and how I fit into my own skin and, by extension, my community became clear. Does this mean I am never lonely? You know that’s not how things work. Of course, I can get lonely, and miss the touch of my lover’s skin against mine, but I am also fine. The bouts don’t last very long, and they are not as deep.

My time alone gives me time for reflection and processing loving another. The time and effort I have spent to love myself is so valuable. Being alone gave me time for reflection, what was good and not so good, and where can I improve. And to tune in to what makes me a better me.

The Bucket List

Weathering feelings is about finding coping mechanisms that let you touch the pain and the tough feelings while moving forward. I found the perfect formula – get busy on my bucket list.

A bucket list is meant to be updated, changed, and grow as I grow and learn. Popularized by the 2007 film where two men, from very different backgrounds and financial means, set-forth to complete their lives before dying of cancer. The plot twist is both ironic and eye-opening.

With that in mind, and now on the other side of retirement, my bucket list has evolved. I look at my life differently, and therefore the things I want to accomplish have taken on new meaning. I have divided my bucket list into two categories – the things I choose and those I must work towards.

The Things I Choose

These are the things that, with some planning and resources, I can accomplish. When I was working and raising my daughter, many of these were obstacles. I had uber financial commitments, time constraints, my work schedule, and my daughter’s school calendar. Now that it’s just me and the dog and a fixed income, it’s more of a coordination issue.

These items include a trip to Paris with my daughter – check! Baking the perfect gluten-free zucchini muffins – check! Volunteering in my community ­– check! Writing more, hence my blog posts – check!

The Things I Must Work Towards

This is where intent comes into play. I must do the footwork, the groundwork, and put it out in the universe and hope that it comes back to me. First, I had to find what I desire, what I wanted. That was embedded in getting to know myself.

One of these items is being an extra in a movie set. I had to find an opportunity, close to where I live, apply, get selected, and then hope my scenes didn’t get cut. And it happened! You can read more about it on my website blog. I am in several episodes, hailing a cab, walking across the street, and a professor talking to a student. Simple acts, I did over and over again.

One of my items is big and scary. Getting selected for a TEDx talk. Oh, I have the chops to do a TED talk, but I have to work for it, it won’t just happen. First, I need to dig into my core message and look at who I am and figure out how to present that idea. Then I need to research opportunities, file in-depth applications, and come up with a 1-minute video message.

That’s a challenge because, have you seen my videos – I like to talk! Upload the video link and my ideas and leave it to the universe that I get chosen. I can work towards it, but it is not in my control if I get on the TEDx stage.

Wanting to Be in a Relationship – Not for Everyone

What does this have to do with time taking time and learning to love myself? It’s about being honest with myself. About knowing myself enough to know what I really want. It’s also about that second category on my bucket list – things I must work towards.

I want to live in a loving romantic relationship. I want a partner, with very mutual sexual attraction, who is my best friend and has similar spiritual practices. As many of us single ladies over 60 know – that’s a tall order.

I believe it is possible!

The first step is loving myself, so I am okay with or without that relationship. Does it mean I’m going to get what I want? Time will tell. Deep down in my soul, I know I want a partner, and I must be honest about that.

I must be honest about wanting someone who loves me unconditionally, has my back and who can see all sides of me all the time. I want to be able to say everything from “Hunn, go get the laundry” to “What do I do about this?”

Well, I wanna be able to ask this person everything so well, yes, I love myself and I will not settle, and I will not be with someone who can’t give me those things I want in a relationship. Not for everyone, but for me, it is something I have never had and really want to experience in this lifetime.

What’s Next

Time takes time. Slow down. Good things come to those who wait! Waiting includes more than sitting around binge-watching shows and eating homemade delicious gluten-free zucchini muffins – it means doing the work to get me where I want to go. Getting ready to receive. Enjoy everything from food shopping to taking the garbage out.

So here I am, and I am ready. To rediscover parts of each task that connect me to myself. To savour each moment. Work towards my bucket list. Put my desires out to the universe. Enjoy everything that comes my way. And know if it doesn’t go my way, I am also okay because I love myself unconditionally.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Are you a busybody, or do you know how to slow down, take your time, and enjoy your life? Do you love yourself? Do you know yourself? What about your deep-down wishes? How often are you honest with yourself? Can you be honest with your partner?

Wendy Osefo’s Yellow Cutout Dress in Mexico

Real Housewives of Potomac Season 7 Episode 16 Fashion

When it comes to cutting things out I’m glad that Mia Thornton and Wendy Osefo cut it out with all the fighting kissed and made up. I am also glad that Wendy wore her yellow cutout dress while doing so. Otherwise we wouldn’t have known we needed to cutout some space in our closet for it below. Okay I think I said cutout enough so I’ll cut it out, as long as you make sure to shop a new dress below!

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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Originally posted at: Wendy Osefo’s Yellow Cutout Dress