Month: April 2024

You enter a flower mart to fashion a vibrant bouquet for your home. Flowers reliably lift your spirits, especially after a long winter. With abundant variety available in Spring, you choose Yellow River daffodils, Wedgewood-blue lilacs, Magic Opal irises, and Purple Prince tulips. Leaving the shop, you cradle these newfound treasures in your arms.

The Many Faces of Vicarious Joy

Once back at the house, you carefully arrange your selections in a clear crystal vase – adapting some elements of ikebana learned in a class you took ages ago – and place them on the kitchen table by the open window, where the breeze can carry their fragrance further inside. Finally, you settle into your favorite armchair to admire their beauty, a peaceful occasion of vicarious joy that can be extended through the life of the bouquet and perhaps even beyond, in a photograph. Plant lovers intimately experience this connection.

For those of you with pets, you’re sure to have a collection of vicarious joy stories (please share one with us in the comments below). My little puppy loves to nosedive with abandon into a tangle of thick bushes and vines on our walks, burying herself out of sight and then reappearing like a bolt and madly zooming on. I look forward each morning to experiencing vicarious joy in observing her daily antics and to the visible happiness they bring her.

For those of you with grandchildren, you no doubt have had the pleasure of vicariously enjoying their incremental achievements and successes, their innocent and delightful laughter and play. The bond of love you feel for them is deepened by sharing their special moments in this way.

People watching at airports and in town gardens or congenial public spaces, to name a few, can also provide excellent opportunities to sit back, watch, and take notice of odd and humorous human behaviors that radiate a smile of vicarious joy. The reason we are amused is because we sense a camaraderie, however subtle, with those individuals.

And just think… this wealth of joy is readily available and present without our having to actively DO or ACHIEVE anything!

The Meaning of Vicarious

Vicarious is an interesting word that can suggest different ways of being. On the one hand, used pejoratively, it can imply living through others in a way that is considered indulgent, lazy, or lacking in personal initiative and may suggest a reliance on them for experiences or emotions. Alternatively, and used favorably, vicarious can describe the experience of being enriched by tenderly sharing in the successes, adventures, or happiness of others. Simply put, the first way of being champions doing, while the second sees benefit in mindfully watching and observing with empathy.

In the present historical period where action, production, creation, development – doing in all its forms – is greatly valued and supported, it’s easy to overlook the wellspring of spontaneous, vicarious joy that surrounds us.

Is It Necessary or Even Healthy to Be Actively Doing Something Every Minute?

Actually, it is exhausting and stressful to be in constant pursuit of the next thing on our to-do list. Certainly, it is smart to ask the question: Once we’ve actually reached our goal and that split-second of meeting the mark has passed, what then? No basking in the glow? Time to add another item to the to-do list?

The Chinese Book of Changes (the I Ching) expounds the ancient wisdom of maintaining a balance between the Creative and the Receptive life energies, and explains the myriad consequences that can occur when either becomes disproportionate.

To explore the Receptive a bit further, it suggests a yielding, inwardly focused attitude that tends to gracefully accept what is and teaches the importance of allowing events to unfold naturally, akin to how the responsive Earth absorbs rain and fosters seeds to grow. It is with such a contemplative, reflective frame of mind that we experience vicarious joy.

While in a receptive state of being, you may discover that this is when new ideas and novel thoughts move through you… when you are given the inspiration that propels you along more easily once you finally set your mind to doing again. After all, the Creative and the Receptive always exist together and at best harmoniously.

Vicarious joy is a gift we can give ourselves. For an instant, an hour, or for prolonged intervals, we can freely partake in its diverse expressions. Vicarious joy costs nothing and requires only that we pause to take notice of the happiness in evidence all around us.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

Do you experience vicarious joy on a daily basis? Which situations create this state of being in your life? Please share a story with our readers.

Kyle Richards’ Brown PVC Mules / Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Instagram Fashion April 2024

Today may be April Fools, but we are not joking when we say you need shoes like Kyle Richards’ brown PVC mules. And I’ll tell ya why, because they are the perfect sandal that can go with just about everything outfit-wise. So don’t be a fool and miss your chance to get a pair while you can!

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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Danielle Olivera’s Tan Leather Pant Suit / Summer House Season 8 After Show Fashion

The Summer House cast kicked off their After Show talking fashion, which happens to be one of our favorite topics to chat about. That brings us to Danielle Olivera’s tan leather pant suit she wore to do so! This is a chic AF outfit that is great for really anytime of year making it that much better. And exactly the reason why this particular look will totally suit your closet perfectly.

