Month: December 2023

“Oh, I Could Write a Book…” Well, Maybe You Should!

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It’s an expression we’ve all heard and probably have said more than a few times. First comes a long string of annoying circumstances or stubborn challenges, repeated frustrations or just plain foolishness. Then the punchline: “Oh, I could write a book.”

So, maybe you should. In fact, why not?

Here’s what I think: Sometimes our deepest desires reveal themselves in the things we say offhandedly. It’s like a life goal that plays peek-a-boo with your consciousness by popping out in that casual remark or even a cliché: “If I won the lottery tomorrow, I would totally quit my job and [fill in the blank].”

If writing a book is one of “those” things you hint, dream, muse, or talk about, maybe it’s time to take this seriously. And what better time than now, as one year comes to a close and another is about to begin?

As an author of seven books (and counting) including a New York Times bestseller and two mystery novels, I love giving aspiring writers advice to pursue their dreams. In fact, this is a topic I’m going to be writing about a lot – so here’s my initial advice how to turn that dream of writing a book into an action plan.

There Is Room for You and Your Dream

It happened many years ago when I walked into a bookstore in downtown Chicago. Normally, I love browsing the shelves, but this time seeing all those books triggered complete panic. How could there be room for one more book, especially one from me? It took quite a bit of deep breathing to get me through it. Flash forward to another bookstore, just a couple of weeks ago.

Among all the many titles on display were my novels – right there under the “featured author” sign. Yes, there has been a lot of redirect and rewrite along my journey, but that could only happen because I believed there was room for me and my dream.

Your dream may be to write your memoir, chronicling the events of your life. You may want to share your expertise in a how-to. Or, like me, fiction may call to you. Whatever your dream, there is room in this world for you to pursue it.

The Strategy of Short(Er)

I wrote essays before I tackled my first nonfiction book. I published short stories before I launched my novel. Starting out writing a book can be daunting, while an essay or short story is often more manageable. This approach to writing can be both satisfying and strategic.

First, there was the “I did it factor” – having a creative piece accepted for publication, which had nothing to do with my day job as a journalist and a consultant. Second, those shorter pieces became publishing credits that helped me attract the attention of agents and editors.

Even though I am now writing mystery novels, I still enjoy writing short stories (which I publish on my website, along with works of other writers – maybe you one day). Shorter pieces allow me to express and experiment, while delivering a great deal of satisfaction.

Find Your Mission – And Your Message

Over the past 25 years, I’ve written nonfiction and fiction, self-help and leadership, and now mysteries with a literary twist. While I’m proud of all my works, fiction was always my real story. To own that dream I had to define and embrace my mission: to explore the intersection between the ordinary and the extraordinary – those moments when we’re pulled out of the circumstances of daily life into something much bigger and transformative.

In my Ohnita Harbor series, my protagonist, Gabriela, is thrust out of her well-ordered world as a librarian as she authenticates artifacts, which coincidentally puts her in the crosshairs of small-town murder. She becomes more than she believed herself to be – braver, stronger, resilient, resourceful. And that’s a message for all of us, including on the writer’s journey.

Start… And Find the Joy

I was asked in a TV interview recently for my advice for “someone who has a dream and may be struggling with getting started or continuing.” Those are the two big sticking points! Starting means leaping the gap between the idea in your head and those first words on the page (or brushstrokes on the canvas, notes on the piano, etc.). It’s the blank page syndrome.

My advice is to put something down – even if it’s a one-sentence declaration of what you’re going to write. Once your fingers start moving on the keyboard, your creativity is likely to engage. Keeping going becomes the next challenge for many reasons. Maybe it’s not progressing as well as you’d hoped. Or life (read: distraction) gets in the way.

Your writing is a new healthy habit – just like exercising or meditating. Invest the time and the energy to keep it up because of what it does for you. Hard work? Yes. Frustrating? Inevitably. But there is joy in giving voice to your stories.

