If you read the book, The Good Life, you will be amazed at the conclusion of an 85-year study by Harvard University. It simply states this: talk to people!

The study began in 1938, chauvinistically involving a large group of Harvard educated men and young Boston boys from disadvantaged families. 

It grew to include their children, their partners and now equal numbers of men and women.

What the study found can be summed up with this sentence:

Good relationships keep us happier and healthier.

So, your relationships are important for not only your happiness but also your health. And money and wealth have nothing to do with happiness.

Many young people consider making money or becoming famous as their goals, but older people say happiness is more important than wealth or success. Especially happiness that comes from close relationships with family, friends and the community you live in.

Watch the video below by the articulate Harvard psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, Robert Waldinger, who is one of the directors of the study:

Key Points of the Study

• Most old relationships fall by the wayside through lack of contact or effort. Women seem to be much better at keeping up relationships than men. In some cultures, it may not seem masculine to discuss confidences, but many men have close friends with whom anything can be discussed.
• It doesn’t matter if you are an extrovert or an introvert, whether you make friends easily or not. But you do need at least one close friend or partner to whom you can turn to discuss difficulties when you need help or just for a chat anytime.
• Contact with people flourishes if you join activities you enjoy or need. Sports, gyms, book clubs, walking groups, bridge, volunteering, etc. Cultivate friends at work, where you live, common interests, etc. Make the effort, it pays!
• When you go shopping, or even pass people on the street, train yourself to smile at them, even say “good morning” or “good afternoon”! It can lead to mutual laughter and further remarks. Both parties get a lift of mood and the day may just look brighter. Talk to the delivery person, the postman, the barista, the shopkeeper, etc. Talk to your partner more, be considerate and get out of boring routines. Do more activities together. It works.
• It is never too late. One person late in life was married to a woman that never wanted to go anywhere or discuss anything. He moved out and even though he was introverted and had no close friends, he started going to the gym out of boredom. Someone talked to him. He enjoyed it and started talking to others. They became friends, socialised together and his happiness soared.
• The study showed that those with good relationships were not only happier but healthier, lived longer and were less likely to get dementia or heart problems, etc. The study was detailed and included brain scans, blood tests, etc.
• Life is never perfect and stress is unavoidable. But happier people return to normal from the fight or flight mode quicker.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Had you heard of this lifelong study or is this the first time you read about it? What were/are your initial thoughts? Based on what you learned, would you consider yourself a happy person? What does happiness mean to you? Do you think your present view of happiness is different from how you thought of it when you were younger?

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There is no denying that a healthy, balanced diet can help you live longer, feel younger, and have more energy, but what we often don’t realize is that the definition of a healthy diet changes throughout our lifetime. For example, you may have lower calorie needs but increased nutrient needs as you get older.

What Causes Malnutrition?

As the U.S. population ages, malnourishment is also an increasingly growing concern. When a person doesn’t have enough food or doesn’t eat enough healthy, balanced meals, they may run the risk of malnutrition, and this may occur for a number of reasons:

Health Conditions

Older adults may have health conditions or medications that cause a loss of appetite, or they may be on restricted diets that make foods taste bland or change the texture of foods they used to love to eat. This is common with a puree diet, for example, when a person may be experiencing swallowing issues related to a decline in physical or cognitive health. Dental issues can make it difficult or painful to chew, reducing nutrient intake.

Cooking Limitations

Cooking at home isn’t always an option and many older adults opt for frozen meals or takeaway foods. Many of these foods are processed and don’t consistently have the needed range of nutrients that most people need, especially later in life. Older adults who usually eat alone may also lose interest in cooking a full, nutritionally balanced meal.

Social Cues and Reminders

Those living with cognitive decline may need cues and reminders to eat and if living alone, may forget to eat a meal altogether.

Many other factors – from income to addiction and mental health challenges – can also have direct and serious impact on the likelihood of malnutrition.

How Can You Fight Malnutrition?

While there is no one-size-fits-all for ensuring a healthy diet, here are a few things to keep in mind. Everyone is unique. When in doubt, connect with a primary care doctor or another trusted healthcare provider to ensure your needs are all covered.

Eat Frequent Meals

Prepare a few healthy snacks throughout the day. This is especially helpful if you need to get full more quickly at mealtimes. Nutritional shakes or supplements could also be an option if you notice weight loss.

Stock Up on Healthful Foods

Going to the grocery store isn’t possible for everyone, but it is easier today than ever to have healthy foods brought to you with online grocery delivery, meal delivery services, or even family and friends. If you’re still going to the store frequently, stock up on easy-to-grab snacks like nuts, fruits, and vegetables with hummus, cheese, and more.

Spice Up Your Plate

You may have noticed your tastes have changed, and you may even find that your favorite foods don’t taste the same as they used to, and there is a reason. The number of taste buds decreases as you age. To increase the five basic tastes – sweet, salty, bitter, sour, and savory – add colorful foods and different textures to keep it interesting versus adding unnecessary salt and seasonings. If your diet is now more restricted, try to add colorful, fresh herbs and spices to liven it up.

Consider Daily Supplements and Take Them Together

Eating certain nutrients and vitamins at the same time can help increase absorption levels as we age. These are just a few of the top ways to do this:

• Pair calcium with vitamin D for stronger bones.
• Eat vitamin C-rich foods (lemon, oranges, strawberries, sweet potato, etc.) with iron-rich foods like spinach, quinoa, fish, and lean meats, and poultry to increase the body’s ability to absorb these nutrients together.
• Magnesium can enhance your ability to process macronutrients, such as carbohydrates, resulting in improved metabolism.
• Zinc has been proven to be best absorbed with protein-rich meals, and they are many proteins rich in zinc like meat and seafood, oats, beans, and nuts.

Mix Up Your Protein and Get Plenty of It

Older adults typically eat too little protein. Incorporate various protein sources throughout your day and try to avoid eating the same protein meals repeatedly. Some protein sources that you might overlook include dairy, seafood, fortified soy alternatives, beans, peas, and lentils. Plant-based protein sources are a great way to diversify your diet. 

It goes without saying, all adults – no matter your age – should limit foods with added sugar, saturated fat, and sodium on a regular basis. Enjoy those special treats on occasion but aim not to make them a daily habit. And again, when in doubt or just to make sure you’re on the right track, review your current diet with your healthcare provider to ensure any new plans and changes are right for you.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What is your favorite protein-rich food? Do you typically eat the same few meals or switch it up? What is one new color and texture you can add to a meal this week? How do you ensure you are meeting your daily fluids? How can you support your loved one to purchase healthy food and snacks?

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