Sincerely Stylish,

Jess

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Staying vibrant after 60 challenges us to look at our lives with intent and explore ways to learn new skills, challenge our minds, and gain new experiences. Our brains get rewired in the process, and the foods we eat affect how well our brain and body functions. Eating the right foods yields mental sharpness and newly-formed neurons; whereas, the wrong foods produce brain fog, mental sluggishness, and chronic inflammation (the root of most diseases).

I’ve certainly read articles and blog posts about the foods that are beneficial, and the foods to avoid. But when I get into the grocery store, it’s sometimes a challenge to remember the best of the best and why they are the optimal choices.

So, I dove deep into the world of food, exploring why some foods are awesome for the brain and our overall health. I’ve rounded up 13 brain foods we should be eating to feed both our minds and bodies. These foods fight inflammation, are rich in antioxidants, and provide nutritious benefits in the forms of good fats, vitamins and minerals, and micronutrients. They all keep our gut healthy (which scientists link to brain health), enabling us to fight off illnesses and keep inflammation at bay.

Avocados

The avocado is a stone fruit that provides healthy fatty acids and is a great source of Vitamins C, E, K, B-6, folate and potassium. Most people think of a banana as an optimal source of potassium, but an avocado has more. One banana has roughly 425 milligrams of potassium, whereas an avocado yields about 975 milligrams. Potassium is essential because it helps the brain relay signals to muscles, and plays a role in the function of brain neurons.

Vitamin K is a fat-soluble vitamin that promotes healthy blood flow, and helps to improve memory, cognitive function, and brain power. To me, everything is better with avocado – salads, sandwiches, eggs, crackers!

Blueberries

Blueberries are coined “brain berries” and contain more powerful disease-fighting antioxidants than any other fruit or vegetable. Wild blueberries contain more of the powerful antioxidant anthocyanin than cultivated blueberries and have more intense, sweet flavor. In addition, studies have shown that blueberries improve memory and cognitive ability. They are yummy by themselves, in cereal, or in a smoothie.

Broccoli

Broccoli and its cousin broccolini are not just delicious, they are nutritional powerhouses. This vegetable fights many diseases like heart disease and it’s good for your brain. It contains brain-healthy Vitamin K and sulforaphane, an antioxidant with anti-inflammation properties that research shows can promote brain function and stimulate regeneration. Broccoli isn’t just a side dish, but also can be dipped in hummus and added to salads.

Coconut Oil

Coconut oil is a healthy saturated fat that boosts fat burning and creates ketones in your body that fuel the brain. Although the brain uses glucose first for its primary energy source, it draws from ketones when glucose isn’t present. Your liver converts stored fatty acids into ketone bodies, almost like an emergency backup to the brain when glucose isn’t available.

Although the research is early regarding conclusive cognitive benefit, adding a bit of pure coconut oil to your diet is a better choice than most available oils like canola, corn and soybean. (Olive oil and avocado oil are also good choices.)

Dark Chocolate

Woohoo, you say? Before you reach for that bag of Hershey’s dark chocolate, read on. High-quality dark chocolate with at least 70 percent cocoa (and preferably, 85 percent) improves brain focus and concentration, while stimulating endorphins that improve mood. The flavonoids in dark chocolate also improve blood flow to the brain, memory, reaction time, and problem-solving skills.

Make sure your dark chocolate does not contain soy lecithin, lecithin, or other fillers. Ideally, it should also be organic and fair trade certified. If the label does not specify a percent cocoa or dark chocolate that is greater than 70 percent, then it’s not dark chocolate, regardless of what the branding may indicate. Goodbye, Hershey’s and most other brands that claim to be “dark chocolate”. Alter Eco and Theo Chocolate are awesome brands.

Eggs

Oh, these little fellas took a bad rap during the food-cholesterol-is-bad era. It turns out, eggs can actually improve your cholesterol profile by increasing HDL cholesterol, and they are so good for your noggin. Packed with choline, they are brain boosters that improve memory and cognitive function. Eggs are also high in B vitamins, high-quality protein, and good fats. The whole egg is so nutritious, with most of the nutrients in the yolk and the protein in the white.

Here’s the key: pick the right egg. The nutritional content varies depending on how the hens were raised and what they were fed. Who knew? The ideal egg is one that is organic (the hen was not treated with hormones and was fed organic feed) and Omega-3-enriched (the hen’s feed was supplemented with flax seeds, or another Omega-3 source). Remember, whenever you see Omega-3 fatty acid, think: improved memory, learning ability, circulation, blood sugar control, and reduced inflammation.