No Judgment, No Comparison

So, there I was, talking to a group of enthusiastic readers about my second novel, The Secrets of Still Waters Chasm. And in that crowd was a best-selling author whose success eclipses mine. And I felt… jealous. I hate admitting this. It’s petty, small-minded – but oh so human.

Every creative pursuit involves some sort of performance, whether it’s shared with a group of friends or the whole wide world. External measures of others’ opinions can matter more than what we believe or experience when we’re creating.

Even more insidious, our relative ranking in those external measures – who’s doing better than we are – can demoralize us. In “The Unbearable Envy of the Published Author,” novelist Lynn Steger Strong describes keeping tabs on the success of another author, whom she did not know and whose work she admired.

Finally, she broke herself out of that trap with a potent realization about “external markers of success or failure: I write for reasons that have nothing to do with them.” I’m tucking away that piece of advice so those pangs of envy don’t become pains that keep me from pursuing what I love.

The next time you tell yourself, “Oh, I could write a book,” maybe it’s time to consider whether that’s exactly what you should do.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Have you considered writing a book? Has that thought intimidated you? What about starting small(er)? Would a short story or essay sound doable?

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Dorit Kemsley’s Strapless Mixed Print Confessional Top

Dorit Kemsley’s Strapless Mixed Print Confessional Top / Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Season 13 Fashion

Whoop! We got a new confessional look from Dorit Kemsley. She wore a strapless mixed print top and if you couldn’t tell by all the charms and jewels she’s wearing it’s Versace. Which made my job a little easier on tracking it down, but my job of telling you it’s sold out a little tougher. That’s okay though because we have some solid similar styles below that are sure to mix well with your closet.

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess


Dorit Kemsley's Strapless Mixed Print Confessional Top

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Adriana De Moura’s Black and White Star Print Confessional Look

Adriana De Moura’s Black and White Star Print Confessional Look / Real Housewives of Miami Season 6 Fashion

Adriana De Moura looks fun and fashionable for her newest confessional look on #RHOM. She wears a black and white star printed dress that is sure to catch your eye. Now I have to warn you, the stock of this dress is almost gone. But you can thank your lucky stars that we managed to round up some similar styles that are fully stocked and ready to be shopped!

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess


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Alexia Echevarria’s Pink Embellished Confessional Top

Originally published on October 5th, 2023

Alexia Echevarria’s Pink Embellished Confessional Top / Real Housewives of Miami Season 6 Fashion

November 1st is coming up fast, and I’m eagerly awaiting the return of Real Housewives of Miami for a 6th season. Especially after Alexia Echevarria shared what seems like a sneak peek of her gorgeous confessional look on Instagram. Her pink butterfly-shaped crystal top and matching pants are giving us the Miami style we have missed! And we also spotted her cast mate Nicole Martin rocking a crystal embellished top by this brand, known for bling, in a confessional preview of hers. Which I’m definitely taking as crystal clear sign that I need to add one to my wardrobe! 💎🦋

Best In Blonde,

Amanda


Alexia Echevarria's Pink Embellished Confessional Top
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How to Start 2024 Alcohol-Free and Feeling Amazing!

start the year alcohol-free and feeling amazing

The combination of the media, the marketing campaigns and social norms encourage us to float through the festive season on a sea of booze.

It can be so easy just to go with the flow. How about playing it a bit differently this year? How about resisting the brainwashing? How about unplugging from the matrix?

How about trying an alcohol-free December?

Here are some reasons WHY you should try a Dry December together with some advice HOW to do it.

6 Reasons Why You Should Try an Alcohol-Free December

#1: December Is Always a Busy Time

The chances are that whatever your profession, you will be busy at work, busy socially, and of course busy creating that “perfect Christmas” for your family.

If you give up alcohol for December, you can actually claw back a lot of time. Time that is usually devoted to planning the drinking, drinking and getting over the drinking.

