Month: November 2024

We all know that a healthy lifestyle leads to a longer life. But no matter how healthy that lifestyle is, as time marches on, its destination is inevitable: old age. When we are young, we never think old age will happen to us, but it does. What do we want our old age to look like? We should ask ourselves that question – and act on those answers – sooner rather than later.

There have been many books written on this many-faceted subject. One of the best is Next Year Younger: Live Strong, Fit, Sexy, and Smart – Until You’re 80 and Beyond by Chris Crowley, Henry S. Lodge, and Alan J. Hamilton. There is also a version designed specifically for women. Having reached 91, I can say, based on what I did right and what I could have done better, that there are nine areas that really matter when it comes to planning well for your final years.

Accepting the Reality of Aging

The first step in coping with old age is acceptance. We must acknowledge that ageing is a natural part of life, and the physical and mental changes it brings are simply milestones on our journey. Embracing these changes with grace and dignity is the cornerstone of a fulfilling old age. Instead of dwelling on what once was, we focus on what is and what can be.

Acceptance enables us to maintain a positive attitude and adapt to the evolving, inevitable circumstances of life. As Mark Twain said, “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”

Getting Enough Sleep

It’s a fallacy that older people need less sleep. We need just as much as we did when we were younger, and getting it is even more important in terms of its impact on our health and quality of life. And although it’s tempting for retired people to indulge in napping, it’s important to be cautious about it: as researchers at Johns Hopkins University have pointed out, if you overindulge in it, you may find your cognitive and memory skills suffer.

Keeping the Body and Mind Active and Agile

Physical activity is the fountain of youth. As we all have heard so often, engaging in regular exercise not only improves our physical health but also boosts mental well-being. Moreover, exercise releases endorphins, which are natural mood lifters, helping to control feelings of depression and anxiety that may surface in old age.

Mental agility is equally important. It’s good to engage in brain-stimulating activities. Keeping our mind sharp will not only help us maintain cognitive function but also provide a sense of accomplishment and purpose.

Keeping Your Diet Healthy

It’s vitally important that we continue to eat a healthy diet. This should contain as much natural food as possible, including fresh vegetable salads and fruit salads. It’s also a good idea to take vitamins, especially B12, to make sure we have all the necessary vitamins and minerals.

Nurturing Relationships

The mature years are not a time to sit home alone, for isolation speeds up cognitive decline. One of the greatest joys of life is the relationships we build and nurture over the years. Regular social interaction with family and friends can help us combat feelings of loneliness and isolation that are often associated with old age. Ideally, we should head into old age with these relationships already cultivated.

Joining Clubs and Organizations

Volunteering or joining clubs and organisations provides us with a sense of belonging to a community. It also is an opportunity for us to meet new people who share our passions. This can carry on into our old age and bring great pleasure.

Finding Fulfilment in Hobbies and Interests

Old age is a time when we can pursue hobbies and interests in much greater depth, because we now have abundant quantities of a precious gift: time. And we are free to spend it on any passion, be it golf, gardening, photography, music, or any other subject.

In my own golden years, I have found that art can be a powerful medium of self-expression and exploration. Whether you are an artist or an art enthusiast, visiting galleries, museums, and exhibitions can be a source of inspiration and intellectual stimulation. Whatever we choose to pursue, though, we’ll find that nurturing these kinds of habits during our later years is much easier if we develop them before real decline begins.

Simplifying Life by Downsizing

As we age, we should consider downsizing our living space. Smaller, one-level homes are a wiser choice for older people. They are easier to navigate and maintain, reducing the physical strain of household chores and maintenance. Smooth floors and fewer pieces of furniture reduce the chances of falling, which is always a danger for older people.

Simplifying our belongings can be liberating, allowing us to focus on what truly matters in life. This needs to be done while we are younger and still have the energy to do it. Do we want to leave a huge jumble for someone else to clean up?