Although a bit pricier and harder to find, go for the pasture-raised eggs where the chickens got to roam free with their buddies, eating plants and some commercial feed. This is not the same as free-range, which means the hens have the option of heading outside.

Green Tea

Green tea has been consumed for thousands of years and is an absolute must to add to your brain-healthy diet. It’s loaded with antioxidants and boosts brain function, including memory, focus, and attention. Green tea contains polyphenols and L-Theanine, which helps prevent memory decline, boost attention, and improve problem-solving. In addition to other health benefits, more recent research finds that green tea may help to dissolve both heart and brain plaque formation.

When selecting a high-quality green tea, choose organic, fair trade certified, and one without natural or artificial flavors. My favorites are Numi Gunpowder Green, Traditional Medicinals Green Tea Ginger, and Rishi Jade Cloud.

Leafy Green Vegetables

You can’t get enough of these brain- and body-healthy leafy greens! Fill your shopping cart with spinach, kale, arugula, collard greens, swiss chard, mustard greens, and romaine. Leafy greens are packed with Vitamin K, folate, lutein, beta-carotene, and Vitamin E. Research shows the benefits are numerous, including memory, processing speed, flexibility, and problem solving. One study showed that leafy greens are associated with decreased age-related cognitive decline. You can increase your consumption by including them in smoothies.

Pumpkin Seeds

When you carve your pumpkin this year, save those slippery pumpkin seeds! Those little fellas are considered a “brain food”. They are packed with brain-healthy magnesium, zinc and iron, and are a powerful antioxidant. Pumpkin seeds are rich in Omega-3 fatty acids, which are super for brain health and memory. I eat them in the shell out of the bag. You can also add them to salads or your favorite recipe.

Salmon

Your brain loves the awesome Omega-3 fatty acids in salmon and other oily fish, like sardines. More than two-thirds of the brain’s fatty acids are DHA (docosahexaenoic acid). The essential fats in salmon help to protect neurons, reduce inflammation, and produce neurotransmitters that are required for quick thinking, memory, cognitive function, and overall brain health. Both fatty fish like salmon and fish oil have also been found to reduce depression and reduce the risk of dementia. And, best of all, salmon is delicious.

If you have a choice, choose wild-caught salmon over farm-raised salmon. Most farmed salmon contains contaminants like PCBs, dioxins and pesticides, but it varies between fish from different regions. Be selective on where you buy your salmon. Wild Planet Wild Sockeye Salmon is a good option if you prefer wild-caught, but have a hard time finding it.

Turmeric

Turmeric is a powerful spice that contains curcumin and is known to improve the brain’s oxygen intake and overall health. Curcumin possesses antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties, and boosts brain function. Curcumin has been used for centuries and studies show that it may improve memory and cognitive function. Many people also take turmeric for arthritis and heart health. You can add turmeric when cooking or can take turmeric supplements. Look for a high-quality organic brand like Organic India Turmeric Formula.

Walnuts

Someone once told me that ancient wisdom says that there’s a reason a walnut looks like a brain. It’s considered one of the best nuts to eat for brain and heart health. Walnuts are rich in Vitamin E, Omega-3 fatty acids, antioxidants, zinc, manganese, and magnesium. They protect our brain neurons and research shows those little nut brains may ward off brain aging. Walnuts are super snacks by the handful, and also can be added to salads, cereals, and energy balls.

Water

Yep, it’s not a food, but it’s so important for brain health that it must be included. Your brain is about 75 percent water and it depends on hydration to function optimally. You can eat all those nutrients from the other 12 brain foods, but without water, they’d have trouble getting to the brain for benefit. Water is essential for delivering those nutrients to the brain and for removing toxins out of the brain.

How much water you need depends on variables like gender, weight, exercise, hot weather, and overall health. Eight to ten eight-ounce glasses per day is the recommended rule of thumb. I also use the pee rule: if your urine is very light yellow and has little odor, you’re drinking enough water. But if your urine is darker and stinky, drink up… you’re dehydrated.

Save the shopping list to make healthy shopping easier. If we eat the right foods, we feel better, have more energy, and our brains are sharper. All of that is incredible news as strive to be vibrant after 60.

Let’s Have a Conversation:

What foods do you most frequently shop for? Do they fall in the healthy category? How often do you buy fresh produce vs. prepared meals?