#2: Dry December Gives You an Advantage

Everybody does “Dry January” but only the seriously cool people do “Dry December” and then start the new year feeling fantastic – rather than exhausted and poisoned with excess food and alcohol.

You also get to join the rest of the world for Dry January, feeling rather smug as you already have plenty of alcohol-free days under your belt!

#3: Stressing Less Is a Bonus

You will reduce your stress as you “take control.” You will sleep better and steam through your “to-do” list and even begin to feel slightly superior to your pals as they struggle with their hangovers.

If your friends give you a hard time, just tell them you are doing 30 alcohol-free days to raise money for charity which you can do by signing up for Tribe Sober’s Annual Fundraiser.

#4: You Will Lose Weight!

We are surrounded by super-fattening foods during December, and after a glass of wine or two we just get stuck in. Staying sober means you can stay in control of what you are eating and drinking.

As an extra bonus you can opt out of the dieting misery train that we are all supposed to board come January 1st.

#5: Really Enjoy the Holidays

A lot of people worry that they cannot enjoy themselves without alcohol, but think about it. What makes a good Christmas? Being with your family and seeing the joy on the children’s faces as they open their presents – or numbing out with booze?

#6: An Experiment Worth Trying

At the very least a sober Christmas will be an interesting experiment – even if you hate it, you will have tried – and who knows, you may even decide to make a lifestyle change and go alcohol free.

6 Tips for an Alcohol-Free December

#1: Make It a Challenge

If this is your first alcohol-free Christmas, why not turn it into a challenge? Lower your expectations and don’t presume to enjoy the Holiday in quite the same way as usual.

Your goal is simply to get through December without alcohol. Your joy will come flooding in on January 1st when you wake up hangover free with no regrets and feeling proud of yourself – and ready to face 2024 with energy and optimism!

#2: Stock Up on Alcohol-Free Drinks

There are so many delicious choices around these days. Get a box delivered, fill up the fridge and experiment. Make some mocktails for the whole family – they can add alcohol to theirs!

#3: Get a Tracker

Although we can get sober trackers on our phones, there is something motivating about a paper tracker. You can colour in the alcohol-free days as you complete them and keep an eye on the big picture. Stick it on the fridge and get the family to help you stay on track.

If you would like to get one of our free trackers, then just email membership@tribesober.com and request a December Tracker which was designed for the holiday period.

#4: Remember That Christmas Is Just One Day

Mark Christmas Day and any parties you will be attending on your tracker. Make a plan to get through those events alcohol-free. Look at the whole month and notice that most of the days in December are just regular days! Don’t despair if you have a slip-up. Mark it on your tracker and get right back on the bus the next day.

#5: Find a Sobriety Partner

Connection is the opposite of addiction so get a Sober Buddy. Find a friend who will do a Dry December with you. If you would like lots of Sober Buddies, then maybe you should join Tribe Sober.

#6: Join a Fundraiser

To help you on your way, Tribe Sober has launched its Annual Fundraiser for the Earthchild Project which helps disadvantaged children in South Africa. Just $16 provides a child with yoga & life-skills classes for a whole year and provides you with online and community support for 30 days.

Just make a donation directly to Earthchild by clicking here and we’ll get right back to you.

Ready to Try an Alcohol-Free Lifestyle?

When we make a major lifestyle change, we need to connect with others on the same path. We need a Tribe! Tribe Sober has an international community of 400 members – all supporting and encouraging each other as they build their beautiful alcohol-free lives.

Use the coupon code “sixty” for a 20% discount on Annual Membership, and listen to the weekly Tribe Sober podcast – available on Apple & Spotify.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

How many years have you been drinking? Do you drink consistently – a glass or two of wine most evenings? Have you ever tried to take a break to test your dependence? Have you noticed an impact on your looks after a taking a break? Do you ever worry about your drinking? Are you aware of the health dangers of alcohol as you get older? Have you ever had a sober Thanksgiving or Christmas?

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