Gaining Peace of Mind by Putting Our Affairs in Order

Putting your affairs in order is a responsible and thoughtful step in coping with old age. And it is vital that it be done before we are too old to do it. This includes the obvious: creating a will, designating power of attorney and organising important documents. Consider discussing your end-of-life wishes with your family and documenting them in advance directives included in your power of attorney for health.

Questions for You:

How are you preparing for your future well-being? Have you thought about the lifestyle choices that will support your health and happiness in old age? What steps are you taking right now to build a fulfilling life in your later years?

The series takes place beyond years past.

Let’s just say she has something else on the agenda.

The podcaster says she’s finding “out more and more each day.”

I don’t think I could ever have imagined my life being as wonderful as it is now. For sure there are a few downsides to getting older – aching joints, wrinkles, and always looking for a place to pee when I am out . But the upsides are pretty amazing too. I am Me for the first time in my adult life. Not just a mum, wife, friend, colleague, who wants to make everyone else happy. I am free to be me.

I have also learned how to recognise what is important, but even more valuable, what isn’t. If it will not affect my life in a month’s time, I don’t worry about it. Letting go of things that don’t serve our intentions enables space for new things to come into our lives. I have always been kind to others but have now taught myself to be kind to me too. I know that I matter, which feels a little strange as I didn’t really consider that before. 

Renovating a Ruin

When the pandemic began, I was staying in a little cottage in France but had to move. I was unable to travel back to England, so I bought an abandoned and very rundown house and set about putting a little love back into it. With no electricity, running water, bathroom or even a toilet, I had my work cut out!

But it gave me time to focus on what was important, and the seemingly daily toll of the bell at the church, was a constant reminder that life can be very fragile. As I started to bring this ramshackle house back to life, it felt as if I was being reborn too. I marvelled at the changes of the season, relished spending hours watching wildlife, enjoyed swimming and paddle boarding in the nearby lake, and seemed to find a new perspective on life.

Beach Life

Returning back to England, where I had sold my other property, I rented a little shack on the beach and considered what I wanted to do with my life. I could pretend I was being very philosophical and able to make well-considered plans, but in truth, everything kind of just happened for me.

It started out simply, really – booking a cruise to Norway. I had been to Norway before, but not on a cruise, and waking up to see this huge ship make its way through the majestic fjords with snowcapped mountains took my breath away. The scenery was absolutely spectacular and seemed to fill my soul with its beauty. I had an incredible time and within three weeks of returning to the beach, I had booked another trip.

Making New Friends

I spent that first winter in Spain, meeting more people than I had done in the last decade and really enjoying myself. I went to beach parties, travelled around Spain with people I met, helped out in friends’ bars and generally just had a great time. This was what made me happy, and I wasn’t ready to give up yet.

When I returned to England, I made the decision to spend the next year traveling full time. I swam in the Blue Lagoon in Iceland, danced in the rain in The Rain Forest, slid down the side of a mountain in a basket, drank from an ice glass in an ice bar, stayed with Buddhist Monks in a stunning temple, and swam with turtles in Barbados. I booked everything last minute and as cheap as possible. In fact, I challenged myself to spend the same, or less, as renting a small flat and living in the UK. My budget was £1,500 per month.

Back to the Real World

Returning to England I rented a beautiful old cottage in a pretty little village in the West Country. I never really expected to fall in love with it as I have, and though I still get itchy feet, I love my life here. My new neighbours are creative and lovely – artists, film makers, musicians and me… the lady who loves to write.

Take a Chance

So, if your life is not as you want it to be, why not take a chance and create the life you really want. We are not on this beautiful earth for long and most of our younger years are often spent being busy and caring for others. Maybe it’s time to invest some of that love and energy into yourself?

Just Do It!

Think of something you are passionate about – travel, writing, painting, cooking, photography, the choice is yours. Then take that first step to making your dream a reality. Book the flight, start a class, learn new skills, just do it! A year from now, you will thank yourself that you did.

Join the Conversation:

What would you love to do to change your life? Are there things preventing you? Have you already changed your life? Please share your story!